Why should d godmother come to take care of her,in the first place,when the mother inlaw is nearby?

goodamerican:
It would be unkind and ungrateful of y'all to ask the godmother who came from another state, to leave. Her mom who just came (knowing fully well that the godmother is there) and who lives down the street from you should wait until the godmother leaves on Wednesday. Her mom will have all the time in the world to spend with y'all thereafter.

Acidosis:


I'm not undermining her efforts. However, I won't join you to blame the mother in law. The op and whoever brought up the godmother idea are fully to blame. The op should sleep outside (e.g., hotel) pending the time the godmother would return to her state. There are certain decisions you don't make when you know your situation and condition.

you all can not see that the op is selfish on his side,why won't he manage for the time being?...
I guess that's why his wife is not on his side for now....

Promosaver:
Vawulence is about to rain in that family
Brother na you mother-in-law suppose run ur wife pikin matter,which one con be god mother
This ur god mother stuff no valid brother

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What if the mother-in-law initially didnt willing want to do that?

I can't think to start bearing kids in a one bedroom apartment

So help me God to have a bigger apartment

Me I am living in a one bedroom apartment and wedding plans are around the corner but thank God me and bae planned a no pregnancy for a year in other for us to arrange ourselves

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

your wife is just being unnecessarily difficult, na women their normal craze pattern. If you have cash to spare, I'll suggest you go pay those 5k hotels with AC for two or three days and if madam asks you why, tell her to stop asking nonsense questions (with loving choose l voice o) since she didn't even bother about your own comfort in that tiny house. Tomorrow she's bound to think things through before taking decisions

Rozross:
Some people are not just reasonable, were you supposed to tell your mother-in-law on what to do in this type of situation? Let her leave till your wife’s godmother is gone since she’s just staying for few days. Dem no even pity you sef

@bold:

That's the crux of the matter.

LadyRosa:


He will be foo.lish to do that because of three unreasonable woman.Especially when one lives across the street.What he opined us the best option, the MIL must be able to leave till Wednesday as promised by the op.

The wife is a very nasty woman indeed!
If the godmother was with her while she is bedridden,what stops her from asking her mother to exercise a little patience as her husband demanded?

He shouldn't sleep well in a house where he pays the rent?For what?!

Nonsense!

in many countries around the globe,you'll have to pay heavily for such assistance. you're saying this because here in naija,people assume it to be the duty of the mother in-law and other female relatives. had it been they were in in situation where where there is no one to help out,and the op waking up early in the morning fetching water,carrying the baby and running other errands which will almost deprive him of the strength and time to provide for his family...he won't be complaint of where to sleep where he can comfortably maneuvering a place to in a two rooms apartment....
He's a selfish person. why can't he sleeps with his wife in the room with the baby while the other two women sleeps in the parlour,and their assistance called upon when needed?

Baronthecelebri:
If I was you,I'll ask my mother inlaw to leave and wait till Wednesday,by then I'll be talking with the my god-mother to prepare her self to leave

how many times will they tell you people that you just can't ask someone to leave your house?... a helping one at that....

richie240:

Na wah o, even d wonz dt can't manage husband's #100k/month salary sef dey gather muzzle call others 'unreasonable'.
Itiz well!

You’ll always have problems with all my posts, good or bad. It is well

Pack your bags and go your parent's house, let the women sort out their selves.Life is too short and please next time, don't invite godmother in issues like this, involve your mom and wife's mom.

godfrey02:



Nothing here bro... Let the one who is near by go home and sleep at her street. That's the one whose street is not far away..

the op should be the one to leave in this occasion or maneuver till things fall in place no issue Here and he's just making a mountain of this little situation. he's an ingrate

Common sense is for the mother who lives a street or so away to return back to where she came from, for the god mother who is from another state entirely to move on Wednesday.

You guys are not treating that God mother right.

It is situations like this that makes people not to be bothered about caring for others because of insensitivity in not appreciating their efforts.

You go and tell your mother inlaw yourself, man of the house.
And let your wife's blah blah land in the bin.

You are the one to set the house in order.

You are the leader.

In this case, there is no wisdom from her.

