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Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by James214: 12:35pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: Nah small challenge,you have to man up pick a job first. But I don't like security job, because e dey tie people down. Eatery jobs,cyber cafe jobs,go attach yourself to any young guy frying buns in a busy street corner or market, go help him out and be learning the business.conductor jobs from there you learn driving. Allow your wife to go to her parents house, so that your head go clear properly. My own debt then was almost 1.4million.Theat everywhere even with native doctor. God is miraculous he helped me alot. But I started with a job of 8k per month. I later convinced my boss to pay me on commission basis he agreed and said that's better. That's how I cleared the debt within 3years. And when I look at my self you will know that God is real. I have never thought of suicide, because suicide is for cowards and I believe you're not a coward. Avoid gambling otherwise,you go go deeper in debt. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 12:36pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
SerikiFulani: Sir please what ever you can give me. I need like 350k I have sent a pm. I can't drop acct number because of mods |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by youngking89(m): 12:37pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Did he ask you for money or anyone…if someone’s decides to give him money..will you stop him/her. Pls speak for yourself…if you can’t help him…pls be quiet. ValCon888: 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Badguy77(m): 12:37pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
onomeabuja:Amen and Amen... God bless you for the prayer.. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 12:38pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
alyarmouk: Sir I can't send u a pm cos I have sent many pms. H w do I contact you 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Nasri100(m): 12:38pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
NemoDatQuod: Hahaha this is gold “ In an illustrative way, the loan sharks have already received repayment in full by disgracing you within your circle.” |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by olab059(m): 12:39pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
TheGift: The first question I have for you...Have you ever been in a similar situation before? Have you ever been owing multiple loan apps that keep calling you every day? Yes or No? |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by TheGift: 12:40pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
africantycoon: Through thick and thin and foolishness? And who says She is not standing by Him, by giving Him space to sort Himself. It is His fault that his home is not a peaceful utopia. Stop distracting Him from taking responsibility by blaming the wife's very human reaction to the suffering and embarrassment. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by olab059(m): 12:41pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Number2: Exactly what I said to him above. He is speaking theory, but he has never personally been in a similar situation before. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by jasminer: 12:41pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: 1. The loan companies have done their worst, there's NOTHING ELSE they can do. The worst part is that even if you clear their loan 100% today, they won't send a message to anyone to tell them that you aren't a criminal, even if they promise you that they'll do that, it's a lie, they won't do shit. 2. The interest cannot keep accumulating beyond 2-3weeeks. 3. They don't have the power to arrest you or sue you cus they have aren't recognized by CBN. The only thing they can do is what they have done. The loan doesn't even reflect on your BVN cus they are not licensed banks . Do you know how much it will cost them to hire police to come and arrest you? At least 50k - 80k and it's still not certain that they will get the money so it's not worth it for them forget about all their threats. https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/commission-freezes-over-30-accounts-of-illegal-loan-companies/%3famp https://www.dw.com/en/nigeria-cracks-down-on-digital-loan-sharks/a-61347733 4. The only debt you should be worried about is that of your friends. Go to each friend and explain everything that has happened, and tell them you have a new job but you can't afford to pay back at once but you will make monthly installments. 5. As sad as your wife leaving is, it may even be a blessing, at least no worrying about feeding her and the kids so you can save that money towards clearing the debts you owe your friends. 6. Avoid that account and ATM you used to apply for that loan cus they can still be attempting to debit it even after several months. Get a new account and ATM, don't worry, they don't have the ability to see your other bank accounts, neither do they have the right to debit your other accounts. Like I said, they're not registered with CBN. 7. Now you have to be very very particular about saving, save and pray, save and pray. God will make ways for you to earn extra 1k or 2k on the side but keep praying and keep saving like crazy, every month pay a friend a deposit. In the next 3months or so, things won't seem so bad and when you go back to your wife say in 3 months time or so, and she sees the efforts you have made in repaying your friends, she sef go wan come back. But keep in touch with her sha. Also, if they ask you, tell them that a good Samaritan has repaid the loan you owed the loan company... Nobody will know if you're lying or not. Best of luck 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by TheGift: 12:43pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
olab059: Let's stop over spiritualizing things. The practical way to get out of debt is 1. Stop taking more loans to pay of debts 2. Work towards clearing your current debts Doing the opposite is how He got into debt in the first place, not some devil or demon. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by shopwiser: 12:49pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
