Xilsbridalhouse:

But do you truly love this lady? Or what exactly is your fear? Because I honestly see no reason why you can’t allow her further her education. Are you even married to her? How sure are we, that you will even marry her because no one knows tomorrow.


Best is to support the dream of your partner else she could blame you in the future for not making her fulfill her dreams and ambitions.

If you love a person and they are about taking a wrong step wont you call them to order? if her parents is bouyant enough to send her to school that is a different issue, We both dont have parents who are bouyant enough, we saved and plan this business right during our service year, the aim is even if we will be making 1k a day we will be grateful, as God will have it, it turns out better for both of us, in most case we make upto 10k in those shops ,l remember telling her as this money is coming in,save and open another branch,of recent she told me she is interested in going into water business instead of opening another pos store, l encourage her to do it, l have another branch already and the aim is for us to grow and build our life since we have nobody, now my sister, tell me of what use is this masters at this point,, she claim she dont want my money now but when it get tough the blackmail will definitely set in, doing masters now is more of gambling, it assured nothing, when we do the basic, get married and establish a good business and life she herself will enjoy doing her masters.

Albertone:


But why is it paining you when it's not even your money she wants to use?

it is paining because l love her, when you truly care about people you won't want them to make the wrong decision, masters are for those who already have a job at hand or somebody eager to help them secured that job, lets secure a good source of income for ourselves first before this master of a thing

dazzlingd:


Because some weren't successful with their certificates doesn't mean it is general.

I have a whole lot of people doing very well with their degrees and the degrees earning them international jobs and immigration to canada, uk and us.
Stop degrading education like it is a waste.
U need to think outside of nigeria mentality

Nobody is degrading education, you dont leave a bird in your hand chasing monkeys on the trees, all l am saying is expand your source of income first, we already have a bsc, most jobs that comes now she will be qualified for them, so this master should be a later issue not now.

Masters without working first is stupidity. Looks like she wants better than pos too.

Allow her, it's her long time dream... There's no better time than now.
Like this I dey Beg my fiancee to start prepping for it while, she's currently serving, NYSC... LEAVE HER JUST SUPPORT HER IT MUST NOT BE FINANCE FOR NOW.

If we tell u you are right now, will it reduce the price of rice in the market?
Am asking you?

Please advise her to do the master on a part time basis, National Open University, and online foreign university. She can always get her course or related course in any of the programs.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Na woman u see so!
Acquire certificate wey no dey useful. Sometimes I regret going to university self because I no dey use d certificate take make money

if her father is ready to sponsor her, let her be. but, if she told you its from her pocket broz, run..... another man don deceive am.. i sabi that gender scatter

Support or leave her

Kriss216:
You're not her father or husband...allow her do whatever she wants. Learn to channel this energy to better your life and that of your family!


I know you're surprised how a girl you've been struggling with all of a sudden has money and resources to further her studies...well, she's a Nigerian girl, they always got plan B.

Their husband or boyfriend are not always in their plan B.

Don't finally marry a Nigerian girl Sha o... Law of karma and effects

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Dont stifle her dreams. Dont project your ideas and fear on others.let her follow her dreams.

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Ambition is a spirit, let her follow her mind.....else she will not do the POS business with joy in her heart. Remember, funding isn't coming from you

Don't loose this good girl bro, it's a good decision she is about to take and you will be happy she takes in the future.

Islandlady:
Seriously you did not do anything wrong Op, but if she insist on doing the Masters let her do it, since she told you it's her long time ambition and she don't need your money! I bet she has another source and support for money!!!

Continue and expand your own business! Just don't stand as an obstacle for her she is truly a lady of ambition to admire

But if you two don't share common goal or can't get alone with each other dreams then let her go!

So you dey reason like normal human being once once?

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

This bolded line made me laugh

How can it be that after going to school for four or five or six years or even more as the case might be, to obtain your Degree, you finally end up as a POS operator?

Wonders shall never end.