Let mama leave her kaya in the house, go back.and come back thursday.

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

I think is the Godmother that should leave, I think the work is for the mother of the wife to ake care of the child, why will you send your mother inlaw parking, I bet she won't step her feet into that house again....

Why should I even judge, except is the Godmother that is sponsoring you and your wife

Candidlady:



Where were you when the creator was distributing sense

Which one is emotional blackmail

he actually nailed it. That is emotional blackmail to tell her husband that he don't want her mother. I still wonder what type of brain and reasoning sense God gave to women. Are you saying the wife supposed not to consider the husband's convenience? It is obvious that wife did not understand the type of person her husband is. Many men will not like that situation at all why some men will not see anything wrong in that.

Candidlady:



Where were you when the creator was distributing sense

Which one is emotional blackmail

Hmmmm... You thrive on insults it seems... Second one on one page...

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

Go and stay with a friend till one of them leaves. You too, can come in during the day. The drama dey too much already

baralatie:

That is why the queen give her red card from standing by her side and forming royal!
Who loose?


As a man you don't need to force achoi e between mom's,mom inlaws,and God mother's!
The are women(they are expert in social bonding)
Mehn marry them all together.you as a guy man leave house for them.
Just keep a good conversation and positive energy in the house .they will even be helping you self

Royal family are recist

Bayyajidda:
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What if the mother-in-law initially didnt willing want to do that?

Her actions will tell bro

Blue86:
Common sense is for the mother who lives a street or so away to return back to where she came from, for the god mother who is from another state entirely to move on Wednesday.

You guys are not treating that God mother right.

It is situations like this that makes people not to be bothered about caring for others because of insensitivity in not appreciating their efforts.

You go and tell your mother inlaw yourself, man of the house.
And let your wife's blah blah land in the bin.

You are the one to set the house in order.

You are the leader.

In this case, there is no wisdom from her.

Let mama leave her kaya in the house, go back.and come back thursday.

If you know women enough you will understand that the MIL may have started feeling jealousy and thinking maybe her daughter and husband will show more love to godmother! Or may even think godmother will make passes at hubby as wife is still healing!
So, she has decided to barge in!
If not common sense should have prevailed!

LadyRosa:


He will be foo.lish to do that because of three unreasonable woman.Especially when one lives across the street.What he opined us the best option, the MIL must be able to leave till Wednesday as promised by the op.

The wife is a very nasty woman indeed!
If the godmother was with her while she is bedridden,what stops her from asking her mother to exercise a little patience as her husband demanded?

He shouldn't sleep well in a house where he pays the rent?For what?!

Nonsense!

Na wao! You just carry the matter for head like gala.

Wisdom is profitable to direct. I don't want to say they aren't wise, if they are thinking that which you are insinuating.

Let me just leave it there.

Let the man take charge.

jaszplus12:

If you know women enough you will understand that the MIL may have started feeling jealousy and thinking maybe her daughter and husband will show more love to godmother! Or may even think godmother will make passes at hubby as wife is still healing!
So, she has decided to barge in!
If not common sense should have prevailed!

godfrey02:
Same thing happened in my compound. I am a single guy sha, not yet married. Things like this are what men should put into consideration when expecting a baby. Things are not really fair sometimes. Where i stay, a married man and his wife in a single room and a child too and they just welcome another baby. the woman mother came for umugwor, guess what the man did the few days the mother stayed, he slept out, i don't know where he slept sha but i know he slept out. Could be at work. Honestly and frankly speaking men need to be calculative. Men need to put in more effort in certain things.

Why not offer assitance by accomodating the man. I can relate with such experience

You are right. Your wife is being childish. But no need to react
Just let things play out. Don try to force anything. So she will mature and begin to reason properly.

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

You caused all these! Aren't you a man? Can't you take a decision?

You shouldn't have allowed the so called godmother come in the first place, know full well that your place isn't enough to contain everyone.

As it stands, You really can't ask your mother-in-law to leave, so, you have to ask your godmother to leave, in a polite way.

Are you married?

