I have dated this Yoruba girl for about 5 years now.The mum is an Igbo Christian from Anambra and so am I.The Dad is a Muslim based in Anambra.The mum is late.Both the maternal and paternal Uncles are wealthy.She is a Christian but hides it for fear of the family.we have been there for ourselves in all ramifications but the challenge is that the family doesn't want to even hear about me coming to marry their daughter due to differences in tribe and religion.i tried going through the maternal side but they feel they do not have much say and that am not wealthy enough.i have been there for her ensuring she achieves her dream including her becoming a graduate.Now she is about to serve and I attempted going to pay her bride price but the Dad is threatening to kill her is she dares mention my name.Out of fear of losing me we opted for secret court marriage cos we really love ourselves.The family have been threatening us with everything since I asked her to let them know I want my people to come and meet them. I have not been myself for days now ,bad thoughts upon thought.Religion, tribalism and poverty, I don't even know which is worse.




NOW SHE HAS MISSED HER PERIOD

My brother, you seem not to value your own peace of mind.

The girl's family made it clear that they don't want you and you still want to do secret marriage.

Hmmm...I advice you end the relationship and go build yourself.

Women plenty.

This is why LOVE IS STUPID how can u help a girl in her education sponsoring.


Anyways Op just leave her alone,the result of not letting her go might be very disastrous

Op op OP, how many times did i call you? You better leave that girl alone,she is not the only girl in the world,pls do not do anything in secret with her for your own good,any marriage that the guy/girl family is against does not work no matter how you try,don't do what you will regret later.

I wasn't sponsoring her solely.her family paid most of the bills.Does it mean we can't fight for love anymore? Cos these advice seem like it's easy to just let go even when we really love ourselves and have contributed immensely to our relationship

1TripleC:
I wasn't sponsoring her solely.her family paid most of the bills.Does it mean we can't fight for love anymore? Cos these advice seem like it's easy to just let go even when we really love ourselves and have contributed immensely to our relationship

We know it not easy but you just have to let her go if you value your life,both her paternal and maternal family are against it so isn't it obvious to you that is not something that will work out,pls just let go,i'm telling you this from experience.

The lady has countless times said she would kill herself if they don't let her be.currently she has been invited by the maternal uncles.They are not straight forward if they want me or not but I'm waiting for the outcome of the invitation.i value all ur advice guys

1TripleC:
I have dated this Yoruba girl for about 5 years now.The mum is an Igbo Christian from Anambra and so am I.The Dad is a Muslim based in Anambra.The mum is late.Both the maternal and paternal Uncles are wealthy.She is a Christian but hides it for fear of the family.we have been there for ourselves in all ramifications but the challenge is that the family doesn't want to even hear about me coming to marry their daughter due to differences in tribe and religion.i tried going through the maternal side but they feel they do not have much say and that am not wealthy enough.i have been there for her ensuring she achieves her dream including her becoming a graduate.Now she is about to serve and I attempted going to pay her bride price but the Dad is threatening to kill her is she dares mention my name.Out of fear of losing me we opted for secret court marriage cos we really love ourselves.The family have been threatening us with everything since I asked her to let them know I want my people to come and meet them. I have not been myself for days now ,bad thoughts upon thought.Religion, tribalism and poverty, I don't even know which is worse

U no get problem.

LikeAking:


U no get problem.

Please how?

hmmm...initially i will advice u let go but it seems u want to fight for love. i will advice u get in touch with atleast ur age grade for the paternal family a male and a female who will give u ear. no matter how tough they might be they must have 1 person who will understand. also u need to work on ursef to be financiallly independent.

but remember,if u try all means to get their approval yet futile and u go ahead i tell u one thing will warrant u going back of which they might be bhind any afflictions in future...


bro no start wetin u no fit finish.....God be with u


shalom！

No matter the amount of love you have for each other as long as her family especially her dad is against your union you better rethink. This is Nigeria where we live the communual life and carry family along, do not use love and cause enemity between the girl and her family or your children and their maternal family in future.

Shagbatshagba:
hmmm...initially i will advice u let go but it seems u want to fight for love. i will advice u get in touch with atleast ur age grade for the paternal family a male and a female who will give u ear. no matter how tough they might be they must have 1 person who will understand. also u need to work on ursef to be financiallly independent.

but remember,if u try all means to get their approval yet futile and u go ahead i tell u one thing will warrant u going back of which they might be bhind any afflictions in future...


bro no start wetin u no fit finish.....God be with u


shalom！

Thanks for this

detectivejones:
No matter the amount of love you have for each other as long as her family especially her dad is against your union you better rethink. This is Nigeria where we live the communual life and carry family along, do not use love and cause enemity between the girl and her family or your children and their maternal family in future.

