NkemjikaX:
Guy based on Nigerian constitution the child is legally URS since u acknowledged and has been taken care of the child, no one can take the child from u as the Nigerian constitution supercedes every other law in Nigeria. However, out of respect for your later baby mama and her family, this is not the reason to start a fight, call ur brother in-law and have a discussion with you let him see how financially down u are right now and see how u can reduce everything that needs to be paid for the burial and then fix a date The child still has a root there

So a rapist can father a child and court will hand the child to him just cos he is the father proved by dna,this guy lucky sha

TyroneP:


Are all cultural practices good irrespective of the tribe? I want you to answer this honestly- ranging from drinking water used in bathing corpse and lots more?
Op stated in his post having demonstrated good faith by financing her healthcare by the virtue of sharing a love child with her and not kinship. He's still indebted to individual or groups. Let's be realistic about things and not cause him emotional or mental imbalance. Put yourself in his shoes and walk a while.

Yes you are very right...Also you should understand that for the lady family to put Op in such a tight corner, it only means they were never in support of the relationship, they and Op have never been in good terms, so they are trying to put him to thier mercy, which by now, Op should drop sturbornness and be remorseful to them, so as to save his head and his son. An old gateman that calls a young bank manager , my oga sir, is not foolish..he knows that he seniors the bank manager...Even a legally married wife can't be buried just like that.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I informed them for the burial arrangements not for marriage ceremony

. It's necessary u pay bride price b4 the son will be urs. Das igbo culture 4 u

kally90:
So, let him forget about the child too.

Our side, the child is not his because he didn't pay her bride price.
And there is nothing he can do come rain come shine. The child belongs to the woman family.

Advice him to do the needful because he will also loose his son to them.

He won't be the first or the last to do this.

He should let the child go if the family doesn't want the boy to have a biological father. He can't eat his cake and have it. He should be ready to let go of his son.

dobnina:

OP, pls try and raise some money and pay her bride price. This life is very deep. A lot of thins are happening that we can't even explain. Don't jeopardize your future.
This lady bore you a son. Pls respect her and pay the bride price.
Something like this has happened before and the guy died mysteriously.
This life is very deep.

I can't believe you are begging this one. Haven't you read his comments? Or is he family to you? That guy no geh aswear.

Buhari economy didn't happen to you, you are just a stubborn brat. I guess your woman may have urged you to go pay her bride price for years now but you refused.

Go do the needful, don't let village people put eye for your matter.

oluwaseyi0:


Which means if Davido like he can decide to be a deadbeat father to chioma as he's not responsible for the consequences of sleeping with chioma without protection,Chioma will have to go and meet her father to take care of Davido responsibility

This to me is actually a good thing, even though I'm still confused about igbo baby mama calling their baby daddy out when traditionally a baby daddy own his child and the mother any responsibility, how they live and survive is not his responsibility

You didn't ask yourself why yul edochie rush go pay for Judy's bride price before announcing about his new son? He is an igbo man and he understands the igbo tradition. David is just a sperm donor untill he paid chioma's bride price before he can claim ifeanyi as his son.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
Back then when my mom was warning me not to go that far when our relationship started She kept on insisting I should go for the girls in my tribe, I thought she was just been a tribalist bigot. If only I had listened

She bore me a son, he's 3years now... though her people knows me well from normal visitation..but I haven't been able to pay her bride price yet due to the hardship this regime has on us. life happened, unfortunately she got sick since February, ever since then from one hospital to another..I took several loans from people for hospital bills to the point of me looking sick myself.so sad for us we lost her last night.

I informed her elder brother who knows about all thats happening, he called me back this morning to tell me that his people told me to be prepared to marry her corpse. He went further and said if I don't pay her bride price, my boy will be taken from me and I should be ready to withstand the consequences.
I was surprised, I called for the burial arrangements not for a marriage ceremony

I blantly told him, I won't, why would I get married to her corpse. He was angry and cut the call on me.

Am more concerned about my son, please lawyer's in the house do they have any right to take my son away from me?
Even if they do am ready to give it to them, but spending money to Marry her corpse I will not.

