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| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Championxxx(op): 6:09pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
wunmi590:I wanted to lie about her age because she doesn't look her age but she told me if I truly love her I should tell my parents the truth about her and I did as she said 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by shege45: 6:15pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
James289:yours is normal na 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by wunmi590(m): 6:18pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:If she told you to say the truth, then she should have known that this is Africa and our African mentality doesn't allow such... With what you have stated about her, she actually love you, but with the two kids she have presently, I wouldn't advice you to marry her... 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Richy4(m): 6:23pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:I'm sorry...No disrespect buddy but the more u use those phrase, the more I find it difficult to believe...Just quit convincing me my brother because I cannot believe you... If and when all the financial goodies were gone.. no more iPhone or it's younger brother Techno,.. Are you really ready to stick with a 34 year old woman with 2 kids?... If yes.. why was this thread opened in the first place? Even if you love her... you are 25... u have peers ... your mates/ friends....They might start by teasing you on how you were dating an older lady...when u get home, u might start looking at her using the wrong lens.., They will convince and confuse you to an extend you start doubting what u feel for her... Are you matured enough to deal with peer pressure and family members who might kick against it?... You have not been tested yet...If u believe that what you feel for her is real and that it can withstand the test when it starts raining heavily on both of you... I might just believe you.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Fahvvy: 6:28pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Your entire family (with good reasons) are against your relationship and you're still considering it?  ...Okay... First off... Most women hardly respect men they are older than by a far margin (9years is not 9 days o sir ...)Secondly... Most women don't respect men who can't shoulder financial burdens, in other words if a woman starts shouldering more financial burdens than the man, she will lose respect for him.... Thirdly... There's too many baggage associated with single mothers as compared to girls without kids... And you want to add the above wahala in addition with the regular marital wahala that other couples face? Who has done this to you OP?!!! ....Chei!!!! ...Guyyyyyyyy.... You're making a very terrible decision... But alas! It's not my decision to make... I wouldn't be the one to suffer the issues WHEN they arise, because blimey, it will surface sooner or later ...You're still too young to consider marriage now... And I know this because you hinted that you're still staying with your parents... A man who still stays with his parents and is been fed by them is NOT mature enough to consider marriage, so please sir.... Grow up first... Leave this marriage talk for now... When you can stand on your own two feet, then I believe you'll be in a better position to make sound decisions .... 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Karleb(m): 6:36pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
James289:No wonder some of you women are always stressing that you are in a serious relationship and boys your age don't have any value to you. You boyfriend is in my mother's age range. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by ahnie: 6:37pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Congratulations boy, please kindly be submissive to her. Pls always look sexy and don't go fat. Congratulations once again. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Helpout12345: 7:01pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Wonderful! Na express you dey go so. Go and listen to your parents and siblings. They are right. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by garriAndsugar: 7:12pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Incase you are tired of the relationship you can as well link me to her that's if she resides in the south 1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Championxxx(op): 7:22pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Richy4:I will stick with her whether she support me or not because I love her from the bottom of my life , I know you will not believe me but I am very honest with you. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:23pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Most of the NL guys here condemning your woman sit behind computers 24/7 looking for old foreign women to /scam'/marry. They will come here and condemned' your fresh 34yr old woman, yet travel out to marry*old*wrinkled' foreign women. If this woman gives you financial help and peace of mind, and you feel you will not mock her age in future, then think about it. My only concern is that she already has two children,.....too many baggages. If you will not marry her, then don't give her hope, you can end the relationship so that she looks somewhere else. 4 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Richy4(m): 7:25pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:Amen  1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Championxxx(op): 7:32pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
LilMissFavvy:Thanks so much for the advice I really appreciate it. I love her from the bottom of my heart , I will never mock her age , her children are not a problem too. I want to marry her in the future but my family are against her and I don't think it is a good thing for me to marry her without their blessings. She knows that my family hate her but she still love me and she want me to move in with her , I am in a dilemma 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Helpout12345: 7:42pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:Okay. Since you are adamant. Let us start like this. How about you move in with her, live with her for 6 months to 1 year and come back to give us feedback. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Championxxx(op): 7:48pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Helpout12345:I am scared to move in with her because my parents will disown me for good. they have told me to quit the relationship and forget about her , as I am typing this I am at her place but they think that I am at work. If they came to know that i am with her they will hate me. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Oluneutral: 7:49pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
If she's actually everything a man wants in a woman, why didn't her baby daddies wife her? Ponder on the above and there lies your answer and subsequent decision. From another angle, are you sure you're not a gold digger? 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Championxxx(op): 7:53pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Oluneutral:Her ex hubby was abusive she fled domestic violence in Malaysia and return back to Nigeria with her kids. I am not a gold digger neither do I have the intention to be. 3 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Helpout12345: 7:54pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:Tell your parents and siblings that you are not marrying her yet. You just want to move in with her temporarily to further know her and test some of their worries about the relationship. And truly, don't marry her yet or impregnate her during that period. Just go in and test the waters. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Oluneutral: 8:03pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:Tooh! I wish you well in whatever decision you take concerning this matter. However, from close to 20 years of marital experience, I will tell you that it's not advisable to marry against one's parental wishes, approval and blessings. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Dbrawllm0098(f): 8:06pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Simple, decide which is more important to you and then stick with that decision. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Davidave(m): 8:22pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Tell your family they can accept it or get bleeped. It doesn't matter what they think, what matters is you and your gf being happy. 1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Nobody: 8:33pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Wizywiz:True na. Person wey don rock life rock life come born two children now want to tie small boy down. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Wizywiz(m): 8:35pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8:well honestly if not for the two kids I would have advised him to go on with her despite the age..(since they both love each other) 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Nobody: 8:37pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Wizywiz:Exactly because the boy will even dump her las las when he's had his fill of her and sees a girl his age. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Wizywiz(m): 8:40pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8:yeah he might...I remember when I was in my 20s I only date ladies from 30s and 40s I never dated any girl in my age bracket... honestly that was when I met the best loving ladies ever, 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Wizywiz(m): 8:46pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8:it's a phase I believe he will soon get past it  |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Rhozabeth(m): 8:54pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Championxxx:Guy hustle to get ur own money, stop depending on handout from a woman! I can tell u for free that if u marry her, it will be the biggest mistake of ur life. Have u ever asked why she is a single mother? Why can't the man she had the kids for stay with her? Guy give urself sense or borrow one! 1 Like |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Nobody: 9:17pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Wizywiz:Yeah. it's a phase like you said and it will wear off soon. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Wizywiz(m): 9:21pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Blessedmercy8:yeah...funny enough mine never weared off ..till date I can't date any lady in her 20s I will rather date up (40s than 20s..my preference... 2 Likes |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by ednut1(m): 10:16pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Bartender wants to marry  You must be a fool |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by GboyegaD(m): 10:21pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
You should sieve all advice, weigh things through, and follow your decision. Most importantly, have you tried unravelling why she is a single mom, her character, and all you should know about her? Make your decision because you are objective and follow through. |
| Re: I Am 25 She Is 34 by Nobody: 10:25pm On Oct 13, 2022 |
Wizywiz:Lol.. . Good for you then. |
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