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Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by NA1RALANDER(f): 1:16am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta:A pathetic situation .. All the same, try and get your daughter out if your sister's custody... Be good . |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Ofadaman(m): 2:32am On Aug 29, 2022 |
It's likely your Daughter isn't being taken care of, you must verify, I'm also weary about taking a female child to stay with non family , unless you trust them. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by princewarri1985: 2:40am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Giving your friend your daughter to help you raise, is like giving a cat a fish to hold, one day he must eat the fish, anytime she ask you for money after sending her money for school fees and food stuffs tell her you dont have money and always be firm about it, that way she will adjust trust me, just be firm and that will make the difference. Bottom line, leave your daughter with your sister |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by JoeuwakAsi2(m): 2:42am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Please kindly make an arrangement asap for your daughter to leave your sister's house. Coz something is fishy somewhere. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by alphaNomega: 3:04am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta:Your sister is not draining you financially. THINGS ARE HARD IN NIGERIA, worse than Germany. You should be thankful she is willing to care for your kids and you have the capacity to send some money. What happened to your husband? (or your children's father?... you no sound like who dey marriage) |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by alphaNomega: 3:18am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta:So let me understand the kind of person you are. 1. You fuçked 2 different men and have 2 children, RIGHT? 2. You cannot even appreciate the fact your elder sister agreed to take care of one of your bastards under the harsh economy of Nigeria 3. You come to nairaland to paint elder sister evil. 4. You thought there will be no consequences for your actions, right? 5. People like you only learn the hard way. 6. No wonder the men left you because they could not believe they ever copulated with you. Maybe you got them drunk and raped them. Maybe you are trying to pin another man's pregnancy on an innocent man who was wise enough to see through your tricks. Maybe you don't even know who the fuckìng father is. 7. You are a very ungrateful fellow and I can only wish you learn to appreciate help when it comes your way. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Foodqueen(f): 4:00am On Aug 29, 2022 |
What's your sister's location... If I can help u go and check on your daughter as a security personnel |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by eyinjuege: 5:35am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: As sugg3sted by others earlier, let your friend find a good boarding house for your child in same town, speak with one of the staff of the school too. Put your daughter there and let your friend be the guardian. She will check on her during visiting days, pick her up during the holidays and take her back at resumption. See finish will not enter the relationship with your daughter, as she will be in school most of the time except for holidays and half term. You will also have access to someone from the school, can pay into school account directly. Of course you will be sending some money to your friend for buying provisions, and also feeding for your daughter. Of course, still speak with your sister regularly even when your daughter is not with her, as she will still be useful someday especially if your friend is unable to live up to expectations for one reason or the other 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Sundaycomputer: 5:47am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta:ur friend his the best person to do so, , what is daughter age, location , if you don't mind call me to pay a visit to ur sister , am in Lagos State computer village ikeja, 08one 39. 34. 71 79 , from time to time I can visit her school and update you , am okonkwo Sunday , from delta state ibusa, I basically in Lagos State, I have my own family at mowe, ogun state , u are not the first person am doing it for, I have one waman in uk , Manchester that have helped , I can give you her number to confirm , |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by 4ckyou: 7:53am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: you don't need to, do what theis person said. You have so send some one she knows to her house and when the person gets there, speak with your sister that you have found a boarding school where she will attend and live in the dormitory till she is on holidays In your sister mind, she is coming back during holidays but in your own mind, you are done with her Whatever questions she wants to ask you, be polite and intelligent with your response follow this step, |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by 4ckyou: 7:56am On Aug 29, 2022 |
jesmond3945: sometimes friends are better than family, there's nothing good about their relationship, so I see no reason why her daughter will remain there, if she can milk her dry like this she doesn't mind using her daughter as a maid. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by 4ckyou: 8:01am On Aug 29, 2022 |
mariahAngel: including the one year old daughter too? |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by achimendy(m): 8:05am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Ok then. One more thing, since you're far away make sure that whenever you call they must give your daughter phone so you can speak to her personally to know if everything is going well with her. My opinion though. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by 4ckyou: 8:19am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: you don't have a choice for now, if you take the eight year old you will still be sending her money for the 1 year old meaning she will still be milking you dry, so the best option for you is to get your papers and take your kids to stay with you, for now there's not other choice |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Sweetvie: 8:38am On Aug 29, 2022 |
ikdaddy01:That was then when sisters still have each other back not now. Which silly bond,so are you trying to say she should leave her daughter there even if the sister continue sucking her or maltreating her daughter becoz sister is sister and so that the daughter can build bond with cousins? After all the sucking and sucking maybe she came back to Nigeria with nothing they will be the one to laugh... Op said she explained her financial situation to her sister someone that can't even consider her own sister situation is not worth calling a sister. Maybe you never live in someone else house b4 even if you guys are related u will understand 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by neoG(f): 8:43am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Exactly. Nothing more nothing less. A blood relative is doing this then what we will do to non blood relative doing these things nowadays. Na to congratulate those ones. moiaimi: 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 8:57am On Aug 29, 2022 |