I only brought this here, if had chance for my son whose still in my custody.

same happens to a close relative of mine, the ending was so tragy..The consequences are alwys fatal....keep fit for the race to come if not you shall slumber nd that would be ur end......I have spoken.

twosquare:
Well, when we advise people to marry from people of the same tongue, people think it's being a tribal bigot. It's actually for ease, and to avoid certain nonsense.

Ẹni tó ba fẹ ìyàwó ni íjù, kó sétán àti di àna ẹbọra.

Baba o. Agba yin a dale.
Copy that

StilmaVsBorn2w:

I don't believe in curses, A man can not define my fate in life..I was more concerned about my son that's why I brought it here.
I fear no man

You already made up your mind not to accept valuable advice, so why bring the issue here to disturb Nl peace. If you didn't pay the lady bride price, that son you're claiming is not yours but rightfully belongs to the late woman's family.
So if truly you need the son, go and marry the woman. The burial may not be easy for you without that.

Where do you want to bury her now because you can’t bury her at your place since you’ve not married her, that’s how it’s done it most tribes you have to marry her

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Oga, your woman is Akwa Ibom or another tribe that does this thing. First, do you know you can be charged with Kidnap and murder? Because you took someone's daughter and even got her pregnant to do the extend she died in your possession? Do you know her parents can deny knowing you were with their daughter? Do you know you can remediate all these by putting your head down and finding a better way out than that which you're taking? I do not believe marrying her corpse means you taking pictures with a dead body but to properly call her your wife since you both have a child. If you ever loved her while she was alive, pls do the needful and remember her as your wife. Imagine if you were both married, wouldn't she or you die while married? There's no EGO here, we were once as stubborn as you are and if not worst but life is best if you played her calmly. No pride bro

...funny you

oluplus:


Baba o. Agba yin a dale.
Copy that

teemonk:

Oga, your woman is Akwa Ibom or another tribe that does this thing. First, do you know you can be charged with Kidnap and murder? Because you took someone's daughter and even got her pregnant to do the extend she died in your possession? Do you know her parents can deny knowing you were with their daughter? Do you know you can remediate all these by putting your head down and finding a better way out than that which you're taking? I do not believe marrying her corpse means you taking pictures with a dead body but to properly call her your wife since you both have a child. If you ever loved her while she was alive, pls do the needful and remember her as your wife. Imagine if you were both married, wouldn't she or you die while married? There's no EGO here, we were once as stubborn as you are and if not worst but life is best if you played her calmly. No pride bro

Leave op he don’t know what he has gotten himself into he should just pray the family don’t come at him else he will be the one begging in the end

Wait until they arrest you for kidnapping and murder.

Your eye go clear

Bro please is not something you do with Anger
You can only plead
Besides staying with someone daughter for years without paying dowry
is bad....Traditionally you should take your people to beg so that they will tamper justice with mercy

jokinexcel:
Something like happened in my community, the family of the girl asked the guy to come and pay the bride price he refused, so the girl's family changed the case to kidnap and murder case , that they have been looking for their daughter for years , only for the guy who they claimed that they have never seen or know to inform them of their daughter's death . So they claimed that the guy kidnap and murder their daughter.

Very simple. The guy just doesn't know what he's up to. Before I read your post, it was the same reply I sent him. He's busy talking about how much he spent on her but failing to see the murder case against him. Stupid fly that will follow the corpse into the grave. That's where he's headed.

Women in the house read the quoted msg twice...
DON'T LIVE WITH OR GET PREGNANT FOR A MAN WHO HASN'T MARRIED YOU. IT WILL NOT END WELL...

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Sir after reading everything,I suggest what the man said about you getting marry to the corpse is right,they do that in my place...and I have witness it when man marry the dead wife in my village.... it's not something that will scare you away,just a traditional rite and that's all...my tribe do that... I'm from Kogi state....

Hummmm.... Smh. I bet she is from akwa ibom... If yes, sorry is your new name. When you camped someone's daughter's in your house to give birth for you and be doing
Wifely duties, without even taking a bottle of drink to her people , you did not know, now you are here forming hard man! They that come to equity must come with clean hands and sorry to say oga, your hands are not clean on this matter. They will place a curse on you and it
Will catch you, because your hands are not clean. I have witnessed the potency of village people curse on people who are "guilty" and trust me, you don't want any of that wahala.

