He can be jailed, juvenile prison; rape case, he will be jailed.

Promotions:
this case weak me, I can't just imagine the rapist sef is 14 and your kid 2.. na to beat the life out of that boy cos I doubt he can be jailed due to his age

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

don't act when you're mad. Take time and relocate elsewhere to heal but don't divorce her because you will regret it. Talk things out with her afterwards and make her know she lost your trust to an extent but I repeat DO NOT divorce her.

co787:


Yes I have the medical record and a voices record of my wife and her mother confessing that's more than enough evidences the marriage was over the day she choose to hide the secret from me I am not fighting to save the marriage because there's nothing to save all I want is justice for my baby girl

Please keep the house updated. May the Lord God give you and your baby the strength to overcome this trying time. I feel like crying for the little girl.

hifocus:


O universe! Punish me not with a dumb husband, for it's better to walk the ends of the earth 10 times than to have the misfortune of having a husband as foolish as this Op. When you pray, instead of praying to God for riches, pray for wisdom for wisdom is all encompassing. That's all I have to say on this matter.

Are you blaming the op because his daughter got raped? What's your point exactly?

I understand how angry you must be, and your anger is justified.
However, remember that your wife is also traumatized even more than you.
First her beloved daughter is abused by her own flesh and blood, her own brother gives her the unkindest cut and family ties forces her not to punish him as he deserves, lastly; she's forced to hide this from you not because she doesn't trust you, but because of the sordidness of the whole situation.

By your own admission, she has lost weight. A testament to her inner turmoil and distress. This matter has been eating her up, and when she was almost bursting open had to confide in someone, just to gain clarity and consolation.

Bros, it is not your wife's fault that her brother defiled your daughter, her only offense is keeping it from you.
Now let me ask you, if the situation were reversed, would you have acted differently, or would you be tempted or persuaded to grieve quietly and nurse your child?

When you answer these questions honestly, you'll gain the clarity that you seek.

PS: At your earliest convenience, get that little monster arrested and commited to a juvenile home. Also get someone to give him a proper arse whooping for good measure.

STARGREEN:
So deep, yet trust me she's equally feeling bad as much as you are that her own brother that should have protected her daughter is now the evil she's scared of.

It's not a sufficient reason to divorce her, but it's a sufficient reason to ask for space until you heal.

Trust me, you gonna overcome this issue with time. Get back to your feet bro.

Really? Shut up my friend

DaInferno:
Tough one

My questions are thus:
1. Why didn't you arrest the rapist as well?
2. What exactly are you offended at your wife for?

Do you really think it's divorce worthy?!
She isn't the rapist.

@bukatyne needs to see this

For hiding it from him

I was angry when I first commented.OP I think your wife has suffered enough in jail already.Go and release her.Then go to the village and Bleep shit up or expose or arrest the boy and don't ever contact them,cut them off as a form of punishment and ask your wife to choose between her extended family and her baby.
Imagine if you are not alive that is how your baby girl would be destroyed.I mean protect your family more now.Your wife made a mistake at least she has seen you are not someone to joked with.Just to have a stable family for your daughter don't divorce her.If she moves mad later you can divorce her.Sir but dint trust her.

@clathrin@,mens83,@ibechris...are you guys for real......
Oh boy.. see nairalanders with diff epistles that makes no iota of sense,some even claiming wise ones all to sound woke..
A woman can spite her own child to protect a future killer/sexual predator.
She didnt even bother to take her child for help both psychologically and medically.
She came back to the same house and lived with the father of the child for weeks and kept mum, meanwhile she would have had sex with her husband,cuddled,cooked his favourite food during the same period-(shows a demonic heart).
During holidays her husband can unknowingly take same child to the village of the demonic rapist so her daughter can be raped again and again.
The womans silence is demonic spiritually and in criminal law she is an accomplice together with her mother..
She has destroyed every atom of trust,self confidence and happiness her daughter has,except the father quickly changes things around..
Imagine someone even said she lost weight cos she felt bad... Her 2 years old daughter for crying out loud.....

My advice for you op.. bail her immediately but never sleep under the same roof with her ever,and in the village go with armed military men to her house...never go alone nor let them know where you will sleep..

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

this case tire me, because my case is similar to mine,

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

Devastating it is in every aspect and all ratification

Please try to bail your wife i know how you feel and think and it is indeed disappointing of her, bail her maybe not a divorce but give her a new treat of discipline i mean with actions that would not only give her every reason to judge rightful also do and act rightful

Your wife did not do well not telling it to you no matter what in as much as you raised the child together, she should have done that somehow someway.

