Good day nairalanders, I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago after we have dated for 3 years. It's been 3 months we last talked, either chat or call. No form of contact. I broke up with her due to the fact that she doesn't value me as her boyfriend. It's really disturbing and she doesn't want to change.
During these 3 months, I've had 2 girlfriends,which I think can replace her but to be honest, it's not easy getting into a new relationship these days o.. all these girls are widyling.. one started asking for money the 3rd days she said yes..haaaa...one will be uploading different guys on her WhatsApp, calling them bestie..yeeee...talo ni bestie ofo? Me sef know wetin I dey do when I be bestie nah..lol...I'm a student of Shola on Twitter, of you know what I mean.
In short,in comparison, my ex is better. Her own devil is better. And another thing is,to start from "what's your favorite food" is not easy o..
I'm thinking of going back to my ex. I've learnt through one of our mutual friends that she's not in any relationship too. Which still gives me the opportunity. To be honest, I'm really considering it, although I've not done it. Love is a feeling. If we start again, surely,the love will be back.
I need first hand advice from people that have experienced this - going back to their ex. Is it a nice move? Would things get better or worse?
I know most people would say it's not a nice move(I would say that too) but I need people with experience to give the advice.
Thank you. I'll be checking the comments section.

Cc: lalasticlala Kindly push to FP. It's a matter of life and death.. lol...

Ur world do wat please u, na u get life

tayo200:
Good day nairalanders, I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago after we have dated for 3 years. It's been 3 months we last talked, either chat or call. No form of contact. I broke up with her due to the fact that she doesn't value me as her boyfriend. It's really disturbing and she doesn't want to change.
During these 3 months, I've had 2 girlfriends,which I think can replace her but to be honest, it's not easy getting into a new relationship these days o.. all these girls are widyling.. one started asking for money the 3rd days she said yes..haaaa...one will be uploading different guys on her WhatsApp, calling them bestie..yeeee...talo ni bestie ofo? Me sef know wetin I dey do when I be bestie nah..lol...I'm a student of Shola on Twitter, of you know what I mean.
In short,in comparison, my ex is better. Her own devil is better. And another thing is,to start from "what's your favorite food" is not easy o..
I'm thinking of going back to my ex. I've learnt through one of our mutual friends that she's not in any relationship too. Which still gives me the opportunity. To be honest, I'm really considering it, although I've not done it. Love is a feeling. If we start again, surely,the love will be back.
I need first hand advice from people that have experienced this - going back to their ex. Is it a nice move? Would things get better or worse?
I know most people would say it's not a nice move(I would say that too) but I need people with experience to give the advice.
Thank you. I'll be checking the comments section.

Cc: lalasticlala Kindly push to FP. It's a matter of life and death.. lol...

forwar ever bro.

Swears brother... we’re kinda in the same shoe. My last gf was the most humble babe I’ve ever seen in this life... she respects me a lot... got big boobs... a year older than me... excellent character... all for me to leave her one day for one girl which I tot would be good... and all I saw in her was the yansh... I saw my ex cried that day when I broke up with her.. I took it as a fun thing... .

Sometimes, these exes are damn better!!!! Swears! I’m still in deep regret for letting that girl go...

You left her for a reason. A reason she has refused to change from. A reason you cannot stomach. What makes you think she will adjust without showing remorse being that you're the dog going back to your vomit?

Let her be. If she misses you enough to want you back, you'll see the signs. Only then can you work things out. Anything short of that is foolish desperation on your part and it will be used against you.

DriverX:
You left her for a reason. A reason she has refused to change from. A reason you cannot stomach. What makes you think she will adjust without showing remorse being that you're the dog going back to your vomit?

Let her be. If she misses you enough to want you back, you'll see the signs. Only then can you work things out. Anything short of that is foolish desperation on your part and it will be used against you.

in the court of simp lol

postbmd:
in the court of simp lol

No be small. She'll get worse and if he complains she'll ask him if she begged him to come back

DriverX:
No be small. She'll get worse and if he complains she'll ask him if she begged him to come back

on point

DriverX:
You left her for a reason. A reason she has refused to change from. A reason you cannot stomach. What makes you think she will adjust without showing remorse being that you're the dog going back to your vomit?