StilmaVsBorn2w:

Why would I carry it to the village..?
It's already in the morgue, for her people arrival, it's their daughter.
Have done my most vital parts borrowing money to save her now am in debts, if you want me to marry her corpse because am scared. My brother your wrong.

Wow! See how u are talking about someone u kept in your house, bore you a child, and died in your house! So u have dumped her remains in the morgue, waiting for her people's arrival? You forgot she had people when she was in your house performing wifely duties and getting pregnant and bore u a son. You even referred to her as 'it'. Na wa oh. May our sisters and daughters not meet your type. It's even obvious that you are not ready to listen to advise. You are stubborn. It won't be out of place if the family believes you killed their daughter. You really need to grow up.

Even if u paid bride price but unable to provide the content of the list issued by her family in her life time.
Get ready to do it now
U can run but can't hide.

And for the singles and dating

Say no to cohabitation


Las las ,d family will accuse u of using their daughter for money ritual.
U are in for long thing.

sisisioge:


It might be useful info for those from her tribe to advise you properly. There might be an alternative to marrying her.

oga, you have to pay her pride price (in form of seeing the family) before burial. It doesn't mean you are going to throw party.
It's only the families (urs inclusive) that will gather while introduce yourself, what happened and who in your wife family is aware of what led to her death.
On taking away your child, I don't have any idea if the have such power.
But if you decide to show stubbornness, they will have to arrest you to explain how you come about having their daughter without the family knowing (whatever they accuse you of, remember the lady is not alive to defend).
Las las you go still go settle with the family.
Maybe you think say you go just go burial another man pikin as if she no get family.

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Simp assz licking niggas.

Op, nor mind this fool!

Nothing him and his family fit do you...nor go borrow money marry death body o.
Infact leave his sister for the mortuary, make you travel out live your life.

When them ready they go carry the dead bod

So u killed her for ritual purpose

StilmaVsBorn2w:
anything from you will be appreciated thank you

Oh so sorry!

We are in holiday, the Lord will raise help for you and me

nighter:


He should let the child go if the family doesn't want the boy to have a biological father. He can't eat his cake and have it. He should be ready to let go of his son.

Exactly

Felimax:


Some men just lack sense. Hear yourself. So if that is your sister that is how you will walk to the morgue to go and carry her? Nor worry, dey there dey smart. Your head go soon correct by the time we finish with you.

I have one simple advise for you. Hurry now to the family with either your dad or the eldest man in your family or anybody that can stand in that regard, go with some cash and schnapps.

Take this time now as a matter of urgency to go inform the family officially of the latest about their daughter most especially if this is happening around Delta State.

If you like do, you like refuse.

Leave the guy. When the lady's family arrest am, him eye go clear.
Las las na from police station them go advise OP to go and settle with the family.

Go and put the corpse in mortuary, then come back and meet them for marriage list. Then the money you want to use for the burial, use it and pay for the list. After dog have finished running away from fire, what will be used to roast it? It's still the same fire. They believe that once their daughter is buried, you will change it for them any day they ask you for bride price. Next time don't just go and be sleeping with girls when you know that you can't be able to pay their bride price, especially all this small small girls of these day that cannot make use of their brain. That is as a man, money is very important in anything you're doing or planing to do. Am not saying that a man must make millions before marrying, but at least make sure that you can afford to pay for the bride. So that in a case like this, you will know that your problem is not hydra headed.

PIKIN WEY DEY DANCE SURUGEDE DANCE, NO KNOW SAY NA SPIRIT DANCE .

TyroneP:


He simply asked for a lawyer's input. Most people commenting are condemning him. Advice should be from legal aspect. Lawyers in the house should help him with this.

He wants advice on the custody of the child or soon to be charges of kidnap n murder against him? How sure are you he didn't poison the lady or used her for rituals? Does this boy really knows what's coming for him or he will just suck it up and see reasons. I feel his pains but even married men go through financial melt down from having to treat sick spouses n still loose them

StilmaVsBorn2w:

No I won't

Lol. Pay you fool