co787:
My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal.

She is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her. Here is the reason I got her arrested, during her stay in the village, her 14 years old brother raped my daughter. This is one of the reason she overstayed in the village. She didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison.

But because it is her own brother, she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever. I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter.

I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments.

toujurs:
Every male who read this, let's ha e a minute silent to meditate on every reason to fear women.

The most selfish being, Undoubtedly!

jumper524:
the day emotions gets the best of you dont mutter, just face the consequencies.. una go just dey form Rambo everywhere.

pafo:


What you are suggesting is experimental at best for a 2 yr old. There's no guarantee in it working at all. From 4 years is a much realistic age to work with.

CLATHRIN:


People are not robots, human beings have emotions including fear, fury, despair etc because of the experiences they have gone through in life. You don't even know the context of their relationship, you don't even know if this guy is the bread winner of this lady's immediate family and if she fears she might lose him. You don't even know how old she was before she got married (oh, this might have a huge effect on how she treats grave issues like this, some have hidden their children born out of wedlock from their spouses), you don't even know if she's afraid she might never get another husband, deep down in her heart, something snapped and she made a choice. Since we don't know a lot about life and people, we should thread with caution and handle things better. Read his story on another thread here and see him admitting he's got a good wife who was selfless enough to reconcile him with his own immediate family, she didn't sideline them in order to get all the love and perhaps care her husband could give.

Seun:
Keep your family together, please. Your daughter won't appreciate losing her mother.

oluwaseyi0:


You are definitely not seen as a partner by your wife, and I dont blame her she knows you
you are a good partner in time of peace and a terrible one in time of war

This is the time your wife needs your emotional support the most, but you failed her completely

for your mind she doesn't love her daughter right, you are the only one that love your daughter

She grow lean because of this issue, but you arrested her because you feel she was celebrating

see Mr Man go and release your wife, heal yourself, look for how your wife will heal from the trauma and most importantly how the baby will heal

With this foolish tantrum of yours you will damage your little girl life even more

or when people ask her why her parent divorce, what do you want her to say, that she was raped when she was two?

a matter you kid is meant to forget while growing up you want to be remembering her everyday

your daughter will even end up hating you

Wisdom is profitable to direct

franciskaine:
may you continue to grow in wisdom.

SocialJustice:
I was consciously blaming a baby for getting raped? Abeg shift. Go figure your frustrations elsewhere.

asapeola:
Oh Lord!!! I cringed reading majority of the comments on here.
1. A 2yr old girl was SERIALLY raped by a 14yr old boy and no one is seeing the criminal angle first!
2. It is a case of criminal negligence on the part of the mother first cos it wasnt as if she was in the village to work but to care for her sick father. So she left her child to the hyena and focused only on her papa. Excellent!
3. The deed(s) were done and she still had d mind to abet the crime by not reporting to the police nor informing the father of the child. Criminal!!!
4. The man still asked her why she's looking so disfigured and she cooked a big fat lie to cover up instead of confessing and humbly seeking for forgiveness. Perhaps the husband might have not seen her as an enemy. They would've agreed on the next line of action.
5. By covering up a crime, she's vicariously liable for the rape and incest committed. She consciously threw her own family under the bus to save her incestuous brother.
6. Her arrest is legally proper, however it's either the man proceeds with case to court so that the police can arrest other culprits including the rapist and his mother.
7. Police detention is not a punishment and u should not abuse it. Its either u prosecute her in the Court or u withdraw the case so that she can be released.
8. There's no more friendship after police case, so have it in ur mind, that ur marriage is scarred for life and ur relationship with ur in-laws is as well. However, if u feel u need time to heal, goodluck but I would advise that for your mental health, happiness and the safety of ur child and Future children, you need to dissociate from your wife and her family.

God be with u.

co787:


I don't need her approval to prosecute her brother whether she and her mother likes it or not the boy will be prosecute and the divorce will still take place

EkoErrands:


All this one you are typing here...my daughter will not and does not, could not and cannot fit sleep anywhere else that is not my house in my absence. Even when my wife lost her dad she travelled alone...my toddler stayed behind with me o!.
This formula na so e go be until she start having boyfriend then she can make her decisions...but till then... I go dey block all the loopholes.

I feel your pain. My advice to you is arrest her brother and make sure that once you get him arrested from that day you stop sleeping under the same roof with your wife make she no poison you die go. I don't know how u will achieve that but arrest the boy make him learn him lesson.

tctrills:

That she is feeling bad is no excuse. She is an evil woman. A demon. She must have forced the poor child not to talk to her father about the rape.
If you really think it is safe to continue living with a woman that can hide your daughter's rape from you then you need prayers.

owunabastard:
you are exactly my kind of person, I detest any ill treatment against children. What is your horoscope to know if it's part of our personalities

oluwaseyi0:


Divorce is an overkill Mr Man

Ban your wife from visiting her family
Go after the culprit, build your family

You think you are doing this for your daughter but you are ruining your daughter the more in the next 10 years this divorce you want will look terrible in your eyes

starbn:
My brother kill your wife,nobody is given advise. Your wife brother is 14 years,that's still small boy,by the law,they only caution the boy.
By putting your wife in detention shows the level of your maturity.
Check your self very well,if you have not acted this way to another man's daughter.
Things are happening with reason.

Neddstark:


As you have chosen to take this step, she will never forgive you. Better you divorce her and have nothing to do with that sick family.

Maurindo:
It's alarming how most people don't see anything wrong with a man finding out from outsiders that his 2years old princess who he trusted his wife with was raped by his wife's 14years old brother and his wife didn't deem it fit to tell him about it.

Y'all should know the importance of transparency and trust in a relationship talk more marriage.

If she'd agree with her family to keep the daughter's rape a secret from her husband, she might as well agree to kill him tomorrow to keep same or other secrets.

wirinet:


If I never marry, I for propose to you. I am glad some Nigerians still have a moral compass.

Abeg help me ask those talking forgiveness where the mother was all the while her 14 year old brother was serially raping her 2 year old daughter? A 2 year old should never leave the sight of the mother. Abi she follow another man go and leave her 2 year old unattended to?

logiktech:
Foolish human being. Wonder how your daughter will feel later realizing you jailed her mom. You arrested her then bail her later!! Very foolish and waste of time and money. Ode

Fountainofyouth:
Pls go to the village and arrest the useless brother and mother, he is the the main culprit in this, and also, do not bail your wife, let her rot there

I hate when evil is permitted and covered up because it is a family member, that foolish boy has been doing it to other little girls and if not arrested, he will continue, so many pedophiles on the loose these days.