hey jus stop paying any loan apps cos you would never finish paying them unless you have a lump sum cos they will keep on adding interest upon interest..let them be.. they have paid themselves after they tarnished your images on whatsapp..... jus get a job and take care of yourself... then find a means to bring your wife back so she can be comfortable... if only you know how some people borrow from Loans apps for fun.. they dont even intend paying back cos many of the loan apps are illegal here...so move on with your life and start taking care of your life.. change your sim cards... block ur ATM card and get a new card with a different card number in it.. and lastly never borrow anymore. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by okine4real: 12:50pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
@guys that are yet to marry, hope you can see, nothing like love ohh, she loves you only because of what you can do for her, take those things away, she would flee. I done marry ohh, i get 4 children, but if what i know now, i knew it like 15 years ago, i think i would have made a more better decision in choosing whom i would marry. Men done work your ass out because of family or wife, if you die they would move on, highest after a months, another man go continue from where you stop. 5 Likes |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by TheGift: 12:53pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
olab059: I have never used loan apps. And that's because many years ago, before loan apps and as an entrepreneur, I got into debt and my debt grew because I tried to repay by getting into more debt. It only became worse. Even though not all my creditors were disturbing me, it didn't matter because I could disturb myself all by myself cos I hate the idea of owing another person. (The borrrower is slave to the lender and I hate to feel enslaved or beholden to any Man) I got out of debt (running into millions) by following the advise I gave above. The first decision I made was to never borrow again. ( I made exceptions a few times for small quick loans from siblings/very close friends m, whom I have also helped and only when I knew when and where the payback money was coming from, not based on hope) Then I started gradually clearing my debts. Some I paid money off some I worked of by offering professional services to the creditor, some got written off when I was open about the situation ( without even asking for it to be written off) Whatever the case I never dodged my creditors,m. I picked up their calls faster than other calls. That was my own debt experience. That's when I swore off debts and that's why Loan apps can never get my attention. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by funkyjaay: 12:54pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
man.I red tru ur ordeal not gud at all.my advice is look for a bike u can be riding and giving the owner something in 2weeks u could raise more than 25k depending on ur location.And will have time to do agribusiness just like someone suggested above 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 12:55pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
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Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Number2(m): 12:55pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
olab059:That's just it. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Dreey(m): 12:59pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
If she leave you now now she still loose.. you only did what you think was best for you and her.. man no go kee yousef say you wan do pass 2 Likes |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by lolu2019: 12:59pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
abuwidad:weyrey 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Emmanuel30a: 1:03pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
[/color] Antihypocrite:There is no love life, if and when JESUS CHRIST is not your LORD and Personal Saviour. All power belongs to JESUS CHRIST. The NAME of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST and the POWER of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST is above Medusa. THE NAME of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST and THE POWER of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST is above all principalities- it is not the wisdom of men. Use THE NAME of JESUS CHRIST, pray in the name of JESUS CHRIST and sing in the name of JESUS CHRIST and to the name of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; if and when your wisdom or the wisdom or the wisdom of men is not solving or is not taking away your obstacles, challenges and sorrows. In the faces of obstacles, challenges, principalities, calamity, attrocities and sorrows; shout and mention the mention the name of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST- HE is the ONLY ONE, that can deliver you in the faces of enemies and in the midst of principalities, calamity, attrocities, etc- Have faith in GOD, have capacity and capabilities in GOD and in THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; in the midst of calamities, attrocities, adversities and principalities. Don't become a nonentity, Adversity doesn't go to university and it doesn't care or deal with you; based on how many diversity of university you attend or that you have attended. It doesn't matter if you attend attend or if you have attended seventy university, have you or did you attend diversity of principalities and adversities university? JESUS CHRIST is the physicality and the spirituality, that nullifies or that can nullifies adversities and principalities for eternity or till eternity. You would always have a scary anniversary of adversary, if you are not an emissary of GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. It doesn't matter if you have gone to seminary or if you are living in seminary or if you are living in binary seminary or ordinary seminary. Grow capacity and ability in GODS and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST UNIVERSITY, if you don't want to become a nonentity and if you don't want to become a liability in the faces of adversities, attrocities, principalities and calamity or in the midst of principalities, calamities, attrocities and adversities. Adversities attrocities, principalities and calamities, would make you or rendered you are nonentity, if you don't have the capacity, capabilities and abilities in GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; it doesn't matter or it doesn't care if you are seventy, eighty or ninety years old. There is no