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Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 9:23am On Nov 15, 2022
ojun50:
Share the bills
Hmmm!!!! I'm short of words
Re: Should I Marry Her? by lereinter(m): 9:52am On Nov 15, 2022
You met her in October in a church program

How's her Christian life, is she truly Godly?

How's your own Christian life?

Why's she single, is she a divorce or a single mother?

Invite a true man of God into this your matter and stop accepting gift from her for now
Re: Should I Marry Her? by lereinter(m): 9:55am On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
I'll hold her tight baba!!! thanks
It seems you have concluded self
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 10:01am On Nov 15, 2022
lereinter:
You met her in October in a church program

How's her Christian life, is she truly Godly?

How's your own Christian life?

Why's she single, is she a divorce or a single mother?

Invite a true man of God into this your matter and stop accepting gift from her for now
OK bro! I'm not concluding yet!!!
I'll go see a man of God on the issue
Re: Should I Marry Her? by ojun50(m): 10:07am On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Hmmm!!!! I'm short of words
This kind of women you can hardly see them see them and i hope she is awere of the age difference
Re: Should I Marry Her? by omolasho: 10:22am On Nov 15, 2022
Bro your concerns are ok.
Respect and Peace of mind is what every man needs most in a woman
Marrying one of these liability girls doesn't guarantee submission and peace of mind either.

In view of these and in the worst case scenario, wouldn't you want to be someone that has somethings to your unborn children and your home?

Is she respectful and submissive to you.(best gift to a man)?

Would she be an ideal mother for your children; can she impact moral, academic, social and spiritual education on them(best gift you can ever give your unborn children is a good mother)?

Never underestimate Family Background History!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by jogsman01(m): 10:24am On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
haba!!! can't it just happen?
within a month? Ko possible bro. Shey na love at first sight... You go soon see shege grin
Re: Should I Marry Her? by intruder15(m): 10:32am On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!
Girls are not like guys that check who is more wealthy. What you should check is her character. How does she act when she is angry?

Is she the 'you did not greet me' type when kids pass by without greeting her.

Does she brag generally? Is she the Gucci or nothing crew?

If no to the list above then you are good to go.

She can help you build. When you have the knowledge and skills required to get better jobs, you will get it then take care of her.

Good women ain't common.

Hold on to the one you have if the red flags are manageable.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 10:36am On Nov 15, 2022
ojun50:
This kind of women you can hardly see them see them and i hope she is awere of the age difference
Yes!!! she is
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 10:37am On Nov 15, 2022
omolasho:
Bro your concerns are ok.
Respect and Peace of mind is what every man needs most in a woman
Marrying one of these liability girls doesn't guarantee submission and peace of mind either.

In view of these and in the worst case scenario, wouldn't you want to be someone that has somethings to your unborn children and your home?

Is she respectful and submissive to you.(best gift to a man)?

Would she be an ideal mother for your children; can she impact moral, academic, social and spiritual education on them(best gift you can ever give your unborn children is a good mother)?

Never underestimate Family Background History!
OK sir!!! I'll look into that
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 10:38am On Nov 15, 2022
jogsman01:
within a month? Ko possible bro. Shey na love at first sight... You go soon see shege grin
This no be love at first sight baba!!! we have being seeing each other in church since Feb this year but we were just on greeting terms!!!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 10:40am On Nov 15, 2022
intruder15:
Girls are not like guys that check who is more wealthy. What you should check is her character. How does she act when she is angry?

Is she the 'you did not greet me' type when kids pass by without greeting her.

Does she brag generally? Is she the Gucci or nothing crew?

If no to the list above then you are good to go.

She can help you build. When you have the knowledge and skills required to get better jobs, you will get it then take care of her.

Good women ain't common.

Hold on to the one you have if the red flags are manageable.
Noted baba!!!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by BeardedMeat(m): 12:06pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Her being nice is not related to kpekus issue oooh.
she has offered me so many things moni, cloth, footwear's, and so many more which I rejected , she just met me and she already wants to meet my family, she's so nice to me and my family
Ok o.

My advice to you is not to many her no matter how you love her. The age difference is too noticable. Can you withstand the side talks?

The age difference is my only problem and not her financial status.

But bro, truth is that you wear the shoes and know where it hurts most.

Follow your heart. You may be on the path of discovering the bone of your bones in an older lady.

