I graduated 3years ago, all my years in school I think it's a waste. what's the use when I can't express myself vocally with simple and correct english in public place without making several grammatical blunders which I know of and it gets me sad most of the times. but when it comes to writing, I think I try small in that aspect. securing a job haven't been easy for me..I attended some interview in the past with my CV after the written part..when it comes to oral aspect when asked questions.. some of the interviewers get shocked with the way I respond with several grammatical blunders..(some smile most time, while some just keep quiet and let me keep going on).. I know my oral English is very bad and I can't maintain a simple conversation for a period of time..due to the fact that I attended public schools during my primary and secondary school days with missed classes and not very good grades.
I seriously need Help, this has got me fustrated because I know alot of opportunities that has passed me by because of this.
some people don't even believe I'm a graduate because of this error in my life.
Seun
lalasticlala

You write better than most of the nairalanders here Brother.

Here's what you can do...try reading aloud while you write.....read stuff aloud and soon you'll be more conscious of tenses and structure of your spoken statements.

Start with learning to express simple terms in the simplest of ways....forget about big big grammar which can easily mess up your contextual use of the words.

Oratory is a skill that CAN BE LEARNT......attending a public school gives you a little disadvantage, but your adult life in the university would have given you a chance to communicate.....read books on public speaking, it may be able to help you pace your speaking to get control over it.

ABOVE ALL..."Don't speak to impress, speak to express." - says Me!

Stephen0mozzy:
You write better than most of the nairalanders here Brother.

Here's what you can do...try reading aloud while you write.....read stuff aloud and soon you'll be more conscious of tenses and structure of your spoken statements.

Start with learning to express simple terms in the simplest of ways....forget about big big grammar which can easily mess up your contextual use of the words

Thanks very much.
writing is very easy for me, even though I still make mistake.
but to speak out loud or converse with english is my greatest problem.
because of this I always get axious when I want to respond in english.
making me misuse some minor words

No one can do the work for you.

Rather than sit around and bemoan your situation, go online, find resources, books, videos anything. If the problem is truly affecting you then you yourself need to take action.

If u can write this good then u should be able to at least have simple conversations in English. It’s her pressure and nothing else

People dey Sabi create unessesary topics I beg....

You no sabi speak good English, how that one take concern person?...

Op, You'll get better pretty quickly if your reading/written/listening are good like what you wrote above.


Learn to speak good spoken Grammy(grammar)

I think u get tensed when you speak cos u write good so the problem is not that u cant speak english, u just cant express urself in English, calm down and let it flow. Nobody sabi english pass, we all deh learn.

Moreover there is no part of ur certificate that says decency in english language

People underrate the importance of a good primary school for their kids. If you miss it, you can never get it back.

VeryWickedMan:
People underrate the importance of a good primary school for their kids. If you miss it, you can never get it back.

Where’s your oraimo chord and 2by4 that you wanted to use on me?

Lol.... Chai, you'll never see a Zulu or Venda people doing this, like I can't speak good English. Is it your mother tongue? Alaye go to ile kewu. Dem go teach u there.... Iranu

This one that calls himself a barrister can't speak good English. Bros, you better tell your clients to just walk themselves to prison or japa from court trial.

Barrister026:
I graduated 3years ago, all my years in school I think it's a waste. what's the use when I can't express myself vocally with simple and correct english in public place without making several grammatical blunders which I know of and it gets me sad most of the times. but when it comes to writing, I think I try small in that aspect. securing a job haven't been easy for me..I attended some interview in the past with my CV after the written part..when it comes to oral aspect when asked questions.. some of the interviewers get shocked with the way I respond with several grammatical blunders..(some smile most time, while some just keep quiet and let me keep going on).. I know my oral English is very bad and I can't maintain a simple conversation for a period of time..due to the fact that I attended public schools during my primary and secondary school days.
I seriously need Help, this has got me fustrated because I know alot of opportunities that has passed me by because of this.
some people don't even believe I'm a graduate because of this error in my life.
Seun
lalasticlala

SUCH IS LIFE!!!

I didn't go to university after my secondary sch, I can't speak or construct a simple English then, but guess what. I developed myself by watching foreign movies, reading and also listen to good music lyrically.

But today what amazed me is the fact that ppl always asked of where do I school.

You are very ambitious to speak good English and would really want to appreciate some ... Well the good news is that your grammar writing is good!

Also Try to Reading Novel, In this way you will learn real spoken English.. Youtube
might be a good place to see
how people actually speak good English

Read novels una no go gree

How would your grammar now improve?

Op you can do it.
It's good you recognize this, which mean it's easy to get through it. I experienced this in the past but I got over it. I attended public school too.
Solution:
1. Try as much you can to socialize with people in English. Avoid staying in door all the time. I know why I am saying this. You can asked me why.

2. Change your ENVIRONMENT if you can. Our environment plays a major part in the way we speak or ability to communicate very well.
Change your locality or travel to other state.

3. You can engage yourself in teaching in primary or secondary school or organize a free teaching class for younger ones with that you can see how fast you will improve.
The reason in your poor speaking is freight when you thought the people you are meeting are above you in speaking good English.

Your brain and speaking stabilized when you start engaging in discussion and teaching to people with that your brain will be rewired on speaking good English without fear.

4. Always pray to God with good in English who is the author of languages. You will experience miracles.

I can teach u.08136060682

From the look of things, I think you get tensed when you're about to express yourself.

