Davizee:
I am tired of this life and ready to end it because it seems nothing is working out. I and my family are presently suffering accommodation problem and the landlord has threatened to eject on Christmas day. How can everyone be celebrating on Christmas day and only me and my family be experiencing shame?
Please somebody help

no waste ona body or your body donate am to your siblings for money ritual that will be fair

See eh, talk to your church abi una no get church... life for naija too hard.

Jozilinn:
See eh, talk to your church abi una no get church... life for naija too hard.

We have told them couple of times but they keep saying God will make a way and they come the next Sunday to testify of how God blessed them with 1 million. I am even tired of that church

Davizee:

We have told them couple of times but they keep saying God will make a way and they come the next Sunday to testify of how God blessed them with 1 million. I am even tired of that church

Which church is that self,tell the pastor so he would announce the matter in church,any contribution is acceptable besides if e good for una, church go still enjoy am.

If your pastor doesn't do this then even from the thithe and welfare given to him,he can still support or follow you guys to see the landlord period.

Jozilinn:
Which church is that self,tell the pastor so he would announce the matter in church,any contribution is acceptable besides if e good for una, church go still enjoy am.

If your pastor doesn't do this then even from the thithe and welfare given to him,he can still support or follow you guys to see the landlord period.

We have told the pastor but he didn't take it serious. But the Bible says the least you have done to my brethen you have done to me. They don't consider that as part of the scripture

Boss if yu wan die please do it very fast so dat your family can move on fast nd quick

Abeg who dey chop chicken this 25th..abeg drop location make I come chop abeg


This year no shugar for my side but God shugar am with Life and Health so I go use am chop chicken then try again come 2023..LasLas struggle nd sapa don forget my Location

Davizee:

We have told the pastor but he didn't take it serious. But the Bible says the least you have done to my brethen you have done to me. They don't consider that as part of the scripture

Don't they do testimony in church make it a testimony and ask for donations from them... This kind thing na church matter.

Jozilinn:
Don't they do testimony in church make it a testimony and ask for donations from them... This kind thing na church matter.

Almost everyone knows about it in the church but they didn't make a move

Eyinju112:
Shey you don ready for suicide yes or no? See I’m done convincing people over suicide, lot of people are going through problems bigger than yours and yet there’re still pushing, Abeg guy if na accommodation problem wan make you commit suicide do it in peace don’t disturb us...

Words can be more dangerous than a gun, choose your words carefully, advising someone to go ahead with suicide is not the best.

Davizee:

What if we eventually get ejected on Christmas day,what will I do? Where will I start from?

You don't worry about where you will start.

You should worry more about where you want to end up? Do you want to look like a pathetic fool who took his own life because of problems? Or do you want to share this story one day that your landlord ejected you after you might have become successful?

I know it's hard. But the choice is yours. Either you want to gain or to win. Is it about shame? Anyone who became successful without story can never have the success for long because they won't know the value .

Look up to God! He will help you.

Davizee:

It has been 2 yrs now since we last paid for rent.
Again we were once ejected way back at 2016
I know the trauma I suffered then as a young boy. I told God that he should not let this affliction arise again but look at me,the same thing is about to repeat itself.
I can't even walk on the street confidently because almost every body in that street knows wats happening and what they do is sit and gossip us. After we were ejected in 2016 we had to live in a church for 2 years in which the pastor gave us continuous trouble.sometimes I ask my elder brother how he was strong enough to withstand that shame

This time around, you have to put shame away and do what ever business that will bring you money.

Keke, bus or okada rider.

Or better still, look for a hire purchase system of transport and start up.

If you were good at driving a 22 tyre truck, i would have linked you with one.

Davizee:

You are very correct
Sometimes I regret being born into that family but there is nothing I can do

We know people pass through so many struggles all over the world, but the thing is, what are you doing to avert it?

How old are you? Do you have a job or skill? What are you doing to avert conditions like this?
You have an elder bro too. What are you two doing?

There're so many jobs out there, you only shy away from this if you are selective. If you're up to 18 and you see things are not fine in the family, then it's time to get dirty.

Keke napep brings in alot of money, uber driver too. Then other menial job skills. Get your hands to work bro so things won't continue like this forever.