Ha ha ha

Dis life eh... e no just balance at all

Kriss216:
You're not her father or husband...allow her do whatever she wants. Learn to channel this energy to better your life and that of your family!


I know you're surprised how a girl you've been struggling with all of a sudden has money and resources to further her studies...well, she's a Nigerian girl, they always got plan B.

Their husband or boyfriend are not always in their plan B.

He need simple advice not this trash

Break up?? Bro what you need to do is support her in any way you can. She doesn't need your money so I don't see how doing Master's will affect your finances. You're not being rational.

Make sure you do small thing on her head before she goes for her master's if not be ready to loose her to an already made man.
If possible self give am belle then let her proceed to her master.

You don't need to breakup with her, she left angry to drive home her point about the masters. Sort things out with her and support her dreams while you pursue yours. In every relationship make sure you take care of yourself and follow your dream so that if the relationship doesn't work, you won't lose out emotionally and otherwise. Thank you.

You are a witch

RedMac:
Don't be an obstacle to her dreams and aspirations, having a master's degree is not a bad decision... It may be very very useful to her in the future...

If you're not comfortable with her going to school, while u do business... Then log out of the relationship...

It's as simple as that

He's not stopping her rather he want her to build herself more before going for the master because no time is late for the master

Kriss216:
You're not her father or husband...allow her do whatever she wants. Learn to channel this energy to better your life and that of your family!


I know you're surprised how a girl you've been struggling with all of a sudden has money and resources to further her studies...well, she's a Nigerian girl, they always got plan B.

Their husband or boyfriend are not always in their plan B.

Chai! Don’t end up breaking your neck over Nigerian girls. Who do you this thing?

MadamVanessa:





Allow that girl to forward her education even to ph.d level. Maybe she's the type that finds satisfaction in reaching the apex of academics. Wealth means little or nothing to those kind of people.

Most of Nigeria lack sense I swear, he don't want to stop her rather he think she don't have enough now for the master, he is just concerned about her

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

Your girlfriend has more foresight than you. Leave that girl alone. She's obviously meant for a man with a higher thought process than you.

almarthins:


Na woman u see so!
Acquire certificate wey no dey useful. Sometimes I regret going to university self because I no dey use d certificate take make money

Because your certificate isn’t useful to you and you aren’t using it to make money doesn’t mean it will be the same for everybody else. There are people that have applied for scholarships abroad to study for masters degree, UK has 2 years Poststudy work visa on which you can work for two years and migrate to work visa from there. Same with Canada where you can even get your Residence permit after a year. And all these require your first degree certificate.
There are many people on this route already and I am also in the process.

There are so many things you can do with your certificates.

Do what you got to do man?

Mr. Man go and settle yourself and forget about woman. Don't carry any lady matter for head for now.

Bro,
Count urself as part of the lucky ones. For a woman to think in that direction to go for Masters and u are crying? No now. Don't loose that gem stone u have as a girlfriend. That is a wife material. Give her moral support and go pay her bride price before someone that know her worth will take her from you.

On a lighter note do you know that with masters there is additional points she will have if she applied for Canada or Australian PR. Even better opportunities will come with that.

Wish u all the best .

victooman:
Please help advice me,

We both finished our NYSC service last year, luckily enough we started a POS business and as God will have it, we are both doing well, we both make a minimum of 5k at least on daily basis.

The main problem is that of recent she is talking about applying for her masters degree, l told her what is the essence of going for masters degree when the degree we obtain has not been any useful to us, why not expand this particular business, be financially stable before you start talking about masters, beside we need to build our self financially well if we have to settle down.

She told me that is her long time ambition and she is not expecting any money from me, she left my house this morning with anger.

Please Nairalanders, did l do anything wrong? What is the best way to handle this issue?

My friend listen don't listen to any Nigeria girl that say she don't need your money she will surely come to you for support, advice her but if she doesn't listen let her be but don't render any support to her when she come for one because she must surely come