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| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by chigoizie7(m): 10:52pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Until you become a man, you will never know how hard a man’s life if. With the help of social media and a little bit of civilisation, hustle tend to be a bit easier than in their time. Only God knows why he couldn’t afford to pay hospital bills then. Even today, so many caring men couldn’t afford to pay so many bills too. My brother, go back and ask her what really happened, if she doesn’t want to tell you. Find means to. Hear your fathers side of the story as well. From the way that your mother hates him, maybe the man had even reached out to see you back in the days. Maybe she also told him that you died like your brother as no money to take care of you. I might as well be wrong, but you will never know until you find out yourself. 3 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by rolams(m): 10:52pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
brain54:What if his dad has been facing the same challenge with him? |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by rolams(m): 10:53pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Offpointng:What if d papa don try find or still trying hard to find am and he fit nko? 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by LOVEGINO(m): 10:54pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Exceed15:pls don't discourage him. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by dkings101(m): 11:03pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Satan knew why he choose eve to carry out his evil plan against Adam cos they r both brother and sisters in everything..... No matter what, ur dad has is own story to tell. Don't be surprised tat ur mum might have wat it takes financially to save the life of ur late bro....women and my own smh. Until u r Married before u can fathom the kind of relationship women have with Satan..... Prechgold1180: 3 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nnamaka1: 11:15pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Which kin mumu story be this na? If you truly want to meet your dad, go on Facebook and place an advert targeted at Nigeria place his full name and what you can remember about him. Someone out there knows him or about him and before long, you shall have the answer that you are looking for. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Mrkindness: 11:25pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:you are not serious about looking for your Dad. Don't your mother have relations or nobody in the village that's knows about her first marriage . Go meet your uncles and find who your dad is before it's too late. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Lionize: 11:26pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:When it has to do with ill-health, a man does unthinkable things to ensure his own is treated, including going to knock on enemies' door to borrow. Perhaps he felt it was just malaria and would go after some time but this one come catch am. Maybe why your mum hates him so much for that singular act was because she suggested what he could do and he refused to do it. I am sorry to say this, but your dad may not be very responsible. Again, don't conclude until you hear from him. But a man that has not bothered to make contact with you for 24 years doesn't sound like a great guy, unless his reason is cogent enough. If I were you, I'll find him (very easy, since your mum is alive, and their relationship didn't happen abroad), and if I do, I'll just familiarise myself with him, know my 'roots', and then 'disappear'. when going to meet him, don't let him know you possess anything. Buy a new sim and go on public transport. Let him feel you are not successful. I'll advise further as event unfolds. Many have advised you up there on how to find him. Do you need more? Good luck. 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by grandstar(m): 11:26pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
brain54:Prechgold1180 I don't think the mom has forgiven his father over the death of her son. It was too much for her to take. She probably feels he did not do enough. She might not really know how much it aches her son. She is blinded by her own bitterness and pain. To her, his dad is better off dead. Good riddance to bad rubbish To get it from her, he might have no choice but to cut her off until she reveals his name and whereabouts. He has to wear her out. After a while, she would be forced to divulge. It is not about her now but her son. It is a sacrifice she has to make. He too should be careful. I would advise you to go in a Uber to disguise the fact you have money lest your dad and half siblings start becoming demanding. he should size his father and his siblings first before taking further steps |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Prechgold1180(op): 11:50pm On Dec 12, 2022 |
Lionize:Thanks |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nobody: 12:19am On Dec 13, 2022 |
VeryWickedMan:you are living up to your name |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by xrucifix05(m): 12:20am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Your mum left because your dad could not provide money to treat your brother's malaria. Your grandmother lives in Europe. Your mother is the breadwinner in your stepdads house. It's obvious your mother is from a wealthy home so there is something she is not telling you. If she foots the bill in your stepdads house, why didn't she foot the bill to treat your brother?. Sincerely look for your dad, I know you wont regret it. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by dkings101(m): 12:35am On Dec 13, 2022 |
That's what I am saying.....even if he meet the dad today, he would just be apologetic cos as a man, it's only a little of the tale he can tell. Women keeps things to heart hence why they are unforgiving. Sure the man has his own to tell....a man tat can't care for a sick child should ring a strong bell in the head of the wife....don't be surprise she might have some savings tat is meant for herself alone after all it is the man responsibility to cater and shoulder it all..... Even if the man can't knock on his enemies doors, what takes the woman that carries the baby for 9 month to go extra mile to keep the baby alive?? Go to General hospital today, u wd see mother who can't afford to pay for child delivery begging cos she knows... 1. The husband is also out there begging to source for fund to pay for her discharge... 2. Some even beg to buy the new born antibiotics.... It's not easy for struggling men to shoulder family ONLY a man would understand what am saying. xrucifix05: 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by FireUpNow(m): 12:38am On Dec 13, 2022*. Modified: 10:22am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Why would your mom do that? If it's true that your your brother from the same father died and you mom love the boy that died due to malaria, why didn't your mom get money to treat the child because your dad don't have the money then? Your mother is also as guilty as your father too. She has no reason to hate your father and for stopping you from knowing your father and his people as well as his place is a bad thing by your mother. Talk to your mother to show you your father. Because as it seems she is the one depriving you of that. Are you bearing or answering your surname? 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Originalsly: 12:51am On Dec 13, 2022 |