Hmm

1TripleC:
I have dated this Yoruba girl for about 5 years now.The mum is an Igbo Christian from Anambra and so am I.The Dad is a Muslim based in Anambra.The mum is late.Both the maternal and paternal Uncles are wealthy.She is a Christian but hides it for fear of the family.we have been there for ourselves in all ramifications but the challenge is that the family doesn't want to even hear about me coming to marry their daughter due to differences in tribe and religion.i tried going through the maternal side but they feel they do not have much say and that am not wealthy enough.i have been there for her ensuring she achieves her dream including her becoming a graduate.Now she is about to serve and I attempted going to pay her bride price but the Dad is threatening to kill her is she dares mention my name.Out of fear of losing me we opted for secret court marriage cos we really love ourselves.The family have been threatening us with everything since I asked her to let them know I want my people to come and meet them. I have not been myself for days now ,bad thoughts upon thought.Religion, tribalism and poverty, I don't even know which is worse

I pity any Yoruba Marrying Igbos, Igbos are full of hatred and anger and very wicked people. The father has learnt how tthe ladys mother mader her life a living hell,and tthus wouldn't want her daughter pass through such.

Antyxx:

I pity any Yoruba Marrying Igbos, Igbos are full of hatred and anger and very wicked people. The father has learnt how tthe ladys mother mader her life a living hell,and tthus wouldn't want her daughter pass through such.

You are doing well.The man has mandated all the male to marry Igbo girls ,so you just spewed thrash

If the family doesn't support the relationship, break it. This is coming from a woman. The frustration of life in present day is too much to bear to now be facing marital issues from the family. I ll rather let the relationship go

Sweetplum:
If the family doesn't support the relationship, break it. This is coming from a woman. The frustration of life in present day is too much to bear to now be facing marital issues from the family. I ll rather let the relationship go

6-6years no be beans oo...and the girl is just too good.She has been my motivation.with her I became financially independent

1TripleC:
6-6years no be beans oo...and the girl is just too good.She has been my motivation.with her I became financially independent

Ok. I v given you life. Menacing leave the girl. Now let me give you death. Marry the girl.
Take one, life or death.

Op I can see that despite all the comments above telling you to let go of the lady... your mind is determined to do that secret wedding, you are quite stubborn!

You think marriage is an easy task abi with family issues, Go ahead o

Islandlady:
Op I can see that despite all the comments above telling you to let go of the lady... your mind is determined to do that secret wedding, you are quite stubborn!

You think marriage is an easy task abi with family issues, Go ahead o

You didn't read well.Its done already...go through it again...it's proceeding with the main one that's raising dust

1TripleC:

You didn't read well.Its done already...go through it again...it's proceeding with the main one that's raising dust

Hmm, A Yoruba proverb says
"A bad wife or husband is better than a bad in-law" that all I have to say...Good luck!

Islandlady:
Hmm, A Yoruba proverb says
"A bad wife or husband is better than a bad in-law" that all I have to say...Good luck!

Thanks all for your advice.
We have resolved to pray more about it and also hear the maternal uncles view.

I feel for you both but I just pray at the end no one is hurt.
But just be careful shaa.
Leaving someone who you both are clingy to each other can be very painful and hurtful.
I'll advise you to just hustle hard, they may reconsider.

Justkatty:
I feel for you both but I just pray at the end no one is hurt.
But just be careful shaa.
Leaving someone who you both are clingy to each other can be very painful and hurtful.
I'll advise you to just hustle hard, they may reconsider.

You really feel my pain.The Thorn is always smooth on another man's skin.Thanks...

1TripleC:
I wasn't sponsoring her solely.her family paid most of the bills.Does it mean we can't fight for love anymore? Cos these advice seem like it's easy to just let go even when we really love ourselves and have contributed immensely to our relationship

Tell the girl to ask her father if his in-laws have resisted him marrying a Christian, will she have been born?

The girl's father is a hypocrite. He married a Christian but will not allow a Christian to marry his daughter. So much for........we are one and we worship the same God. Na wash

Nigerianization:


Tell the girl to ask her father if his in-laws have resisted him marrying a Christian, will she have been born?

The girl's father is a hypocrite. He married a Christian but will not allow a Christian to marry his daughter. So much for........we are one and we worship the same God. Na wash

Same question I have been asking myself

Will advise you to leave the girl and find another person, just try because her people does not welcome you but the mom and dad side. Peace of mind is essential in every marriage, and some people can do crazy things in name of religion or tribe, so avoid it unless you want japa from this country with her.

1TripleC:
6-6years no be beans oo...and the girl is just too good.She has been my motivation.with her I became financially independent

. Do your court wedding. Do blood group test too. The babe my mum said I shouldn't marry is married now, my mama Don die now. Ensure she agreed as an adult.

starpower:
. Do your court wedding. Do blood group test too. The babe my mum said I shouldn't marry is married now, my mama Don die now. Ensure she agreed as an adult.

Haha!.... You just cracked my ribs.Thanks also for the advice

1TripleC:
You really feel my pain.The Thorn is always smooth on another man's skin.Thanks...

Ofcourse I understand everything but you both should just be careful.

I just hope it turns out positive at the end of everything
May God direct you.

Justkatty:
Ofcourse I understand everything but you both should just be careful.

I just hope it turns out positive at the end of everything
May God direct you.

Sure we will be. Especially in the area of prayers