Dreadlock69:



Person wey I save her name as my B.P

My headache is better pls

Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.

That's her weakness, you either stay and consciously work her or you focus on her strengths.

Bros, if I were you, I would find my levels. It is better to be single than to be with someone who will not regulate their tongue because if you do get married, you will be abused emotionally and verbally which could lead to violence and at this stage, it is the beginning of the end. Forget good looks and all, think about someone who will use their tongue to help you rise and the one the will bring you down. The tongue cannot be tamed. He who has ear, let him hear

Dreadlock69:


Only one red flag bruh not like you will see another girl who no go get red flag/ flawless

So why come here for advice.
Me no go kukuma put mouth for love matters

LadyTara:
At what point do we draw the line between flaw and a red flag though?

Can we continue to use them interchangeably simply because we are on the prow for the "perfect"?


At what point do we realize we have our own flaws too( our own dey our body) and compromise?.

Hmm. Well no one is perfect including MEN , but anything you know you can’t put up with as a man or woman , that’s red flag.

So if I were in his shoes, honestly I can’t marry her. She’s disrespectful and not submissive.


Those are the biggest flaws/flags I can’t over look no matter how you put it…



But if she’s making effort to change for real , I can still manage. Mind you , there’s different between pretending to change and changing for real . I can figure the bolded out easily .. but to be frank, some characters no fit change ..

I have anger issues too, and I’ve been making efforts day and night to change for better , so marrying a woman who gets sharp mouth might send me to jail .

Cos I will be tempted to uproot her 36 teeth..

Alleyway:
Bros, if I were you, I would find my levels. It is better to be single than to be with someone who will not regulate their tongue because if you do get married, you will be abused emotionally and verbally which could lead to violence and at this stage, it is the beginning of the end. Forget good looks and all, think about someone who will use their tongue to help you rise and the one the will bring you down. The tongue cannot be tamed. He who has ear, let him hear

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

seanwilliam:


Hmm. Well no one is perfect including MEN , but anything you know you can’t put up with as a man or woman , that’s red flag.

So if I were in his shoes, honestly I can’t marry her. She’s disrespectful and not submissive.


Those are the biggest flaws/flags I can’t over look no matter how you put it…



But if she’s making effort to change for real , I can still manage. Mind you , there’s different between pretending to change and changing for real . I can figure the bolded out easily .. but to be frank, some characters no fit change ..

I have anger issues too, and I’ve been making efforts day and night to change for better , so marrying a woman who gets sharp mouth might send me to jail .

Cos I will be tempted to uproot her 36 teeth..

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

IamGreen1:



My headache is better pls

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

deavicky:
u know say that is her character before u enter. now that u are in, u want to change her. Loving someone is not the ability to change them, but the ability to live with their flaws. Do you know that there are people who likes ladies that sharp mouth. So bad character is relative.

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

Dreadlock69:


Only one red flag bruh not like you will see another girl who no go get red flag/ flawless

No mind him , there is no perfect human being

id4sho:

Be careful, she's manipulative, rude and will make you fight family & lose respect.
No lose guard.

All this manner less girls Toto dey sweet die . Learn to differentiate sex&character. It's not the same.
#my2cents

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

Remman:
The best way to control it is to ignore her. Keep quiet and control yourself. That's her nature and there's nothing you can do about it. It's like forcing yourself not to urinate. Naturally, you're supposed to urinate, so forcing yourself not to do so will damage your bladder.

What i mean is that if you're not ready to accept her for who she is rather than forcing her to fake who she is could damage your relationship forever. So, instead of pointing at her nature, point at yourself and learn to adapt.

if he ignore, keep quiet and control himself, you can also do well by telling all his parents, family members and friends to do the same. Don't forget her co-workers and boss to do the same, because the whole world revolves around her?

NOwazobia:
I bet she is a Yoruba girl.


Prove me wrong.

Nah from my state heartland

You have tolerated it. To her mind that means you permit it. If she doesn't do it in your presence it means she respects you. You need to show her that there are consequences for her behaviour - not by beating her up. Withdrawing access or some privileges will work. Some women are just sassy and need you to show them that you are strong and will not condone disrespect.

NOwazobia:
I bet she is a Yoruba girl.


Prove me wrong.

If nah I go dun injure person since

Nah from my state heartland

Aje...

You sure say you dey okay... You need slap gan, you dey Bleep her, no body no, so her sharp mouth u want us to correct for u

bmdmix15:
what's that saying a person who is nice to the spouse but not the waiter is not capable of love

If I'm the waiter he I'll treat me the same way

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

Kollins11:
You better talk sense into her head because if she cross my path and she verbally abuse me with her sharp mouth. I will help her repair her leaked mouth tap with correct slap.

I go beat 20 years out of her life span... Me I no get joy ooo. Better talk sense into her head. I nor be gentleman at all oo.

Hahaha I like your way

Dreadlock69:

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

Like most people have said if you think you can't manage her just quit. Her type is most cases brings insults to every of their loved ones especially their parents because they'll feel she was not properly trained which is most times the truth or she has seen her mother doing that to everyone around her. You also met her raining insults on your cousin, for how long do you want to continue settling dispute.

KillerCrocodile:


Are you really a Cultist....... ?

,

Why would she carry that mindset if you are not a Cultist ...... ?

