odaniel1:

bro, Ago palace way has to have the highest number of cheating wives. the way those women drag people's bfs and gfs ehn...

seems u service dem alot

Zonefree:
No Nigerian girl can stay two weeks without sex.

Any woman telling you she'll wait till you return is telling big lies. With or without you, she's getting the knacks rigourously.

Spoken like a child
. Why generalise? Grow up

Zonefree:
No Nigerian girl can stay two weeks without sex. Any woman telling you she'll wait till you return is telling big lies. With or without you, she's getting the knacks rigourously.

If the men are themselves obsessed with sex, what do you expect from the women since the men aren't having sex amongst themselves or with themselves? Everyone is walking around with sex on the mind, so why do you continue to pretend others should be held to a standard higher than the one you hold yourselves to?

I don't blame women whose husbands are based abroad when they cheat.

Body no be firewood.

Ex’s persist from where oga ceased

theInfinity:
I have been curious to know how women whose husbands live abroad satisfy themselves when h0rny.

Majority of them cheat.
I know many, I won't judge them.
Woman Body no be firewood!

LadyRosa:
Majority of them cheat. I know many, I won't judge them.
Woman Body no be firewood!

Most Nigerians—men and women alike— go into marriage with sex as one of the biggest benefits. So what do you expect?

Kobojunkie:
Most Nigerians—men and women alike— go into marriage with sex as one of the biggest benefits. So what do you expect?

Of course sex is very very important.
It's the most important thing in marriage -Companionship.

Having kids are secondary.In the doctrine I practice barreness or not having kids is not an impediment to marriage .And so i place companionship/sexual gratification over children.

Yes! Sex is important and so when a husband don't touch the wife for years , cheating is expected .

LadyRosa:
1. Of course sex is very very important. It's the most important thing in marriage -Companionship.

2. Having kids are secondary.In the doctrine I practice it is not an impediment to marriage . Yes! Sex is important and so when a husband don't touch the wife for years , cheating is expected .

1. Companionship isn't necessarily about sex, since there are many people who are in relationships majorly because they enjoy the company of each other, and not necessarily because of sex. There are couples out there in the world who don't have a regular sex life but they live as best friends and enjoy just having the other around, that is what companionship is mostly about.

2. Sex is important only if both or one has sex on the mind, but I don't think it should be a major issue that should make or breaks a marriage. However, with many Nigerians, it seems, sex is alpha-and-omega of marriage.

BirtherOfKings:


Spoken like a child
. Why generalise? Grow up

So you expect a woman who's husband is a broad for years sitting like a duck, and waiting to be mounted?

My husband won't try that Shiite with me.
I go too &fk!
Omo! I no dey normal ooo.I no dey for 'good wife' Nigerian syndrome .

Kobojunkie:
1. Companionship isn't necessarily about sex, since there are many people who are in relationships majorly because they enjoy the company of each other, and not necessarily because of sex. There are couples out there in the world who don't have a regular sex life but they live as best friends and enjoy just having the other around, that is what companionship is mostly about.

2. Sex is important only if both or one has sex on the mind, but I don't think it should be a major issue that should make or breaks a marriage. However, with many Nigerians, it seems, sex is alpha-and-omega of marriage.

Sex is very important to loads of people!
Marriage may not be, but sex is!Many who dont indulge because of some convictions, still fall out with nature.
You just have to speak for yourself !
Like me, I started CLEARLY in my subsequent post that I love se.x! and WILL not stay long weda as WIFE it not to be tormented for it.

I definitely will 4$Ck!
And I say these things EXPLICITY to my husband .
I don't cap bulkshite.There is a reason why the pussy gets slimy for several days in a month!Its nature way of telling us that the best time to get laid is now.
I URGE WOMEN TO USE IT WELL.

LadyRosa:
1. Sex is very important to loads of people! Marriage may not be, but sex is! You just to speak for yourself ! Like me, I started CLEARLY in my subsequent post that I love se.x! and WILL not stay long weda as WIFE it not to be tormented for it.

2. I definitely will 4$Ck! And I say these things EXPLICITY to my husband . I don't cap bulkshite.There is a reason why the pussy gets slimy for several days in a month!Its nature way if telling us that the best time to get laid is now. I URGE WOMEN TO USE IT WELL.

1. That is exactly what I am saying with many a Nigerian, sex is pretty much an alpha-&-omega as far as marriage is concerned. Why? because the culture mainly projects sex as being of great importance where marriage is concerned, and so many Nigerians approach it from a point of obsession even.

2. See what I mean? Companionship, as in ensuring your partner is someone whose character melds with yours and someone you would like to spend a lifetime rarely comes up at the top of the list because a majority of the time it is about the sex and how good it will be— the VAVAVOOM and nothing but.

LadyRosa:
I don't blame women whose husbands are based abroad when they cheat.

Body no be firewood.

"Body nor be firewood" says a potential cheat.


Enjoy jare.

