lavylilly:
A NOTE TO YOUNG MEN.

This content is not for everyone.

Firstly, I'm directing this content to young men who are not married and trying to figure out their lives.

Secondly, I am directing this content to those young men who would agree that they need to hear this.

One way to distract yourself from fixing your life and falling into distractions is by falling in love easily.

A guy that hasn't found himself in life but easily falls in love with women is probably a danger to himself.

It pains me when I see young men who have not defined their lives getting themselves entangled in a love relationship.

You are struggling like hell, nothing productive you are doing but you're busy dating ladies up and down.

Where is the energy?

Like I said, this content is not for everyone.

I am speaking directly to my male gender.

Dear brother...

Leave women alone and go figure out your life.

I am not saying "you must be rich first."

No. No. No.

But you must at least have some direction or focus for your life before you start adding women into it.

Stop carrying someone's daughter and adding to your confusion. Take a break and go fix you, first.

One of the most distracting activities for any man that is fledgling is falling in love with women easily.

Love is emotionally demanding.

When a man falls in love, the lady becomes his distractions. For example, my wife is my distraction.

But because I operate from the place of solidity, I can accommodate the distraction and love her well.

Ladies, don't get angry here.

This is not about you. This is about speaking hard truths to my fellow brothers to save themselves first.

When my life was a big mess, one tough decision I made was to suspend any form of love relationship.

I didn't date any lady for close to 5 years because I needed to concentrate all my energy on fixing me.

So by the time my wife came, she met a focused man.

She met a man that she could trust to lead her because she could tell he was already leading himself.

Listen guys, you might not agree with me.

That's fine.

Don't copy me but reflect on the principle here.

Yes, I know that there are guys who lack direction for their lives and a lady comes and gives them direction.


But those guys are mostly seen in Nollywood movies.

In real life, they are few and far between.

So listen...

You have a better chance of fixing your life first and falling in love, than waiting for a lady to come fix it for you.

christianjoy:
learnt something new
Thanks for your time and help

Deegee7788:
Thanks ops, I hope they listen. They always put the first thing last and start complaining of how one girl broke their heart. When u sef don't know what u are doing
The only asset you have is ur penis. U still dey ur father house sef, na ur mother still dey feed u. The only thing u dey think of na woman
Na everyday konji dey hold u
Kwantinue
Dey play

Lurdd:
Thanks for the advice tho.
But what do we do when we need sex. should we go and rape,or should we go and molest children, or are you indirectly supporting or suggesting we should go for prostitutes when the need arises..before you got married aren't you into intimacy with anyone, so in this case what should we do

Deegee7788:
Thanks ops, I hope they listen. They always put the first thing last and start complaining of how one girl broke their heart. When u sef don't know what u are doing
The only asset you have is ur penis. U still dey ur father house sef, na ur mother still dey feed u. The only thing u dey think of na woman
Na everyday konji dey hold u
Kwantinue
Dey play