She wanted covering up for her brother i understand but should have also disciplined him her own self at least, because there is no how you would hear of it and knowing she punished him as well still go on to inflict more punishments. Somehow you would not have been very upset, it would have been adjusted..

What if that little child tend to grow with "my mum's younger brother raped me and there was nothing she did about it"? That child would have inner hatred for her mum i tell you...

She did wrong and very very wrong, please treat your child take great care of her too....



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Your wife erred by not telling you. But this is probably because because she knows your temperament.
Putting your wife in jail for more than 24hrs without trial is WRONG and AGAINST the law.
If care is not taking, you may live to regret your action. That is why you should not act hastily when you're angry.
If I were you, I would not arrest my wife; It is the boy that I would deal with, and mercilessly. Your wife is also a victim as much as you are.

WORK ON YOUR TEMPERAMENT SO THAT YOUR CLOSE ONES WILL NOT BE SCARED TO OPEN UP TO YOU IN THE FUTURE.

lendahand:
don't act when you're mad. Take time and relocate elsewhere to heal but don't divorce her because you will regret it. Talk things out with her afterwards and make her know she lost your trust to an extent but I repeat DO NOT divorce her.

Yes I am so angry now I wish i had the power to take the law with my own hands I would have gone to nnewi to cut that useless boy penis then shot him and put the useless penis inside his mouth but i am trying to be calm because I want the law to do its work like I said earlier i will not save the marriage it is already over all I want is justice for my baby girl

You took the right and very good step by arresting your wife. It shouldn't end there, do all you can for the sake of your daughter to get your mother-in-law and your brother-in-law arrested too. Make sure to prosecute them and let justice take it's course.
Rape in any form should not be condoned.
SAY NO TO RAPE ! ! !

Very nonesense advice from you. Who knows if her brother raped the little girl more than once.

My advise to him is non of your business,l advised him,It's up to him to take it or leave it. You are not supposed to say it's a nonsense advice at all. it is your type that wouldn't advice the Op at all but go around the forum tackling those who have advice to give.Mtchew.

The way everything pan out is understandable except the woman foolishly confiding in a prophetess who will only use her to shine either in form of fake prophecy or telling people she saw the vision and made the woman tell her when she asked. Op, I honestly don't know what to advice you concerning your marriage but that 14 year old boy needs to be severely dealt with as that is not his first time and let him know there are consequences for all actions which his mother and sister are not ensuring.

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

honestly I feel your wife has posted about this before.. it feels like I have read a post about this. Anyways your wife knows how you would react and this she decided to keep it away from you which was very wrong of her .. and she is over protective of her brother!! You should pay close attention to your daughter.. let your anger be towards the boy, and find a way to fix your marriage!! Marrying again will be hard if you end it all

Release her from the police with the following instructions, arrest and charge your brother to court for rape because that boy will keep raping other girls till the day he dies so the prison is a better place for him.. Then forgive your wife and heal up.

ibechris:
If u divorce ur wife and marry another woman wetin u gain?

Your woman was wrong in all indices and that shows how bad she felt by her weight loss and for not confiding in u.

I bet u,there is no woman/man that wouldn't hide this kind of thing to his or her family members because of how abominable it sounds.

However,u can't use ur hand to shatter your home...she,ur wife has been battered emotionally and I think,she needs to be covered and not shamed to this level.

Note,u have arrested the wrong person.

What happened to the main culprit?
This is a very complicated matter that needs to be treated with extreme care and caution,if not,u may not escape the stigma that comes with it.

Good luck to u.

This one can never reason well. Look at the trash he wrote. I'm sorry for men that are being fed by the wife's like this ibechris. Shame on you all. Common sense did not ell you that she would have also hidden the truth from her husband if the baby had died. Chai. Tueh for simps and sissies like you.

That's how my husband younger bro defiled my 2 yrs old daughter. My husband refused to send his brother away reason is that he is their only breadwinner and must take care of his 9 other siblings and parents. The sisters and brothers live with us. That's how I moved out from the house oo. Ah. I had two girls then. Later we reconciled and I had a male child now. All his siblings hate me because I asked my husband to send the boy away. Na curse I lay on all of them oo. Now my girl is 12 now and none of them are living with us again. Their lives is nothing to write home about. Evil people

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in ome I will be reading all your comments.

Arrest the brother.

