You need deliverance.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.


Well it's not a good decision not to have a child. Contact me I will give you the best decision to take
I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

It's not a good decision. Contact me I will give you the way to go about it.

You should see a psychologist, You need you mental state back. As for marriage it is not a must, you can find a temporary partner. And the kids, just adopt..m Has humanity needs help....a lot of these kids are out there looking for a mother.

There is nothing wrong with you. Our main purpose on earth is to affect the lives of others positively. Others na follow-come o.

kingyakos:



I can get you pregnant for free if u care, but for marriage i can never marry any woman who come online to seek for advice.

Are u a sperm donor?

Nigeria is the wrong place to seek such advice as most people here are illiterates or fairly educated ones. There is nothing absolutely wrong with you, you are most likely a highly goal-driven person who would have achieved a lot if you were in a better clime but sown here you are going to be called all manner of things from ritualist, mammywater, spiritual husband, blah blah blah. Nigeria is a country of illiterates and dont let certificates fool you.
Condolezza Rice is still unmarried even after been a secretary of State in the US, you can find out how fulfilled she is. The current US VP same story, have you ever heard Angela Merkel talking about her husband? Only Africa especially Nigeria that you hear such nonsense.
Your migration plan is okay and you can adopt a child, ou may even feel like having a kid later and be single parent. All you need is look for something you have passion for and put in all your best, Get tp the very top of whatever you do and you will be fulfilled. Most black people only hope to be remembered by the product of their private part and not their brain.
I actually looked for a lady of this same requirement years ago but never found, all you meet are the ones convinced by pentecostal pastors that their lives are useless until they are married to a man even if he's half a man. You can see why africa will be hopeless for another 3-5000 years?

Testimony1988:
You need deliverance.

From who, and from what exactly??

Medianna:

This is what people say and think before marriage but how many married people can stand and say what you just said with all sincerity?

Don't get it twisted. There are a thousand sweet marriages out there mine inclusive

LastProphet:
Nigeria is the wrong place to seek such advice as most people here are illiterates or fairly educated ones. There is nothing absolutely wrong with you, you are most likely a highly goal-driven person who would have achieved a lot if you were in a better clime but sown here you are going to be called all manner of things from ritualist, mammywater, spiritual husband, blah blah blah. Nigeria is a country of illiterates and dont let certificates fool you.
Condolezza Rice is still unmarried even after been a secretary of State in the US, you can find out how fulfilled she is. The current US VP same story, have you ever heard Angela Merkel talking about her husband? Only Africa especially Nigeria that you hear such nonsense.
Your migration plan is okay and you can adopt a child, ou may even feel like having a kid later and be single parent. All you need is look for something you have passion for and put in all your best, Get tp the very top of whatever you do and you will be fulfilled. Most black people only hope to be remembered by the product of their private part and not their brain.
I actually looked for a lady of this same requirement years ago but never found, all you meet are the ones convinced by pentecostal pastors that their lives are useless until they are married to a man even if he's half a man. You can see why africa will be hopeless for another 3-5000 years?

US VP is married.

Who are those Saying if She adopts kids it will never be Like the Kids Sired from Her own loins?They are the Ones Contributing to Nigeria ever exploding Population, Whereby Unemployment is the other of the day!!!People Keeps Popping out Kids Yet Cant Build Industries and factories to employ them when they are grown must everyone give birth??what about the Children wasting away in the Orphanages?Won't the Kids bear Her Surname? Nigeria holds the Highest Religious Centers in Africa Yet they lack Compassion!!

More so having Kids doesn't equate with Companionship at old age won't the Kids leave You to Seek for Greener Pasture and even Cleave to their own partner in Marriage??Nigerians Should better start learning to enjoy their own Company Bcs if you gv birth Solely because of Companionship then my Dear You are in for a long thing!!! because Naija Economy no dey smile at all.

Pls I feel it's best to see a therapist asap

Move closer to God and he would move close to you; then watch how fun your life would be.

Please don’t disturb us. You don’t need our advise when you have already decided not to ever get married and have kids.


Many men out there would want you for only kpanshing as long as you are ready to put your p*ssy down for free kpanshing all the time.

You never jam better Gbola wey go kpansh mental health comot for your body. I swear your mental health will disappear kiakia na marriage and having kids go dey ring for your head always.

if you ask me, na who i go ask.

Medianna:

This is what people say and think before marriage but how many married people can stand and say what you just said with all sincerity?

I am married and its one of my best decisions.


I use to be among those guys that detaste marriage for no just reason, but here I am happily married. When I look at my son, joy overwhelms my heart and I can't wait to have a girl child too.



Why many people end up in a disastrous marriage is lies and being too secretive to the man or woman they want to marry.