Here's what I do to enhance the way I Express myself orally. Perhaps, it could be of help. You can try a different approach though:

1. Study: I study at least one word in the dictionary daily.

2. I listen to radio OAPs. I pay attention to their diction and the way they stress words.

3. This is very underrated. Many people watch movies for the fun of it. But, I watch movies (majorly American) to listen to the way they use their accent and play with words. And lastly

4. Record your voice and listen


Note: As far as you keep it simple, basic and accurate, you're communicating effectively. And, pay attention to the way you stress words...

In summary:
Imitate,
Read,
Reflect,
Prepare,
Speak, and
Practise.

Try some free courses on coursera.com
However, your tenses ain't bad. Just some little brush ups.
For identifying this gap, trust me, you'll learn very fast.

Barrister026:
I...

Once upon a time, I was in close contact with a friend who was struck with this dilemma.
You are entangled in a simple loop:

You can't dazzle orally because you are not sleek with your grammar. Conversely, the reason you aren't good with spoken English is because you don't speak it.

We knew this then. Yoruba was our default lingo, but because of that friend, we all started conversing in English. Also, we made it a thing to make fun of each other when we make blunders.

Some of his common blunders
(He wanted to say "compliment sir" to someone on New Year day)

My friend : Cemetary sir. Cemetary of the season.

(We were reading for an exam)

My friend: Let me sleep small, so my head can saturate.

Find friends you will dialogue with in English, laugh hard at your own blunders, your problem will vanish in no time like WhatsApp status.

Barrister026:
I graduated 3years ago, all my years in school I think it's a waste. what's the use when I can't express myself vocally with simple and correct english in public place without making several grammatical blunders which I know of and it gets me sad most of the times. but when it comes to writing, I think I try small in that aspect. securing a job haven't been easy for me..I attended some interview in the past with my CV after the written part..when it comes to oral aspect when asked questions.. some of the interviewers get shocked with the way I respond with several grammatical blunders..(some smile most time, while some just keep quiet and let me keep going on).. I know my oral English is very bad and I can't maintain a simple conversation for a period of time..due to the fact that I attended public schools during my primary and secondary school days with missed classes and not very good grades.
I seriously need Help, this has got me fustrated because I know alot of opportunities that has passed me by because of this.
some people don't even believe I'm a graduate because of this error in my life.
Seun
lalasticlala

Did you pass through school or school passed through you?

Your only mistake was not speaking English while in the university.

I know a lot of guys like you, they'd rather mingle with Yoruba speaking people than try to at least communicate in English.

You need to start speaking English consciously. It's not too late.

Why are you worked up because of this petty issue? Realistically, billions of people on this sinful Earth don't know a shit in English. Don't be so hard on yourself. Improve by simply conversing

Haylel:

Once upon a time, I was in close contact with a friend who was struck with this dilemma.
You are entangled in a simple loop:

You can't dazzle orally because you are not sleek with your grammar. Conversely, the reason you aren't good with spoken English is because you don't speak it.

We knew this then. Yoruba was our default lingo, but because of that friend, we all started conversing in English. Also, we made it a thing to make fun of each other when we make blunders.

Some of his common blunders
(He wanted to say "compliment sir" to someone on New Year day)

My friend : Cementary sir. Cementary of the season.

(We were reading for an exam)

My friend: Let me sleep small, so my head can saturate.

Find friends you will dialogue with in English, laugh hard at your own blunders, your problem will vanish in no time like WhatsApp status.

Seriously, this is the solution.

Make friends with people not from your tribe.


Abeg, make my head saturate small too.

You need to watch plenty American films and watch international news too

Some can speak but cant write , some can write but can not speak. We sabi speak and we sabi write . To God be the Glory .

Generalwoodz:
Why are you worked up because of this petty issue? Realistically, billions of people on this sinful Earth don't know a shit in English. Don't be so hard on yourself. Improve by simply conversing

. It is not for a grown person not to be able to express himself when the need arises. Na inferioty complex or he never tried speaking English in school .

Smoke igbo and u will start speaking in tongues

Barrister026:
I graduated 3years ago, all my years in school I think it's a waste. what's the use when I can't express myself vocally with simple and correct english in public place without making several grammatical blunders which I know of and it gets me sad most of the times. but when it comes to writing, I think I try small in that aspect. securing a job haven't been easy for me..I attended some interview in the past with my CV after the written part..when it comes to oral aspect when asked questions.. some of the interviewers get shocked with the way I respond with several grammatical blunders..(some smile most time, while some just keep quiet and let me keep going on).. I know my oral English is very bad and I can't maintain a simple conversation for a period of time..due to the fact that I attended public schools during my primary and secondary school days with missed classes and not very good grades.
I seriously need Help, this has got me fustrated because I know alot of opportunities that has passed me by because of this.
some people don't even believe I'm a graduate because of this error in my life.
Seun
lalasticlala

Before you speak out or answer a question say what you want to say to yourself as in self talk 3 times before you say it out.

When you spent the major part of your like speaking Yoruba, and castigating those who spoke English as "ajebutter", what did you expect?

Karleb:
Your only mistake was not speaking English while in the university.

I know a lot of guys like you, they'd rather mingle with Yoruba speaking people than try to at least communicate in English.

You need to start speaking English consciously. It's not too late.

That is very correct, when you don't mix up with
people of different tribes in your university days you limit your chance of learning and speaking good English language.

OP if you are Christian you can join the interpreters group and from there start building your confidence in speaking English language.

You can go and tenses, singular/plural noun and verb, simple present tense, past tense, past perfect tense, simple continuous tense etc.

Try to encourage yourself and you will begin to see improvements.

Read books especially literature you'll be fine