AFONAMARO:


Your analysis is a further proof that you are empty.

May your female kids end up with such a man since you find nothing wrong with the queer statistics that you are trying hard to defend.

I won't dignify you with further response as you sound kooky.

Olumaeme:
You can decide to fight and have access to the children but you might not necessarily have custody of them.

There is no law that states that Men cant take custody of children, both of them have to convince the judge that they can take care of them better.

Most times, the reason why women fight for custody is not for the love of those children but to use those children to have access to the men and their resources, since in your case you were never married to him, you will definitely be a sore looser.

You got pregnant on time and will most likely drop out of school, also since you have been staying with for that long, you will probably not have a job or a good business that will give you the resources to take care of the kids, because if you have some thing tangible doing, you wont even have that time to be tricked to Kogi where he got those kids from you.

I sincerely don't think you can win this case, aside from the fact that he will be so connected and richer to prosecute this case in court, you will also need to put in a good case to convince the judge you have the resources to match the lifestyle the kids are used to.

I will suggest you make peace with him, if possible call him and apologize or go through someone he respscts in the family so they can pacify him.

RedCentaur:
I just had migraine while reading this.


Cohabiting for 7yrs? Birthing children without doing as little as paying your dowry?

The elders are coming.

Movingon5:



Amen........ was just 22years den. But as am growing older i really now no wat i want...

Movingon5:
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Thank u sir, am finacially stable to take care of them
D kids are minors and am capable to take care of them...
He categorically stated dat he tricked me to kogi state. So he he his no longer to be trusted with d kids....
D kids are supposed to be in school today, he even bundles me out and i av fact against him he his no better person for d kids.

SIRTee15:


OP listen to this advice. Don't let people push u into what u not up to.
This is naija. U don't have what it takes to fight that man.
Look at femi fani kayode's case. On top the noise that woman is making, the children remain with the man.
I heard they even detained her one time for defamation of character.
I repeat this is naija, be wise.

Justkatty:
First mistake you made, you knew about all these, and you still went ahead of getting pregnant for him��

May God help you retrieve back your kids.

rickpat:
go to federal Secretariat in your state of residence..ask of legal aid council office...if you are not okay with a lawyer from there...then go to welfare...if you ain't okay with welfare...then get a private lawyer(usually more expensive)...this case with be duly treated...he can't forcefully gain sole custody if the kids without getting it from a court

burritto:
Women always calling kids you both birthed and raised as theirs is always annoying. ‘My kids’, ‘my children’ like is he not their father too? You can only take the case to court and hope you win the custody battle.

How did you manage to live with him and have two kids for him ma’am?

What happened that made you separate from him?

how come it took this long to realize you don’t need him in your life?

Women would only claim domestic violence when the marriage is no longer good or in their favor but have been f**king each other prior and birthing kids every other year. When you knew he was a violent person why didn’t you leave at first? Maybe the money and small power he is using against you was what you was enjoying and using against other people, now everything has turned sour and you’re screaming domestic violence. SMH

It’s best you look for a person he respects and have the person talk to him so you both can be co-parenting, but this your idea of “my kids” is super annoying.

burritto:
Women always calling kids you both birthed and raised as theirs is always annoying. ‘My kids’, ‘my children’ like is he not their father too? You can only take the case to court and hope you win the custody battle.

How did you manage to live with him and have two kids for him ma’am?

What happened that made you separate from him?

how come it took this long to realize you don’t need him in your life?

Women would only claim domestic violence when the marriage is no longer good or in their favor but have been f**king each other prior and birthing kids every other year. When you knew he was a violent person why didn’t you leave at first? Maybe the money and small power he is using against you was what you was enjoying and using against other people, now everything has turned sour and you’re screaming domestic violence. SMH

It’s best you look for a person he respects and have the person talk to him so you both can be co-parenting, but this your idea of “my kids” is super annoying.

BRATISLAVA:
you speak so intelligently.


What do women of 30 expect when marrying old men of 66? Do you think such a man doesn't have a family elsewhere? You think all these ramblings of girls are ripe for marriage to old mey 16 is reasonable? How do people even cope with a person from an entirely different generation.

The responses here are different to the thread of a man whose wife took away his children to enjoy a steamy romantic getaway with her customs officer lover. The consensus was that she must be punished for giving what they all crave to another man.

If you have issues in your relationship as a female, bringing it to a forum in which 80% of its users are suffering teenage boys from one enclave, is asking for wrong advice and insults from broken males.

Mooh247:



This one hard oo... The man get leg

Get human rights lawyers involved and pray to God always... Because a RTD police DCP and Former EFCC director knows almost all lawyers and judges within his jurisdiction

State Nigerian Bar Association, Nigerian Police especially Oga at the tops, and Judges especially Magistrate and High court all have this evil alliance and friendship they use in intimidating and fustrating ordinary Nigerians



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Mindlog:


She should go visit FIDA office, they offer representation for such.

Angeltjazz2017:


As in ex commissioner of police,ex EFCC director,CSO at dangote company now. Nigeria is not for poor people is for the crook richer one. The woman should better lay low and have a better way to negotiate to be having access to them or tell us what exactly he did to the man for him to take that huge and hurt decisions. Her children already don’t want to see her is ananother case.

OKOATA:
Welfare for my side don de charge 150k. Na thief's all of them be now.

ivolt:

Say what you know.
Stop speculating.

Exodora:

And you did read where she mentioned domestic violent, you guy’s should be reading nau before judging.

rickpat:
young man go and read...being defensively ignorant doesn't make you wise...the bone of contention in this matter is not even whether they are legal married or not... IT'S ABOUT CUSTODY OF THE KIDS...online warriors...you have not valid to contribute,all you do is look for who to insult or judge people or argue blindly...have a great day