Obidiently Atikulated points.

When you say " my dear" and she ask " who is your dear". you are dating yourself

MrPower:
When you hear people use the word "you are dating yourself" its simply means that your partner in off your hook and you are dating yourself. That is to say your breakfast is almost ready, asin na small time remain before them serve you. So how do you know your breakfast is around the corner. Your partner will always do the following

1) always too busy that he or she doesn't have your time. Paraventure they finally call, the conversation will be so dry, straight to the point, etc .... .

2). Break in communication: if the person claims to be your joy giver can go a day or two without bordering to hear from you, my dear you are dating yourself.

3) if they are always online late night without chatting you up. Some time you tried to call on WhatsApp and you see "on another call"

4). When they start doing my bestee my bestee while you are just there. My dear be vigilant oh make bestee no do you small thing o.

Make i stop here. I know say some people get other opinion or counter opinion.

I don experience all this..

Abeg when be champions league draw

I wonder at the people that go about engaging someone in a relationship when they know theyre not interested in that person. Isn't that madness?

I never see that person that will try it with me.

If I'm courting you and you blank me more than three hours a day, even if it's for genuine reason, I'll send you a painful and unbelievable text and end it. No time to waste.

2). Break in communication: if the person claims to be your joy giver can go a day or two without bordering to hear from you, my dear you are dating yourself.

Being in relationship must be some full time job. Had no clue. Smh

When she asked u for recharge card and after sending it, she can't use the recharge card to flash you not to talk of calling you, but quickly flash you when she needs card again.

H0didon:
Seems you don't even know women . They can hide, pretend do anything as long as it makes them do what they wanna do without notice.
Once you find a Nigerian woman that is transparent, gives you peace of mind, respect and gives you her time, she supports and make you her priority and she come get fear of God. Nobody needs to tell you to keep her.

Sex, Cooking skills and other minor things can be easily learnt but you see those virtues i mentioned up, that's the key gee.


As our Ancestors would say "A virtues woman is transparent in nature".

Brotherly those virtues you called now omo does not exist in 95% of Nigerian women of nowadays.. Go and Verify

H0didon:
Seems you don't even know women . They can hide, pretend do anything as long as it makes them do what they wanna do without notice.
Once you find a Nigerian woman that is transparent, gives you peace of mind, respect and gives you her time, she supports and make you her priority and she come get fear of God. Nobody needs to tell you to keep her.

Sex, Cooking skills and other minor things can be easily learnt but you see those virtues i mentioned up, that's the key gee.


As our Ancestors would say "A virtues woman is transparent in nature".

Those things you mentioned only come to them when they're very old and when they're done wh0ring.

Find a young virgin woman who is ready to learn and teach her. Most times, virgins response to how you treat them. Hold her and never let her go.
If a wh0ring girl wants to go, don't stop her. But if a virgin woman wants to go , don't let her go.

Rozross:
Is cooking not part of what makes a woman virtuous?

if you love her u will teach her to cook I don't see anything wrong with that

jeromestarks:
Once she's not a virgin, then her heart will always be with the man who disvirgined her.
If you marry a who who has been fvcked by another man, you married yourself because the moment her ex shows up, she will fvck him again and one of your children may not be yours.

If you're dating a girl you didn't disvirgin, you're dating yourself because her heart is still with the man who disvirgined her even if she lied about it. Some girls still keep contact with the man who disvirgined them, others stalk their main ex on social media waiting for when he will hit a major fit to chat him up.

If a girl did not give you her best days (when she's a virgin), you shouldn't pay to keep her worst (when she has lost her virginity - glory to another man).
How will you pay huge money, do wedding celebration, take care of her siblings and relatives just to have what another man fvcked wit just eggs and indomie?
No be foolishness be that?

Finally, fvck any girl you want but for the peace of your home and the betterment of your children, Marry a virgin.

was your mother a virgin before getting married to your pap?

Why will stick aroun to experience such nonsense. These ppl are everywhere wher they're the easiest to corner anytime anywhere

Lagosanambra:
Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?


See the thread I created.

https://www.nairaland.com/7297185/how-engage-these-girls-beyond

Find a virgin and walk through fire for her. Tear down any wall between you two and marry her.
No woman worth this effort except a virgin.

H0didon:
Seems you don't even know women . They can hide, pretend do anything as long as it makes them do what they wanna do without notice.
Once you find a Nigerian woman that is transparent, gives you peace of mind, respect and gives you her time, she supports and make you her priority and she come get fear of God. Nobody needs to tell you to keep her.

Sex, Cooking skills and other minor things can be easily learnt but you see those virtues i mentioned up, that's the key gee.


As our Ancestors would say "A virtues woman is transparent in nature".

Well Said, and deeply true

youngstrow:

was your mother a virgin before getting married to your pap?

Yes and so were my sister before the all got married.
Their husbands still brag about it till date.

All I know is that, it is only God that can direct a man to locate a good woman.

Rozross:
Is cooking not part of what makes a woman virtuous?

No it is not

Blessedmercy8:
I wonder at the people that go about engaging someone in a relationship when they know theyre not interested in that person. Isn't that madness?

I never see that person that will try it with me.

If I'm courting you and you blank me more than three hours a day, even if it's for genuine reason, I'll send you a painful and unbelievable text and end it. No time to waste.

If you're a virgin ( if you're intact) then you deserve this kinda attention. But if you have been used (damaged and contaminated with another man's sperm) , then you should be happy a man even collected your number and called once in a month.

pansophist:
You carry the burden of everything alone. So it is only you that call, ask when next can you meet, spend, and if you don't perform, things would just remain stagnant. No effort whatsoever coming from the other side. Or they only act when they need something. Then you should know you are in a relationship with yourself.

But if they give you sex then they are on the loosing side

Rozross:
Is cooking not part of what makes a woman virtuous?

Nope. All women cook,both virtuous and oloshos all cook. So cooking doesn't count.

bigpicture001:


No it is not

Give me the definition of a virtuous woman then? What does it imply to be be called a virtuous woman?

I guess the op is speaking from experience. May God help to mend your butchered heart,amen

akeeng:
2). Break in communication: if the person claims to be your joy giver can go a day or two without bordering to hear from you, my dear you are dating yourself.

Being in relationship must be some full time job. Had no clue. Smh

Me self I tire oh... Sometimes you two may need some space and time off if not ur relationship will be too boring.

Kajaard:


Nope. All women cook,both virtuous and oloshos all cook. So cooking doesn't count.

An olosho can be a virtuous woman � it depends on the meaning you ascribe to a virtuous woman

jeromestarks:
Yes and so were my sister before the all got married. Their husbands still brag about it till date.

really! well if that happens to be 2ru it's means they all try.

I can't have LOVE for these HOES who crabbin'

noble71:

Once your partner start giving too many excuses you are dating yourself.




Vote Peter Obi for President.


Meanwhile at a good rate sell your Pi π to us.

how much is ur rate

KingOfTheDamned:
When you have time to create threads like this you ar definitely dating yourself and have no job

Lol.