Good luck in whatever you do.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by ojun50(m): 12:13pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Yes!!! she is
Ok
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 12:22pm On Nov 15, 2022
BeardedMeat:
Ok o.

My advice to you is not to many her no matter how you love her. The age difference is too noticable. Can you withstand the side talks?

The age difference is my only problem and not her financial status.

But bro, truth is that you wear the shoes and know where it hurts most.

Follow your heart. You may be on the path of discovering the bone of your bones in an older lady.

Good luck in whatever you do.
Hmmm!!! deep!!! thanks baba
Re: Should I Marry Her? by BeardedMeat(m): 1:08pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Hmmm!!! deep!!! thanks baba
Yes bro. Her financial status should not daunt you if you know who you are.

Rather, take charge and grow the family wealth.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 1:13pm On Nov 15, 2022
BeardedMeat:
Yes bro. Her financial status should not daunt you if you know who you are.

Rather, take charge and grow the family wealth.
Thanks bro!!!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by Rickmann: 1:51pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!
Whatever I tell you is now is what ill tell my brother.
Women cannot be understood nor trusted.
They are spontaneous and change like the weather.
She is saying all this to you now cos she is desperate.
She is gonna control you and always remind you of how she sponsored ur wedding. That will hurt ur pride and kill you faster, as a man.

I'm not going to tell you make a U turn on ur plans but Pls for ur sanity sake, think this through.

Good luck, my friend.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by jogsman01(m): 2:00pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
This no be love at first sight baba!!! we have being seeing each other in church since Feb this year but we were just on greeting terms!!!
your choice bro, your choice...... just don't come back here and tell us 'had I know'
Re: Should I Marry Her? by Baronthecelebri(m): 2:49pm On Nov 15, 2022
Na that kind woman I wan marry. But take time and sit her down, have heart to heart discussion. Work on yourself after marriage, once she mumu divorce her and move on. Go an.d marry her
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 3:35pm On Nov 15, 2022
Rickmann:
Whatever I tell you is now is what ill tell my brother.
Women cannot be understood nor trusted.
They are spontaneous and change like the weather.
She is saying all this to you now cos she is desperate.
She is gonna control you and always remind you of how she sponsored ur wedding. That will hurt ur pride and kill you faster, as a man.

I'm not going to tell you make a U turn on ur plans but Pls for ur sanity sake, think this through.

Good luck, my friend.
words of wisdom!!! baba I appreciate you!!! I will think it through
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 3:36pm On Nov 15, 2022
jogsman01:
your choice bro, your choice...... just don't come back here and tell us 'had I know'
I wont!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 3:36pm On Nov 15, 2022
Baronthecelebri:
Na that kind woman I wan marry. But take time and sit her down, have heart to heart discussion. Work on yourself after marriage, once she mumu divorce her and move on. Go an.d marry her
Thanks baba
Re: Should I Marry Her? by Oyiboman69: 4:26pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!

I know I can always count on your wonderful advice!!!


October this year I met this lady in one of our church programs and we became friends, from that friendship something deeper started and its eventually growing to become marriage.

Guys there is an issue at hand, she's older than me with 7years, she is rich and own her own business, house and other properties but she's not married, she just relocated from the US early this year before we met, Guys she's being nice and I won't hide that!!!



When she mentioned marriage I told her am not buoyant enough for an elaborate wedding that she wanted , she offered to sponsor everything, she even offered to buy me suit if I don't have the money to buy, she said she will carry everything from her side and my side. Guys all my life I've never met a lady like this!!! I'm scared and at the same time short of words!!! she's a worker , decent , respectful.

I rejected that offer because of my integrity as a man, she might want to use that against me in the future!!! Though I love her but u know women and their attitude, she might say I married her because of her wealth!!! Pls should I agree to it or reject this tempting offer and looking at it I'm in my early 30s and I really wanna get married.

At least I'm okay but not rich like her, and most times she offers me expensive gifts which I rejected , I have never collected any gift from her, the day I took her out payed the bills.

pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!
marry her but make sure she's pregnant for you before that cos she's seen a lot in life and her age too. She will ride on you no doubt but make sure you stand your ground as the man from the begin of the relationship. all fingers are not equal so is financial status and with time you can also surpass her maybe with her support which is also good.
Even after death, I can still remembers what my grand mother told me. If you follow a woman, 'you should go for the one who is a bit more stable in life cos it will surely makes life easy for you'.
But me as a handsome young man then,I felt love can makes a man grow and thereby playing the roles of parents to broke girlfriends all in the name of love. as a friend and as a brother, I'll advise you marry the lady,cos even the ones we works very hard to take care of are also ungreatful and wicked most times.let go of ego,friends will be proud of you,family will respect you,you'll have a stable marriage life,you'll be doing most things with ease. Love is not enough for marriage, you still have to have money and support from somewhere. I'll advise,from now on,you try and see if she is willing to support you financially in growing since she's capable of doing so cos most of these rich lady are selfish and wicked and also wants a man who can father a child for them ,and after that, they discard him.

