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Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by AdaAwka1: 1:19pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: Many people are in your shoes, even those who the loan apps sent messages to. There is dignity in labour, pick up immediately the 25k job and never get tired of praying. Once it starts becoming this tough then its about to get better, just be strong. Dont be ashamed that you borrowed money, bro you didn't steal or kill anyone you cant be jailed for it. Finally if your wife wants to go then good riddance to bad rubbish, he is no wife material. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by MartinsD12(m): 1:22pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
FrancisDiote:lawyer go help am sue na |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by MartinsD12(m): 1:23pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
abokikhalifa:you mean buhari no get sense 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Autchhomme: 1:27pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: Young Man, you worry too much. 320k is not a huge debt my brother. What skills do you have apart from borrowing? Allow wify to go home, if you can, sell off your properties, and offset some part of the loan, and keep only the necessary ones. If you can drive, good. Go to your church and ask for a bolt/uber partnership with any member that have car. If you can't drive, good, find a bus to be their conductor. Your daily take home from these is better than a monthly take home from the security job. Once you have this income source, don't worry about your debts. Even if they come, tell them hoohaa, e no dey and focus on building yourself again. Any cash received, contribute to a RELIABLE akawo person. As you build this fund, pay back your friends first, starting from the smallest owed amount and win them back. Afterwards, do same to other debts, starting from the smallest. Pls don't go borrowing again oh, if you can't pay, no need to borrow to pay off a debt. Good luck. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by MartinsD12(m): 1:28pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Gabby2022:nawa ooo 700k Jesus Christ 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Roozzaay(m): 1:29pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
"My wife started feeling ashamed of me. She stopped associating with me in public spaces. I know she has tried. Nobody deserves to pass through what she is passing through. This afternoon when she came back from work, she told me that she would be going back to her parents house She said that it is best she goes back to her people until I am able to sort my self out." God abeg o � you're the real definition of a Coward nobody deserves to pass through what she is passing through, really? But you deserve it and to the extent of death? Haa God don't give me this kind of OP as son o. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by obaaderemi: 1:29pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
I don't understand o. A woman stopped associating with her husband in public because he is a known debtor. She is even talking of moving away for awhile. Meanwhile, her income is the mainstay of the family at the moment. What sort you of woman is that And I see fellow men saying she is not a bad woman, 'Oh, she just needs space. After your situation improves she will come back.' Is it not now he needs her the most? When I was at my lowest in life my true friend didn't run away from me. He even visited me more than I visited him. He wasn't ashamed to associate with me in public. He was just always there. He was even of a different tribe!(God rest his soul.) Op, your wife is not your friend! She should go if she wants to go and you'll be a fool to take her back. Tell her that like you mean it! And your problem is not as big as you think. It's money problem, thank God you don't have serious health problems. You think you have a problem? Go out and see people with serious problems. You better thank your God and go and look for a job to keep body and soul together for now until things change. And, I beg you- stop gambling!!! BTW, Are you sure the gambling is not what is driving your wife away? 2 Likes |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 1:33pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
APC2: Ssce sir 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Roozzaay(m): 1:35pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Gabby2022: Comrade, abeg I fit see the ones we fit give me like 150k today? � |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Uniquekriss(m): 1:35pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
My candid advice if you will adhere, relocate from where u are where your name has been messed up, go to a rural area that isn't your own, if you were paying house rent of 200k annually you'll now start paying less than 50k, they will even give u a fine apartment and beg u to take care of it, get a plot of land and start farming vigorously, within the village, get a bike for hire purchase, do small small okada job within the locality, start a church and familiarize with the members of the church and be active, possibly an Orthodox church(Anglican, baptist, Methodist, Catholic or any other one). When u do these, feeding won't be an issue, cost of living must have reduced drastically for you, within 1year you'd be able to bounce back, trust me, u can also apply to teach in these village private schools and reach an agreement with the management that you'll only come to school when it's your period to teach. Your wife should be the least of your problems now, I know it can be frustrating when she's the one fending for the family, just keep encouraging her cos it's not her responsibility to feed you, she only plays a supporting role. Talk to any of her close friend or family member and keep promising her that things would get better and always make her feel appreciated. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Searchingvictor: 1:38pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
APC2: I have degree Sir 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by FORWARDEVERLY: 1:38pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
A man in financial mess but your concern is your wife.. Agbaya.. pls Use sniper Abegg |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by fayomim: 1:39pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
abuwidad: Seriously |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 1:41pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
eminikansoso: OK sir |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Spiker777: 1:45pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
jeromestarks:Bitter truth but people never learn I’m a witness of what you just said now 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Revolva(m): 1:47pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Seee una wey never chop belleful de go carry woman put for house i no de sorry for guys like this 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Gabby2022: 1:49pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Roozzaay:Try money in minutes or umba it won't be 150k but it will be reasonable |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Abbymart777(m): 1:50pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Borrowing money to start a business you have not tested or experienced in is a serious mistake. There is over 90% chances that you will lose the money. Send a mail to me on abbymartins777@gmail.com let me guide you. Its well |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by samuelson06(m): 1:51pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