Kobojunkie:
Why pity them? Why not pity the men who rather than first chase their abroad dreams before marriage, choose instead to marry these women expecting that because they send back money these wives will sit, with laps clamped shut, waiting for oga to return. All this while oga get him girlfriend for where him dey wey dey give am sex regularly.

You never see people men after marriage that's when the abroad dream click

Atleast I know of 3 men

One has been able to invite his wife after 5yrs, one came to pick his one of his daughter

Kobojunkie:
1. That is exactly what I am saying with many a Nigerian, sex is pretty much an alpha-&-omega as far as marriage is concerned. Why? because the culture mainly projects sex as being of great importance where marriage is concerned, and so many Nigerians approach it from a point of obsession even.

2. See what I mean? Companionship, as in ensuring your partner is someone whose character melds with yours and someone you would like to spend a lifetime rarely comes up at the top of the list because a majority of the time it is about the sex and how good it will be.

An indian story you dey sing in your second paragraph
Companionship do not always entails that the other persons character melds with yours .

I didn't believe that .
Companionship is also an understanding of your partners weaknesses , and daring to live with it.If you are lucky, changes may occur, if not, it's a cross to carry or not to carry.

Sex is ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE.IT IS LIKE THAT ALL OVER THE WORLD AND NOT JUST NIGERIA.

What I won't argue is, there are different approaches to sex from different people .There are those who endure and there are those who don't, for those who can't, it's to be expected that they may cheat.

When a man have the temerity to keep a wife starving for years and want to expect she stays faithful is absolutely wickedness .He should never have gotten married in the first place .

LadyRosa:


Majority of them cheat.
I know many, I won't judge them.
Woman Body no be firewood!

So says a potential cheat. The anonymous nature of nairaland can allow some of you spew indecency.

The fact that you post it boldly does not mean decent women do it. Even if some of them do, the man must have been inadequate in other areas like not making regular romantic video calls, praying and planning together, sending money, calling her parents or siblings, not making stipulated visits, etc.

lereinter:
You never see people men after marriage that's when the abroad dream click. Atleast I know of 3 men
One has been able to invite his wife after 5yrs, one came to pick his one of his daughter

So because the abroad dream clicked only after marriage, these men expected the wives to sit with thighs together because they were abroad sending money back while they themselves had others to take care of them there?

SonOfEl:


So says a potential cheat. The anonymous nature of nairaland can allow some of you spew indecency.

The fact that you post it boldly does not mean decent women do it. Even if some of them do, the man must have been inadequate in other areas like not making regular romantic video calls, praying and planning together, sending money, calling her parents or siblings, not making stipulated visits, etc.

Idiot! My husband knows my moniker!

JasonScoolari:
"Body nor be firewood" says a potential cheat.


Enjoy jare.

I dey enjoy my brother .

Video sex, self service


How can she allow another man to climb you, worst she divorce the away man

It is irresponsible for a man to leave his spouse for a long period of time in a bid to searching for greener pastures. This defeats the main purpose of marriage, which is companionship.

Nothing can be as evil as expecting a sexually active woman to stay celibate for a long period of time after you've intentionally plunged her into a state of emotional ennui and solitude; it is sheer wickedness.

If you have plans to travel out, do so before getting married; you can't deprive your wife and kids of husbandly/fatherly benefits and expect God not to punish you, because you've deliberately failed at the duties given to you by God.

One thing is certain: she'd cheat on you either whimsically, perfunctorily, or intentionally.

Note: This is applicable to both genders.

Finally, The only reason I won't blame you is if your wife/husband is troublesome/unfaithful; your peace of mind first before any other thing.

theInfinity:
I have been curious to know how women whose husbands live abroad satisfy themselves when h0rny.

making romantic video calls (believe me it works especially when they see each others unclothedness and masturbate over it), The man sends money (it doesn't have to be too much) with a love letter regularly. The man also sends surprise gifts. They also pray and plan together during video calls. Lastly and most importantly, a realistic date of visitation is set so that both look forward to it knowing fully well that they won't remain apart on the long term. It's a psychological battle you know.

I suggest they find a man that will substitute. The husband will understand

scottyoloye:
It is irresponsible for a man to leave his spouse for a long period of time in a bid to searching for greener pastures. This defeats the main purpose of marriage, which is companionship.

Nothing can be as evil as expecting a sexually active woman to stay celibate for a long period of time after you've intentionally plunged her into a state of emotional ennui and solitude; it is sheer wickedness.

If you have plans to travel out, do so before getting married; you can't deprive your wife and kids of husbandly/fatherly benefits and expect God not to punish you, because you've deliberately failed at the duties given to you by God.

One thing is certain: she'd cheat on you either whimsically, perfunctorily, or intentionally.

Note: This is applicable to both genders.

Finally, The only reason I won't blame you is if your wife/husband is troublesome/unfaithful; your peace of mind first before any other thing.

Those WOMEN are far better of in Naija
They can hop on rods their for husbands here don't care. The MEN will only care the day it becomes a mandatory law to bring them abroad because that will be the beginning of the end of the marriage.

