CheapHomes1:


If the purpose of marriage doesn't make sense to you, why do you think it shouldn't make sense to me. If you don't want it to make sense to you, that's your choice. Like I said, when folks like eventually get in and start failing at it, you start blaming the marriage.

Who asked you become a "suitable marriageable man just so you can get another individual who would become your 'companion' in this world so full of people"?

Ok, do you just wake up and get married just like that, without money, jobs or personal business In this part of the world

Ajehkpako4naija:
so stay sterile and don't chase after women. A man without responsibility is likened to a riffraff. Stay unmarried and remain a junkie at 50. NOTE: If marriage is not vital you won't see STATUS in any document. There is no justification for a grown up to remain unmarried. It is cawardice. Pls leave Africa and go to Europe and remain a Junkie at 50 yrs. If your parents had that mentality, u won't be breathing on planet Earth.

We are not saying that people should not get married. What we are saying is that people should stop seeing marriage as an achievement and a priority in life.

Hence a Single man should see making money and building a carrier as a priority. When he has made enough money to sustain a family and laid a solid foundation for his carrier , he can now happily get married.

It is only a fool that uses his first savings for marriage.

Marriage should be a secondary adventure for a man after he had fufilled the primary adventures.

This is what differentiate an educated youth from an amajiri in the north who sees marriage as the greatest achievement on Earth.

9jayes:
Marriage only favors the women reason why they don’t like rivals, immediately you marry the second wife like this you will see productivity in both of them.


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Marriage favours men, once they marry you, they don't want to see another man near their wives

They can be very jealous

Jman06:
Ok, do you just wake up and get married just like that, without money, jobs or personal business In this part of the world

You haven't answered my question. Who asked you become a "suitable marriageable man just so you can get another individual who would become your 'companion' in this world so full of people"?

So those people who didn't find God's women means they have not achieved huh

bunmmy5:
Hmmmm, Marriage is one of the greatest accomplishment of every living things on earth according the plans of God for man.

Firstly, The bibles says he who find a wife has found a good thing and obtain favor from the Lord. What is more in this word that favor of God?. The only ceremonial event Jesus ever attended and merry on earth was the wedding in Canaan.

The first marriage on earth created the world we currently live in.

Therefore, if you are privileged to find the Gods woman for you life do not hesitate to do the right thing as commanded by God.

Note: Marriage is not meant for everyone same where everyone cannot become the Governor or President.

Thanks you all

MissLAP:


Who told you that the single white women are happy being single? Abi don't you see them falling for boys online just because no man?

That someone laughs everyday doesn't mean he/she is happy.

If you are not happy in your home, others are

#MARRY_RIGHT

See your small brain you think young white people fall for romance scam? They’re smarter than you do, na old women Dey fall for those things, mind you I never said I am not happy in my home, but those people making marriage a big deal pushes people who aren’t ready to marry when they’re supposed to be hustling and building careers that will help their future, in Nigeria someone that’s not financially buoyant will be subjected to pay long list of traditional marriage rights and also rent hall spend little savings just to impress people that’s he is marrying after then suffer start those family members and friends who advise you to do it will be in their homes enjoy their life while you will be running around paying debts and also finding a means to care for your new family be wise lots of people are suffering behind close doors in their marriages which you don’t know

advanceDNA:
Go and tell that to women that get cars, houses, and millions tgey ddnt work for after marriage...

If u marry [b]strategically.....u go know say marriage na acheivement......

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I like that.

CheapHomes1:


sorry i dont "see how marriage before fulfilling your purpose on Earth can prevent you from fulfilling your purpose on Earth". you told just one story of two guys and you think it is a basis for condemning marriage across the whole earth made up of 7billion people. pls try again.

Which one is "carrier"?

pls tell me, are there no married men and women in Africa and across who are married and successful? are the successful people in the world today unmarried?

You keep missing the point. Marriage is wonderful , every man on Earth suppose to get married one day and have his own family.

However the problem is young men and women have turn marriage to their greatest ambition on Earth. No man or woman with that mentality has achieve greatness on Earth.

How can a young man of 30 yrs earning a salary of less than #100,000 start thinking of marriage. Can't he delay the thought of marriage for few more years and try acquiring more education that will improve his salary or even use his savings to start a business.

He will eventually get married when he becomes financially stronger and has laid a solid foundation for his carrier.