Let her be. If she misses you enough to want you back, you'll see the signs. Only then can you work things out. Anything short of that is foolish desperation on your part and it will be used against you.

thou art wise my son....

You better move on op

Don’t be a clown,you’re just lonely,suffering from scarcity mindset and for your information she’s already moved on,there’s no point trying,go forward with your live and don’t look at the past,keep moving forward,focus on bettering yourself.

Obviously, I now see reason why she didn't value you as her boyfriend which was why you broke up with her..

I supported her, cause you lack self -ove, self-worth and you don't deserve one. Stop being worthless it's dangerously damaging to your personality

You are incapable of loving yourself, it's naturally not in you..no offense

If you go back will she suddenly begin to give the value which you earlier complain of?? It will prolly get worst before it gets better...

Format your mindset and starts having abundance mindset..

It will ends in tears bro, think outside the box.
Forward ever,backwards never

A lot of shola s students are here commenting



You all forget that Shola will go on to marry and live his life while making money out of you simps


At OP, do what makes you happy... Forget these simps..

Remember one man's meat is another man's poison... What might not work for one man might work for another man.

You are just looking for someone to tell you that going back to your ex isn't a terrible idea.

It is.

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never go back to ur ex no matter how special she was , I used to think my ex was really special until we broke up and I started seeing other girls that were more special than her by far ,and I didn’t even force it tho , they just came naturally .

Better just move on. Explore other multiple options. And don’t b desperate cause only den u won’t find wat ur looking for , just let love come to you ,don’t force it.

You guys broke up for a reason. Trust me, if you don't find a common ground, you will break up again. Don't ignore red flags. Stay sharp.

Na you no value yourself brotherly. If your story is true she will come around cuz they always do.
Just be patient and wait for her but if you make a mistake of taking a step first, you may not like the result.
You may be missing yea. But weigh you peace of mind when you were with her vs now that you're alone.
Sadly, some decisions in life has nothing to do with convenience but peace of mind..

Yours is a case of a person whom let go of a branch to hold on to a leaf
2:0 is sure in such scenarios

HopeNeverDies:
Swears brother... we’re kinda in the same shoe. My last gf was the most humble babe I’ve ever seen in this life... she respects me a lot... got big boobs... a year older than me... excellent character... all for me to leave her one day for one girl which I tot would be good... and all I saw in her was the yansh... I saw my ex cried that day when I broke up with her.. I took it as a fun thing... .

Sometimes, these exes are damn better!!!! Swears! I’m still in deep regret for letting that girl go...

Go back to someone who doesn’t value you? Y’all lots won’t just ceased amazing me. And stop saying you’re a student of shola, you’er just one of his Twitter followers who are there to increases his twitters likes and engagement, you failed his class woefully, you shouldn’t be make to repeat class, you should be expelled!!

Cus you no be student at all. Shola I know is a king, and a king values himself the most.

But you are a confused fellow who don’t even understand what bn valuable mean, that’s why your girl will never value you.


My apology if I take things too personal, but damn you have low esteem. How tf will you consider going back to someone you mentioned doesn’t valued you?

Relationship is not a must ok? Work on yourself first. Once you’er valuable, they all come for you.

Here’s a short tip man.

Gold and water are both valuable natural resources.
Water has much value than Gold and more essential while gold on the other hand limit it’s circle.
Gold don’t go to people, but water do visits people, at a point people start to ridiculed water, because till date people never know how essential water is, because of it much availability whenever people needs her. But this same people risks their lives for gold, who won’t even do quarter of what water is doing for them.

The point is when you know your worth, people will valued you, but if you failed to realized your worth on time, you’ll be ridiculed forever.

Keep your head straight kings.

You going back to someone that clearly doesn't value you...
Even in those 3 months you separated..no calls, no chat messages.....

My recent ex dey message me on Whatsapp...I no answer her...she dey ask people about me...if I dey fine...
Na so he supposed dey be....
My female friends that I don't have a formal relationship with sef...just because I stopped communicating all of a sudden....she still dey call over 1 month now to know wetin she do me..wey make me excommunicate...