Don't lie to your partner before marriage, open up with your fears and some negative things about your life. If you are a guy that finds it difficult to resist beautiful women, let your wife to be know, don't keep it a secret.


If you are broke, don't lie to her that you are rich just to lure her into marrying you only for her to discover otherwise.


If your job is unstable tell her, don't tell her that you are thr CEO of your company when in reality you are just the gatekeeper which isn't bad.


Another thing is, be realistic with your expectations from the opposite sex, don't expect too much, just be realistic with the things and qualities you expect from your would be husband or wife. Don't go thinking because you are too beautiful, a virgin, with good paying job that the man you would marry will never cheat on you, nope, just zero your mind and put your fears and expectations to God to help you take care of.



When people become honest, realistic and with less expectations from the opposite sex, they will end up in a happy, healthy marriage.


Marriage is sweet, but this doesn't mean that there are no challenges in marriage.


One of the greatest challenges in marriage today is finance, once a man is able to sort that out via legitimate income source, his marriage issues are 70% solved.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

It's obvious this decision was made because of depression and anxiety. This first step is to find out why you are depressed and anxious and understand that past experiences cannot affect your future unless you let it

Do anything that makes you happy ..... Cheers

CrownOfClay724:
Seek help for your health first.

Single or married, you're in line if you're happy.

Only that you'd need people around when you're old, weak and frayed.
And by then, your immediate family — brothers, sisters et al might just be busy with their own families.

So, whatever you decide, have those times at the back of your mind.

only if she's privilege to see that Old times,Because with this her believe ND mental state, you can't know what she's thinking

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

i admire the fact that you are bold enough to accept yourself the way you are. Very few people have the courage to accept themselves privately and publicly.


Now choosing not to get married isn't a bad thing, you and you alone know what you go through mentally and emotionally so faking the joy of marriage and chuldbirth would be simply giving way for a bigger disaster.

You have made your decision, its not a bad one, it's a justifiable one.

I stand with you.

Fuckaniza:

Most sensible response so far.

From that quote, having a partner is the best option for her not necessarily offsprings

Can you also decide not to ask guys for moneyh too

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

Child and Marraige is not your issue but your Mental Health.

Giving birth is a gift to women, its a process you remember and become Thankful for.

Definitely bringing up a child needs commitment, you'll come to appreciate it later in life if done well,

But as you have said, if you are not ready for something, its advisable not to go into it.

The funny thing is that Life doesn't always work that way, broken people sometimes have good offsprings.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

I too suffer from depression and anxiety. It's impossible to suffer from anxiety and not have depression.

Do you really suffer Social Anxiety Disorder? What are your symptoms?

Don’t raise kids in this state of mind. Treat your depression first. Nigeria has devastated a lot of people from the terrible news and all sorts. If you can abandon social media for a year and emphasize of hanging out and making friends that matter. Do the things you love and travel out of nigeria on vacation. You will heal very quickly.

rainlover:
Are u a sperm donor?

It's non of ur biz so face ur front

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but[b] I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.[/b]

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

lots of nigerian men don't want kids. Depends on who you're relating with.

Personally I don't mind having kids but I don't see it as necessary - there are already too many kids without homes in the this world, and why bring more kids into this uncertain world?

ultraviolet27:
Who are those Saying if She adopts kids it will never be Like the Kids Sired from Her own loins?They are the Ones Contributing to Nigeria ever exploding Population, Whereby Unemployment is the other of the day!!!People Keeps Popping out Kids Yet Cant Build Industries and factories to employ them when they are grown must everyone give birth??what about the Children wasting away in the Orphanages?Won't the Kids bear Her Surname? Nigeria holds the Highest Religious Centers in Africa Yet they lack Compassion!!

More so having Kids doesn't equate with Companionship at old age won't the Kids leave You to Seek for Greener Pasture and even Cleave to their own partner in Marriage??Nigerians Should better start learning to enjoy their own Company Bcs if you gv birth Solely because of Companionship then my Dear You are in for a long thing!!! because Naija Economy no dey smile at all.

The only to solve this problem permanently is for Nigerian government to start partnering with private organizations like Banks, Insurance firms, etc and even Churches to start building aged people retirement homes and facilities to cater for aged Nigerians as they grow old.



This will also revive Nigeria's dead health sector which would create jobs for our healthcare professionals as these aged people homes and facilities will have well equiped and well managed hospitals and clinics to cater for the health of these aged people living in those facilities.



This will also give Nigerians peace of mind from overpopulating Nigeria as a retirement plan

Be like you want die early, better free your mind and live a happy life. Money no be happiness.

Op I'm your male counterpart and I'd like to welcome you to the club

Change your mindset two are better than one.

Your problem is u

Visit a counselor, there's no way you won't feel depressed staying all alone for the rest of your life, take your time to heal, God will surely see you through.









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