Leave your wife.

co787:


She was only 2 years 1 months when it happened how can she confided in me when she was a baby and still a baby ?

Sorry I didn't know the age.

How can you say his wife did the right thing by not telling him. So are you more concernedabout your brother or your daughter. The wife not telling him was the beginningof the problem. If my wife tries this kind of thing,the marriage is over.this is a 2 years old child we are talking about. Someone who cannot defend herself. Let's not even get into the prophetess angle,that part is another nonsense.

Kreddy:




This is really frustrating!
in my own naive opinion. Your wife did the right thing by not telling you, but telling the prophetess was the biggest mistake. the matter should have been burried within her family. She knows you might get the boy arrested which might aggravated the whole issues. she wanted to protect her daughter image by not arresting her bro.

Forgive her and don't divorce her over the matter. Both if you are passing through the same thing, the thought that her own blood brother raped her daughter is enough punishment.

co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

pls 4give her

spartachico:
bro im a married man with kids,and i do talk with my wife to never bring people into our personal affairs no matter how bad it is and she kept to it and even when my son got injured at her place of business it only took couple of hours to inform me after getting him treated at the healthcare center , the matter na issue between husband and wife ,if wife too dey fear husband and cant confide in her husband ,then church, and friends and prophet are the next people they confide in and forgetting this prophets are also human being

@bolded could be the case here

Coupled with silly traditions concerning child abuse

supernova96:
How can you say his wife did the right thing by not telling him. So are you more concernedabout your brother or your daughter. The wife not telling him was the beginningof the problem. If my wife tries this kind of thing,the marriage is over.this is a 2 years old child we are talking about. Someone who cannot defend herself. Let's not even get into the prophetess angle,that part is another nonsense.

The guy na rapist

Some kind comments I am reading here is very disappointing. A 2 years old girl was raped,the mother of the girl covered it up and the father had to hear from outside sources and some of you are saying forgive and heal?? For a 2 years old innocent child Have you met a 2 year old recently? Do you see the innocence in their eyes? What sort of a parent would you be if you can cover up this atrocity?? OP I am so sorry your daughter had to experience this,please deal with all involved appropriately, forgiveness is for God not for you,yours is to deal with the culprits.

When anger and arrogance meet together inside an immatured man that has small change, this is the resultant effect. The OP should be below 30s or very early 30s, an autocratic, self centered and very pompous but reasonably financially stable husband. Except for money, no woman should pray for such a man as husband.

What happened was terrible and horrible and nobody wishes it for his enemies but when something terrible like this happens that's when ur real characters will come out. WHY DID U ARREST UR WIFE? WHY? I MEAN WHY? Oh! because she didn't tell u right? That was the only offense she committed, this also shows u re insensitive to the emotional trauma ur wife has bn tru, honestly u er not fit to be a husband with this act of urs.

Ve u asked urself why u er not told? Then I will tell u now
1. Because u er not a friend to ur wife, u er egocentric, ego freaky and control freak man cos if u er intimate with ur wife she will not hold such sensitive issue for long before telling u.

Ur wife is quite wrong for not telling u but don't use sledgehammer to kill mosquito, the arrest was unwarranted.

LET ME TELL U THIS: (1)in the next 5 years, u will regret arresting and divoicing ur wife.
(2) in the next 15 years ur daughter u er seeking justice for will be disappointed in u and regret u as her father cos of ur today's action for denying her to enjoy the motherly love and care and u let her face traumatic situation in the hand of strange woman that will be worse

In summary of this epistle is that ur wife doesn't offend u, but u er the one that is too harsh to be told everything that happens around u cos she fears u which is not gud in marriage. Though u er not the only one having this extreme control freak characters.

U can do anything to that animal that did this horrible thing but arresting and divoicing ur wife don't make sense at all.

THE ONLY ADVICE I VE FOR U: Try to work on urself to be a better husband and a friend to ur next wife. Thanks
I'm expecting ur blacklash

Divorcing your wife shouldn't be an option instead arrest his brother in question so he can face the law.

Your wife knew the kind of man you are that was why she didn't tell you. Accept it or not, If she had told you, you wouldn't have reacted differently. There's an adage in Igbo that say " obughi ihe Nile nwanyi huru ka ona Koro diya" meaning ( ls not everything that a woman sees that she tells her husband)
Oga l know you are pained but please go and release your wife from prison.
As for the divorce don't even think of it, your daughter have been sexually abused at this age and you want to also seperate her from her mother, this will definitely not end well for her.
Is okay to the angry but time heals every wound.