Davizee:

Were you ever made a subject of mockery in your community?

If you guys were humiliated in that vicinity, i advise you get a job and park out of there first, in other to restore your confidence back.

@OP, You appear to be in property business, why not use your links to get a place in the interim whilst you hunt for a new permanent place

See everyone are struggling everywhere, even in abroad... You have no idea what I do for a living as a young lady.. I do POP designs and I’m also a tiler, I learnt all this things from different male bosses.... Years back I nearly gave up on learning because it was very difficult and embarrassing seeing a lady carrying ponpon... but if you see me today you’d never believe I went through those process... if I had got tired and gave up, I for don Bleep up.... like I said earlier I’m done advising people not to commit suicide, forget guy there are jobs out there but the problem some of us are having is pride.... I threw my pride away as a young lady and went into building industry and Glory be to God I’m doing fine for myself and my family

Dshocker:


Words can be more dangerous than a gun, choose your words carefully, advising someone to go ahead with suicide is not the best.

Eyinju112:
See everyone are struggling everywhere, even in abroad... You have no idea what I do for a living as a young lady.. I do POP designs and I’m also a tiler, I learnt all this things from different male bosses.... Years back I nearly gave up on learning because it was very difficult and embarrassing seeing a lady carrying ponpon... but if you see me today you’d never believe I went through those process... if I had got tired and gave up, I for don Bleep up.... like I said earlier I’m done advising people not to commit suicide, forget guy there are jobs out there but the problem some of us are having is pride.... I threw my pride away as a young lady and went into building industry and Glory be to God I’m doing fine for myself and my family

Really....

I heard your line of job overseas pays very well....kudos to you.

Are you on instagram?

Weak-ass men wherever you turn these days. This emotional blackmail of threatening suicide for every small pressure on Nairaland has to stop. You're not the only one with family problems. Nobody forced you to marry. Your rent issue is the result of DECISIONS that YOU TOOK. Nobody but yourself deserves any blame for that.

If you need help with killing yourself, give me a holla

leo10:



Don't be insensitive abeg... if u cant find the right words better say nothing at all

You are reply, a gender that is being provided for

You have strength.

Davizee:
I am tired of this life and ready to end it because it seems nothing is working out. I and my family are presently suffering accommodation problem and the landlord has threatened to eject on Christmas day. How can everyone be celebrating on Christmas day and only me and my family be experiencing shame?
Please somebody help

You need help.
The only information you can give the general public about yourself is your problem and complain.
How will the people help you?

iLegendd:
Some of these men actually make an effort to train their kids in school with the little they struggled to get.

They do this because they feel a certificate equals respect and wealth. Yes, certificate brings respect, but not wealth.

This wealth they don't have is the reason they spent their last cash training these kids hoping they'll graduate, get a job, and start paying them back in 100 folds. Ancient mentality.

Poor fathers are actually the greediest. They train their kids in school not because they're their father, it because they want a bragging right and a payback from the child at the end of life.

Rich men don't train their children in school out of greed or payback, but out of obligation. They already have their own money they may not even finish it.

The best gifts a father will give his son are

1. The mindset never to be controlled by people, especially a woman (teach him to never be a sissy and master how to say no)
2. Teach him to handle heartbreak, sorrow, and disappointment in life.
3. Business ideas and loan to start one of them or skill and platform to start early.
4. Finally, health, fitness, and spirituality.

These men don't do such — they focus on their greed and bragging right which is: school, graduate, get a job, marry, I want to see my grandchildren before I die, and start spending on me because I sent you to school and made you who you are today. If not for me, you're nothing.

For once you made a bit of sense

All these Gen Z kids. Even your papa wey suppose pay rent depress na you wey your job na to eat wake up go school come back dey worry lmao

what church do you attend whats the function of your GO if they cant help you? talk to your church to make a space for you ahead or before Christmas thats the best i can tell you.if they refuse park your stuff and move in,its your birth right as well cos its the house of God shey?its tough i understand i survived suicide myself 5 years ago,but Christmas is one day,but your death would hunt your loved ones forever,who then would you want to care for them?would you call that love?

