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Good day great people of nairaland. I'll make this as short as possible and forgive my typo errors.
I've been working in this construction firm for the past five years together with taking care of my family and my girlfriend who has been in school but due to ASUU strike, now at home.
I'm usually busy and spend less time at home except on weekends - Sundays.
Recently, my girlfriend has been talking me into changing the nature of my work to another job that will afford me the opportunity to give more time to my family and her. I insisted that I'll need more time to be able to find another job but she will not have it that way.
Seems to spoke to my mother about it and it's now hell in the home with my mother threatening she will kill herself if I don't quit the job. This job is something I have used in completing my house and paying the fees of my girlfriend.
Lest I forget, I got the hint that my manager is considering me for a promotion and my quitting the job might just spell doom on me!

I'll appreciate all your suggestions, advice and criticism. I'm really in a fix!

My knees are on ground.

Never consider quitting bcuz if u do ,she will be d first to mock u and if u try to remind her , she's the one that push u. her response will be"I told u something and u couldn't use ur head

elimsun:
Good day great people of nairaland. I'll make this as short as possible and forgive my typo errors.
I've been working in this construction firm for the past five years together with taking care of my family and my girlfriend who has been in school but due to ASUU strike, now at home.
I'm usually busy and spend less time at home except on weekends - Sundays.
Recently, my girlfriend has been talking me into changing the nature of my work to another job that will afford me the opportunity to give more time to my family and her. I insisted that I'll need more time to be able to find another job but she will not have it that way.
Seems to spoke to my mother about it and it's now hell in the home with my mother threatening she will kill herself if I don't quit the job. This job is something I have used in completing my house and paying the fees of my girlfriend.
Lest I forget, I got the hint that my manager is considering me for a promotion and my quitting the job might just spell doom on me!

I'll appreciate all your suggestions, advice and criticism. I'm really in a fix!

Don't quit your job because
1. You don't personally hate your job or seem to have any rancour at work.
2. You seem to be good at the job and have a good rapport with your boss,who is considering you for promotion.
3. Your job has been a source of blessing to you and your family. You were able to build a house,also sponsor your girlfriend to school.
4. There's no job anywhere,unless you want to resign and start your own business. Even if you get another job,it will take some years to develop the kind of respect you're enjoying in your current job.
5. You are always at home 2 days in a work,not good enough,but not too bad either. As long as your purpose of staying away is work,which is bringing in good money.
6. If you risk it and quit,but things didn't go as planned. That girl you think loves you now,will change it for you,when you start telling her stories when she ask for money.
" Wisdom is profitable to direct"...... somewhere in the Bible

Village people shaking you after you start sleeping every morning and your dear wife starts to nag because of your uselessness and mumuness

Don't quit the job, get the promotion
Learn new and improved skills in your field of work for higher chances of multiple jobs,more money and connections. Maybe i should remind you, you're not living your life for any body, you've tried already feeding yourself, family and let me not say yeye girlfriend that's not even supprting rather consuming (because from my point of view,not marrying that girl is 1-0 ,she marrying you because of money is 2-0) i won't talk too much

I think it is time to change girlfriend.

Greatzeus:
Don't quit your job because
1. You don't personally hate your job or seem to have any rancour at work.
2. You seem to be good at the job and have a good rapport with your boss,who is considering you for promotion.
3. Your job has been a source of blessing to you and your family. You were able to build a house,also sponsor your girlfriend to school.
4. There's no job anywhere,unless you want to resign and start your own business. Even if you get another job,it will take some years to develop the kind of respect you're enjoying in your current job.
5. You are always at home 2 days in a work,not good enough,but not too bad either. As long as your purpose of staying away is work,which is bringing in good money.
6. If you risk it and quit,but things didn't go as planned. That girl you think loves you now,will change it for you,when you start telling her stories when she ask for money.
" Wisdom is profitable to direct"...... somewhere in the Bible

Please read this and digest it well, OP. Let it sink in!

Huh?

You know what? Quit that your girlfriend and if possible, quit your family until they come back to their senses.

Like how unreasonable can they be? In this period of lack of employment where people are struggling to survive, they are telling you to quit your only means of livelyhood while all they do is sit their asses and gulp down your sweat in one swoop, adding nothing to you.

See, ignore them. In fact, cut off from them. They are a set back. If anything happens to your job and you delay a tad bit in getting another one, they will be the first to remind you of how your mates are out there working their ass out while you're prowling about in the house. Then you'll hear, " na your face we wan chop?"

Op, you better borrow sense and make a U-turn from them because it's like your village people have begun to reason your matter through them.

Trust me, if you quit that job, you will regret it for life. You might possibly fall into depression afterward . Don’t be emotional! First thing that should be important to a man before anything is Job- source of livelihood, then family .


Without job( money) , no one will give you regard. That’s what makes you a man anyway ,

Ubunja.

Sorry o

.. when you quit and become jobless, your girlfriend will leave you, your family will ridicule you.
My Guy think oh. Think before you act.
There's actually nothing to think of, tell them "NO".

H

Okay

I just pray you listen to all telling you not to quit your job.