4ckyou: My 1 years old is with me she was born here in Germany. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by neoG(f): 8:57am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Her sister is not draining her financially really? Did you read this story well? So what makes it right for her to pay her first 2 children school fees first with the money that was sent to her. Haba. You are the type that will do same. Where is our concience in this country please? There is nothing wrong in the OP giving her Sis money to support the family after all her daughter is under her care but what I find wrong is the Sister rubbing to her face that the OP's daughter is of no value to her the caretaker. alphaNomega: 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 8:58am On Aug 29, 2022 |
achimendy: Yes I will be calling daily 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 9:06am On Aug 29, 2022 |
AyoEniafe: Thanks for the advice , she is a childhood friend of mine so I trust and I strongly believe she will take care of my daughter better than my own sister. Boarding school is a big no for me I have watched a lot of cases where teenagers were being bullied ,sexyally abused and murdered in boarding school and I will never send her there. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by NoToPile: 9:14am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Sounds like a good plan. At least to save your friends head, now that she feels money is out of the equation she would release her. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by 4ckyou: 9:18am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: oh okay, that's good, then take your 8 year old away from her as soon as possible, register her now in another' school as school is resuming on the 6th of September |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by ikdaddy01(m): 10:10am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Sweetvie:In all family is still family. Blood they say is ticker than water. The sister might be milking her quite alright but most Nigerian home have suck mentality entitlements no mater who is involved. That they don't have today doesn't mean things will not get better tomorow. Taking away the child to a friend will create more division than empathy. Anyway, I had an aunty in US. Story had it she did the same thing. Sent her daughter to a friend. Unfortunately that one turned against her. The daughter denied her as mother when she grew. She eventually repatriated her back to 9ja. Am just saying, if it about money spend it. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Nobody: 10:30am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Guy, put her into a boarding school for now if you can afford it. Get her a phone that you can be in regular communication with her and always let her know that you love her. Explain why you can't be in the country at the moment. Make sure say she knows everything about you, so no baggar can come adulterate the fatherly love she will go looking for when she reaches that age. No carry your daughter go meet any friend o. If nah woman, most likely you daughter will be maltreated. If nah man, on top maltreatment, sexual abuse will enter the chat. Seen and heard so many instances for this to even be an option. Uncle sef the abuse niece of blood brother. Unless your mother is no more, keep her where she is for now and quadruple your hustle to ensure she comes to join you in the next 2yrs. Meanwhile, regularly contact your daughter, let her know that you love her and this pain she is going through is for a short while and you're doing all you can to ensure that she comes to join you, but for her not to mention it to anyone. Trust me, it will go a long way towards helping her ride out the misery you suspect she is going through, because at the back of her mind, she knows that daddy is riding to the rescue and all will be well soon. Even wife wey person trust, once another child from another woman enters the matter, you MAY see another side of them that even they were not aware was hidden in them. They see it as a threat to their own children and a constant reminder that you're capable of having another child outside. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by snoopz: 10:53am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: Not allowing video call? Na red flag be that o But at the same time, the devil you know is better than the angel you just met, you don't know what that your childhood friend dey plan for you u till it has dawned on you. Either you explain your condition to your sister so that she can stop bleeding you or find another family member... That friend should be your last resort |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by peacefulhome(f): 10:58am On Aug 29, 2022 |
[quote author=Chidiesta post=116136684] Me too I have a feeling she is not taking good care of her because most of the time she doesn't want me to speak with her on video call[/quote] Ha!! And you have been sending money to her? The moment my blood stopped allowing me to see my children through video call, no one needs to tell me something is wrong. I have once lived with a relative and I know what my eyes saw while living with them . Take your daughter out of that place something is not right. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Zakiushenry: 11:00am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Deeper life boarding will be okay. Trust me I have female adult boerboel and a 6month male lasa apso on sales |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 11:07am On Aug 29, 2022 |
kress2m1: I am a woman |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 11:10am On Aug 29, 2022 |
snoopz: She is aware of my condition but she doesn't care about me all she care about is the money . I don't have any other family members who I can trust with my daughter my friend is the only one I trust and I strongly believe she will take care of my daughter better than my sister 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Trendylove(f): 11:35am On Aug 29, 2022 |
Imagine I don't understand how some family members enjoy draining their blood financially if you want she can come and live with me together she will be coming to school with my kid sister together in the same school. And the school fees is affordable and the teach very well. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by Chidiesta(f): 12:22pm On Aug 29, 2022 |
Trendylove: Thank you so much for wanting to help me but I have my friend who is going to look after her. Thanks again for your help. |
Re: My Sister Is Draining Me Financially by CaptainGo: 12:31pm On Aug 29, 2022 |
Chidiesta: This is what I suggest- 1. Let your daughter go for holidays at your friend's place. 2. While she is there, ask her where she prefers- your sister's or your friend's place 3. Stylishly ask about her experience at school and home(your sister's place) 4. Make an informed decision from what she tells you. In all honesty, what your sister is doing is very wrong. She's trying to milk you. Another thing, please DO NOT send your kid to a boarding school except she returns for holidays to guardians who are kind and morally upright. Let her be where you can constantly reach her so she does not feel alone or neglected. That can ruin her psychologically. A good friend is 100% better than an entitled, inconsiderate relative. May God guide you to make the best decision. |
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