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Midas01:
Well since you love the man so much why don't you go marry him and take care of the kid.

Mumu, someone deceived an innocent woman into bondage and it's this rubbish you can say.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Jovialjune1:
Pls leave.

Since he can keep something as huge as a child, who knows what else he's keeping from you

You are justified to leave abeg.

Rupertek:
Even if he told you before the marriage, you. Would still be giving these excuses, what preparations would you have made?
Do you know, your husband wasn't expecting the baby's mother to do what she did, that informed his not telling you.
By the way, will your parents recieve you warmly with heavy pregnancy?

Richy4:
Ok.. it seems your mind is made up already... U are the one wearing the shoes and u alone knows where it hurts...

But let me ask you again..
<<Is leaving him and the marriage really what you want?...
<<You don't think it's a hasty decision that you are making at the moment?...
<<Are you 100% certain that you are leaving without a backward glance/ no coming back when things becomes Rosey and better for your husband?..

If all the answers are yea then I really wish U the best dear..and take care of your unborn baby..

Blessedmercy8:
This is what happens when you put the cart before the horse. When you ought to do your findings about who you're getting married to, you were busy consumating sex, getting yourself pregnant and rushing into marriage without proper background checks. Now you want to opt out just like that.

you think marriage is child's play? Or something you can just throw in the trash when the odds are against you? Think again cos this right here is the real marriage. So you have to accept and deal with it.

Oh... You want the man but you don't want his child?
What if it was you who gave birth to the child? Forget about how the mother is not willing to take her therefore you can't keep her excuse you're giving. The father didn't marry her but you. Maybe if he did, she won't abandon the child, so you who won the man should accept his totality.

Do you know what the one you're carrying will turn out to be?

Majority of you marry these days for the benefits. If nothing is in it for you, then you leave. You can't sacrifice and if they ask you now, you'll say you love the man. Mtcheeeeeewwwww..

H0711:
Thank you . Right now he can't afford that 200k monthly , his younger sister has refused to come and help taking care of the child. Me too I can't kill myself in my condition and I will leave next month.

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

Karleb:
You are too young to be suffering for another person's sin

Nonexisting:
If he had told you before marrying you, I would've called you names but on this one, I support you to leave. You too should go and check the baby you are carrying for him incase the disease is genetic.

JONNYSPUTE:
..,.. Lol. What if after given birth she finds out that her own child has the same issue? Wetin she go do?

Maybe drop her child with the husband and jepa her own

advanceDNA:
Madam.....if you want to stay...no wahala....

But u are not bound to a marriage that you didn't know the conditions before enetering it...
....you were deceived....withholding information that could be a deal breaker is fraud.

..dont let anybody blackmail or guilt-trip you with "for better or worse" clause......

Thank you

kollinz1234:
you are pregnant and you don't know what you will give birth to, yet you want to leave your husband not because he didnt tell you that he had a child out of wedlock but because you can't cope with the child. Karma is a very wicked bitch.
You leave that man's house, don't be surprised at what you will give birth to.

Shallom

Sheistoopretty:
Keep your filthy thumbs away from this thread little boy, you have little intelligence. Her child is her child no matter what and everyone isn't senseless enough to abandon their children like how the ex-wife did. If the girl's mother would be able to ditch her own child then why wouldn't an outsider?

Oh, you expect her to suffer like dis in taking care of someone else's child and then what happens when she gives birth to her own child?

BloomingDale:
To be honest I won’t even accept to look after a healthy child. You tried. I would have left the same day. Please look after yourself so you don’t miscarry.

MedicH:
Women should stop marrying broke men. Broke men are nothing but trouble.

TheFacelessMan:
Disclaimer - hope this story is for real....

I was really surprised to see 1 or 2 empathetic responses before you...

Most comments were really cold-hearted. The husband lied which is bad. But this lady fleeing at the very first sign of trouble is a pointer that the love for the man was never there. The man knew she would flee if she knew the truth and that's why he lied.

Just 2 months and she wants to leave? I think that's the best for both parties anyways before she poisons the girl out of frustration.

