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piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

No issues if you want to divide who die na him lost.
Na you no where dey pain you.
But what about the kids
Will you leave them for him

move on dear
You don try

Klass99:
At the bolded
I knew I liked you for a reason.
It helps that you are a James Patterson fan too.

Howdy?

You like a deviant.

Yes, James is a good writer.

Ori Eyin meji eji ope! In fact Iwo OP orie ti buru.

[quote author=talkless78 post=119232733][/quote]AND YOU THINK UK WILL GIVE YOU STUDY VISA WITH DEPENDANTS KIDS WITHOUT THERE FATHER FULL CONSENT AND FINANCIAL HISTORY SHOWING HE IS STILL YOUR HUSBAND....UK IS NEVER A RUNAWAY GROUND TO RELOCATE ...DONT LOOSE EVERYTHING * RECONCISE WITH HIM**

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

If a guy beats you, leave him.

Simple. No long story.

Ok12345:
She didn't deny about cheating, it was what got her the job, the guy should have broken up with her then before proceeding with traditional marriage.

Let love lead

I sensed she is still cheating.
This is her own part. I'm sure if u hear from the man, u go shout too.

You met a rich man? Haba?

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

i carry God beg u,run for ur life.fir say my wife dey like u,i for no get problem o!

If a man ever raises his hand the first time to beat his spouse, you better believe that he would NOT stop. That's just the beginning of a cycle of abuse. I am not going to sit here and advise you to leave or NOT to leave your spouse. The decision is entirely yours but remember that an abusive relationship does NOT get better rather it gets worse. You have to think of your well-being and that of your children. Do NOT let yourself become a statistic!

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Well you have tried so far
He trained you in school quite alright but you have paid him back too with all the financial support you put into his business and marriage

If you are no longer finding peace and love in the marriage, you can do whatever that is in your mind

I stand with you because the marriage foundation was on lies and now that you are fully aware he lied to you that he works in the Engineering department, probably you thought he was an engineer and he went to the university, whats wrong if he tells you he works as a plumber in government hospital

You wanted him to upgrade himself and go to school, but he dogged it because he is not capable of being in school as his brain can't stand higher education, why not tell you openly that he doesn't want to further his education


While you go ahead with your plan, even when you get there, live your life but give him access on phone to speak with the children

But am 100% sure that you may never want him again because ov his violence on you

Real men don't beat women, they walk away

boldx:
It's pathetic. I understand how you feel. Please take care of your mental health as well.

You don't

Don't do that you may think you don't feel his impart today or think he can't render any help to you what of if things did not going on the way you plan it

You cheated on him first... I have nothing more to say.

Sorry about his attitude, but don't divorce him

MufasaLion:
There's nothing as interesting as being single, amass wealth and focus on other important things. This marriage thing will make y'all to crazy.

Make sure you leave that man but have an agreement on the custody of the kids. Kindly reach out to a divorce attorney.

Marriage is good, in fact awesome, but to reduce the chances of having a trouble marriage as a man, before you go into marriage, try and establish a sustainable means of earning income and also have a set/defined financial goal for your life and where you wish to be.



Then marry a lady that complements your life's goal or destination, and lastly pray for God's favour.




But financial stability for a man reduces the chances of having a troubled marriage.


I know entertainment celebrity marriages always end in divorce you may say, but its cos they live most of their life on media (makebelief, fake life, showoff).



Always take your marriage off media if you are financially successful as a man. Don't marry just for the fine body, consider upbringing and manner of the lady you want to marry. Some ladies and guys lack human conscience and empathy due to family upbringing.



Marry who get conscience and empathy and your marriage will never be troubled.

Wotoporiously speaking

I support this post with a full crocodile

Serve the breakfast immediately

We your village people are solidly behind you

kumbhuru:
Fake story. Shut up

u are childish and annoying aswear

Knows12:
I sensed she's the one cheating cus once a cheat, always a cheat. She's using the man..

he was my first.
i met him as a virgin.i loved him.

i cheated because he threw me and my first child out because his ex came back begging.
i moved on and started dating the other guy, we were about getting married sef, it was my family that asked me to call off the engagement and give him a try one more time.

piecuntie:
THANK YOU

You didn't tell us if the rich dude banged you or not before giving you the job.

However, I'm highly disappointed at your husband. It appears there's no understanding between you two. Nevertheless we need to hear husband side of the story because we're not fools here. I can't never Believe anything a woman says.

Furthermore, you equally needs to return his money he used to train you in school. That was a huge risk he took right there! For me, he was foolish to have sent you to school. Nevertheless we need to hear and read his side of the story.

piecuntie:
he was my first.
i met him as a virgin.i loved him.

i cheated because he threw me and my first child out because his ex came back begging.
i moved on and started dating the other guy, we were about getting married sef, it was my family that asked me to call off the engagement and give him a try one more time.

You mean you were having sex with the other guy?

piecuntie:
he was my first.
i met him as a virgin.i loved him.

i cheated because he threw me and my first child out because his ex came back begging.
i moved on and started dating the other guy, we were about getting married sef, it was my family that asked me to call off the engagement and give him a try one more time.

the story no clear anymore.. you said you cheated on him..

kay29000:
You cheated on him first... I have nothing more to say.

True talk. the girl sef has been looking for a way she will cheat ever since she.

Noticed how she immediately went to the other guy and she was even collecting dick, a so called married woman for that matter?

boldx:
It's pathetic. I understand how you feel. Please take care of your mental health as well.

OP this advice is very important. This thing is already eating you up. Take care.

Let's hear from other side of the story

The moment a man start beating you ...the vest option is to lice that marriage ...is better to be single than to be in a toxic relationship ...you bleeped up in the past ...cheating on your man and later begging him is a time bomb...cos the man will always revenge .

Lol

ukaface:
Typical example of a scumbag
Please divorce him

How is he a scumbag, have you heard from the husband side . You women always play the victim when it doesn’t go your way.
A reasonable person With sound mind would hear from both side.