prosperity in the midst of calamities, adversities, attrocities and principalities... You won't have prosperity, in the midst of principalities calamities attrocities and adversities; even if you attend or even if you have attended diversity of prosperity university. You are a nonentity... You are a nonentity, without purity and humility... Without purity and humility, you are a nonentity in the faces or in the midst of calamities, attrocities principalities and adversities. After all, all is vanity upon vanity... Have sanity, sanctity, chastity, charity, clarity, dignity, integrity, sincerity, purity, humility, etc... Charity they says, begins at home... Where is your home and who is your home? Are you on your own or you are on your own in your home in Rome? Are you doing like a Roman when you are in Rome or when you are in your dome and home? Are you going around the globe or you are using chrome in Rome? Are you behaving like a Roman when you are in Rome or you are using chrome when you are in Rome? Is Rome your home or your dome? Is Rome your abode or your adobe? Be bold... Don't become a fraternity or don't join fraternity, if you don't want to see calamities, attrocities, principalities and adversities and if you don't want to become a Mighty nonentity.[color=#990000]There is no love life, if and when JESUS CHRIST is not your LORD and Personal Saviour. All power belongs to JESUS CHRIST. The NAME of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST and the POWER of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST is above Medusa. THE NAME of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST and THE POWER of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST is above all principalities- it is not the wisdom of men. Use THE NAME of JESUS CHRIST, pray in the name of JESUS CHRIST and sing in the name of JESUS CHRIST and to the name of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; if and when your wisdom or the wisdom or the wisdom of men is not solving or is not taking away your obstacles, challenges and sorrows. In the faces of obstacles, challenges, principalities, calamity, attrocities and sorrows; shout and mention the mention the name of THE LORD JESUS CHRIST- HE is the ONLY ONE, that can deliver you in the faces of enemies and in the midst of principalities, calamity, attrocities, etc- Have faith in GOD, have capacity and capabilities in GOD and in THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; in the midst of calamities, attrocities, adversities and principalities. Don't become a nonentity, Adversity doesn't go to university and it doesn't care or deal with you; based on how many diversity of university you attend or that you have attended. It doesn't matter if you attend attend or if you have attended seventy university, have you or did you attend diversity of principalities and adversities university? JESUS CHRIST is the physicality and the spirituality, that nullifies or that can nullifies adversities and principalities for eternity or till eternity. You would always have a scary anniversary of adversary, if you are not an emissary of GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. It doesn't matter if you have gone to seminary or if you are living in seminary or if you are living in binary seminary or ordinary seminary. Grow capacity and ability in GODS and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST UNIVERSITY, if you don't want to become a nonentity and if you don't want to become a liability in the faces of adversities, attrocities, principalities and calamity or in the midst of principalities, calamities, attrocities and adversities. Adversities attrocities, principalities and calamities, would make you or rendered you are nonentity, if you don't have the capacity, capabilities and abilities in GOD and THE LORD JESUS CHRIST; it doesn't matter or it doesn't care if you are seventy, eighty or ninety years old. There is no prosperity in the midst of calamities, adversities, attrocities and principalities... You won't have prosperity, in the midst of principalities calamities attrocities and adversities; even if you attend or even if you have attended diversity of prosperity university. You are a nonentity... You are a nonentity, without purity and humility... Without purity and humility, you are a nonentity in the faces or in the midst of calamities, attrocities principalities and adversities. After all, all is vanity upon vanity... Have sanity, sanctity, chastity, charity, clarity, dignity, integrity, sincerity, purity, humility, etc... Charity they says, begins at home... Where is your home and who is your home? Are you on your own or you are on your own in your home in Rome? Are you doing like a Roman when you are in Rome or when you are in your dome and home? Are you going around the globe or you are using chrome in Rome? Are you behaving like a Roman when you are in Rome or you are using chrome when you are in Rome? Is Rome your home or your dome? Is Rome your abode or your adobe? Be bold... Don't become a fraternity or don't join fraternity, if you don't want to see calamities, attrocities, principalities and adversities and if you don't want to become a Mighty nonentity. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 1:04pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
pgodson7: OK sir |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Panda7(m): 1:05pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
sell your property or land |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by xandy84: 1:05pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
