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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by michael1508: 7:50am On Sep 30, 2022*

jimmychang:
She sleepwalked naked and went to have sex and she no still wake up .She was being bleeped hard in her sleepwalking and she didn't wake up.Which kind nonsense be this ooh

Which kind nonsense be this

You sef you reason ba?
What a comic relief,Baba come still put am say sometimes it's not the women's fault,they get drunk,sleepwalk into the arms of a warm dick and ride it till eternity and didn't try take a pill or something but get home to have sex with her husband just to cover up..
The comics we read here everyday never cease to amaze me.

To the Op,as for me,no place for a cheating woman o,the only thing you can hold a woman for in a relationship is her virtuousness, what's her usefulness if she doesn't have that?
I just pray make my anger no get hold of me,I fit put bullet through her skull.

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by slimsophiediva(f): 7:50am On Sep 30, 2022

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Please how much does the dna cost and how do you go about it
Previous thread:

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Robnectar(m): 7:50am On Sep 30, 2022

Sweetplum:
Arindin my bros ll take the best decision. Mumuboy

Anty ode,... Bolo NLA grin

Shey esun Ile sha? grin

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by NezzyMike: 7:53am On Sep 30, 2022

Maynman:
But here you are asking if I’m “legitimate”, so we have illegitimate children?
Is it the word “bastard” that’s paining you?
You should first look up the definition of Bastard.
I was on my own before you quoted me, get sense and Be careful.

You lack home training.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by melonsgroup: 7:53am On Sep 30, 2022

Divorce her and get your self another brown new virgin wife.
From Israel

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Temmylee01(m): 7:54am On Sep 30, 2022

Sweetplum:
you be agbekunlemu, boda ode elekusa!

you be dogosu osubare b'ose gbonto lose go'to.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Dextre(m): 7:57am On Sep 30, 2022

Starz825:
He said he doesn't want divorce...
That's the reason why he can't cause violence....
If he wants violence..he will call the two families..he will take his children away and leave her with her last born...

But he doesn't want divorce and he doesn't want his children to leave without their mother and without him ....
...and the woman too can't leave her last born

No be everything be violence....
They can solve it ....

It happened when they seperated..

You will have to consider his children....he is thinking more of his own children not the woman....
That's a very good thinking.....
It's not easy to raise children alone....

If e happen when dey were separated nko? She suppose con force the baby on him? It’s his decisions like you said sha, but a broken marriage is a broken marriage, if dem like make dem force demselves inside. Na wetin dey Bleep children up be dis, when children grow up in a home where there is no love, e go always tell

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by oluplus(m): 7:58am On Sep 30, 2022

Mindlog:
Now that you have confirmed that the 4th child is not biologically yours, how can you get to confirm the child is biologically your wife's. Once it is proven your wife is the birth mother that eliminates baby-switching......you then make your decisions.

No need to waste time and money. Once the wife is confronted with proofs, she will talk.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Dextre(m): 8:01am On Sep 30, 2022

Sluacoast:
Let me tell you something. There's a lady who lives in the next street after mine. But kasala really scatter for this women matter. She think say her husband no go find out. She went for a wedding and because of traffic congestion on the way. She couldn't return back home and she spend the night at her colleague house. But you know. Things always turn around so quick in a tickle of an eye. When they were in her colleague house. They were both obviously drunk after taking a lot of drink's at the ceremony. To cut the story short.. she was given a room to pass the night. Her colleague is married and she lives with her husband. Do you know in the middle of the night. She got out of her room completely naked and I don't know what I'll call this. She was probably sleep walking. She walked in the sitting room and her colleague husband was obviously watching tv. Something led to another and they had sex. Some men can never control their sexual urge. How can you take advantage of your visitor who came to spend the night at your place. The both had sex and she was pregnant o. Just like that sharp shooter lol. She knew something was wrong ever since so she confronted him and he told him. And you know Ladies. She hurriedly maybe had another sexual pleasure with her ownhusband to cover her footprint but after the child was Born. See where matter cast. This man and his 3 kids has small eye's yes I Said eyes. And he was kind of surprised how come his New child come carry Big eyes. If you see this man eyes and that of his kids. You don't need to asked if he's the Father of his children. He did DNA test and the results shows he wasn't the father. So sometimes all this women cheat not because they enjoy cheating. It might occur accidentally just like this. Thanks

See rubbish cappings. Accidental cheating?

