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Tookool:
Firstly op, wanting to meet you in an eatery doesn’t mean you’re going there to spend a fortune, get a drink for you both, it will cost you less than 5k. Abi where do you want to meet her? Your house? Bukka? For kiosk?

You also said she owns an iPhone and it would require you to sub for her, Chief na the same sub wey them Dey do for iPhone and android, in fact android consumes more data.

Lastly, your Aunty would not want you to date or marry her if she was promiscuous. They stay on the same street and she knows her better. Them don give you wife, go marry and stop making excuses

yeah Truth, a lady once ask us to meet at one big eaterie like that and and I was surprised she refused to order for anything even as I force her to eat something or even drink

meedoLock:
So, there was this lady introduced to me by my aunty as a single guy, you know the African way of patronizing someone who is due for settling down. The general view is that you should settle down to be responsible.
So this babe is also single, just concluded her service year less than a year ago. She stays my big sister street, so my sister, haven't observed her for long, approached her, got her number and now she want me to be running her maybe something good might come out of it .
I was partially in support of it cos I like to kill my fish on my own, not the one killed for me' but out of love and respect, I collected the number and linked up with the babe on watsap asap.
To cut it short, she was also ready to have a serious relationship like. But our problems started first from her utterances on guys who are not financially bouyant, according to her, such man should not be giving a chance, she's also too logical to reason with, she uses an iPhone and want me an Android user to be servicing the sub.

She also doesn't want us to meet on a low-key, but all these expensive eateries. I was playing along for a while, until I found out it would amount in futility if taken to a higher levels.

One, I might not be able to be up to task to her extravagant life styles, and that would cut us short. However, we never really met, I do visit my sister and we see from distance but we act as if we don't know each other since she insist we meet on a classic mode.

I've already reduced our conversation and I guessed she also sensed the signal.
My take is that some babe I've refused to learn how to relate with guys, knowing what one's wants and what one's could get, not to think about themselves alone but others.

I'm not against ladies sizing up guys but if love and peace of mind is what you want, then you should stop being too materialistic.

I don't see myself dignifying you if you have refused to show me thesame gesture. Hence, my little observation about ladies getting too many affairs wrong. Some might say I'm not man enough but it's just that I'm a guy who doesn't play or toy with ladies feelings. No game irrespective of how you portray yourself to me, I go just free u before it go deeper....

Compliments to Nairalanders

Congratulations!
Cut all connection with that gold digger, infact thank God that you observed the signs very early.
Those kind of girls ain't like rattle snake

Blessedmercy8:
Hmmm.. men have cease to be men. So because she suggested eateries as meeting point, she's not reasonable? By the way, which eatery is not expensive nowadays? Ordinary buka, you'll still spend a reasonable amount of money to eat what you want. So I don't see that as her being too extravagant.

As for stating what she wants in a man, she has every right to choose her kind of man according to her taste and not settle for anything short of that just for the sake of it. That you don't measure up to her kind of man doesn't make her unreasonable. It's her choice. The beat you can do is let her go and then you look for someone who doesn't mind your current financial status.

By the way, what makes you think you can roll with someone who's using an iphone when you are using an android phone? A fresh grad for that matter... You guys are levels apart and that alone is a red flag.

My dear, she's not for you. Like you said, go and catch your own fish by yourself. Hang your bag where your hand go reach.

. Yes a fresh grad using an iPhone.. does she run a business, does she work??

How did a fresh grad get the funds to get an iPhone??


Ask yourself that??


Could she have been involved in hook up??

Another question to be asked..

Dybala11:
After cross-over night service for my church here (MFM), I unintentionally eavesdrop on the conversations a group of girls were having. Omo, trust anyone at your peril, even church girls.

Lol that one dy certain, do not trust anyone if u wn live long.

Silentgroper:
. Yes a fresh grad using an iPhone.. does she run a business, does she work??

How did a fresh grad get the funds to get an iPhone??


Ask yourself that??


Could she have been involved in hook up??

Another question to be asked..

A fresh grad using iphone was probably dating a sugar daddy or doing hookup. Them many for my area. Though I can't say for sure how this particular girl got hers.