If we see marriage as the greatest achievement on Earth then we are the same as the amajiris in the north who can sell all their inheritance at an early age so as to marry a young girl of their dream.

womenareapezz:
you talked like an illeterate

Statistically proven! Married men cheat a lot than single men! So what you are talking is practically meaningless!

A high percentage of men are not happy deep down in Their marriage life and wish to be single


I know your type! Once you see a 16yrs old girl you quickly develop an election

your dad's erection u mean

godofuck231:
Wait make you reach 50 , every rope you see will look like a suicide instrument, you don't know what loneliness does to the human mind, try and live in iceland or Denmark for 5 years alone

Can a human with friends, neighbours, colleagues, business associates, staff, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, adopted children, countless societal legacies AND close extended family members.... be said to be lonely? Even at 60??

godofuck231:
except you want born bastard ,

You just proved my theory

Abi1985:
Na marry you marry, don't come and be disturbing those who are not married. Just because you marry today does not mean you are better than those who are not married.

Please do not let your friend wedding oppress you, some married people are suffering and smiling. They will not tell you that the wife they marry na Jezebel associate or a runs girl or the husband they marry is a womanizer or an abusive man. They will do one big wedding today, then 9 months or 3 years later they divorce.

Personally I enjoy weddings because I can eat some correct food.

If your people are asking when are you getting married? Tell them when you do not want marry a Jezebel or a wicked or selfish man. Because after the wedding, you are on your own.

Na so they arrange one woman from village for me to marry, I just dey laugh and ignore. I enjoyed my bachelorhood, please let me enjoy my life. I do not want problem.

Marry when you want marry, do not let anyone pressure you to marry or who you will marry.

Marriage is an achievement to some and may not be to others. For the fact people are posting pictures with their spouse, it’s not to oppress anyone but it’s you who is viewing it with jealousy that is why you are feeling oppressed. In a nutshell,Stop viewing people’s happy moments with jealousy.

LagosIsForIgbos:


This is the error Africans pass on to their generations, believe that the shit you wrote up there is what defines MEN from BOYS. A man is a man, and a boy is a boy, there's no distinction, no comparison and no debates about it.

sorry to add a successful man at 25. I repeat a SUCCESSFUL MAN at 25 getting married and fulfilled is better than a SUCCESSFUL MAN at 45 yrs and yet single and looking for Mrs right! The time factor is a vital role in this concept, so if u like keep on chasing money till 50. It will be an error to go for school runs at 65!....Lol

DownChelsea:

Can a human with friends, neighbours, colleagues, business associates, staff, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, adopted children, countless societal legacies AND close extended family members.... be said to be lonely? Even at 60??

I sound gibberish

I see assworshippers.....


This is all have seen

godofuck231:
Wait make you reach 50 , every rope you see will look like a suicide instrument, you don't know what loneliness does to the human mind, try and live in iceland or Denmark for 5 years alone

So what happens if they stay there for that long?

Marriage is not an achievement, yet a woman will leave his farhers house and even change her surname to the man she married and the man and women status in the society will be upgraded and they will be respected more in the society, yet people claim marriage is not an achievement, so why are u folks getting married then ??

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godofuck231:
when you have love even your child looking into your eyes daily ,telling you "i love you" that alone will deter you from suicide

If you need "your child" to deter you from suicide then I'm afraid you have a much bigger problem to contend with than whether you're married or not.

Besides you don't have to be married to have a child, do you?

Danisaint112:


So what happens if they stay there for that long?

a Swedish death

Abi1985:


Old enough to be married

If you are lucky to marry your soul mate, it will be the greatest decision and accomplishment of your life! But if you marry a wrong person, it will be your worst decision ever made. Everyone should try and marry the right person because you don't want to joke with loneliness from your middle age till old age.

DownChelsea:

Can a human with friends, neighbours, colleagues, business associates, staff, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, adopted children, countless societal legacies AND close extended family members.... be said to be lonely? Even at 60??

yep , ask lekki babes during the lockdown or those in Europe who committed suicide due to the covid lockdwn

godofuck231:
a Swedish death

Like the swedish will kill the person or what? Don't get you? Because I know people that have been living there all their life.

Dont marry wait until you are 65yrs you will know if its achievement or not

DownChelsea:

Can a human with friends, neighbours, colleagues, business associates, staff, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, adopted children, countless societal legacies AND close extended family members.... be said to be lonely? Even at 60??

Even in addition to having your own biological children, you're still very much prone to loneliness if you don't have a wife or husband. This is because none of these people would be waiting for you at home everyday, your children will move out eventually at certain ages. The only person you are going to grow old with is your partner.