As for your girl.........Know that women are born to talk.

Every woman likes to talk.

If a woman is not talking, know that the Topic of discussion is not interesting to her.

Give a quiet woman an interesting topic and the talkative in her will rise like a phoenix from the ashes.

No she get this kind mindset like she dey date Thomas Shelby from peaky blinders or klaus mikealson from the originals.

Her character is like this lady from the movie “ night school if you've watched it she got a sharp mouth.

I guess she's from IBADAN...

IF your DKK is big enough you can stuff it into her mouth.... That should calm her down even when shes out

obowunmi:
People with sharp, rude, insulting mouths grew up in an abusive home.

Unless you take her for therapy, she will never change.

Kollins11:

If you no treat internal bleeding, call me bastard.. I go beat you like who thief.

Me.. I nor get joy oo. Better no carry your madness come my side.

Chai...men no get joy o, even Joy soap.

I don laugh scarrer...

mastermaestro:


Don’t mind the weak lily-livered generation. A little flaw, they exaggerate it and want to run away without exhausting all measures to manage it.

Thank you for pointing it out to him. A common flaw is not a red flag! Someone whose only weakness is talking too much, and maybe disrespectfully at times, not known to engage in physical violence as a follow-up action, cannot be said to have a red flag.

No one is perfect including the complainer!

Having a sharp mouth and abusing anyone is a sigh of bad character.
She is abusing others, it’s only a matter of time before she abuses the husband too.
When they marry fully that’s when he will know what’s upz

Dreadlock69:




Calm down it haven't gotten to this .

Lolzzz abeg d guy up dey para big tyme. same thing happened to me back wen i was in sch. i dey always defend her because i too like d babe but one day she go run her mouth for one of my departmental guy and guy dey always hail me and dey fear me too, but i like wetin d guy do, him land her better slap, na so i just throway face. baba since dat day my babe start to get sense. dat kind girl don't easily change.

Immanuelsnr:

No mind him , there is no perfect human being

We have people with peace of mind, your wife abusing everyone and anything won’t guarantee you that.

seanwilliam:


Hmm. Well no one is perfect including MEN , but anything you know you can’t put up with as a man or woman , that’s red flag.

So if I were in his shoes, honestly I can’t marry her. She’s disrespectful and not submissive.


Those are the biggest flaws/flags I can’t over look no matter how you put it…



But if she’s making effort to change for real , I can still manage. Mind you , there’s different between pretending to change and changing for real. I can figure the bolded out easily .. but to be frank, some characters no fit change ..

I have anger issues too, and I’ve been making efforts day and night to change for better , so marrying a woman who gets sharp mouth might send me to jail .

Cos I will be tempted to uproot her 36 teeth..

Again this is your personal opinion.

Being submissive is subject to your opinion because the op already stated that she respects him enough to coordinate herself in his presence.


Then again, on the bolded ,I like the fact that you are in tune with your personality and will seek out a match that will sooth your type of person.
This is what I always advocate ,man know thyself and seek out a partner that will better compliment your flaws and not aggravate or trigger it.


Like someone said ,to some a trait can be a flaw while to another it can be a red flag. We all have our deal breakers and where we draw the line on tolerance and after that line it turns into toture and abuse.

Therefore the op has to decide if he sees it as a flaw or a red flag. As he has stated he sees no other fault in her traits and habits.

OP,
Are you a cultist??

LadyTara:
Again this is your personal opinion.

Being submissive is subject to your opinion because the op already stated that she respects him enough to coordinate herself in his presence.


Then again, on the bolded ,I like the fact that you are in tune with your personality and will seek out a match that will sooth your type of person.
This is what I always advocate ,man know thyself and seek out a partner that will better compliment your flaws and not aggravate or trigger it.


Like someone said ,to some a trait can be a flaw while to another it can be a red flag. We all have our deal breakers and where we draw the line on tolerance and after that line it turns into toture and abuse.

Therefore the op has to decide if he sees it as a flaw or a red flag. As he has stated he sees no other fault in her traits and habits.

But this her flaw is even the worse, if you have a good character you won’t be abusing everyone.
I don’t think there’s any flag as red as that.

Dreadlock69:
There is this girl/lady of mine , dark tall and good looking, how we started talking and dating was a coincidence ,she was speaking rudely or not fairly to my cousin and I interrupt and cautioned her never to try that or repeat it again cause me get “gbana" for head i know dey take disrespect/nonsense.
she later calm down and became gentle like pikin wey Dem shout for ,after advising her and her later gra gra like I do am bad thing but me know send , how we start dating is a history I don't know how it happened.

Now she got this problem she get very sharp mouth how do I go about it ?
It only when I'm around she tries not to do anything stupid and talk pass herself because I do give her this stare warning eyes and she go respect herself ,like the one wey “ my mama go give me if I wan collect sweet from stranger or person she no like when I dey small".
She always feels she can get away with anything cause I'm around and no one will/dare to touch her .“ she get this kind mindset like nah cultist she dey date nobody got touch am".

My cousin bro and sis sometimes are like I know blame you anytime your husband dey you dey get wings.

She sweet and all to me and everyone but her mouth to sharp and ee dey off me sometimes , how do I manage her behavior I'm a cool / mind my business kind of person.

hope we are not dating same girl