Enikeey:
@Op, sincerely speaking she has moved on long ago, smell the coffee bro.

She told me that am just wasting my time

Exjoker:
I don't know what you have invested into the relationship but if you don't love her, then kick her put your life since you are not legally married to her...

When she wants to give birth I took BG risk, she's from Orogun,if anything would have happened to her I would have been held responsible,still yet

A point I skipped,why did she say I should say am her brother at the Hospital.

Can you believe same thing happened on the Onset of the relationship,I should say am her brother

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Called the mother saying I should exercise patience,what patience can I exercise?, your daughter is in my house,I moved out still yet relationship gets bad day by day despite the distance

Bro I think you are just wasting your time if you think it will still work. Start making the plans to exit the relationship and start your own life afresh.

Even if her mother asks her to be reunited with you, it will still be the same cycle of quarrels and toxicity as una don build this relationship on lies and faulty foundation.

Oga. I no read your story. But leave an identified manipulative woman na. Abi dem tie you down?

My people suffer for lack of knowledge. Hosea 4.6

Normally you should know a woman from all areas before you impregnate or wife her up. Your knowledge about her MUST NOT be based on what she told you, but your real life experience with her. At the very least, you must know her siblings, family background, parents, place of work, age, for a start.

Relationship/marriage is a place that men bears most of the liability, same way women does with pregnancy. Men usually will lie to get into a woman's pant, and it's the responsibility of a woman to protect herself. It's same for men. A woman will lie to make you ring her, and it's your responsibility to not allow yourself be used.

Now you've entered, but you won't be in this dilemma if you did the right thing from the onset. So before you blame her, I want you to reflect on where you've gone wrong. It takes two to play and it's seems like she is on top of her game, while you're not.

Don't be naive bro. I just want to point out the foundational problems that lead you to this mess, and I hope you won't repeat it again if you overcome this.

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Bro I can take care of my child,I know am a fool basically because I didn't dated enough or was too focused on my studies, I'm just asking myself how did I get here

She might have used kayamata for you abi no be juju be dat?

OP you wey write this story, read am as one of us, e make sense to you? As you read am so, you happy with the poster?
Story looks fabricated sha

Ravenbeast1:
OP you wey write this story, read am as one of us, e make sense to you? As you read am so, you happy with the poster?
Story looks fabricated sha

I don't think it's fabricated because the dude dropped his WhatsApp number out of distress.

As simp, you deserve whatever you get.

Ravenbeast1:
OP you wey write this story, read am as one of us, e make sense to you? As you read am so, you happy with the poster?
Story looks fabricated sha

How can I come to nairaland to fabricate stories, this is happening to me and the worst part is love still dey, people say I love her too much,why she doesn't love even to admit to others that am her husband

WorldsNumber1:

She might have used kayamata for you abi no be juju be dat?

Reasons everyone is staying away from me, because they know once I have money even if it's 50K am running heels to go please her

DOWN2HeartLoved:

Reasons am baffled,her mother isn't showing any concern

She has lots of brothers. She always calls me a small boy. She doesn't even care now,even if I die
Problems:-i have invested on this relationship emotionally, physically and even more,

Is she from Benin?,she lied too,she has turned my people against me,right now no one reason me seriously again, because everyone is telling me she's a club girl and I need to leave her,she just laughs and blocks anytime I called her, people are telling me she might have built a house with my money elsewhere. Am shocked this is happening to me

What exactly is it that is happening to you?

You dated her and even had a child with her disregarding her age and background all that while, so why are all those suddenly problems?

You say people are telling you she is a club girl, my question to you is, do you have evidence of this behind "people are saying..."?

"People are saying" she has a house, do you have evidence of this or are you simply looking for reasons to abandon her and maybe the child?

If she blocks your calls the broach the issue and figure out where your relationship is with her that way. All these other childish reasons you offer are just ridiculous to read.

Kobojunkie:
What exactly is it that is happening to you?

