Marriage is a fact of life which some people will engage in while many won’t. It is not an achievement in any way. Many who married young back in the day are suffering terrible divorces now.

mjuvey3:


That means you're not a great man.

Great men get married and raise offsprings

Nothing but the truth

ur assumptions are correct, marriage is not an achievement

Marriage is an achievement. I want to be married.

Marriage is an achievement only for the ladies. It gives them the opportunity to dump their problems on their husbands.

You see even a jobless lady running her mouth anyhow for her husband who has to go out even under the rain to make money lest hell would be let loose by jobless madam.

If not for the love of children, many men would not get married and even those who mistakenly marry would run out in a short while. But children are something else! Once they are there a man is greatly motivated to work harder and make more money to keep them taken care of and happy.

People like to deceive themselves that marriage is about companionship, but that is never the case. Many men would rather prefer the company of friends than that of women.

LagosIsForIgbos:


This is the error Africans pass on to their generations, believe that the shit you wrote up there is what defines MEN from BOYS. A man is a man, and a boy is a boy, there's no distinction, no comparison and no debates about it.

so stay sterile and don't chase after women. A man without responsibility is likened to a riffraff. Stay unmarried and remain a junkie at 50. NOTE: If marriage is not vital you won't see STATUS in any document. There is no justification for a grown up to remain unmarried. It is cawardice. Pls leave Africa and go to Europe and remain a Junkie at 50 yrs. If your parents had that mentality, u won't be breathing on planet Earth.

First, define achievement, then we will take it up from there.

Bigchristo:
Its only in Nigeria people make big deals out of marriage and childbirth a white woman or man can decided not to get married he or she will still be happy with his or her life, marriage is not for everybody, na only who never see waiting Dey follow marriage Dey envy couples wey dey snap pictures, before you start talking rubbish I have been married since 2016 I have 3 kids so not be new thing to me

Who told you that the single white women are happy being single? Abi don't you see them falling for boys online just because no man?

That someone laughs everyday doesn't mean he/she is happy.

If you are not happy in your home, others are

#MARRY_RIGHT

Marriage is only desirable but not an achievement!
Jesus, Paul, Anna, Martha, Jeremiah, Ruth, Joseph, Nehemiah and Mary Magdalene are examples scripturally.
If you find your marital soulmate, good for you. If not, live your life to the fullest!
You can procreate without marrying too!

It's a big achievement

womenareapezz:
don't marry NAIJA women simple

Those female gorillas park a whole lots of mental problems as give away gift

If naija women are a problem why do people travel as far as UK and America and still comeback to find a wife from home?

You think you are smarter than them?

Abi1985:
Na marry you marry, don't come and be disturbing those who are not married. Just because you marry today does not mean you are better than those who are not married.

Please do not let your friend wedding oppress you, some married people are suffering and smiling. They will not tell you that the wife they marry na Jezebel associate or a runs girl or the husband they marry is a womanizer or an abusive man. They will do one big wedding today, then 9 months or 3 years later they divorce.

Personally I enjoy weddings because I can eat some correct food.

If your people are asking when are you getting married? Tell them when you do not want marry a Jezebel or a wicked or selfish man. Because after the wedding, you are on your own.

Na so they arrange one woman from village for me to marry, I just dey laugh and ignore. I enjoyed my bachelorhood, please let me enjoy my life. I do not want problem.

Marry when you want marry, do not let anyone pressure you to marry or who you will marry.

If marriage was an achievement in God's sight, Jesus would have married to fulfil all righteousness.

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so stay sterile and don't chase after women.

I fvck women, and it's a biological process. It doesn't make me less human.

A man without responsibility is likened to a riffraff. Stay unmarried and remain a junkie at 50.

Come to my area to see married folks doing internet fraud, rituals, killings and armed robbery. Your argument holds no water here.

NOTE: If marriage is not vital you won't see STATUS in any document.

Married or not, when you have money, you can do anything you like.

There is no justification for a grown up to remain unmarried. It is cawardice. Pls leave Africa and go to Europe and remain a Junkie at 50 yrs.

I've been to Morocco and Tuvalu, unmarried people are making waves. Even Telsa said "A married man can never be an inventor".

If your parents had that mentality, u won't be breathing on planet Earth.

Even if my parents didn't marry, they'll still be useful and be valuable to the society.

MissLAP:


If naija women are a problem why do people travel as far as UK and America and still comeback to find a wife from home?

You think you are smarter than them?

sorry! I don't engage convo with gorillas!

