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How much you earn most times will not determine what you save.


I started with 45k, but had 800 b4 from my internship.
Got married a year after with what my wife and i saved within 12months of our relationship.

Your monthly expenditure will determine if ur financially bouyent or not, not what you earn.

Ladies should also learn to complement their men. Marriage really benefits the ladies more than the men.

My opinion though

BRATISLAVA:
They steal money daily, so their salaries don't really matter.

you are assuming everyone there is in finance

tradepunter:
You just ended up saying nothing

Exactly what a daft unintelligent fellow will say...

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

The issue here is a matter of your 'mindset'.

When you asked ....'Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle?'. My response could have been.....Should a lady that doesn't have an earning think of going into marriage? Should a lady go into marriage only to be a 'parasite' to a man?

Now practically, your mindset would define what you view as the purpose of marriage.

Your lifestyle will define your economic rationality. Some people would make good and efficient result out of N100k while others would squander a N1m monthly salary with nothing to show for it.

Also, marriage is not a compulsion, if you feel you want to go by a certain financial standard you can remain single till you see a partner who has acquired the whole wealth you want before you get married.

However, let me tell you this.......the majority of the personel in the State Civil Service earn N100k and below as salaries. Do you now mean that men in this category should not go into marriage because they are not earning millions.

@Rozross, for clarity sake, I want to enlighten you further, but I would want you to give a brief about yourself.......Your education and employment status, your family background and economic status, your father's financial status, your mother's occupational/employment status and any other info that would help my analysis and create a good understanding in you.

Break weitin down , continue and be doing pass yourself

Rozross:
My mother never had to cope, be guided please.

Are you sure?

Prove it

Rozross:
We are on the same page, you are a Realist like me. I have been waiting for the Oliver Twist that’ll break it down for me on how to survive with 100k but still I have not seen, it’s been shalaye all the way.

Since no one here is as smart as you or supports your opinion.
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Can you now please explain to us all the minimum amount a man should be earning before starting a relationship or raise a family?

We are listening, enlighten us.

I want to say this with every sense of respect to men who earn 100k in today’s Naija not to even attempt to date, or marry a lady who isn’t earning at least close to same amount. It takes a lady who earns income to appreciate same energy in another person. I believe that the essence of relationship is partnership as both parties contribute their decent quarter to make their union beautiful

Olalan:
Internet and fake living, you need to ask yourself how many people are gainfully employed in Nigeria? Majority of working class people earn below 100k monthly and yet marriages are conducted weekly.

If you like be waiting for a above 100k earner before starting a relationship......your eye go soon clear

na Dem dey later sing 'carry me they go Jehovah carry me dey go'

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

If the girl is not liability then she should bring something to the table. So 100k is not everything on the family table. The minimum she must bring should be 50k otherwise na liability. Now we have at least 150k on the family table.

U will see a jobless and senseless girl looking for who to feed her and her generation dishing a man earning 100k monthly, quite funny

Me and my wife coped when we were both earning 25K per month, now I earn 5M + excluding bonuses.

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

Biko park well, ANY MAN THAT MARRIES ANY WOMAN WHO HAS NOTHING TO BRING TO THE TABLE UNDER BUHARI'S GOVERNMENT, JUST WANTS HIS DESTINY TO BE EATEN,. pure and simple

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

You are funny , go and get a job stop depending on a man

Ebubu9:
that means your mother is a lazy, useless, house wife who does not bring anything to the table?

That's what happened simple

Qatar2022:
You are funny , go and get a job stop depending on a man

Is this what you could come up with from the post?

Rozross:
Solely plan on the 100k first before thinking of what the other person brings to the table. Any man with such “bring to the table” mindset does not go far in life, let’s be realistic for once.

..
Clearly trained by a lazy housewife called his/her mum

Teymanhenry:
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Clearly trained by a lazy housewife called his/her mum

You are just a lowlife

UyaiIncomparabl:
Seven blessings to you.

Come to Switch Lounge at Lekki 1 on the 28th of this month, I want to spoil you specially for this sweet comment. You are premium and your words are golden. Devoid of libels and insults. People don't understand that there's something called "standards". They think everyone is on earth to pinch funds, not an excuse to waste funds too. But, then, there's a certain standard that some people can not go below, so no need for guilt-tripping. I don't blame them. The country has turned everyone into micro-managers.