Ladies don't value people who act cheap..dey scarce ..dey expensive....dey like say you not afraid to lose people.. though respect people..

You want to go back to someone you say doesn't value you.. You are obviously desperate which is a bad thing on your path

Wotoporiously speaking

Except for one, other of my ex's no better o, all wicked souls

The one I had in 2016, that one almost kill me sef she rub something for her toto wan come use am knack me so that I go add mumu to the love wey I been get for am already that time but she no Sabi say me sef na street and no amount of pressure go fit make me loseguard my Intel.

I no dey go back to wetin I don pass no matter how good it was because I believe say in life change/growth is constant.

That your ex fit be another person as you wan go back so....just thread carefully sha

Starz825:
You going back to someone that clearly doesn't value you...
Even in those 3 months you separated..no calls, no chat messages.....

My recent ex dey message me on Whatsapp...I no answer her...she dey ask people about me...if I dey fine...
Na so he supposed dey be....
My female friends that I don't have a formal relationship with sef...just because I stopped communicating all of a sudden....she still dey call over 1 month now to know wetin she do me..wey make me excommunicate...

Ladies don't value people who act cheap..dey scarce ..dey expensive....dey like say you not afraid to lose people.. though respect people..

Wotoporiously speaking

I capreson your caprison comrade

You never search well enough.

Do whatever you want to do. If it works then fine. If it doest u learn lessons and get wiser.

tayo200:
Good day nairalanders, I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago after we have dated for 3 years. It's been 3 months we last talked, either chat or call. No form of contact. I broke up with her due to the fact that she doesn't value me as her boyfriend. It's really disturbing and she doesn't want to change.
During these 3 months, I've had 2 girlfriends,which I think can replace her but to be honest, it's not easy getting into a new relationship these days o.. all these girls are widyling.. one started asking for money the 3rd days she said yes..haaaa...one will be uploading different guys on her WhatsApp, calling them bestie..yeeee...talo ni bestie ofo? Me sef know wetin I dey do when I be bestie nah..lol...I'm a student of Shola on Twitter, of you know what I mean.
In short,in comparison, my ex is better. Her own devil is better. And another thing is,to start from "what's your favorite food" is not easy o..
I'm thinking of going back to my ex. I've learnt through one of our mutual friends that she's not in any relationship too. Which still gives me the opportunity. To be honest, I'm really considering it, although I've not done it. Love is a feeling. If we start again, surely,the love will be back.
I need first hand advice from people that have experienced this - going back to their ex. Is it a nice move? Would things get better or worse?
I know most people would say it's not a nice move(I would say that too) but I need people with experience to give the advice.
Thank you. I'll be checking the comments section.

Cc: lalasticlala Kindly push to FP. It's a matter of life and death.. lol...

Moving to your ex would even be More disastrous

Move on

DriverX:
No be small. She'll get worse and if he complains she'll ask him if she begged him to come back

Bolded is so true

Seriously, I really love and enjoy all the comments so far. Y'all comments are so sensible and matured. I also know it might be a terrible mistake, especially when I'm the one that goes all out for her again, I just need someone to tell me and y'all did.

I've surely made a decision.

DriverX:
You left her for a reason. A reason she has refused to change from. A reason you cannot stomach. What makes you think she will adjust without showing remorse being that you're the dog going back to your vomit?

Let her be. If she misses you enough to want you back, you'll see the signs. Only then can you work things out. Anything short of that is foolish desperation on your part and it will be used against you.

You're so on point, bro.

sript:


Obviously, I now see reason why she didn't value you as her boyfriend which was why you broke up with her..

I supported her, cause you lack self -ove, self-worth and you don't deserve one. Stop being worthless it's dangerously damaging to your personality

You are incapable of loving yourself, it's naturally not in you..no offense

If you go back will she suddenly begin to give the value which you earlier complain of?? It will prolly get worst before it gets better...

Format your mindset and starts having abundance mindset..

Spot on..