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Women avoid ur husband's phone, men if u have to stay late, make sure your family is ok. Thank me later

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

The holy book never gave criteria on how a wife should respect her husband but made it crystal clear that women should respect her husband no matter the situation

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

Your last paragraph killed it.

So only the responsible ones according to you worth being respected right?

Googledotcom:
why didn't you also extend the spending aspect to the woman ? Is work and spending for only the male gender alone ?

Yes, 90% of the spending should be on you, that why God made you a head over her, manup and takes responsibilities, stop for a woman that will share duties with you, when you act and behave like the man God has created you to be, your woman will surely love and respect you.

Onyeziokwu:
Your last paragraph killed it.

So only the responsible ones according to you worth being respected right?

I'm sure you saw the "especially",of course when you are caring and responsible your woman will surely love and respect you more.

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
I'm not married but Ive heard some advices from other people
1) have one account for personal things then a joint bank account for the bills and house maintenance and both of you decide how much should be contributed from both of you , it can be 30 -70 or 40 - 60

2) if possible have an emergency fund for you know emergencies , we know that we're supposed to hope for the best and just be completely optimistic and prepare for the best but you also have to prepare for the worst and most unexpected situations ( e.g your spouse or child is diagnosed with big man sickness and you have nothing to hold onto , you can't even take a break to nurse them , it'seven worse when it's the breadwinner ( the man ) , there's also divorce , you don't want to be caught unawares by anything

3) don't ever forget why your spouse is your spouse , always make out time to dress up and go out together and have fun as boyfriend and girlfriend , even though you're husband and wife , it's easier said than done but it makes things a lot more colorful , when kids enter the picture over maturity kills that love that makes you feel like a teenager

4) you'll be hurt and angry and they will test your limits sometimes , just prepare your mind to forgive and forgive , till you become a professional forgiver you need to learn to overlook somethings

5) when something happens address it immediately and let it go , don't burry it, it'll grow into a resentment, then later become disgust and hatred , na small thing dey turn to big thing , you won't even believe it , someone cancelled wedding because of peak milk , he wasn't being petty , if you hear the full story you might be in support of the cancellation , even though it sounds funny at first

Guy, give the full gist na. � � �

Prolific007:
The holy book never gave criteria on how a wife should respect her husband but made it crystal clear that women should respect her husband no matter the situation

Yea, your right but a man who is caring will surely have 100% respect from his wife than the one who is not.

Don't always stand for ur right

Accept ur flaws

Take him or her like a sister or brother

Take him or her like a good friend

Thirdly take him or her as ur beloved wife or husband who can never hurt

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

1.Marry ur best friend
2.make sure both partners are financially stable.
3.Both partners should open up....don't be an hypocrite and neither judge the other. It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not.
4.Don't be deceived by religion or culture.
5.last but not the least "Love not lust"

Increase your tolerance level, limit your expectations, and focus on the bigger picture for success.

Still, hope for the best.

Reduce your friend cycle

AishaDant:
Communication in relationships is very important. Talk to your partner about everything and carry her along always.

Be honest, be kind and be sensitive to your partner.
Also, be faithful!

Feel free to share these with your partner.
It must be 50:50 to work well.

Best of luck!

na only her dem dey communicate to?...abi do men not need communication? This your biased love sef.

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD. DONT EXPECT TOO MUCH ESPECIALLY FROM THE FEMALE. REMEMBER THEY R WEAKER VESSELS. THEY WILL SURELY MAKE U GO CRAZY.

Nacl:
Never expect too much from your spouse.
Learn to overlook those petty mistakes.
Husbands Love your wives and Wives be submissive to your Husbands.
If you're not ready to follow any of the above, then just stay single forever.

simple...how can i be loving a woman and she is not submissive...? I will crash it and start all over again.

Remember that it takes a deliberate efforts to make your marriage work. Spend more time with your spouse, be faithful and true to each other always and you shall have a blissful home.

As a man, please don't get married to a lady that has no source of income.

Thank me later

Don't expect the woman to be perfect.