Most of all,pay good attention to my first and last sentences because it sums up all I have to tell you.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by MarketDispatch: 4:53pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Good evening my people!!!



pls help me my able nairalanders!!!!
You have seen wealth around her, find out if the wealth is from the actual work and business she does or it is from the Sugar Daddies she has on her contacts.

If it is from Sugar Daddies, do not think she will stop or delete her contacts after she marries you....she will only be hiding it so, dig well and dig deep.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by Crampyblood(m): 4:58pm On Nov 15, 2022
'You're in your early 30s' and she's at least older with 7 years, which means she's around 40 right?




Now I have three questions;
1.. do you intend to have your own kids?
2.. what is the real reason why you want to get saddled with a 40 year old woman?
3.. is the above reason greater than your own sanity and peace of mind in the near future?




If you no get enough sense to answer the above questions go meet person wey get sense to help you answer... Once you've answered the questions you'll have the answer to your original question nay confusion..





Please I sell tokunbo motor shafts with 6 months warranty, please check my signature
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 5:05pm On Nov 15, 2022
Crampyblood:
'You're in your early 30s' and she's at least older with 7 years, which means she's around 40 right?




Now I have three questions;
1.. do you intend to have your own kids?
2.. what is the real reason why you want to get saddled with a 40 year old woman?
3.. is the above reason greater than your own sanity and peace of mind in the near future?




If you no get enough sense to answer the above questions go meet person wey get sense to help you answer... Once you've answered the questions you'll have the answer to your original question nay confusion..





Please I sell tokunbo motor shafts with 6 months warranty, please check my signature
I'll reflect on the questions asked!!! thanks
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 5:05pm On Nov 15, 2022
MarketDispatch:
You have seen wealth around her, find out if the wealth is from the actual work and business she does or it is from the Sugar Daddies she has on her contacts.

If it is from Sugar Daddies, do not think she will stop or delete her contacts after she marries you....she will only be hiding it so, dig well and dig deep.
Thanks baba
Re: Should I Marry Her? by udofia234(op): 5:08pm On Nov 15, 2022
Oyiboman69:
marry her but make sure she's pregnant for you before that cos she's seen a lot in life and her age too. She will ride on you no doubt but make sure you stand your ground as the man from the begin of the relationship. all fingers are not equal so is financial status and with time you can also surpass her maybe with her support which is also good.
Even after death, I can still remembers what my grand mother told me. If you follow a woman, 'you should go for the one who is a bit more stable in life cos it will surely makes life easy for you'.
But me as a handsome young man then,I felt love can makes a man grow and thereby playing the roles of parents to broke girlfriends all in the name of love. as a friend and as a brother, I'll advise you marry the lady,cos even the ones we works very hard to take care of are also ungreatful and wicked most times.let go of ego,friends will be proud of you,family will respect you,you'll have a stable marriage life,you'll be doing most things with ease. Love is not enough for marriage, you still have to have money and support from somewhere. I'll advise,from now on,you try and see if she is willing to support you financially in growing since she's capable of doing so cos most of these rich lady are selfish and wicked and also wants a man who can father a child for them ,and after that, they discard him.

Most of all,pay good attention to my first and last sentences because it sums up all I have to tell you.
word of wisdom!!! thanks baba!!! you get level!!!
Re: Should I Marry Her? by freddie009(m): 5:23pm On Nov 15, 2022
dnawah:
another man's meat is another man's poison.give me let me eat grin grin
I dey tell you baba, is not easy though. It is easy to date but when it comes to marriage baba e hard, especially from a place like Nigeria. Everybody go just they sing, he got married to her because of her money. If you do not have a strong mind it won't be easy.
Re: Should I Marry Her? by placeofallure(f): 5:28pm On Nov 15, 2022
udofia234:
Thanks dear!!! You are indeed full of wisdom!!!
grin We're gradually going into extinction.
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