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by StainlessCup: 8:03am On Sep 30, 2022

GerogeI:
Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, paternity is not by blood. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

That's not how Igbo culture works. Igbo culture doesn't tolerate adultery from the women. Your first paragraph is true when a daughter gives birth out of wedlock or gets pregnant for a man who is yet to perform the traditional rites.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home.

Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are like arrows, Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything. Be more passionate about being her father, and show your are ready to fight anyone who suggests otherwise.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Dextre(m): 8:03am On Sep 30, 2022

Sweetplum:
yes it's do or die

Go and die in yours if need be. Leave him out of such practices. Na why people dey so bleeped up in this country.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Hassanmaye(m): 8:06am On Sep 30, 2022

Maynman:
And it was when she got pregnant by “chance” she knew she had to beg her husband back after how many months?
How do you get pregnant by chance? By having unprotected sex?

By chance I mean some secluded married tend to be very Hot which some Randy men can take advantage of

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by StainlessCup: 8:06am On Sep 30, 2022

GerogeI:
Let me tell you this. In Igbo culture, paternity is not by blood. Any child born under your house while a woman is still married to you is yours. Children are viewed as wealth. You should have left the dna thing since you know she cheated.

However, now you know, if you know you cannot treat the child as you would your own, then let them go.

That's not how Igbo culture works. Igbo culture doesn't tolerate adultery from the women. Your first paragraph is true when a daughter gives birth out of wedlock or gets pregnant for a man who is yet to perform the traditional rites.

But know its a win for the man she cheated with. He gets a child, gets your wife. You loose your wife, your children loose a home with both parents.

But frankly, if you can, keep your child. The real father will see the child in your house, know its his, and can do absolutely nothing about it. That is your power, and you gain a child. Your children gets both parents. He will forever be peeping at you. Hoping on hope that your family breaks apart. Never discuss or agree that the child is not yours. Your wife will forever live in fear of your finding out. That is your power over that marriage, to control her and your home.

Never discuss it with her as people suggest, but a few times hint light heartedly that the child does not look like anyone in your family. The bible says children are like arrows, Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. Make sure the child carries your name everywhere and in everything. Be more passionate about being her father, and show your are ready to fight anyone who suggests otherwise.

That's not how Igbo culture works. Igbo culture doesn't tolerate adultery from the women. The first paragraph is true when a daughter gets pregnant for a man who is yet to perform the traditional rites or gets pregnant out of wedlock, then the child belongs to the father.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Caffeine(m): 8:07am On Sep 30, 2022

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Sorry bro I don't think that's a good idea , why would you punish a innocent child for her mother sin? Don't you think letting her to go would be better than allowing her stay for you not to treat the child equally because the child will grow to know that her step father had never liked her it will affect her badly. If I choose to forgive and accept the child I will continue to be taking care of her just like I am doing now until the day she will leave my house. I will not treat her any different. Unfortunately I can't for my own sanity both mother and child must go

You're a decent man, and I hope, a godly one too. Please beware of advice from strangers on the internet.

May God grant you much wisdom in this trying time. Stay close to Christ, brother ��

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Maynman: 8:07am On Sep 30, 2022

Hassanmaye:
By chance I mean some secluded married tend to be very Hot which some Randy men can take advantage of

I don’t see the correlation, everyone gets Hot does that mean you should bring a Bastard home to your husband?

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Maynman: 8:07am On Sep 30, 2022

NezzyMike:
You lack home training.

You lack Morals.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by riverbird: 8:09am On Sep 30, 2022

A whorre sighted......

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by CaptMarvel(m): 8:11am On Sep 30, 2022

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Unmmhnmmnhm.

Confront her with the truth, hear what she will say, hear her defense, then bring out the DNA result. Involve your family and her family, they need to have a know in this situation. You all should come together and proffer solution to the menace.