Permit me to say that you have low self esteem. Wanting to meet you in an expensive eatery doesn't mean you are going to spend the money you don't have. Poor people also go to eateries and relax with bottle water, soda and meat pies. She does not want you to see her too cheap. My present wife do pass that one. When I met her, na bottle water she dey drink for her papa house, same in school and eats at expensive places. Today in my house, na satchet water she dey drink, not that I can't afford bottle water. The bottle water is for our kids to take to school. Man up and talk to her, follow her to the eatery, have a budget like between 4k to 5k because first impression matters. Tell her how much you intend to spend there and you'll be surprised she won't be picky. She'll even respect you for telling her your budget.

Blessedmercy8:
A fresh grad using iphone was probably dating a sugar daddy or doing hookup. Them many for my area. Though I can't say for sure how this particular girl got hers.

naim you con want make op dey frolick around with ...



Make she go meet sugar daddies na

jogsman01:
That's how one of them came visiting for the first time, telling me she wasn't comfortable with my room and parlor. I just told her; sisi mi, whatever makes me happy and gives me peace. I'm comfortable with where I am and we never talk marriage sef, you dey want flat. I just zeroed her from my mind straight up.

The sisi mi got me laughing so bad. If matter don gbenutan, na wetin to use start be that

Zonefree:
Bang her and stop taking too much.

Baba, make en free the babe ahbeg. Wetin go be your own no go stress you.

seanwilliam:
Yesterday I linked up with a girl I met a day before Christmas. I went straight to the point and she no even think am twice to gree( mind you we’ve not been talking since I collected her number ). Flag number 1. she’s hookup package . Flag number 2. She started telling me story of how her ex dumped her cos of money for cloth - she’s materialistic.
Flag number 3, I almost bleeped her at the toilet of the bar


I was thinking of considering her but now, I’m sorry to say na to fhuck and dump her,

By God grace she should be here tomorrow, I’ll give her best sex of her life and kiss her goodbye.. no time.


@ op, ensure you fhuck her , then dump her. She’s for the street !!

Mad man. E say By God's grace

toujurs:
If i was the one,i will size up to her taste,once i fu*k her like 5 times, i will begin to act broke.

All these girls that doesn't have sense need to be thought a bitter lesson, the expensive restaurant she wants you two to go to, trust me she can't pay for it. And she will never pay for it.

It one that even surprises me, is an ugly girl saying she wants to be taken care of, like you kidding me, you are not even fine, see your teeth like cowries and you looking for who will take care of you. .

Bro abeg no kill me

meedoLock:
Lol. Thanks anyway, I never said she's not wifey materials. But you know the saying that first impression matter most. I think she expected too much, and I don't currently fit in yet. I had to withdraw inorder not to bring about inevitable disappointment.

You're wise. Just face your hustle blood. When the time comes, trust me, it will happen without stress.

meedoLock:
Oh! This is constructive enough, but don't you think it's wrong of her to demand money from me when we are even yet to meet officially? Yes I might not fit in to the level of her financial thirst yet but she obviously made it look money stuff.

That's a red flag. Forget about her and focus my brother.

Gohs:
There are natural laws in the physical realm. . .

There are natural laws in the spiritual realm. . .

Any form of sex outside marriage brings evil spirits.
This is a natural law in the spirit realm.

That's why the Bible said we should run away from sexual immorality — it's because it brings evil spirits which you will not see with your physical eyes.

Brother, I once met a lady and within a week & months after meeting her, everything started turning sour for me. Na now things just dey bounce back and now I don mellow.

From what you posted, the lady gave so many red flags. However, you did not indicate much about your own views. Not what you have in your mind but what you told her.

In relationship, you must learn to air your view. For example, when she told you to pay for her sub, where you bold enough to tell her no, and also give the reason why you can't do that?

Always say you mind when going into a new relationship, that is what it takes to be a man.

NohurryInLife:
The sisi mi got me laughing so bad. If matter don gbenutan, na wetin to use start be that

abi nau

Cazzim:
yeah Truth, a lady once ask us to meet at one big eaterie like that and and I was surprised she refused to order for anything even as I force her to eat something or even drink

And I once met a lady like that Habitat, from kogi state. My dear brother, this girl no dey like make I dey spend my money. Me and this girl go komot, she go use scope go pay up for back. No matter how much the bill, she go pay.

