ITbomb:
70 percent of government workers (civil servants) do not earn more than 100k, yet they have lovely families

It is not how much you earn, it's more of how discipline you are

The cost of living was prolly not this high when they got married. So they were already in it before the economy got so bad.

I'm talking about going into it the way things are with your two eyes open.

Blessedmercy8:
He's earning a 100k and wants to settle down. Can you as a lady earning a little above him agree to marry him?

Is it advisable to enter into marriage with such income considering the situation of the economy?

How much does your father and brothers earn?
Are they single?
Leave the rich man , he is not for you.

Jennyclay:
It's not advisable my dear! 100k is way too small. Haba!!

God forbid!! I reject it IJN!!

one reply, your father.

Not an insult.

Blessedmercy8:
He's earning a 100k and wants to settle down. Can you as a lady earning a little above him agree to marry him?

Is it advisable to enter into marriage with such income considering the situation of the economy?

Sweetie, he would not earn that forever, is he the lazy type? Do you see both of you building a future together?
Life is not a bed of roses, support your man in every area but if money is important, you could both set up a business to augment what's coming.
Life is a mistery

Rubyjade:
Sweetie, he would not earn that forever, is he the lazy type? Do you see both of you building a future together?
Life is not a bed of roses, support your man in every area but if money is important, you could both set up a business to augment what's coming.
Life is a mistery

Ok..
Thanks a lot.

Blessedmercy8:


Ok..
Thanks a lot.

In addition, There is no evidence that relationships in which the wife earns more than his husband are happier marriages

Grillbar:
Mercychen must you bring everything to this site. Can you not make one decision on your own without nairaland.

Baba, abeg allow her to feel fly. She seems to derive relevance in this graveyard that she can't get in the real world. Her stories change just as the way she changes monikers.

Jennyclay:
It's not advisable my dear! 100k is way too small. Haba!!

God forbid!! I reject it IJN!!

see crase... how much be your salary and your boys friends get work, broke hoe

Blessedmercy8:
He's earning a 100k and wants to settle down. Can you as a lady earning a little above him agree to marry him?

Is it advisable to enter into marriage with such income considering the situation of the economy?

And the 100K guy don already dey make wedding prep for e mind oh

While the more pragmatic female partner is weighing pros & cons.... trying to figure out the economic logistics involved in the venture of marriage...

Lol,
Dear, 100K per month for a guy is too small for a guy to talk about marriage in Nigeria of 2022 oh. Especially if that 100K is the ONLY source of income.

Forget the stories of others are doing it, if you enter there, you go'n see crazy

You can date while improving your finances. If Raba enter, you legalize your union. Except of course, due to age, you really wanna conceive...and that's a NO NO on 100K per month from the man, in Nigeria in 2022.

Jennyclay:
No, I can't marry someone who earns 100k per month. Why must you enter a marriage to suffer? Can 100k afford you a good house, buy your hair and makeups? Have you even thought of raising children who should be fed, clothed and sent to good schools? Can 100k work these things out? No!

Reject that poor man and his meagre 100k; a better man will locate you. All you have to do is believe and wait for the right man to come.

Women never give each other good advice. You think you made sense, but all I see here is emotion and no reasoning.

How many men actually earn 100k? Or is it not Nigeria again? How about other qualities that doesn't center's around money? How come money is just the only criteria a man should meet?

Will she not work? Why can't she take her income and add to the man's own, then grow from there? Because he earns 100k doesn't mean it will be permanent, And if he even earn one million naira monthly, things can go to worse also. Can you think in the longterm?

I keep saying it, a man can be a ritualist, selling human heads, but if he is wealthy, your average woman will pick him than a responsible uber driver. You can't see past your greed. Last last, women are the architect of their own suffering.

