ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
the one in your womb will come worse than your step wife as you claim, you are a useless woman that's why you won't have a stable Life, before you marry, you think marriage is bed of roses, small challenge you want to run and you expect me to be begging you to stay to completely destroy that innocent man abi? Thunder fire you

Calm down bro! This woman is caught in the middle of a tug of war between the husband and his baby mama. Why bring your special needs child to drop with the father two months after he got married? Besides, the man hid this from his wife. That's marriage by deceit. You are making it seem as if the pregnant woman is at fault. She is justified if she decides to quit the marriage.

sooperrescue:

You give good advice. The illness the child has is only found in the US and Europe and the bible. I have not seen it here in Nigeria and if the husband has a child with such ailment, chances are that it's in his lineage and a baby is coming from the same loins. My hands are full of children hence I will reject the offer but the woman is yet to have one, let her prevent the calamity coming her way by showing kindness to the child.

Cerebral palsy is only found in the US and Europe? You see how stupid you are? How can your hands be full when you can adopt and marry her for one of your son.

Finally, it is your way calamity is coming. Your children will have calamity over them.

Ganjafama:
Calm down bro! This woman is caught in the middle of a tug of war between the husband and his baby mama. Why bring your special needs child to drop with the father two months after he got married? Besides, the man hid this from his wife. That's marriage by deceit. You are making it seem as if the pregnant woman is at fault. She is justified if she decides to quit the marriage.

please try and read her responses to everyone giving her advice you will understand why my response this way, if you advise her to run and leave her husband, she will thank you, if you advise her to stay and forgive her husband and stay, she will insult you and blast you, why then did she come to public opinion forum to seek advice. Just go through comment section and see for yourself.

Curdlebug:


You are a big f.o.o.l... God disgrace you there and leave Satan to make you miserable... Fxckn bxstaxd...

next time read and understand so that you will not be reigning courses on you and your children. It may be the same reason why your father and his children were cursed.

The man should have told you that before marrying you, if he can keep secrets like that from you, who knows hw many more he is keeping?

Leave him now, that you can, cos do you really want to spend the rest of your life taking care of another woman's abandoned offspring?

Can you do that 5-10 years from now everyday, sacrificing all your dreams and aspirations why he goes around flexing and bringing more cerebral palsy products into the country?

Think well, dont believe anything he tells you, he married you to use you as his maid period.

The choice is yours sha.

Nozino:



I know insanity runs in your family so cure your children first.

If you are not mad, why are you sounding mad?

ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
please try and read her responses to everyone giving her advice you will understand why my response this way, if you advise her to run and leave her husband, she will thank you, if you advise her to stay and forgive her husband and stay, she will insult you and blast you, why then did she come to public opinion forum to seek advice. Just go through comment section and see for yourself.

Whatever rocks her boat. She is wearing the shoe and she alone knows where it pinches. If she's made up her mind to leave the least we can do is wish her all the best and a safe delivery.

sooperrescue:

You give good advice. The illness the child has is only found in the US and Europe and the bible. I have not seen it here in Nigeria and if the husband has a child with such ailment, chances are that it's in his lineage and a baby is coming from the same loins. My hands are full of children hence I will reject the offer but the woman is yet to have one, let her prevent the calamity coming her way by showing kindness to the child.

I can't believe what I just read! Are U for real?

Ganjafama:
Whatever rocks her boat. She is wearing the shoe and she alone knows where it pinches. If she's made up her mind to leave the least we can do is wish her all the best and a safe delivery.

Thank you

quentin06:
The man should have told you that before marrying you, if he can keep secrets like that from you, who knows hw many more he is keeping?

Leave him now, that you can, cos do you really want to spend the rest of your life taking care of another woman's abandoned offspring?

Can you do that 5-10 years from now everyday, sacrificing all your dreams and aspirations why he goes around flexing and bringing more cerebral palsy products into the country?

Think well, dont believe anything he tells you, he married you to use you as his maid period.

The choice is yours sha.

Thank you I already left the house I am at my brother house and I am going back to the village on thrusday.

Ganjafama:
Whatever rocks her boat. She is wearing the shoe and she alone knows where it pinches. If she's made up her mind to leave the least we can do is wish her all the best and a safe delivery.

it's like both of you are thesame, nobody is is forcing her to stay, neither asking her to leave, but public conducts, insulting people on public forum must generate opposite reaction

kollinz1234:
If you are not mad, why are you sounding mad?

