iRepNaija1:
It's time for a divorce. Your partner has basically been cheating on you for the duration of your relationship. You need to take time for yourself to heal once you divorce your partner. Then, when you're ready, find a new person who will treat you the way you should be treated.

He's not married, thats the babe mama

When a nigga is too nice he becomes an emotional dustbin to these wicked females. Imagine what she has turned u into? A walking regret.. u better dump her fast and only relate officially through lawyers if possible concerning ur kids.. and ohh don't forget to run DNA test on them. A woman like that can do anything. She has reduced u to absolutely nothing that u don't even believe in urself anymore. I hope u find redemption

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

go for counseling

Cassahav:


Omo i understand the situation but i guess you be single man do you really know what love is??

One sided love abi? You’re in chains sire

Another will smith spoted

Nawa
See why they burnt Deborah till death in Sokoto.. as they rejoices after killing her

Watch video below

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Msnd

Your relationship is complicated

Make I go find the advice wey I no dey use..... I dey come...just wait

Are you a Nigerian?

The movie "Deep Water" comes to mind.

You better part ways if you're not okay with her polyamorous lifestyle. This only means of y'all get married, it will continue.

See how sex dey ruin people life.

Is it a woman talking or a man must be a woman with balls!

Made up story.

cherryCola:
We have run out of advice for y'all SIMPle men .

hehehe. Thank you jare. Who no wise go wise last last

Cassahav:


Bless you mr brown jay

miss

Tosin9119:
Made up story.

people like you are habitual liars that is why you think everyone is a liar

Smh.... How do men end up like this?

Your wife is cheating and you said you barely have arguments...like wtf
How she have all the power to decide if you guys become monogamous or go separate ways
I am in my very early twenties and I feel like I have too much pride sometimes bcs I don't take nonsense from these girls but it's better than being under their wings

I can't even stay around my girl if she's cheating...she would f-ing irritate me, talk less about getting back together. I made sure my girl knows this and she wouldn't even dare

But in your case... I don't think your wife loves you, I think she loves all the things you do for her and maybe the kids, I doubt you'd be able to tell her no... she loves the power she has around you and it would never stop

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

You need to get another woman and let her be with her lover. Who says you can't be good parents to your children divorced? 10 years apart , committing adultery on post sides is just too dirty and low..you will never be a man, never have your respect and sleeping around will never end , only hidden

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

How can you accuse someone of extramarital affairs, when you have blatantly refused to marry her.........

She remains your babymama, till you put a ring on it .........

Hence very free to sell her market.........

Nairaland shouldn't be approving lot of posts this people dey always post. Ik you dey catch cruise oyah go back to your cave oh ye man. Tueeehhhh. How I go stoop so low like this till woman finish you.

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

seems you re not living in Africa, only the west with dilapidated brains allow this nonsense.

Did she blind your eyes? do what's best for you.
If you die now she will move on with her life, go talk to a counselor and take some time to heal, file for divorce. This life is short.









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Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

Go be a man, modafucka!

My dear brother, you are really obfuscating yourself by agreeing to be in an open relationship or better still you have no inkling what open relationship entails, agreeing to an open relationship is absolutely balderdash and will leave you both psychologically devastated.
It is understanding that makes a relationship or marriage outstanding, you can't have an outstanding relationship with an open relationship,this kinda relationship is called the friends with benefits(FWB) in which you are permitted to follow another FWB...front with bumbum
My candid advice is for you both to employ a marriage counsellor...shikina

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

are you Nigerian or you are from USA because na those people they practice this nonsense

Cassahav:

I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

Another Will Smith on the loose.

May we not give birth to useless men

ucheanderson24:
My dear brother, you are really obfuscating yourself by agreeing to be in an open relationship or better still you have no inkling what open relationship entails, agreeing to an open relationship is absolutely balderdash and will leave you both psychologically devastated.
It is understanding that makes a relationship or marriage outstanding, you can't have an outstanding relationship with an open relationship,this kinda relationship is called the friends with benefits(FWB) in which you are permitted to follow another FWB...front with bumbum
My candid advice is for you both to employ a marriage counsellor...shikina

Which marriage counselor ........... He refused to marry her nah ...........

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Omo i understand the situation but i guess you be single man do you really know what love is??[/quote


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