Abeg no marry am. Na person wey dey earn unstable minimum wage you go eventually marry

Millz404:


41 and still making choice based on 100k instead of you to roll your sleeves up and contribute your own quota to make things work. There is a reason why alimony will never work in Nigeria, because most of the women go into marriage wholly dependent on the man. I just watched an American show this afternoon and a couple were contemplating renting a house and there were busy dividing expenses, and that is how it is mostly there, that's why when there have problems it is very easy for the woman to kick the man out. They even pull up funds to buy homes together and have their names together on the deed. All these poverty plagued third world country women will instead want to add more poverty on the man.

Youre talking too much. Women are their own worse enemy. They give stupid advice, believe stupid things and never for once put themselves in the place of the man.

I can't imagine a woman that I want to marry to be assessing my salary. I'll feel like a wallet, financially objectified. So as sophisticated as I am, it's just my money you're interested in. How about earn more and support me? Is marriage not teamwork again?

No wonder old cultures choose suitors for their daughters. If not, this lady will cruise to seventy years old still waiting for the perfect rich man in this Buhari economy where the average Nigerian don't have 30k cash in the account.

Surprisingly, she never saw herself as a burden. A man that is productive and earning 100k monthly is not good enough, meanwhile you, the woman that earns nothing is the catch. Women sha.

Blessedmercy8:


Between 150 and 200.

So her problem is that she is earning more than the husband, not that the husband is earning 100k?

Kaycee54321:


And the 100K guy don already dey make wedding prep for e mind oh

While the more pragmatic female partner is weighing pros & cons.... trying to figure out the economic logistics involved in the venture of marriage...

Lol,
Dear, 100K per month for a guy is too small for a guy to talk about marriage in Nigeria of 2022 oh. Especially if that 100K is the ONLY source of income.

Forget the stories of others are doing it, if you enter there, you go'n see crazy

You can date while improving your finances. If Raba enter, you legalize your union. Except of course, due to age, you really wanna conceive...and that's a NO NO on 100K per month from the man, in Nigeria in 2022.

God bless you.
Only you saw it from my perspective!

I know what I'm saying because as a single, I know the expenses I incure not to talk of when the number increases. I'm not saying we are going to remain at a level but the naira no longer has value. Under 2 weeks 100k is gone except you want to be forgoing so many things that make life comfortable and who doesn't want comfort?

sultan003:


So her problem is that she is earning more than the husband, not that the husband is earning 100k?

Nope!

The problem is about the inflation in the economy.

How will they cope with raising children and leading a comfortable life with such income in this harsh economy?.

olasaad:


Well many people here on nairaland will tell you No but the truth is that so many couples are on that level and they are leaving fine. Just mind the way you procreate

You are not far from the truth. In fact, majority of couples are below this level but the social media space has not captured enough for you to know this.

Being a businessman of www.rajdhaniband.com in India and only a sole earner in the family I think this very low income per month. You can also leverage his earning by contributing your time with him creating a business. i think this would be a good idea.

rajdhaniband:
Being a businessman of www.rajdhaniband.com in India and only a sole earner in the family I think this very low income per month. You can also leverage his earning by contributing your time with him creating a business. i think this would be a good idea.

You think any man would want you to help him manage his money?

Ok. Thanks.

Jennyclay:
It's not advisable my dear! 100k is way too small. Haba!!

God forbid!! I reject it IJN!!

Must you comment? Stop deceiving someone out there

pansophist:
Youre talking too much. Women are their own worse enemy. They give stupid advice, believe stupid things and never for once put themselves in the place of the man.

I can't imagine a woman that I want to marry to be assessing my salary. I'll feel like a wallet, financially objectified. So as sophisticated as I am, it's just my money you're interested in. How about earn more and support me? Is marriage not teamwork again?

No wonder old cultures choose suitors for their daughters. If not, this lady will cruise to seventy years old still waiting for the perfect rich man in this Buhari economy where the average Nigerian don't have 30k cash in the account.

Surprisingly, she never saw herself as a burden. A man that is productive and earning 100k monthly is not good enough, meanwhile you, the woman that earns nothing is the catch. Women sha.

Bros na why you dey truthfully wicked laiki dis?

seguno2:


Bros na why you dey truthfully wicked laiki dis?