Hope you get all your heart desires.

See this one,,u done get thread wey u go sleep on top,,, rubbish.

BeanmanX:
See this one,,u done get thread wey u go sleep on top,,, rubbish.

Don’t you know when to retreat? It’s too early to start unnecessary fights

Rozross:
Don’t you know when to retreat? It’s too early to start unnecessary fights

I love Early morning fight,,,leave me

BeanmanX:
I love Early morning fight,,,leave me

Enjoy �

UyaiIncomparabl:
In addendum, he should have instead told you not to marry an unsupportive woman. I have a friend (a guy) who presently earns about 300K and his wife earns about 200K but she doesn't contribute a dime to the household.

He silently complained about his wife not contributing, not to her hearing. Well, I told him that it's so because they didn't have the necessary talks before marriage to understand the place of provision and supportiveness in marriage.

For instance, she may be one of 'em women who holds the belief that men should be the total financial provider in marriage, while the man thinks that both couples should bring all cards to the table. That doesn't thwart her belief as non-existential nor his as well. I mean, many men out there are fine with being total financial providers in their homes regardless of their wives' earnings.

So, what I am saying is that I can earn the whole world and not be supportive at all. Doesn't also defeat the purpose of the advice you were given. No woman should go into marriage without having a steady source of income. Not just for her supportiveness to her husband, but her sanity and wellbeing.

Ok. I never knew such women, who earns and doesn't contribution exists. That means she married a good man. Some men no go send to renew the rent, dem go intentionally carry u to ajengule since u no wan contribute.
In Abuja and Lagos, most women contribute bcus they don't have a choice. How you start your relationship determines how it goes. They first thing I check is to check of my woman is stingy

Rozross:
A thread was created by blessedmercy asking if it would be wise to settle down with a man that earns 100k and all she got was insults and jabs from guys, like seriously?

Should a guy who earns 100k think of marriage or how to double his hustle ? Why are most guys unrealistic, can 100k fend and cater for yourself alone.

Please I’ll want those who think it’s ok to come break it down for us on how the 100k will be managed monthly, I maybe learning a whole lot from this. Thanks

What a nonsensical post by a lazy fellow!

MoneyMustBMade:
U re a man's prayer point
A woman that can manage a home
As a man if u have this type as wife u will go far in life coz u re sure even u keep ur money in her hand to save for u, she will manage it well. With this one will be rich in due time

Awwn awwn awwnn
Thank you

sparko1:
In my opinion, the cumulative monthly earnings of a man shouldn't be less than 200k, salary and all, 100k in the village is not bad but in Lagos, even a single guy won't survive.

A man has a lot of responsibility, and marriages doesn't reduce it like many will have you believe, as a matter of facts it will increase it, a single guy that can't send his Mom 20k monthly, when is he going to start, after marriage, sometimes marriage brings new opportunities but not always, a man hoping marriage will change his finances is doomed to fail.

Well my Dear
There are people earning that and below and still surviving in the same Lagos.
Concerning the Mummy?
Let her Husband, his Father take care of her ehn till he can afford to send,also she should take care of herself.
Be realistic please.

ChybuzzDD:
What a nonsensical post by a lazy fellow!

Yeye

Most of these toxic men here are in their 20’s , it’s never a good thing to date a Nigerian man in his 20’s , they’ll choke and suffocate you. So much immaturity reeks all over them.

BeanmanX:
I love Early morning fight,,,leave me

Come back and read this post when you are in your 30’s and see how childish you sound

Ebubu9:
how much do you bring to the table? He brings 100k

I wish I have more than one like to give you

Blanks1:
I want to say this with every sense of respect to men who earn 100k in today’s Naija not to even attempt to date, or marry a lady who isn’t earning at least close to same amount. It takes a lady who earns income to appreciate same energy in another person. I believe that the essence of relationship is partnership as both parties contribute their decent quarter to make their union beautiful

. A lady that earns 500k might still not support you. The important thing is looking for a supportive partner not termites

Rozross:
Come back and read this post when you are in your 30’s and see how childish you sound

Who said that I am not in my 30's already?,,,,I told u to leave me right? behave yourself.

Relationship/marriage is slave camp for the man?