Candidlady:



You want your wife's mum to pack her kaya back to her house so your wife's so called godmother could stay
Or am imissing something

Stewpid question please
1. This her godmother who/what is she to you

2. Who invited the godmother over (something tells me you were the one that invited her)
For her to use such lines
My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed "that I dont welcome her mother in my house."



Lemme drift a Lil

please what is the gender of your kid?
If it is a boy child kindly look for the neatest waste bin


all the best to you

Who is Godmother?.

Life no balance at all, I pray for this kind crowd of mothers in my house, it is well

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

I know you are considering the discomfort that comes with the overcrowding but I would advice that you pretend that you enjoy and love their company. The slightest mistake you make this period may take years to correct. It would even be better that they are the ones that would feel the discomfort the most and complain. It is a phase that would definitely pass.
All parties are happy for the new born baby and it would be nice that they remain that way. As a married man, things would not always go your way. There are times you have to give in to your wife's choices. I know some people would want to think differently but I can assure that that has been the bedrock of my almost 14 years in marriage. There are times I accept my wife's opinion even though I do not agree with it. Sometimes it turns out that her choice is better than mine. If you try not to be chauvinistic all the time, it will definitely help.
Do not allow people to make you think because you give in to your wife's opinion that you have become a "woman wrapper". Some might do worse and advice you to never give in. This is my 2 kobo advice.

goodamerican:
It would be unkind and ungrateful of y'all to ask the godmother who came from another state, to leave. Her mom who just came (knowing fully well that the godmother is there) and who lives down the street from you should wait until the godmother leaves on Wednesday. Her mom will have all the time in the world to spend with y'all thereafter.

My question is, what was d mother doing DAT someon else has to travel down n come n spend time with her daughter DAT just gave birth, like how can she b comfortable sleeping on her bed, n someone else is sacrificing herself to be bitten by hospital mosquitoes. Now shes bak 2 comfort, d mother then comes n want 2 displace who has been there 4 her, not fair.

Candidlady:
:


Lemme drift a Lil

please what is the gender of your kid?
If it is a boy child kindly look for the neatest waste bin


all the best to you

What do you mean by this bolded ?

Promosaver:

Her actions will tell bro

Isn't her action already telling?

UncleDaddy2017:
My wife recently put to bed our first child. While at the hospital, it's been my wife's godmother who travelled down from another state specifically to be with my wife. Infact, she came straight to the hospital and she has been the one sleeping there with her at night. While I stay with her by day. When am at the hospital to relieve her, she goes to our house to sleep.

My wife's mom and my mom (both live few streets away from ours) do come to the hospital during the day ... So fast forward to yesterday Sunday.

My mother-in-law told my wife she will come after church... Hours after church closed we still didn't see her. Only for her to show up with a big traveling bag. And she knew quite well that my wife's godmother put up at our house.

My house is a one bedroom apartment.

When she came, I asked my wife that now that her mom is here, how will all of us sleep in this house as my wife, our baby and the godmother will sleep in the room, while I stay in the sitting room. She became angry and said they will all stay in the room. But that if I don't want her mom to stay in the house, she will just tell her to go away.

So I told her that the proper thing to do is tell her mom to wait till Wednesday when the godmother lives, then she can come. Besides her house is only few streets away. She can be coming during the day and go back home.

So this night now, the mom has bathed and has gone to stay in the room. The godmother who's now feeling sleepy, had to stay in the living room as she can't go to the room bc her mom is there. Me on the other hand, can't sleep in the living room bc her godmother is in the sitting room.... So I sat at the veranda until 11pm. The cloth I had on was the one I wore since morning. I can't go to the room to change as the mom is there. Neither the living room bc the other woman is there.

My wife later came to me outside and was annoyed that I dont welcome her mother in my house.

Do you think I'm wrong to have told my wife to tell her to wait till Wednesday before she comes?

NB: my mother inlaw and I, live like mother and son until she came yesterday Sunday.

Don't worry yourself. Wednesday is almost here for the godmother to leave.

Please be very patient with your wife at this moment. Remember she just gave birth, hormones have not normalized.

Child birth hormones and trauma can make women get angry easily at that stage.

Be more patient, loving and caring for her at this stage. The stage will soon pass.

Congratulations. You have no problem here.