I hear you... and that emptiness of not knowing your dad.... rich or poor... good or bad doesn't matter. You really don't know why your mother and father split .... just your mother's version. Personally, she does not want you to know him. She knows how to get in contact with him but she will never let you know ... nor help you to. His side of the story must not be heard by you. Like someone advised earlier.... your key is her family .... I suggest you speak to one of her senior brothers ... the most reasonable one ... he will give you a start and is for yountontake it from there. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by iamsolasoul(f): 1:08am On Dec 13, 2022 |
When I was young they handed me a book of facial structures by the fbi start by recognizing the shape of your head and seeing neighbors or family members that have the same shape. Sometimes it’s the eyes too. Places of worship most likely will be where you can ask your mum. Then go on instagram and just keep scrolling through the hashtag family your papa go show He will want to show that he is a better man so that’s just my guess. Sometimes you can just tell someone isn’t your father by how they treat you so be careful he might not be ready to be one but it’s worth knowing anyway. The book really helped me I can recognize someone’s father from just a photograph of them as a baby |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Yankee101: 1:11am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Ask her brothers and sisters you’re close to or her childhood friends you pally with |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by ayoncox: 1:32am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:You don't need your mum to locate your dad. Try this strategy, get to know who knew your parents around the time they got married. Start from there you get to know where he is 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by GoodIsGod: 2:33am On Dec 13, 2022 |
As loving as your mum could have been, she is selfish. Selfish to your Dad, and to you. Let her put herself in your dad's shoe. Not seeing her son for 25years. How would she feel. Let her also put herself in your shoe, not knowing her father since birth till age 25. Most women are selfish. All they think about is Me, Myself, and I 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by mrkings84(m): 3:14am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Yankiss:Niw I no longer get surprised if I see a young man in his twenties how has emerse wealths. It was only oyinbo children we use to hear were making it at teen years, but that thing they know we also know now. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by tiswell(m): 3:42am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Offpointng:trash from a seeming single parenting child. You already rushed to condemn the father without knowing the actual details of what transpired. o.de! 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by tiswell(m): 3:46am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Mleeperbother:This is why we keep advising ladies to stop spreading their legs carelessly. Soon brainwashed bastards will flood the earth like this father.less I just quoted  |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by drololaaof: 3:53am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Your mother cannot be two things at the same time to be a mother and a father. It depends on which tribe you come from, if you from the area where if the bride price was not paid that your father have no right to claim you matter closed. Use all available means including threath, refusing to see or receive her calls, tell her family and friends to talk sense into her head 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by IamMobisola(f): 3:57am On Dec 13, 2022 |
If your father is still alive and healthy, and was as bothered about you as you are about him, he would have looked for you and found you. |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by sexy74(m): 4:18am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Offpointng:It surprises me when people write and say relatives from the father's side are useless. People that say this should check their mothers. If you are a woman and have a brother that marries and the wife makes the children believe that father's siblings are bad, does that means you are useless. Why does everywoman covers her family and paint the husband's family bad, such women are devil 8ncarnate (awon da Ile ru). 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by ObiLamba: 4:30am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:I saw my dad for the first time in my life when I was 15 years and 10 days, so I know that empty feeling. You may have to apply more pressure on your mum. Every child has the right to know who his or her dad is. You may even realise that the man is not the one at fault 3 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Elidrisy20: 4:39am On Dec 13, 2022 |
VeryWickedMan:werey, we are serious here |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Elidrisy20: 4:46am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Your mother have relatives, use this festive season to shower them with gifts and cash, pick ,then start your investigation,it may lead you some where,wish you good luck. If na Lagos you dey,it fit be na tinubu or sanwo'olu be your papa  |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Nursepepeye(f): 4:47am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Offpointng:wicked fellow, Allow him to look for his father, only bastard think that way 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Inosky: 5:05am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Cars, houses, etc.? Omo, you should be less than 30 years from my calculations. God really blessed you. May God please remember me like you. Amen! Meanwhile, I pray also you meet your dad and be fulfilled. 1 Like |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Osariemen12: 5:26am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Don't just interrogate your mother, threaten her. Let her know you will disown her if she doesn't show you your dad, dead or alive. Why do I have the feeling that the malaria death is another cock and bull story from her? What's the age difference between you and your eldest step sibling? An honest answer to this will unravel the mystery of their separation. And don't mind those who'll criticise him for not looking for you up till now. You don't know the efforts he probably made before now and the brick walls they met. Meet him first and you'll here his own side of the story. Pray to be lucky enough that the man your mother married earlier whom the world believe is your father is your real father because paternity trust is one of the greatest challenges of men. And know this: the seeming innocent woman you call mom today was a 'player' of yesterday. Finally, are you a Yoruba? If yes, I rest my case. 2 Likes |
| Re: 25 Years Old And I Still Don’t Know My Dad by Dchampion65: 5:36am On Dec 13, 2022 |
Prechgold1180:Brother, let the sleep dog lies. A father that did not bother to look for you for these years most likely to be irresponsible. There is a father figure for you all along. If you desire to know your father at all cost, thread carefully, study your father and his family afar off before any introduction. |
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