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I will recommend you to quite now if you thing to live long

This one belongs to the streets, hit and run or marry and wail. The Choice is yours bro.

You still need me or others to tell u to japa?

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Earlier in the life of our relationship, she told me of how she lived with her deceased eldest sister as a teenager and her husband routinely abused her. She was cold and sad saying it, I felt her pains too, I asked if the man was sleeping with her and she was silent; I took this to mean yes.
Fast forward to when we began planning marriage, she wanted me to talk to same brother-in-law as an important member of her family. I reminded her of the abuse charge against the man but she denied it, saying the man wanted to date her while she lived under his roof and that she refused, that he never slept with her. Now he revers the man as a good man, that they are still in touch.

Please advise me.

That girl is using ur head to play gangan (talking drum)

My brother, you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Earlier in the life of our relationship, she told me of how she lived with her deceased eldest sister as a teenager and her husband routinely abused her. She was cold and sad saying it, I felt her pains too, I asked if the man was sleeping with her and she was silent; I took this to mean yes.
Fast forward to when we began planning marriage, she wanted me to talk to same brother-in-law as an important member of her family. I reminded her of the abuse charge against the man but she denied it, saying the man wanted to date her while she lived under his roof and that she refused, that he never slept with her. Now he revers the man as a good man, that they are still in touch.

Please advise me.

she is a manipulator and a liar.Quit now or else you will blame yourself later when the truth comes out,and it will be too ugly for you to deal with.

KillSars:
U are taking things too fast...

She might not be cheating, but she is a hell of a liar...

.

She may not be cheating, yen yen yen. Why is she lying if she's not cheating?

Oga, you're ready to marry a farm implement so continue.

KillSars:
U are taking things too fast...

She might not be cheating, but she is a hell of a liar...

She dey hide her past now, when these past start showing demselves, u sure say u go fit handle am..

for her mind now, she is done with her past but is her past done with her?...
just take things slow now, bro.. make instablog no go carry ur mata

Sit her down and knack better talk inside her skull, after that dey observe, no rush anything....

Wow Shes probably not cheating but hell of a liar wow nice one a liar but not a cheater wow bravo

GOFRONT:
They will come now to tell you how you have Trust issues....

confused set of people

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

So make he wait till he come marry her before he begin dey do him checkings, tomorrow now we go read am for breaking news as he take happen

Very pathetic

I swear you are on point o
I was like wow so make he marry am till he go study person he won marry abi
And if he complain after marriage same people go say why he no study am before he marry her

Hmm. Please keep looking for someone with a better past. The house she rented is paid by a man that probably is her sugardaddy. He will not visit that house he rented for her but they have their meeting point. All those other guys are her Helpers for small favours she may offer sex in return. Lastly why do you want to marry a lady staying alone? Be careful

please go ahead with the marriage, and tell me when your barrier will come up I will like to attend,

temizeee:
I swear you are on point o
I was like wow so make he marry am till he go study person he won marry abi
And if he complain after marriage same people go say why he no study am before he marry her

Wotoporiously speaking

Leave that manchi he nor Sabi wetin he dey cap

Guy let me advice you. Since her work college know road to her room. Buy a camera teddy bear and gift to her hang it in her room. There you will get ur answers. You go dy see as d guy man dy carry ur babe leg hang for ceiling dy knack am.....kpom-kpom-kpom

Church girl no dey collect prik? Or swear say you never chop the girl?
Drop her number lemme test her for you.

Some of you will die of hypertension before your time. Women will always be hit on, even the married one.

I've never and will never go about searching or probing a woman. My principle is if I catch you and its glaring, you're gone. I don't forgive and I let them know.

Oga, for now there's nothing concrete. Don't kill yourself with stress. Cheaters always slip, watch out for any concrete slip.

zed7:
Some of you will die of hypertension before your time. Women will always be hit on, even the married one.

I've never and will never go about searching or probing a woman. My principle is if I catch you and its glaring, you're gone. I don't forgive and I let them know.

Oga, for now there's nothing concrete. Don't kill yourself with stress. Cheaters always slip, watch out for any concrete slip.

Certainly very interesting reasoning with which I partly agree. I've run into one problem that's been bothering me a bit. I've started to notice that my girlfriend is spending more and more time on Taimi.com is this a cause for concern? We have no mistrust in our relationship, and she says she's just spending time talking to interesting people there. But I think she's communicating and expecting something more than just socializing.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Earlier in the life of our relationship, she told me of how she lived with her deceased eldest sister as a teenager and her husband routinely abused her. She was cold and sad saying it, I felt her pains too, I asked if the man was sleeping with her and she was silent; I took this to mean yes.
Fast forward to when we began planning marriage, she wanted me to talk to same brother-in-law as an important member of her family. I reminded her of the abuse charge against the man but she denied it, saying the man wanted to date her while she lived under his roof and that she refused, that he never slept with her. Now he revers the man as a good man, that they are still in touch.

Please advise me.

First and foremost, The fact that you are sensitive and observant is the bomb for me man ....
Right from your first paragraph about you being ok with her faults ....shows you have understanding about relationships


Now listen to me...i know you like her but your girl knows too much and have rolled with so many men...she sounds like a nympho...
She appears to be someone who can have sex with just anybody that suits her..

Must have slept with that politician sef... don't forget lying is not a sin in the relationship book of a lady as long as it will save her from shame...

You will have to put her to test with someone she doesn't know you with.....very important ...

Try her that way for the last time...

Anyway, You ma kind of man....

We don't fall in love...we stand in love and pay attention

Nonexisting1:
Brother, why are you trying so hard to personalize community property?

Don't worry, he will pay dearly for it with PREMIUM TEARS

levbigboss:
Certainly very interesting reasoning with which I partly agree. I've run into one problem that's been bothering me a bit. I've started to notice that my girlfriend is spending more and more time on Taimi.com is this a cause for concern? We have no mistrust in our relationship, and she says she's just spending time talking to interesting people there. But I think she's communicating and expecting something more than just socializing.

Don't stress yourself, if your girl finds a better alternative, she'll certainly go amd so will you.
When a woman leaves your house, she's for everyone. However, if you catch her cheating on you red handed, please take a walk. Don't ever forgive a cheater if you're sure that she actually cheated.

In my opinion, a girlfriend talking with other men cannot be considered cheating, shes a free agent and weighing her options. I wouldn't consider it cheating except I know she's having sex with them. On the other hand, a fiancee or wife talking with other men is cheating and there is no excuse for that.

That's my principle and belief, others don't have to agree but it's the reason I've never been heartbroken and have a happy marriage.