I just pray.

elimsun:
Good day great people of nairaland. I'll make this as short as possible and forgive my typo errors.
I've been working in this construction firm for the past five years together with taking care of my family and my girlfriend who has been in school but due to ASUU strike, now at home.
I'm usually busy and spend less time at home except on weekends - Sundays.
Recently, my girlfriend has been talking me into changing the nature of my work to another job that will afford me the opportunity to give more time to my family and her. I insisted that I'll need more time to be able to find another job but she will not have it that way.
Seems to spoke to my mother about it and it's now hell in the home with my mother threatening she will kill herself if I don't quit the job. This job is something I have used in completing my house and paying the fees of my girlfriend.
Lest I forget, I got the hint that my manager is considering me for a promotion and my quitting the job might just spell doom on me!

I'll appreciate all your suggestions, advice and criticism. I'm really in a fix!

forget them - both ur mom and your girlfriend. They want u to go into yahoo yahoo and be operating from home?

Blue86:
I just pray you listen to all telling you not to quit your job.

I just pray.

if he losses his job, in less than 1 week, that his girlfriend will pack out. And go and befriend someone that is working.

Sorry for you

The two hardest things in life are Having a job and not having a job. Choose you hard thing wisely.

You said your girlfriend. Not even your wife.
Dear kings.
Just take a month leave from work,and when you get home tell your wife or mother that you have just been sacked from work.Then relax and watch the person you married or called mother.Watch the way you will be treated for this first two weeks.

Though she's my fellow gender, I'm sorry to say... She has a watery brain

She's your girlfriend and not wife...
Wait ooo, you're taking care of her even in her family home... What happened to her parents?

I know it's cool to help but it seems you're taking the whole responsibility

Now she has manipulated ur parents to team up with her to block u from what feeds them...

Do they have standby job for u?
What happens if you can't cope in giving them as usual?

She will start calling u weakling and not been man enough to use your head.

Hey dude, ignore there complaints and FOCUS
Be on ur best behavior at work to ensure the promotion becomes successful.

If the job takes more of ur personal and family time, the little time u have; maximize it with ur loved ones

Elimsun, quit your girlfriend before you quit your job. If you don't quit her before you quit your job, she will quit you after you quit your job.

Use your senses bro

Listen to your heart keeping your family away will leter hot you in times to come

Greatzeus:
Don't quit your job because
1. You don't personally hate your job or seem to have any rancour at work.
2. You seem to be good at the job and have a good rapport with your boss,who is considering you for promotion.
3. Your job has been a source of blessing to you and your family. You were able to build a house,also sponsor your girlfriend to school.
4. There's no job anywhere,unless you want to resign and start your own business. Even if you get another job,it will take some years to develop the kind of respect you're enjoying in your current job.
5. You are always at home 2 days in a work,not good enough,but not too bad either. As long as your purpose of staying away is work,which is bringing in good money.
6. If you risk it and quit,but things didn't go as planned. That girl you think loves you now,will change it for you,when you start telling her stories when she ask for money.
" Wisdom is profitable to direct"...... somewhere in the Bible

Kindly consider this advice as though your life depends on it because it actually does.

elimsun:
Good day great people of nairaland. I'll make this as short as possible and forgive my typo errors.
I've been working in this construction firm for the past five years together with taking care of my family and my girlfriend who has been in school but due to ASUU strike, now at home.
I'm usually busy and spend less time at home except on weekends - Sundays.
Recently, my girlfriend has been talking me into changing the nature of my work to another job that will afford me the opportunity to give more time to my family and her. I insisted that I'll need more time to be able to find another job but she will not have it that way.
Seems to spoke to my mother about it and it's now hell in the home with my mother threatening she will kill herself if I don't quit the job. This job is something I have used in completing my house and paying the fees of my girlfriend.
Lest I forget, I got the hint that my manager is considering me for a promotion and my quitting the job might just spell doom on me!

I'll appreciate all your suggestions, advice and criticism. I'm really in a fix!

your girlfriend should get a job as well i suppose!

Wetin dey do the O.P? you wan leave job wey they pay well cos of what again? Unless she go give you another work.

Don't quit that job. I don't want to hear had i known and there is a high percentage that ur gf will dump u

elimsun:
Good day great people of nairaland. I'll make this as short as possible and forgive my typo errors.
I've been working in this construction firm for the past five years together with taking care of my family and my girlfriend who has been in school but due to ASUU strike, now at home.
I'm usually busy and spend less time at home except on weekends - Sundays.
Recently, my girlfriend has been talking me into changing the nature of my work to another job that will afford me the opportunity to give more time to my family and her. I insisted that I'll need more time to be able to find another job but she will not have it that way.
Seems to spoke to my mother about it and it's now hell in the home with my mother threatening she will kill herself if I don't quit the job. This job is something I have used in completing my house and paying the fees of my girlfriend.
Lest I forget, I got the hint that my manager is considering me for a promotion and my quitting the job might just spell doom on me!

I'll appreciate all your suggestions, advice and criticism. I'm really in a fix!

ur girlfriend now decides for you. That's your problem

Even if she no leave, the nagging go rush in like a flood. Don't let anyone take your financial empowerment from you, save you have a better offer.

thatigboman1:
if hey losses his job, in less than 1 week, that his girlfriend will pack out. And go and befriend some that is working.