Sheistoopretty:
Keep your filthy thumbs away from this thread little boy, you have little intelligence. Her child is her child no matter what and everyone isn't senseless enough to abandon their children like how the ex-wife did. If the girl's mother would be able to ditch her own child then why wouldn't an outsider?

Oh, you expect her to suffer like dis in taking care of someone else's child and then what happens when she gives birth to her own child?

H0711:
First of all our relationship was based on lies because he didn't tell me anything about her or her condition if he had told me from the onset I would have decided whether to quit or stay but he didn't tell me anything until the mother dropped her off and why would I have suffer for someone else responsibility. My only mistake was marrying him with his lies but his child in that condition is not my responsibility at all. If her mother that carried her for 9 long months cannot do it anymore me too I won't do it because I have done it for a week and I am already tired. Please if you think it is that easy if you are a woman you care enough for her come and marry him and take care of the child or if you are a man ask one of your sisters to come and replace me so she can take care of her.

Blessedmercy8:
Leave all this excuses. He didn't tell you, he didn't tell you. Did you try to find out?

Oh.. now you're helping him look for a wife... but if the mother had told you then to leave her man for her, would you have agreed?

You don enter now, see wetin dey inside, you come dey run.

One thing you should know is, marriage is not all that fun. It's a parcel full of surprises and you just have to brace yourself for it as each day unfolds. Or what were you expecting?

Sit down there. You don enter, you don enter.

Nwata fu ihe o choga, ahu e doe ya.
Happy married life.

TheFacelessMan:
Disclaimer - hope this story is for real....

I was really surprised to see 1 or 2 empathetic responses before you...

Most comments were really cold-hearted. The husband lied which is bad. But this lady fleeing at the very first sign of trouble is a pointer that the love for the man was never there. The man knew she would flee if she knew the truth and that's why he lied.

Just 2 months and she wants to leave? I think that's the best for both parties anyways before she poisons the girl out of frustration.

kollinz1234:
you are pregnant and you don't know what you will give birth to, yet you want to leave your husband not because he didnt tell you that he had a child out of wedlock but because you can't cope with the child. Karma is a very wicked bitch.
You leave that man's house, don't be surprised at what you will give birth to.

Shallom

H0711:
I got married two months ago. I am 7 months pregnant my husband didn't tell me he had a child from his previous relationship and the child has a disability celebral palsy. Her mother came to dropped her off in my house saying she has done enough and she's tired it is now hubby turn to take care of her.

The child can't do anything for herself she can't sit, talk, walk and she does toilet in her clothes. I can't do it anymore I love children because I have taken care of my own nieces and nephews before I would have taken care of her if she was normal but taking care of a child in this question is hard and if her own mother has had enough she abandoned her and why would I kill myself taking care of her in my condition.

I want to divorce and go back to my village I have told him i am leaving next month. He is pleading with me not to leave him that he will take the child somewhere else but the place is not free he has to be paying like 200k monthly for them to take care of the child and he doesn't even have that amount of money because he is not financial stable.

I will stick to my decision but I want to know what will other people do in my situation.

BloomingDale:
She even tried looking after the child for a week. I swear I won’t even stay 1 sec even If the child was healthy.

TheFacelessMan:
Disclaimer - hope this story is for real....

I was really surprised to see 1 or 2 empathetic responses before you...

Most comments were really cold-hearted. The husband lied which is bad. But this lady fleeing at the very first sign of trouble is a pointer that the love for the man was never there. The man knew she would flee if she knew the truth and that's why he lied.

Just 2 months and she wants to leave? I think that's the best for both parties anyways before she poisons the girl out of frustration.

H0711:
For me if she was healthy I would have look after her because at 7 years old she can feed , dress herself and do small chores and she would have been a great big sister helping me carrying the baby while I am doing chores but in her condition is not easy . I can't do it anymore

ecolime:
You are nothing but a wicked big fool.

She is 7 month pregnant and you still want her to be responsible for a child that isn't hers?

Why can't the man take the child to his own parents or relative.

@OP: Don't let anybody guilt-trip you. Let your husband clear the mess himself or you take your leave.