E get one day wey me and my guys komot and she come join us 4 there. Brother, this babe still use scope go pay for all the bills oooo. Even my friends shock.

And if I offer her money, she no go collect ahm. Na so so gifts I just dey buy 4 her. And there are some gifts she go even still question me say why I go buy ahm??

Better babes still dey fah. If not for the yeye child betrothal and some stupid laws, I 4 marry Habibat.

And no be say I broke. She go buy new tyres for me. Use scope carry my car komot go fuel ahm. Chai, that girl really showed me heavenly love. She gave me absolute rest of mind.

jogsman01:
abi nau

And I once met a lady like that Habitat, from kogi state. My dear brother, this girl no dey like make I dey spend my money. Me and this girl go komot, she go use scope go pay up for back. No matter how much the bill, she go pay.

E get one day wey me and my guys komot and she come join us 4 there. Brother, this babe still use scope go pay for all the bills oooo. Even my friends shock.

And if I offer her money, she no go collect ahm. Na so so gifts I just dey buy 4 her. And there are some gifts she go even still question me say why I go buy ahm??

Better babes still dey fah. If not for the yeye child betrothal and some stupid laws, I 4 marry Habibat.

And no be say I broke. She go buy new tyres for me. Use scope carry my car komot go fuel ahm. Chai, that girl really showed me heavenly love. She gave me absolute rest of mind.

jogsman01:
you agree with the OP that most ladies are very expensive. Most ladies nowadays don't fall in love except money is involved. So, the OP doesn't meet her expectations. Shey you get?

I agree with him

Sofialuv:
I agree with him

you're included also, right

NohurryInLife:
And I once met a lady like that Habitat, from kogi state. My dear brother, this girl no dey like make I dey spend my money. Me and this girl go komot, she go use scope go pay up for back. No matter how much the bill, she go pay.

E get one day wey me and my guys komot and she come join us 4 there. Brother, this babe still use scope go pay for all the bills oooo. Even my friends shock.

And if I offer her money, she no go collect ahm. Na so so gifts I just dey buy 4 her. And there are some gifts she go even still question me say why I go buy ahm??

Better babes still dey fah. If not for the yeye child betrothal and some stupid laws, I 4 marry Habibat.

And no be say I broke. She go buy new tyres for me. Use scope carry my car komot go fuel ahm. Chai, that girl really showed me heavenly love. She gave me absolute rest of mind.

and you no kon marry her? I guess your wife for don do pass her. Which kin stupid kulture

Fiscus105:
Though ur mentioned says you are still under 20, but if u are above 20, it means you are only growing and not developed. ......that's slowpoke.

Infact, you are worse than OP and I guess you are one of redpilers hopeless urchins in that lamentation thread.


....I repeat, if you are man enough and confident, you tackle the lady who see you as host in which parasite want to suck dry, and not comming to faceless forum to lament and bash all women 24/7.



Infact, this show how girls are doing you guys nonsense physically but u will come here and do gragra like emperor.

Obvious, your mention sound like you are above 20, But you need a lot of education as far as women realm is concerned .

Firstly, Op never did anything wrong bringing the issue to the faceless forum.( he never disclosed her identity). I will advice you live a simple life that see less pessimistic about people’s life

Secondly, Op tackle the issue the best way by cutting communication with her. Not by the dumb gibberish quotes you mention. I will advice you should never in your life think to change womam, especially the materialistic ones.