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

Let GOD lead and let LOVE live....

forgive
forgive
forgive

know how to nack as a man
know how to pleasure as a woman
know how to nack each other
know how to forepla.y
this will give you respect as a man

Marriage is selflessness..you will forever cook for your spouse as a wife and mother. everyone will forever ask you the annoying question: what is there to eat? You have no one to ask that question. Its an eternal sacrifice, sometimes very burdening and sometimes pleasing.

Most importantly after forgiveness, know how to pray, by yourself, with your partner and with your offspring. Not only will it save your union, it will save your sanity.


Happy Married life. Marriage is sweet, spooning and waking up next to someone who loves you, rubbing your yansh against their **** or pushing your leg between your partners legs at night to be warm.. those are some little simple things will make you smile and thank God you have your own person.

Use your brain

Felimax:
If you are not big, ready or strong enough to mend every crack and fix every broken line then leave the idea of getting married.

This is a world of you and your spouse and there must be ups and downs. There is no general template. Learn and apply what you must, unlearn and disregard what you must.

Goodluck!

It is a retirement plan for women and overtime for men..

Put it behind your mind you are just there for security... She owns the kids cuz naturally children prefer mama pass papa

And lastly no body knows crap about marriage .. just enter and pilot your marriage small small dy go

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

What should happen to irresponsible woman?

Vinnie2000:
Lols. bros, A Nigerian 'Queen' never spends her money. She is taken care of by a 'King' or several 'Kings'!.

Who would take care of the King and spend money for the King? How can or how would Queen takes care and spend money for the King? Who would treat King like a King or how can and how would a Queen treat King like a King?

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

Before you ask for advice, you must have known why you want to marry. So, why did you want to marry?

virginprincess:
Yes, 90% of the spending should be on you, that why God made you a head over her, manup and takes responsibilities, stop for a woman that will share duties with you, when you act and behave like the man God has created you to be, your woman will surely love and respect you.

The love of money is the root of all evil... By the way, you may not easily find a man that would respect you when he is taking 90% percent of the responsibility. Well, there are various reason why people are marrying... Its difficult looking for 'help meet' to marry nowadays... You may have to rethink your philosophy or ideology... What you don't do for your husband when he is alive maybe difficult to when he dies... You may find it difficult to take care of the children, if your husband eventually &suddenly dies. I should ask you why you would want to marry as a woman &who you would like to marry? Well, it is common nowadays; love &respect is based on money&taking of responsibility

Hsh

virginprincess:
Yea, your right but a man who is caring will surely have 100% respect from his wife than the one who is not.

You don't think the same is applicable to woman?

Never get married. It will reduce your lifespan in the whole process. The stress is likely to sweep you into suicidal depression. That love would meltdown like an iceberg in a summer in June. At that moment you will gnash your teeth in regrets, and those red flags you turned a blind sight to, would flash through your eyes vividly like you're having a lucid dream, and it would be too late to un-do everything.

Woman must give u wahala, it it's Nigeria woman she must be manipulative, selfish and love money. She will nag to manipulative you. Buh what ever happens never give in she will appreciate u more knowing fully well that you are not a simp

chatinent:
What advice can you give to sb about to walk down the aisle in a short time?

To them both , patience is needed to stay married , they both ain't relatives and you know even brothers and sisters still clash

virginprincess:
For the guy, he should love, cherish and treat her like a queen she is moreover never shout and treat her badly especially in presence of the kids, finally spend on her,
for the lady, she should respect and obey her husband especially if his the responsible and caring type, finally, take good care of the home

Feminism is de only problem we are facing

Munzy14:
Chati are you about to pop the golden question...

Chatinent: Baby! Will you marry me?

Babe: yes yes yes

Next wuzi pre wedding ihe hu

Anyways, my advice is, marry who has something doing..Either working or doing a business..It comes with responsibility from both sides.

Secondly, it cannever be all rosy...keep this in mind, and pray for wsidom to overcome challenges...Especially when wify acts like a girl or hubby acts like a boy.

Lastly, love eachother and go all out for eachother..Be open and enjoy each other..
Unu tawa onwe unu ofuma..Very Importanter..

I saw full body massage in a comment, extremely important..Purely naked body massage on a regular is chilling and exciting...Both front and back o

Lol. Thanks chief