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FuckSilly:
From your write-up,
I'm very sure that you're a chronic CHEAT, LIAR AND VERY ARROGANT WIFE.
Since you moved to his house at 19, I'm very sure that you've CHEATED on him with more than 2 men...
I don't have much say, but I promise you that you would regret your actions and your evil plans to steal his children and run away WILL END IN TEARS FOR YOU.
BLOODY INGRATE!

MufasaLion:
You're wrong, most of you are used to being emotionally needy and that's the reason it's always difficult for you to be alone or not around people.

This is more about psychology.

Idaytesj29:
Na lie. If some drug addicts can change, a woman/man beater too may change with good counselling and personal will to change his or her ways.

brandsoncharlie:
When you become a man you wouldn’t be saying this.
He invested in the woman so that’s why she is doing well financially .

ekerintee:
the man invested in her , sometimes there are problem when the wrong person invest in a person.Sometimes such people feel you owe them your life and will constantly remind you about what they did for you and sacrifice.These sometimes tie people down for life .I am not in the right position to judge this matter without full understanding of the situation or the other partners side but i will say its not so good when you are emotionally tired down to an abusive person.Men do change , so also women ,him changing could be as a result of the womans attitude and also seeing the woman as a threat or being too proud because of her achievement.Not everyone has the brain to go to school or the interest for school,so i feel he should not be pressured to go to school.I have seen cases where very ambitious women marry men with little or no ambition,this women are very smart and intelligent and always aspiring to be great, this women are tired down to men who are mediocre and little or no ambition.Such a relationship is quiet unfortunate and i such marriage are error to me ,it happens in both cases, men marrying women with no ambition, its much more worse when a woman of high ambition marry a man with no ambition, it affects the woman pyschologically and also the whole family sufferfinancially and in some areas.I am not so much in support of divorce but in such case and based on recent happening of marriage violence,a seperation may be necesary.I have tried to be balanced as a Guy and also knowing how women play victim in marriage,i would not totally condemn the man without hearing his own side.

sisisioge:
If you already have your escape route planned, execute it silently and keep out of his way while at it. Good luck.

GoooodHardDick:
A woman cannot break up from a relationship or divorced a man if they haven't gotten a replacement. Quote me anyday anytime bro. That olosho simply wants to leave that man and go and stay with the rich dude. Trust a Nigerian girl at your own peril.

Once an Olosho is always an olosho. She has tasted another dick and wants to go back for that dick

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

MessiahMARLIANS:
Do you mean that you don't want to have children of your own that you can share emotional attachments with ?

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

Sorry for the long write up

pocohantas:
These guys would do anything for clout. It is the mods that push y’all threads to the FP I blame.

A4alpha:
Women are indeed incapable of love, they are programmed terror in men's world. Thunder fire you should you mistakenly empower them over yourself. Dear men.. learn to be selfish and be an asshole if you truly wish to live long.

Dear men never you take back a cheat cos a cheat is always a cheat. (Hypergamy) The question now is na who dey Bleep you now madam?

Madam with your own mouth you confessed here that your husband had never beat you when life was rough with the both of you, can you please tell why the sudden change?

He started misbehaving since he joined occult abi?

Yeye dey smell

MacDani:
When your television remote, phone or any of such misbehave, you go hammer on it for factory reset, soon ladies needs to hammer on them for their factory brain to reset.

When he was stupidly working day n night to help her have a bright future, taking alll sorts of rubbish from people just to help someone who will help him in future to get brighter future, what her so called father or family didn't do for her, and now she don see road and for her mind you are wise as serpent.

You now see him as a common illiterate, thinking you're untouchable, nne?!! nemesis will always come back to you, if not from him, then it will come from your kids but surely know this nemesis will surely come, na time e go take. No where is safe not even your grave yard.

Cuz you now make millions so easy and you think everything will be easy for you and you now forget yesterday because of social media, right? Well, I'm not a lawyer so why will I judge you. Social Media go deceive you, bite yourself hard and see how it pains.

ukaface:
Typical example of a scumbag
Please divorce him

ibechris:
Two kids abroad na hell Fire straight.

Where is ur nanny...is like u want the govt to collect your children for negligence.

Stay back and establish yourself...for divorce,I don't advice people on that at all.

I don't say yes and I don't say no also.

Good luck to u.,.... leave am....ebi like say she nor know abroad. Coming to the UK with two kids is not easy. Firstly forget about work, because how does she intend to look after the kids and also working at the same time, because in UK there is nothing like house help only if you are comfortably well off.

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

ibechris:
Two kids abroad na hell Fire straight.

Where is ur nanny...is like u want the govt to collect your children for negligence.

Stay back and establish yourself...for divorce,I don't advice people on that at all.

I don't say yes and I don't say no also.

Good luck to u.

FuckSilly:
Don't mind that bastard arrogant ADULTERESS.

Toks2008:
I dont care about the long gist. No man should beat a lady for whatever reason.

Period

MoneyMustBMade:
As far as your wife is doing better than you and more educated than you forget it, she will find fault in everything... imagine the naration like say she is perfect.. when a woman start helping you as a man just mark it you're in a problem. Coz she will win

brandsoncharlie:
When you become a man you wouldn’t be saying this.
He invested in the woman so that’s why she is doing well financially .

piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

sharone21:
More women have feelings of guilt when they cheat than men.....

Maybe that was the only way she could help both of them.

That she opened up about cheating doesn't mean the man didn't start cheating before her.... Men can be cheating under a woman's nose and still be lying about it, not even this chronic liar of a man she found herself with.

That women don't come out like cry babies to talk about how Nigerian men deal with them doesn't mean Nigerian men are the good ones while Nigerian women should be feared.

Let Op pray well about her marriage.... Marriages are going through a lot these days..... A family who prays together and do many things in common ( as if they were of the same team) will stand alot of trials..... She should pray about her travelling too.... I understand her well, " why be with a man and also be taking care of him( when he seemingly is like not being grateful with the attitudes he is giving her despite all her efforts) when I can just take care of myself and kids"?....And this kind of man may not even try to be romantic a bit and pamper her so she feels less stressed.....

FuckSilly:
Sense dey pain you...