Abi1985:
Na marry you marry, don't come and be disturbing those who are not married. Just because you marry today does not mean you are better than those who are not married.

Please do not let your friend wedding oppress you, some married people are suffering and smiling. They will not tell you that the wife they marry na Jezebel associate or a runs girl or the husband they marry is a womanizer or an abusive man. They will do one big wedding today, then 9 months or 3 years later they divorce.

Personally I enjoy weddings because I can eat some correct food.

If your people are asking when are you getting married? Tell them when you do not want marry a Jezebel or a wicked or selfish man. Because after the wedding, you are on your own.

Na so they arrange one woman from village for me to marry, I just dey laugh and ignore. I enjoyed my bachelorhood, please let me enjoy my life. I do not want problem.

Marry when you want marry, do not let anyone pressure you to marry or who you will marry.

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MARRIAGE IS AN ACHIEVEMENT.

There are stages in life.

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godofuck231:
I though you knew him that well since you concluded, never jump into other peoples conclusions, that man never complained to you

You concluded that the love when he looked into the eyes of his child every day ought to have kept him from committing suicide. Now you rope his wife into it because that conclusion of yours turned out to be nothing but bullsheet?

Moh247:
My marriage to DJ Cuppy would be an Achievement

Go and verify

shatap stop talking nonsense

TheRealestGuy:
If you need "your child" to deter you from suicide then I'm afraid you have a much bigger problem to contend with than whether you're married or not.

Besides you don't have to be married to have a child, do you?

Huge issue indeed!

Abi1985:
Na marry you marry, don't come and be disturbing those who are not married. Just because you marry today does not mean you are better than those who are not married.

Please do not let your friend wedding oppress you, some married people are suffering and smiling. They will not tell you that the wife they marry na Jezebel associate or a runs girl or the husband they marry is a womanizer or an abusive man. They will do one big wedding today, then 9 months or 3 years later they divorce.

Personally I enjoy weddings because I can eat some correct food.

If your people are asking when are you getting married? Tell them when you do not want marry a Jezebel or a wicked or selfish man. Because after the wedding, you are on your own.

Na so they arrange one woman from village for me to marry, I just dey laugh and ignore. I enjoyed my bachelorhood, please let me enjoy my life. I do not want problem.

Marry when you want marry, do not let anyone pressure you to marry or who you will marry.

Stay single in peace and let the married stay married in peace. Enough of all the 'marriage is not an achievement' bullshit.
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Deep down everyone wish to be married.

maasoap:
Even in addition to having your own biological children, you're still very much prone to loneliness if you don't have a wife or husband. This is because none of these people would be waiting for you at home everyday, your children will move out eventually at certain ages. The only person you are going to grow old with is your partner.

Wow... so all the married men and women out there who remain lonely and are ever looking outside for someone to come make them whole are what?

It hasn't occurred to you that the reason many of our married men and women continue looking outside of marriage for a sidechick and a half or the other has to do with loneliness in marriage?

MissLAP:

Please don't pass your judgement based on the failed marriage you've seen for when you see a happy couple you will want to get married again!

The problem is that most men proposed to their wives by mere looking at their breast and nyash.

I'm not passing judgement on anything because of what I've seen. I believe you don't know when you get married, you let go of a whole lot of things, even the things you love...

Now here you are passing judgement on men, as if the men held a gun to the woman's head and forced her to accept...

MikeofAfrica:


You keep missing the point. Marriage is wonderful , every man on Earth suppose to get married one day and have his own family.

However the problem is young men and women have turn marriage to their greatest ambition on Earth. No man or woman with that mentality has achieve greatness on Earth.

How can a young man of 30 yrs earning a salary of less than #100,000 start thinking of marriage. Can't he delay the thought of marriage for few more years and try acquiring more education that will improve his salary or even use his savings to start a business.

He will eventually get married when he becomes financially stronger and has laid a solid foundation for his carrier.

If we see marriage as the greatest achievement on Earth then we are the same as the amajiris in the north who can sell all their inheritance at an early age so as to marry a young girl of their dream.

You can't wait forever and you shouldn't wait forever! Acquiring more education is not a guarantee of more success, individual should just know when to stop postponing.
I have a friend, (age mate) I have been telling to get married since 2015 but he kept saying he wants to struggle a little bit more. We were doing business together at the time but not anymore. My first kid is 10 this year and my friend hasn't yet married. And he's not more financially buoyant than me.