It is your enter generation that is mad.

Nozino:


It is your enter generation that is mad.

So why are you the one sounding mad

kollinz1234:
So why are you the one sounding mad

It is your children that are mad.

kollinz1234:
next time read and understand so that you will not be reigning courses on you and your children. It may be the same reason why your father and his children were cursed.

you still a big fool... Accept that first...

sooperrescue:

You give good advice. The illness the child has is only found in the US and Europe and the bible. I have not seen it here in Nigeria and if the husband has a child with such ailment, chances are that it's in his lineage and a baby is coming from the same loins. My hands are full of children hence I will reject the offer but the woman is yet to have one, let her prevent the calamity coming her way by showing kindness to the child.

Omg! Am I the only one seeing this post?

For ppl using religion to manipulate the Op,hear firsthand from the mother of one.This is the child David,a Nollywood actor abandoned for Jodie because of Cerebral palsy.

Child Abandonment is normal for Nigerian men.
Born triplets,they run.Twins,thy run.Albino,they run.Cerebral palsy,they run.

Ulunne777:


Omg! Am I the only one seeing this post?

He is a mad man

Ulunne777:


Omg! Am I the only one seeing this post?

For ppl using religion to manipulate the Op,hear firsthand from the mother of one.This is the child David,a Nollywood actor abandoned for Jodie because of Cerebral palsy.

Child Abandonment is normal for Nigerian men.
Born triplets,they run.Twins,thy run.Albino,they run.Cerebral palsy,they run.

The idiot man thinks children with cerebral palsy don’t exit in Nigeria because they kill them here. In my place, they are called snake children and are usually abandoned in the bush at night or thrown into a stream.

15k.. nobody pays that in Abuja right now..30k self is by begging



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Yes oo even his salary of 15k he might even be a lie for a security guard to be receiving 15k in abuja but I stand by him with that 15k and why should I add another burden of raising a child that I didn't know she even existed in her condition too. Well my brother said I will not go there again my younger brother will go there in the evening. [/quote]

Thx for the story bye

This child came from the loin of a man you are about to bear a child for. It isn't going to be easy due to pregnancy and stressbut divorcing is not a good option. If you can get house maid it will ease things for you.for the love of God and for the love of Children, make your marriage work. I wish you the best

oazeez1991:
It's obvious you've made up your mind already, and no amount of words could have you change your mind unless you choose to. Moreover, you are right to feel the way you are feeling right now. In fact, you are justify to feel that way. We are all human, blood runs in our vein. What your husband did by not getting you inform from the get go is a totally wrong. He wasn't been fair with his dealing with you from start. But trust me, he did what he did i.e. hiding such sensitive matter from you cos he was afraid to lose you. He felt for the one who birth the child in question to not want to take up responsibility of raising him/her, how would someone who wasn't a part of it accept to? I understand and could resonate with his (your husband) fear, but he was being insensitive about how he deals with it. He forget that no matter how far lie goes, truth would one day caught up with it. Maybe he doesn't want to get you involve with the child all along, hence, his reason for keeping it away from you, not knowing there is no escape route to such reality.

The child in question is just the victim here. He/she didn't ask to be birth, atleast not into a family that would abandon him/her, but life do happen.

How you get to be in such marriage before finding out about such revelation is a destiny you just have to accept.

From one of your response, you claim should it's your child (I forbid it for you) that is the way the one in question is, you will treat him/her accordingly. It won't be easy and it's already evidence it has not been, but you can always treat that child as your own.

The main issue I see here is financial incapability. Had it been your husband is well to do, the situation would have been rosily handle, but the case is different.

Do what you wanna do, but give it a second thought. Divorce isn't the way forward.

Nozino:



You’re mad. Is it her job to do any yeye findings or for the husband to tell her? Is she a detective?

... it takes a mad man to know another mad man.
So if I cajole a woman into believing dangote is my father, the idiot woman will just accept my words and not do her own digging to verify my claim.

A man you want to marry, has a child outside and you are not aware? YOU ARE THE MAD ONE? a desperate bride.

Goto his parents talk one on one, ask questions, be curious of everything, go on his Facebook.
there were signs but she didnt find them.

Curdlebug:
you still a big fool... Accept that first...

You are too mad to have a relevant opinion

Nozino:


It is your children that are mad.

can't you just realize that you are not normal? When last did you do a brain check up? If your father was normal, won't he have just waste a wasted child like you, instead of breeding mad people everywhere

mabea:
And she has to divorce her husband because of that?