This is a big issue and should be look at menancingly. The man that engaged himself with your wife is not innocent, He destroyed your home, your wife is not a virtuous woman at all, may God help you. But make sure this issue is settled among the families involved. Don't take any rash decision.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by StainlessCup: 8:12am On Sep 30, 2022

All my life, one thing I won't tolerate is cheating whether its from me or her if ever I get married. There is no cheating during boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. If I were the OP, I will separate and divorce her, we can become co parents.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Realguyman1(m): 8:14am On Sep 30, 2022

Sweetplum:
He has an option. To either keep the child or return her. I stated it in my post. The reality here is most of you guys are saying he should annul the marriage as if you all v gotten him a wife that's perfect. And you men Tok dey get children out of wedlock o. Wey wife no go know. Now life has happened. We v to face reality and choose wisely

I nevered said he should cut of his marriage, I only said there is nothing left in that marriage anymore because I know that the man will have no regards for his wife again and he will feel that he can do anything he likes now, and the wife don't have anything right to question him. Because the woman knows what she was doing and she did it very well.

It is his choice to cut off the marriage or keep it, that is his own cup of tea. But one thing I know is that the woman nor get any shakara for body wey she wan do for her husband again for that marriage. And what is marriage wey u nor fit do small shakara for ur hubby? Anything little thing the woman doea now, the husband will always use it hard against her. Na she go even tire for the Marriage by herself

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by HolyPussy: 8:17am On Sep 30, 2022

ogaemma:
End the marriage before the marriage ends you.

Too late.

The marriage has ended him a long time ago.

He will never trust his wife again as long as he lives.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Hassanmaye(m): 8:18am On Sep 30, 2022

Maynman:
I don’t see the correlation, everyone gets Hot does that mean you should bring a Bastard home to your husband?

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by 27Pushing30: 8:18am On Sep 30, 2022

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

What this means is that she ONLY came back to you ONLY because she was pregnant for a man WHO OBVIOUSLY was not interested in marrying her.

Please for your safety and peace separate again and this time move for divorce on the grounds of infidelity.

CAVEAT: You are free to disregard this advice but women will be women … remember that.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Maynman: 8:20am On Sep 30, 2022

Hassanmaye:
No

So how are men taking advantage of her body?
She was walking on street and they raped her, or she was the one that choose those randy men?
Have you heard of “my body, my choice”?

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by 27Pushing30: 8:21am On Sep 30, 2022

Maynman:
I don’t see the correlation, everyone gets Hot does that mean you should bring a Bastard home to your husband?

Azzin when I marry I can never step out on my wife without wearing RUBBER…

I’m already insulting her by even stepping out talk less na dive another woman without protection against pregnancy and STI’s/STD’s.

That means beyond randy I am also irresponsible.

Same goes for the woman… knacking with careless abandon then running to pin the kid on the man smh

He should run DNA on all the kids sef

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by RIDOO: 8:21am On Sep 30, 2022

Sweetplum:
So bad. While we v bad women, we also v the good ones.
May God heal you sir.
Meanwhile, have you ran DNA test on the other kids? If they are yours then I suggest you tell her to return the child to the owner.
I can't take such thing if I m a man.
Try and see if the relationship can work after she returned the child. If it can't work, separate. A broken heart can heal. A damaged home can't heal. Consider your children's upbringing/welfare before making a final decision. You v 3 legitimate kids and 1 illegitimate kid.
If you buy four shoes and one of them isn't your size, will you return the 4 shoes or only the one that's not your size?
Seek marriage counselors if you can't bear it alone or spiritual father/mother and the relation of you and your wife if necessary cos this matter no suppose reach public at all. You ll get more crazy advice like you are getting on Nairaland.
It's well with you.
Link to the previous thread of the op
https://www.nairaland.com/7252543/unsure-father-fourth-child

I respect your point of view.Shits happens in life but it takes the grace of God to overcome.Things like these have scattered many homes but even at that l hv a close relative. that this same thing happened to. ..it was the fourth kid too... It was hot at first that they seprated for years but came back together again.They are together as l speak...l don't pray for such evil to befall any marriage but when it happens the help of concellors n genuine spiritual leaders will help in many ways not the general opinion of people.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by MNDY(m): 8:26am On Sep 30, 2022

emmanuelbrown26:
Men are not to be blamed here sir. Blame d daughter of eve, blame d caused gender not men

A certain guy Dickson exposed so much on Twitter on this year's edition of his Infidelity Series this week. From cases of married to engaged to mere relationship to even fuc.king a new bride on her wedding night. Very very crazy things I read there.