xandy84: Don't blame me pls. I just hate poverty. Let these guys sit, work before they start thinking about marriage. And in your case, you clearly said it was was mom and I know women can manage money better than men. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Roozzaay(m): 1:52pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Gabby2022:I don't know about money in minutes but Umba 90k dey my hand as I dey type like this |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by PastorFire: 1:56pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
samuelson06: Comprehension is a BIG challenge for you. |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by TheGift: 1:57pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Gabby2022: On a thread about debt threats and problems , you are still recommending loan apps for people to get into debt. Na wa! 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by stormborn28(m): 2:01pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
OkoYibo: That is one of the zoneB the economy is dealing with 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 2:03pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
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Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by emmabest2000(m): 2:05pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite: Small tin una go the shout thought of suicide upon and down Why can't you take that security job first Even though it's just 25k , you might meet a helper while doing the security job , Laziness is your main problem , Apart from loan app companies , If those your friends you borrowed money from find out that you're now doing security job they might forget about the money you borrowed from them and even your church members, if tomorrow they realize that you are working as a security guard somewhere, do you think that they will still see you as a fraudster , Anyway since you only need instant miracle to get over your predicament... Just kill yourself and let people be ..... BIKO No wonder your wife decided to take a walk Who want to associate with a danm lazy dude ... 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by TheGift: 2:09pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
obaaderemi: You are here condemning the Wife, without first addressing the fact that He is the one who put them in that situation. It's not Like He lost His job, or He fell sick and became unable to work. It was His unwise behavior and mismanagement of debt that got Him where He is today. Yet you are condemning the woman , Without empathizing with how she must be feeling for Her to say He should sort Himself. Have you ever been in a church where all the members who previously have you respect now know or think that your spouse is a chronic debtor and alleged scammer? Is it a bad thing for people to find space to sort themselves out , both the Man and the Woman? After all, He will be under less financial pressure. Do you think it is easy for Her to see Her husband in that state? Do you think it is easy for the Man to see the Woman seeing Him in that state? Are you sure she is not trying to help His/their mental state by giving Him space. Don't be too quick to judge. The Man will not solve the problem by blaming it judging His wife. If He really loves Her l, He must start by understanding Her, then taking responsibility for how he contributed to making Her feel that way and making a commitment to sort himself out, first for Himself, and Then for Her or for the next relationship. This is not time to be debating the level of His Wives loyalty. First remove the log in His eye. 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Antihypocrite: 2:09pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
uthlaw: Sir I would be grateful. I need to find out the current price. Please can you send me a pm. I have sent many pms today. Nairalannd is not allowing me to send more 2 Likes |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by zakkxx: 2:11pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
She is not divorcing you now! Get the security job oo! No shame ooo! God will send helpers your way but make sure you will live a righteous life, no smoking, no drinking alcohol, no side chick oo! What is the point of God blessing you if u will do all those things! Repent genuinely, pray every night 12 to 1 and start with the security job! God bless u!! 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Dominic247: 2:11pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
There is no problem without solution. All you have to do is sit down, reflect on how you got yourself in this situation then what is the way forward. I also think your wife made the best decision for both of you. The first solution to your problem is to stop gambling �� football is back stay away from gambling he who has ear let him hear 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Mandesz(m): 2:14pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Antihypocrite:[/color] Hello, I understand your frustrations. You owe 320k in loan. First, what has happened has happened and nothing can change it that's why I always let go to avoid high blood pressure. Whether your wife left or not or embarrassment from church members is not an escuse 4 suicide. If I tell u my predicaments you'll understand that you have alot of reasons to thank God. Yours is a very very little thing. Inspite of mine I still thank God because I see reasons to do so. My advice to u is that if your church members are not ready to listen to u; shun them and focus on how to start a new n good life without them. Take d security job if that is the only option available, manage your self and your family. Explain things to your wife and if she doesn't understand let her go; she will beg to come back when things are better. Equally if the bank loan coys are not helping leave them and focus on how to better your life first instead on paying up accumulated loan. There's is no need to blame yourself on past actions instead look for a way to actulise your ambitions. The worst that could happen to you is when you aren't doing any job and you roam idle the street daily, then your life is out of hands. Do security job if that's the the best option. I'm a university graduate, finish in 2012 with second class (upper division) but upto now I do menial jobs that u shouldn't see with a graduate but I thank God cos the money I make a day is better than to work as a private school teacher or sth similar. Colleagues, family, friends are complaining at first but I shun them. They came back later when they see I'm better-off. Don't look at what people are saying, don't ask for friends opinion,do things the way u know best, when u know better do better.[color=#990000] 1 Like |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by Omowise1: 2:14pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
We need to eradicate 2 things... 1. Business partner scamming because love thy neighbour as yourself 2. Borrow and not repay i.e. borrow money no be crime OP useless people everywhere in your write up. So for your mind now you were winning? You carry high interest loans (plural) to repay high interest loan no major source of income? OK.... , |
Re: How can I stop my wife from divorcing me? by KashCash: 2:14pm On Aug 08, 2022 |
Tosin9119: Ma can you help me with any little amount,it's really difficult for me here too as a student without any support,whatever u send would mean alot to me,God bless you |
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