ShaqFu:
Marriage isn't an achievement. This is a standard fact well known. The high rate of divorce and infidelity is testament to the fact that marriage isn't an achievement.

Those who are carrying it on their heads as if it's an achievement, are empty and hollow inside their marital life. They will never let you know this, all they will make you see is the falsehood they post on social media and the likes. Believe me, these people are weeping inside.

Please don't pass your judgement based on the failed marriage you've seen for when you see a happy couple you will want to get married again!

The problem is that most men proposed to their wives by mere looking at their breast and nyash.

You are 37 years op . True or false.

womenareapezz:
sorry! I don't engage convo with gorillas!

Then stop passing unrealistic thoughts on public forum. You want to poison people's minds from marriage.

Ajehkpako4naija:
you sound like a pained person. Don't deceive yourself bro. Marriage is an achievement. It distinguishes MEN from Boys. A married man of 25 years with a kid is more respected by nature and the society and more honourable to God than a 40yrs old man still jumping from one skirt to the other shying away from responsibility. Get that into your fragile skull.

You mean that a 25 years old homeless amajiri with two wives and six kids is more respected in the society than a 40 years old CEO that has not seen the right woman?

Money is what separate Men from Boys. Marriage suppose to be a crown for boys that had graduate to men by making money.
As a young man, the ripe age for you to take risks and overcome poverty is btw 30-40 years.
Marriage can hinder you from taking risk hence if you rushes into marriage without first making money, you will likely remain in poverty till death.

There is nothing wrong in marrying early but if someone is from a poor home and wants to be an acheiver on Earth, then early marriage should not be option unless the bride is from a rich home that can assist him.

Who are you to set for other people what should be there achievement. It's just a pity how people carry other people's wahala for head like cap
. Even you in your grandeur, what u call a real achievement in ur life is the lowest point for another person. So live ur life and let others live theirs.

godofuck231:
when you have love even your child looking into your eyes daily ,telling you "i love you" that alone will deter you from suicide

So that man who jumped in the River and drowned himself sometime this year didn't have love when he looked into his child's eyes daily? Or was the child some sort of emere that deprived his Father of this love you speak of?

It's not an ACHIEVEMENT at its onset, but the character you marry can make it an achievement.

meobizy:
Marriage is a fact of life which some people will engage in while many won’t. It is not an achievement in any way. Many who married young back in the day are suffering terrible divorces now.

Then marriage isn't a fact of life but an option in life.

jesusjnr2020:
If marry was an achievement in God's sight, Jesus would have married to fulfil all righteousness.

Jesus and even Paul specifically said it's better not to marry!

But this particular aspect of the Bible, many people always shy to read it

In all aspects. As a man is better not to marry and have the whole peace of mind than to marry a liability these days

99.9% of Nigeria women are all liability and looking for who to dump their poverty lifestyle on

Ask a woman "what do you bring to the table" either those apes say they are the tablet themselves or bring rest of mind, peace and love!

If you are the table you are still classify as a liability because a table is always empty unless someone put something ontop

The moment you realise that women ain't worth it that's the very moment you are free from all useless manipulation

godofuck231:
when you have love even your child looking into your eyes daily ,telling you "i love you" that alone will deter you from suicide

Marriage is not a solution to loneliness. If you're lonely, don't look for a wide or husband, look for friends

godofuck231:
Wait make you reach 50 , every rope you see will look like a suicide instrument, you don't know what loneliness does to the human mind, try and live in iceland or Denmark for 5 years alone

Stop lying to folks because you are afraid to be alone..

Abi1985:


Old enough to be married

that's why u are bitter. Marriage makes u responsible, it makes u plan more for the future � its not just about you. It makes u more patient. There are tons of benefits in being married. I married very late because I was thinking like u,its been 10 years now but I wish I'd married 20years ago

Well, for me marriage is not achievement but I'm soon planning to marry and two reasons why I want to marry is to take care of my wife and love her the way she deserves... I'm not getting married because I want people to congratulate me or see me as anything special...

LagosIsForIgbos:


You can birth kids without the rigours of marriage.

Na mama and papa dey train pikin o

not an achievement just a phase of life to be accomplished in ones life time

My marriage to DJ Cuppy would be an Achievement

Go and verify

Kobojunkie:
Then marriage isn't a fact of life but an option in life.

Yes.

rollywise:



Na mama and papa dey train pikin o

But the West you revere said Na papa and papa or Na mama and mama dey train pikin.

What changed?