Wetin make I do na? I just tire for women reasoning really. A full grown up adult no go sabi think well.

Make me as I de so, agree to carry you enter my house, hustle 100k monthly with chance of increasing income, and somehow, one women wey no de earn anything see me as not good enough for her. Help me make it make sense abeg.

Your question seems static instead of relative. Salary can't be constant forever especially when the individual increases his skills or qualifications every now and then. People starts with 50k and grow from there. Some start with 500k and diminish with time. There is a level you get to when you understand certain things of life will never be constant. It either increases or reduces with time. Just work with what is reasonable with both of you.

Let's I forget, please it is insane and crazy for an individual who is jobless to ask if she can start a family with someone earning 100k.

Blessedmercy8:


Nope!

The problem is about the inflation in the economy.

How will they cope with raising children and leading a comfortable life with such income in this harsh economy?.

Inflation is just an excuse to cover the real issue, because 150 plus 100 is enough to cover anything if you cut your coat accordingly..

Besides it is not as if the 100k will remain 100k in 3years if the individual is going to be promoted..

So what is the real issue?

Blessedmercy8:


God bless you.
Only you saw it from my perspective!

I know what I'm saying because as a single, I know the expenses I incure not to talk of when the number increases. I'm not saying we are going to remain at a level but the naira no longer has value. Under 2 weeks 100k is gone except you want to be forgoing so many things that make life comfortable and who doesn't want comfort?

Even if you earn 200k, expenses will still finish it within 2wks...

So ?

Anyway if 100k is not okay then quit the relationship and go and look for someone earning 300k and above

Jennyclay:
It's not advisable my dear! 100k is way too small. Haba!!

God forbid!! I reject it IJN!!

Good! You are banned.

Your concerns are valid @OP but I would rather you focus on the possibility/potential for growth. Salaries will not remain constant forever, not even in the foreseeable future. That's why I think it's unreasonable to make lifetime decisions based on immediate gratification.

Change is the only constant thing. So you have to be able to focus your attention on other important things as much as you need clarification on financial matters. For example, you need to ask yourself whether you'll remain in that marriage if that 100k becomes 2k tomorrow. Salaries and earnings WILL certainly change but character, zeal, behaviour may not.


Be wise.

Blessedmercy8:
He's earning a 100k and wants to settle down. Can you as a lady earning a little above him agree to marry him?

Is it advisable to enter into marriage with such income considering the situation of the economy?

Yes, they can get married however, they should try to increase their economic capacity as a family. Two good heads are better than one.

GenderMix:
No doubt money is very key to sustaining a marriage. Infact it's one of the key ingredients that can help grease love. The lack of money can make love go sour...lol...

Having said that, marriage has an ultimate aim which is for companionship. As far as both of you have the drive to succeed and are not lazy and can cut you cloth according to your size then the amount may just be inconsequential.

If the man earns 100k, he has the qualities you like and is focused then you can start with that. Just ensure he has common sense and listens to advise. It doesn't matter if as a lady you earn higher than him. You guys should have plans and execute them together. Just encourage him by supporting him financially. Just assist him but let him be the one to take care of the major bills.

Plan around the money you earn. Don't live above your means. There are pragmatic means you can adopt to cut cost. Forget the pressure around, most of what you see are illusions. Just focus on your happiness.

I wish you best of luck.

Even when she earns higher than him?

Blessedmercy8:


Hmm.. he's 40 and I'm already 41.
When are we now going to start having children if we still delay?



Exactly my point.

Ok.

Mercychen, you mean you are 41 already?

Blessedmercy8:


Hmm... We are still getting to know each other though but he's seriously itching to settle down considering his age and he's not trying to give us time to know if we are what we really want in all ramifications.

Ok, thanks.

If at the age you guys are you need so much time to know if each other are what you really want then, there is fire in the mountain.

I am sure you were not pressured to say yes to dating him thus, you guys should be able to tabl the most important things you are looking for in a partner and size each other up to know if it is worth it.