You dated her and even had a child with her disregarding her age and background all that while, so why are all those suddenly problems?

You say people are telling you she is a club girl, my question to you is, do you have evidence of this behind "people are saying..."?

"People are saying" she has a house, do you have evidence of this or are you simply looking for reasons to abandon her and maybe the child?

If she blocks your calls the broach the issue and figure out where your relationship is with her that way. All these other childish reasons you offer are just ridiculous to read.

God help me out, begging now wouldn't it be me lowering myself esteem again to emotional torture and blackmail?

DOWN2HeartLoved:
God help me out, begging now wouldn't it be me lowering myself esteem again to emotional torture and blackmail?

I don't understand. I opened the thread thinking you were caught in an abusive relationship. If you don't want to remain in the relationship, tell her and move on..

You are under a spell. You need to consult a Dibia

DOWN2HeartLoved:


When she wants to give birth I took BG risk, she's from Orogun,if anything would have happened to her I would have been held responsible,still yet

A point I skipped,why did she say I should say am her brother at the Hospital.

Can you believe same thing happened on the Onset of the relationship,I should say am her brother

Please how old are you?
You are in your early 20s right?

DOWN2HeartLoved:
I usually come to nairaland to get advice on business or any other related stuffs am affected with

Currently am in a tight spot,have been dating a lady I met during a trip, after a month,we started chatting and I went to visit her, things were smooth until we have a child,now she's different

The thing am surprised about her is I don't know her family background,only believed what she told me, she's from Auchi and Orogun and the mother lives in Ondo,we have issues I had to move out of my own house for her,the problem is I'm thinking she has children outside, she's always 28 every year,am thinking she's close to 40,why lie about age and many more.

Reasons am baffled,her mother isn't showing any concern

She has lots of brothers

She always calls me a small boy

She doesn't even care now,even if I die

Problems:-i have invested on this relationship emotionally, physically and even more,

Is she from Benin?,she lied too,she has turned my people against me,right now no one reason me seriously again, because everyone is telling me she's a club girl and I need to leave her,she just laughs and blocks anytime I called her, people are telling me she might have built a house with my money elsewhere

Am shocked this is happening to me

Just leave with your life.
My boss was killed because he wanted to confirm what he was hearing.
I ran away from a situation worse than yours even after she had 3 kids and told me to my face that they ain’t mine.
Story long abeg but I am 100 % sure it will end your life or end in tears.

OP, your post is funny.

Ximenez:

Please how old are you?
You are in your early 20s right?

Yes 24

UpInTheSky:
OP, your post is funny.

And am totally frustrated here?, it's just so hard to move on

Gaddafih001:

Just leave with your life.
My boss was killed because he wanted to confirm what he was hearing.
I ran away from a situation worse than yours even after she had 3 kids and told me to my face that they ain’t mine.
Story long abeg but I am 100 % sure it will end your life or end in tears.

What is all these then?,why pretend at first,why are women so heartless to a loving and caring person?

Zanzibar1:
You are under a spell. You need to consult a Dibia

Spell??

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Yes 24

Run o

How u want make we take help you know

DOWN2HeartLoved:
I usually come to nairaland to get advice on business or any other related stuffs am affected with

Currently am in a tight spot,have been dating a lady I met during a trip, after a month,we started chatting and I went to visit her, things were smooth until we have a child,now she's different

The thing am surprised about her is I don't know her family background,only believed what she told me, she's from Auchi and Orogun and the mother lives in Ondo,we have issues I had to move out of my own house for her,the problem is I'm thinking she has children outside, she's always 28 every year,am thinking she's close to 40,why lie about age and many more.

Reasons am baffled,her mother isn't showing any concern

She has lots of brothers

She always calls me a small boy

She doesn't even care now,even if I die

Problems:-i have invested on this relationship emotionally, physically and even more,

Is she from Benin?,she lied too,she has turned my people against me,right now no one reason me seriously again, because everyone is telling me she's a club girl and I need to leave her,she just laughs and blocks anytime I called her, people are telling me she might have built a house with my money elsewhere

Am shocked this is happening to me

So you met someone and just decided to have a child without marrying her..obviously she manipulated you, else you would have known her background and met her people.