Details of the anonymous DMs from that dude will make you not just fear women but dread them. They are the gatekeepers of sex and hold the power to make what will happen to happen in these things.

What struck me was only one girl who narrated hers. She knew the guy had a babe and tagged along for the persuasion gifts and good di.ck too. She said she had to later cut him off because he was too obsessed with sex.

OP try and discharge dat woman ASAP. A woman is very dangerous.

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Yinkus057: 8:27am On Sep 30, 2022

Let her realize u know the child is not yours, don't send her away, the child shouldn't bear your name and do not be responsible for his upbringing ( in terms of medicals, sch fees) just be responsible for feeding that's all

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Jman06(m): 8:28am On Sep 30, 2022

HRMK:
AS A SEPTUAGENARIAN GRANDPA,I HAVE TO BE VERY FRANK WITH YOU!THE WHOLE FAULT IS YOURS!YES,100%!YOU HAD MONEY GIFT FROM YOUR BOSS,RATHER THAN TELL YOUR WIFE,YOU GAVE IT TO YOUR SISTER WHO DUPED YOU!LEAVING HOME MADE IT WORSE!MANY THINGS COULD MAKE A WIFE TO LOOK FOR HELP WHEN THE HUSBAND ABANDONS HIS FAMILY!THAT ISNT WHAT ONE CAN CALL CHEATING!YOU WERE NO MORE THERE FOR THEM!SHE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND THE KIDS!YOU SHOULD AV IRONED IT OUT WITH HER IMMEDIATELY YOU SUSPECTED THE PREGNANCY WASNT YOURS!ANYWAY,SHE HAS TO RETURN THE GIRL TO THE FATHER WITHOUT ANY NOISE SO AS TO SAVE HER AND YOU UNNECESSARY EMBARRASSMENT!WISHING YOU BEST OF LUCK!LIKE AFORE MENTIONED,THE WHOLE ISSUE IS YOUR FAULT!!

And you're a septuagenarian huh

It is his fault that the whorish wife started cheating just because of temporary difficulty the man faced huh

The fact that the man didn't tell her before attempting to invest the 200k through his sister is not enough reason for her to go haywire and allow their marriage deteriorate to the point of separation. But as usual, whenever a man is down financially, foolish women start misbehaving and people like you cheer them up.

Let's flip this scenario, assuming the same fate befell the woman and the man decides to make trouble about it by withdrawing his love and financial support to the wife, would you still fault the wife for the man's behavior huh

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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Bombeverybody: 8:28am On Sep 30, 2022

Na this surprise you? My mother duped me of 500k I gave her to get me a plot of land. I gave her because I believe she was more experience than myself in land dealings and because she quite popular....na voicemail the money enter till tomorrow. I gave her in January 2017. Our relationship have never been same afterwards. She just dey answer my mother ni while I be answer her son for mouth.

seunak2016:
your own biological sister dupe you of 200k?

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by MNDY(m): 8:37am On Sep 30, 2022

StainlessCup:
That's not how Igbo culture works. Igbo culture doesn't tolerate adultery from the women. The first paragraph is true when a daughter gets pregnant for a man who is yet to perform the traditional rites or gets pregnant out of wedlock, then the child belongs to the father.

Thanks for that clarification. Very important. I am not Igbo but I don't like things being taken out of context.

Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Verysmart101: 8:42am On Sep 30, 2022

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

Harlot spotted here.Didnt u hear him say he has proof of his wife cheating on him with his colleague? Harlot supporting harlot

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