You said she wants divorce because of poverty. Despite the fact that she had stated the challenges and the difficulties she is presently facing. I didn't encouraged her in making that choice. That is why I said it is a passing phase.

Having said that divorcing because of poverty is not a crime either. Most of us male can't stand broke friends of many years even buddies that had been there for us in the past but will be quick to condemn females making same choice.

Staying with a sick family member with such sickness is depressing and killing that is why people outsource such duties to Care Givers.

Blessedmercy8:


Nope. YOU will be the one to find yourself in such condition for advising that help be withdrawn from the helpless innocent child in Jesus name.

You would wish you never made this statement because it is coming right back to you.

It is you who who will find yourself in a similar situation, because as a woman you should have understood the delicate nature of the condition (pregnancy) she is in. But you went ahead mocking her. You refused to put yourself in her shoes. I have put myself in her shoes and I understand how she feels. She was deceived and by no means should she be forced to take care of a child she had no knowledge of. In your case you decided to lay blames on her. It is the primary responsibility of the husband's family members or that the mother of the disabled child to take care of their child and not the innocent woman. I can see how you added more to her pains and pray again that in your quest to find solutions to your problems, people will give you the same harsh reply that will leave you in severe pains just as you did to the woman.

One would wonder why you did not blame the original mother who abandoned her child. So I pray God brings a similar event to you or your Children so that you will see how it feels and God has answered my prayer already. How on earth would a woman abandoned her Child for another woman to take care of for Christ sake and you are here supporting woman that abandoned her responsibility. You see not wrong with it. Rather you chose to attack the woman that is heavily pregnant who may not be in the right mental state to give care to that child that with disabilities. Tell me if you will be able to do it. Do you want that innocent woman to loose her pregnancy and even risk her life for a mistake or sin she did not commit? You are simply been wicked.

Blessedmercy8:


Nope. YOU will be the one to find yourself in such condition for advising that help be withdrawn from the helpless innocent child in Jesus name.

You would wish you never made this statement because it is coming right back to you.

It is you because as a woman you should have understood the delicate nature of the condition (pregnancy) she is in. But you went ahead mocking her. You refused to put yourself in her shoes. I have put my shoes in her condition and I understand how she feels. She was deceived and by no means should she be forced to take care of a child she had no knowledge of. In your case you decided to lay blames on her. One would wonder why you did not blame the original mother who abandoned her child. So I pray God brings a similar event to you or your Children so that you will see how it feels and God has answered my prayer already. How on earth would a woman abandoned her Child for anotherwoman to take care of for Christ sake and you are here supporting woman that abandoned her responsibility. You see not wrong with it. Rather you chose to attack the woman that is heavily pregnant who may not be in the right mental state to give care to that child that with disabilities. Tell me if you will be able to do it. Do you want that innocent woman to loose her pregnancy and even risk her life for a mistake or sin she did not commit? You are simply been wicked.

Housing:


You said she wants divorce because of poverty. Despite the fact that she had stated the challenges and the difficulties she is presently facing. I didn't encouraged her in making that choice. That is why I said it is a passing phase.

Having said that divorcing because of poverty is not a crime either. Most of us male can't stand broke friends of many years even buddies that had been there for us in the past but will be quick to condemn females making same choice.

Staying with a sick family member with such sickness is depressing and killing that is why people outsource such duties to Care Givers.

I came to that conclusion based on her subsequent comments. One can't just run away from her marriage because of another person's child.

Nozino:



The idiot man thinks children with cerebral palsy don’t exit in Nigeria because they kill them here. In my place, they are called snake children and are usually abandoned in the bush at night or thrown into a stream.

Are a Tiv by tribe?

Nozino:


The mother didn’t intend to destroy anyone’s marriage. She single handedly took care of this child for 7years without any support from the father. She has tried. The father should continue were she stopped. If it was your sister, you would advise to return the child to the rightful owner; the father.

True.
But not everyone has the special capability to care for a child with severe disability challenges.
At the end of the day the child will be the one that suffers.
For the sake of the child, things should have been handled differently. You do not expect a new pregnant wife to take care of a child at this stage.
Again, the child will be the one that suffers; mother caring and loving a child cannot be duplicated.
The father should figure out how to give his full support while the disabled daughter lives with her mother. He should not only support his baby mother but also give her a break from time to time by picking up his daughter every other wkend.
NOTHING ELSE MAKES SENSE.