LadyRosa:
1. An indian story you dey sing in your second paragraph. Companionship do not always entails that the other persons character melds with yours . I didn't believe that . Companionship is also an understanding of your partners weaknesses , and daring to live with it.If you are lucky, changes may occur, if not, it's a cross to carry or not to carry.

2. Sex is ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE.IT IS LIKE THAT ALL OVER THE WORLD AND NOT JUST NIGERIA. What I won't argue is, there are different approaches to sex from different people .There are those who endure and there are those who don't, for those who can't, it's to be expected that they may cheat. When a man have the temerity to keep a wife starving for years and want to expect she stays faithful is absolutely wickedness .He should never have gotten married in the first place .

1. Please at least check What is a compassionate Marriage so we can at least get on the same page as far as what is understood as companionship in marriage.

2. You continue to make my point which is that Nigerians tend to approach the issues of marriage from a Sex-is-alpha-&-omega point of view that it pretty much makes no sense to even attempt to cause them to see that it shouldn't be that way. Out in the rest of the world, there are couples who have comfortably existed without sex for a period of years with the relationship and bond between them going stronger than ever. There are spouses with sick partners who have altogether had to give up on sex altogether because for them there are more important things in marriage than sex. Trying to convince a Nigerian of this is like trying to break down an iron wall with a fork in hand and a bowl of water.

Wickedfacts:
Go to Okota, Festac, Abule Ado and you will pity Igbo women whose husbands are abroad. These women shamelessly sleep around and fight over young boys.
Their husbands will send money from abroad and the wives would be wasting it on small boys.
Asides that, they have a high rate of lesbianism there. Women licking women without mercy, and the men are abroad, suffering.

The man no dey FVCK FOR ABROAD?

scottyoloye:
It is irresponsible for a man to leave his spouse for a long period of time in a bid to searching for greener pastures. This defeats the main purpose of marriage, which is companionship.

Nothing can be as evil as expecting a sexually active woman to stay celibate for a long period of time after you've intentionally plunged her into a state of emotional ennui and solitude; it is sheer wickedness.

If you have plans to travel out, do so before getting married; you can't deprive your wife and kids of husbandly/fatherly benefits and expect God not to punish you, because you've deliberately failed at the duties given to you by God.

One thing is certain: she'd cheat on you either whimsically, perfunctorily, or intentionally.

Note: This is applicable to both genders.

Finally, The only reason I won't blame you is if your wife/husband is troublesome/unfaithful; your peace of mind first before any other thing.

You spoke my mind !
I have not travelled out of the country for years because of my husband.
It's painful because even when I tried, after committing monies I changed my mind because I realise he wasn't comfortable with it and even though is quiet and gave me the go ahead eventually I declined .
The highest I will do is to birth and come back.

My husband is still very young, in fact in his early thirties.And so he needs to be knocked when he wants it.IT IS HIS RIGHT BY THE LAW OF THE LAND, OF HEAVEN AND OF THE CONSTITUTION .

LadyRosa:


Idiot! My husband knows my moniker!

Na so.....audio husband abi? Lol. Speak for yourself not for other women.

MALIGNANTGuest:

Those WOMEN are far better enough in Naija
They can hop on rods their husbands here don't care. The MEN will only care the day it becomes a mandatory law to bring them abroad because that will be the beginning of the end of the marriage.

Already stated in my last paragraph.

LadyRosa:


You spoke my mind !
I have not travelled out of the country for years because of my husband.
It's painful because even when I tried, after committing monies I changed my mind because I realise he wasn't comfortable with it and even though is quiet and gave me the go ahead eventually I declined .
The highest I will do is to birth and come back.

My husband is still very young, in fact in his early thirties.And so he needs to be knocked when he wants it.IT IS HIS RIGHT BY THE LAW OF THE LAND, OF HEAVEN AND OF THE CONSTITUTION .

Simple!!!!

Kobojunkie:
1. Please at least check What is a compassionate Marriage so we can at least get on the same page as far as what is understood as companionship in marriage.

2. You continue to make my point which is that Nigerians tend to approach the issues of sex from an almost Sex-is-alpha-&-omega point of view that it pretty much makes no sense to even attempt to make them try to see that it shouldn't. Out in the rest of the world, there are couples who exist without sex for years, but the relationship and bond between them going stronger than ever. There are spouses with sick partners who have altogether had to give up on sex altogether because for them there are more important things in marriage than sex. Trying to convince a Nigerian of this is like try to break down an iron wall with a fork in hand and a bowl of water.

Those are couple who don't want it.
Humans are wired differently oga!
$ex is important , those who make it less important should not be judged , same for those who take it as a priority.

LadyRosa:
Those are couple who don't want it. Humans are wired differently oga! $ex is important , those who make it less important should not be judged , same for those who take it as a priority.

Wrong! It isn't that they don't want it. Instead, they don't prioritize as you do. It is not a thing of obsession for them as it is for you. That is the difference, plain and simple. They can have sex when they are both in the mood for it, otherwise, they wait.