Lastly, i am not every dirty stuffs you called me. I can sense your life full of negativity. Take a reflect on yourself and keep it simple son

jogsman01:
you're included also, right

there's a guy I met online so we decided to see each other I told him where I want him to take me to he agreed. We decided to meet in a bar, when I got there he asked me wat i will I take, I told him I will like to drink Hollandia yoghurt and barbecue fish he brought the yoghurt and told me the barbecue fish is 7k. I shouted and told him that is too expensive that we should just buy ASU meat that was all. You see this life you don't need to kill some one son because you want to enjoy life. Some of us can't even bring out 7k just to buy the fish then why are we putting guys under pressure

Sofialuv:
there's a guy I met online so we decided to see each other I told him where I want him to take me to he agreed. We decided to meet in a bar, when I got there he asked me wat i will I take, I told him I will like to drink Hollandia yoghurt and barbecue fish he brought the yoghurt and told me the barbecue fish is 7k. I shouted and told him that is too expensive that we should just buy ASU meat that was all. You see this life you don't need to kill some one son because you want to enjoy life. Some of us can't even bring out 7k just to buy the fish then why are we putting guys under pressure

hmmm... Inbox?

meedoLock:
I tell u. She's already trying to dictate to me even when we are yet to concrete anything

If young men will be sensible, any materialistic woman will Never make a good wife. A wise woman will amass wealth with her man, not squander it.

However, if she can fund her materialistic life by herself, it's fine. She can eat breakfast at Los Angeles and do dinner at Abu Dhabi.

meedoLock:
So, there was this lady introduced to me by my aunty as a single guy, you know the African way of patronizing someone who is due for settling down. The general view is that you should settle down to be responsible.
So this babe is also single, just concluded her service year less than a year ago. She stays my big sister street, so my sister, haven't observed her for long, approached her, got her number and now she want me to be running her maybe something good might come out of it .
I was partially in support of it cos I like to kill my fish on my own, not the one killed for me' but out of love and respect, I collected the number and linked up with the babe on watsap asap.
To cut it short, she was also ready to have a serious relationship like. But our problems started first from her utterances on guys who are not financially bouyant, according to her, such man should not be giving a chance, she's also too logical to reason with, she uses an iPhone and want me an Android user to be servicing the sub.

She also doesn't want us to meet on a low-key, but all these expensive eateries. I was playing along for a while, until I found out it would amount in futility if taken to a higher levels.

One, I might not be able to be up to task to her extravagant life styles, and that would cut us short. However, we never really met, I do visit my sister and we see from distance but we act as if we don't know each other since she insist we meet on a classic mode.

I've already reduced our conversation and I guessed she also sensed the signal.
My take is that some babe I've refused to learn how to relate with guys, knowing what one's wants and what one's could get, not to think about themselves alone but others.

I'm not against ladies sizing up guys but if love and peace of mind is what you want, then you should stop being too materialistic.

I don't see myself dignifying you if you have refused to show me thesame gesture. Hence, my little observation about ladies getting too many affairs wrong. Some might say I'm not man enough but it's just that I'm a guy who doesn't play or toy with ladies feelings. No game irrespective of how you portray yourself to me, I go just free u before it go deeper....

Compliments to Nairalanders

Whoever linked you up to her, did a poor job. Your aunty ought to know your kind of person & the type of woman suitable for you. She did not do her home work well before collecting & eventually giving you her number.

Flee from tha girl, she's of the parasite mindset.

Zeinymira:
She might not be extravagant, it's possible she's living a lifestyle she can afford which is not your own reality. Good that you left her

ashawooo

jogsman01:
and you no kon marry her? I guess your wife for don do pass her. Which kin stupid kulture

Otilo brother mi. No day wey I no dey remember that girl. I never see that kind love b4 bro.

The useless law & betrothal just spoil my happiness aswearugad.

NohurryInLife:
Brother, I once met a lady and within a week & months after meeting her, everything started turning sour for me. Na now things just dey bounce back and now I don mellow.

Na true you talk my brother.
Please visit a praying church and ask God to remove every spirit that came to your life through unholy intercourse.
God bless you my brother.

By the way please vote Peter Obi this February, we need to make progress in this country. Thanks.

NohurryInLife:
Otilo brother mi. No day wey I no dey remember that girl. I never see that kind love b4 bro.

The useless law & betrothal just spoil my happiness aswearugad.

inailahi wa inailehi rohjihunah

jogsman01:
inailahi wa inailehi rohjihunah

Gohs:
Na true you talk my brother.
Please visit a praying church and ask God to remove every spirit that came to your life through unholy intercourse.
God bless you my brother.

By the way please vote Peter Obi this February, we need to make progress in this country. Thanks.

Thank you so much my brother. I really do appreciate your time.