Op you are a BIG FOOL and SIMP
1.If any girl can't be bold to call you her bf instead call you her brother,juz know you are alone in that relationship.
2.Dont keep a woman you love too long in your house without doing atleast introduction in her head.
3.Dont invest so much in a relationship where the two of you are just co-habiting,if she dies in your house at night,you ll rot in jail
Lastly leave the damn relationship, she's meant for the street

Savourt:


Bro I think you are just wasting your time if you think it will still work. Start making the plans to exit the relationship and start your own life afresh.

Even if her mother asks her to be reunited with you, it will still be the same cycle of quarrels and toxicity as una don build this relationship on lies and faulty foundation.

Someone said she doesn't love me anymore,she needs to travel,so distance can make her rekindle the love again,but I don't know,is letting to travel good?,or what I personally went to pack somethings at Sapele she said belongs to her, chairs of which she sold,fan,water heater and a big shelf,am I still going to experience all this?

Ballzproblemm:
another simp lol , no dey invest for women head ,men no they hear word ,stop investing in women! except na your mother sister or daughter,this bitches don give a fuq about you ,cry more loser ,when you are done ask me for directions to the redpill thread

Lmafao

DOWN2HeartLoved:


Someone said she doesn't love me anymore,she needs to travel,so distance can make her rekindle the love again,but I don't know,is letting to travel good?,or what I personally went to pack somethings at Sapele she said belongs to her, chairs of which she sold,fan,water heater and a big shelf,am I still going to experience all this?

Am thinking of moving my chairs and the last things I have in the house

DOWN2HeartLoved:


When she wants to give birth I took BG risk, she's from Orogun,if anything would have happened to her I would have been held responsible,still yet

A point I skipped,why did she say I should say am her brother at the Hospital.

Can you believe same thing happened on the Onset of the relationship,I should say am her brother

What I'm about to say is the plain truth:
She just used you to get pregnant as age is no more on her side.

She wanted you to say you're her brother because to her, you are not dating.You are just her sperm donor.
Also,she doesn't want people to see her,as old as she is,dating a small boy.[You are the one dating her,she is not dating you].

She used juju to tie you because she wants to have more children with you.
She also wants you to keep pleasing her and spending money.

Albertone:


What I'm about to say is the plain truth:
She just used you to get pregnant as age is no more on her side.

She wanted you to say you're her brother because to her, you are not dating.You are just her sperm donor.
Also,she doesn't want people to see her,as old as she is,dating a small boy.[You are the one dating her,she is not dating you].

She used juju to tie you because she wants to have more children with you.
She also wants you to keep pleasing her and spending money.

If it's so I think I need to follow advice now

DOWN2HeartLoved:
I usually come to nairaland to get advice on business or any other related stuffs am affected with

Currently am in a tight spot,have been dating a lady I met during a trip, after a month,we started chatting and I went to visit her, things were smooth until we have a child,now she's different

The thing am surprised about her is I don't know her family background,only believed what she told me, she's from Auchi and Orogun and the mother lives in Ondo,we have issues I had to move out of my own house for her,the problem is I'm thinking she has children outside, she's always 28 every year,am thinking she's close to 40,why lie about age and many more.

Reasons am baffled,her mother isn't showing any concern

She has lots of brothers

She always calls me a small boy

She doesn't even care now,even if I die

Problems:-i have invested on this relationship emotionally, physically and even more,

Is she from Benin?,she lied too,she has turned my people against me,right now no one reason me seriously again, because everyone is telling me she's a club girl and I need to leave her,she just laughs and blocks anytime I called her, people are telling me she might have built a house with my money elsewhere

Am shocked this is happening to me

Keep on talking nonsense until you die, what kind of investment that won't let you think