You sound little harsh but I agreed with most things you said but you can't go by 100k benchmark before getting married. It is never how much you make but what you spend your money on. I went to Unilag on my mother's level 02 federal worker"s salary, grad and left abroad for Masters while some of her bosses in level 14 struggles to send their kids to university. Reliable source of income is necessary before marriage but no naira amount will ever be enough or people will never get marry... samuelson06: |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by yongg: 1:05pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Lyonkingpin: Please, don't follow this advise because you will still have a default entry with the credit bureau and you don't want your livelihood more damaged by that. Rather, address their crime of tarnishing your image in court so that you are also free from any listing as a bad credit against your name by the money lender to the bureaus, if the judgement is in your favor which I believe should be if your have a good lawyer make sure to monitor that this happens. When you borrow your record is with bureaus. If it's bad it can affect other areas of your life, like getting more loans from an even better creditor, passports issuance and Visas, travelling engagement and other things you may not see now. But that aside. When taking a loan. The best time to take it is when you don't actually need it and you have the capacity to pay it ten times over. It sounds counter intuitive but there's wisdom in it. It allows you to choose a better lending institution with better rate, comfortable duration and good repayment plan. That also aside, let talk about the psychology and state of mind when living with the need to pay your loan at the back of your waking and unconscious mind. It can be draining, but you can not get more worried than worried, so no need to be. It doesn't help any party if you're worried, put a plan to paper to plan to pay and live your life. Make a actually calculation of how much you are expected to pay. Itlf you don't meet it and you have already borrowed just apportion a percentage to clear it that is higher than the late fee they will charge. Guy live, don't let anyone pressure you to live or die. As for the people unwilling to hear you out, when they are interested in knowing tell them your story if they will listen otherwise let them alone. They will not know when you pay it all up they only save up memories of when you defaulted. These activities happen. This is real life. If you decide to still worry, you will still find out that it is vain to worry... They will be very little things that will scare you. What will happen will happen. It is the intention that counts. But put your mind in the right place by entering agreements which give you peace of mind. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Penguin2: 1:06pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: Since you were riding bike, have you ever considered taking Keke on hire purchase or even bus? Find a way to get it and start to work like jackey. It will help you clear up the loan in no time and set you on track again. Meanwhile, allow your wife to go to her parents house for now if she insists. Maybe she will be going with the kids, that will help remove a lot of expenses from you and you just send them something on monthly or weekly basis when you get the bus or keke or Uber; anyone. Transportation business is your shortest route out of this mess. And make sure you stop borrowing more. Thank you and don’t die, ok? |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Ihatebuhariwith(m): 1:07pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite:how I wish I could be of help. But I know say ur wedding go cost you more than 1m.. I don't know why you can't use that to settle yourself before marriage.. black people n black brain.. you go feed ur enemies. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by officerfudo: 1:07pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
[color=#000099][/color]. Guy, relax cus I did more than you from the loan app and even used my wife’s detail to get loan. When they all started asking for their money, my wife was distraught and felt very bad towards me. The luck I had was that I had money coming in from different source. I planned with my wife and we started paying back gradually and am still paying. No bother about people thinking you are a fraudster, believe me half of them dey owe online app and trying to avoid been called out like you. Make sure you don’t loose your wife, las las everything will be alright. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Charx122: 1:14pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
slimjohn2k5:Sorry for what I'm about to say, But it doesn't give your wife to allow you to put things together marriage is for better or for worse, two heads are better than one if she was your girl friend now is pretty understandable.. Brother is not the end of the world, I was owing like 28 loaning apps, without a job I escaped |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by omasco922: 1:15pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: If you are still owing LAPO try your possible best to repay. But for those loan sharks that tarnish your image please don't pay them on till they re-send transparent message to your contacts. And don't worry yourself if you don't have money now. The highest they can do is tarnishing your image which they have done. If you are owing registered loan app repay them. Registered loan app are not much e.g Branch, Carbon, Fairmoney. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by cle62000(m): 1:16pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Once you change your ATM PIN no one can debit you or block you ATM card and go request for new one, that takes care of auto debit issue For the loan app repayment, pls don't get yourself worked up thereby considering suicide, by defaming you, they violated your privacy, no body have right to do, that is very wrong of them to do and they have acted against the law, so relax your mind later in future when you have money to pay then you repay it's not worth considering suicide for pls. Take up any legitimate job no matter how much it will help to pick up your life again Hence your wife suggest going to her parents house pending on when you pick up again, I think that's ok, she's a good woman Thanks I wish you quick recovery Antihypocrite: |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Oyiboman69: 1:17pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Shoodboi:the man was a transporter before now. transportation makes you have daily money on you. If you're balancing 3500 daily, you'll still have daily that amount and certainly more with you daily. if you're not in the line,you should stop quoting me. Besides, how can get a job of at this present Nigeria or the one that will pay him higher so as to settle his debt and still feed from it?.... 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by lolu2019: 1:18pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
God always have a better plan.I have been there too.the only thing that is constant is change. if u can endure,u will scale through. 1 Like |
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