Eyinju112:
Shey you don ready for suicide yes or no? See I’m done convincing people over suicide, lot of people are going through problems bigger than yours and yet there’re still pushing, Abeg guy if na accommodation problem wan make you commit suicide do it in peace don’t disturb us...

What a way to display high-class ignorance.

EPIC!!!

Prettygirl200:
Safe journey my brother

At least escort him ....... Mofo

iLegendd:
Some of these men actually make an effort to train their kids in school with the little they struggled to get.

They do this because they feel a certificate equals respect and wealth. Yes, certificate brings respect, but not wealth.

This wealth they don't have is the reason they spent their last cash training these kids hoping they'll graduate, get a job, and start paying them back in 100 folds. Ancient mentality.

Poor fathers are actually the greediest. They train their kids in school not because they're their father, it because they want a bragging right and a payback from the child at the end of life.

Rich men don't train their children in school out of greed or payback, but out of obligation. They already have their own money they may not even finish it.

The best gifts a father will give his son are

1. The mindset never to be controlled by people, especially a woman (teach him to never be a sissy and master how to say no)
2. Teach him to handle heartbreak, sorrow, and disappointment in life.
3. Business ideas and loan to start one of them or skill and platform to start early.
4. Finally, health, fitness, and spirituality.

These men don't do such — they focus on their greed and bragging right which is: school, graduate, get a job, marry, I want to see my grandchildren before I die, and start spending on me because I sent you to school and made you who you are today. If not for me, you're nothing.

Okay now i get you.


What do you say abt those okada riders making ends meet and wanting to marry their caliber

Jozilinn:
Which church is that self,tell the pastor so he would announce the matter in church,any contribution is acceptable besides if e good for una, church go still enjoy am.

If your pastor doesn't do this then even from the thithe and welfare given to him,he can still support or follow you guys to see the landlord period.

U have a point.

You've said it all

iLegendd:
That is why we tell men to make money first and have businesses with backups incase the main one crashes before pouring their sperms inside a woman to raise kids, but no, their pastors push them to get married fast even though there is nothing and God will provide in the process.

These men keep waiting for God to provide till old age and subject these innocent kids to suffering. God only provides for those who are persistent and smart-working, not prayerful only.

The only type to poor men I pity nowadays are those who were once "legitimately" rich, but lost all because of a disaster beyond their control.

ibiba55:
Look up to God.. killing yourself will not change anything. Where are you residing?

Stop using God in this cheap way abeg! He is not some father Christmas you can invoke on demand. God said His promise is for those who abandon everything in order to obey Him.

Davizee:
We have told them couple of times but they keep saying God will make a way and they come the next Sunday to testify of how God blessed them with 1 million. I am even tired of that church

Look, focus on working with your family to resolve the issue and leave God out of the mix. God is not father Christmas that you invoke when you are in trouble.

And those church people are in no better situation than you are. God no dey their side either, so don't put your hope in them.

Guderian:


At least escort him ....... Mofo

just like your worthless mother

Suicide.

That's one thing I find difficult to comment on, because I see life as a disease and death is the cure. Everything we do (be it sleep, drug, sex or gossip) is to manage its symptoms (e.g. fear, anxiety and worry) and to postpone that cure.

The usual reasons, such as your family will suffer if you die, tomorrow will better, etc, that people give against it doesn't seem to cut it for me. For example, your death might actually make your family live better because they may see it as a challenge to get better so that no one would follow your course.

Now, on your church not helping with money for the rent, it's likely because your parents did or are doing something that the pastor isn't comfortable with. Remember, you guys once lived in the church because of the same inability to pay rent. So the church have tried for your family. Don't take the refusal to heart.

I would suggest you have a real conservation with your parents and Landlord, and perhaps with your pastor. If it fails to yield extension, you guys should move to a village and start committedly to return to the city from there. Don't hate the village. People are building houses and buying cars, etc, from there by farming, for example.

#Though I said I don't like to comment on suicide, but I want to say something against it still.
You are rather funny. You want to kill yourself because your Landlord wants to evict you and your family! Your parents should be the one thinking the suicide, because it's their responsibility—not you. Except you made a promise about it that you couldn't fulfil. If that's the case, I say, "Breathe"!
#See you in 2023!