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Baddosqqi:
Never you upgrade a Nigerian Woman! I repeat, never you upgrade a Nigerian Woman, and don't open her eyes by taking her to where her father has not been to.

Just feed her, clothe her, buy her a car to go to the market and take the kids to school and pick them up. That is all!

Once the kids are 18 years old, you can upgrade her, she is free to go anywhere she likes then, once she leaves, get a younger girl and do the same. Write your will, 80% for your children, 10% for her and 10% for your smallie. Case closed!

Never you upgrade a Nigerian lady! Especially those one speaking phonetics because they watch Netflix.

oluwaseyi0:
Unfortunately most women can't have bigger status

There was one sent to school by the husband who now want to abandon the husband to travel out with the kids

The wife is even calling the man illiterate and forcing him to go to school at old age

Dshocker:
Funny enough, i was discussing with my friend on the phone this morning and i was telling him that women are not supposed to willpower, because they cannot manage or control it.

Below is a link, where Wife of DG SSS orders arrest of Kano NNPP guber candidate, directs personnel to kill his aide at Kano airport.

https://www.nairaland.com/7516347/aisha-bichi-orders-arrest-abba

Once you give them wings, they tend to fly away

Kobonaire234:
Another women are bad post

To be soon followed by the men are bad post

I wonder what all the redpillers and feminists gain from fighting each other

Evolutionlove:
Oga, Go and attend to your Fuel Subsidy issues

BigYash:
Una never know women. If the table was turned, and women given power like men. Many of them would turn their husbands to slaves in physical chains. Some women are good,no doubt. But when counting good women,count the present hookup girls out.. Marry them and na one chance you enter

Baddosqqi:
Never you upgrade a Nigerian Woman! I repeat, never you upgrade a Nigerian Woman, and don't open her eyes by taking her to where her father has not been to.

Just feed her, clothe her, buy her a car to go to the market and take the kids to school and pick them up. That is all!

Once the kids are 18 years old, you can upgrade her, she is free to go anywhere she likes then, once she leaves, get a younger girl and do the same. Write your will, 80% for your children, 10% for her and 10% for your smallie. Case closed!

Never you upgrade a Nigerian lady! Especially those one speaking phonetics because they watch Netflix.

qtguru:
Depends on the lady, if na Day 1 paddy sure why not, but if na brokie babe used to simps Hell No.

I helped a babe come into my company, which was the same babe, that helped me get my first job.

A debt owed, A debt paid.

man too go fall your hand, if na FB

Jennyclay:
Upgrading your woman isn't a threat. Why is she your girlfriend/wife of you can't upgrade her? .

Reason I can never marry a broke man. A broke man who can't upgrade himself and you expect me to be with such man. God forbid!

Dshocker:
Men don't abuse power, except from few.

But most women will abuse it.

Wiseandtrue:


I am happy that the husband loved his wife and applied wisdom to get her back

Kaycee54321:
Upgrading your Woman is a fortune... especially if your woman is an OG type of woman.

That said, upgrading your woman to a level elevated above yours is 9 times out of 10, a recipe for DOOM.

Gateman wey carry e babe enter Oga house, if Oga pikin begin eye the babe, naso the relationship go enter voicemail.

More often than not.

If in doubt, run the code.

Jennyclay:
Upgrading your woman isn't a threat. Why is she your girlfriend/wife of you can't upgrade her? .

Reason I can never marry a broke man. A broke man who can't upgrade himself and you expect me to be with such man. God forbid!

Cowbell521:
More like upgrading your problem

qtguru:
Depends on the lady, if na Day 1 paddy sure why not, but if na brokie babe used to simps Hell No.

I helped a babe come into my company, which was the same babe, that helped me get my first job.

A debt owed, A debt paid.

man too go fall your hand, if na FB

Touchypro:
Well generally a man should be ten steps ahead of his woman otherwise you are finished. I have experienced what this op is saying in relationships. Don't upgrade any girl, whatever condition you met her in just let her be that way because no matter what you do for her one day she's going to ask you what have you done for me. Secondly women are created to only look at the negative side of things, this is to say that no matter how nice you've been to a woman once you make one mistake, that's what she would remember forever. That's why you see most women always talking bad about their exes like there wasn't time when these men gave them joy.

Ebubu:
even in nigeria, men upgrade women and they use the new status to bargain for dating with richer men than you.

Evolutionlove:
Nice, This is how it should be. If a man is fortunate to meet Women/Ladies who assist them. They should return the same favour too.

It's extremely hard to see Women/Ladies extending an assistance to Men. Once Women/Ladies are made, They tend to always look up and front and despise people below them.

The only way to make them appreciate you most of the time and behave is "You should make them invest in you, be it friendship/relationship. It's alway very hard for them to misbehave and leave when they know they are the one doing most of the investing.

Anything apart from this OYO.

shineeye1:
Why would you position your wife higher than yourself!? You want to become the Wife?! Infact women are attracted to the men who keep developing themselves and detest and despise men who upgrade them at their own detriment. The law of nature in them revolts such anomaly! Keep upgrading until you will be graded out of reckoning...

truthsayer009:
I don't know how you'd be happy living with someone not up to your standard, cannot be me sha. Whether she leaves you or stays with you after you have upgraded her is 50/50. It is not something you should be overly worried about. Upgrading a lady you're married to is actually for your own happiness. Also if we use this same metrics, it means our father shouldn't have upgraded our mothers too because of uncertainty. You don't want to end up like Goodluck Jonathan with wife that cannot communicate in basic english as a First lady of Federal Republic of Nigeria.

A woman leaving you either by separation or divorce is part of life, if she will stay, then she will stay. No big deal.

CHoccolaTE:
What a disgusting thread filled with evil minded enemies of progress.

I have always said it that the average Nigerian man is a demonic beast, how can so many of you actively wish for your wives to always remain below you and advice each other to not help her rise in life?

If a random person says they wish their brother or neighbor should never rise above them in life, that random person will be called a wicked and evil person but when it's husband's wishing it for their wives, somehow that kind of wickedness becomes acceptable to them.

Your rubbish pride cannot handle a woman being better than you, that's why you people don't want your wives to rise above you, not because of the nonsense reasons you wrote here, in Nigeria presently, many wives are the ones feeding husband and children and they keep quiet about it to maintain their homes, look at that topic in frontpage about the woman whose husband spends all his money on gambling.


I don't blame you people, it's Nigerian women that love carrying marriages to evil men on their heads I blame.

abobote:
A threat, the other my wife reminded me that I promised to send her to school, I told her maybe after the fifth child, so that anything that happens from there I won't feel too bad
We have only two kids together for now

Evolutionlove:
Yes this happens most of the time. Once women eyes get opened, believe me there is no looking back or going back. Unlike Men, Some will still greet you at least and roll with you but they may not be comfortable doing that. But most Nigeria Upgraded Women/Ladies will look you like shit if you are not levelled up and you will be invisible to them.

Why do you think the ARABS usually cover their women/ladies face and make them stay at home? Your guess is as good as mine

He has also emphasized that some men does it to increase their ego in the social setting.

Someone also said men should see it as charity etc.

BMathew:
I saw this post on Facebook, guys what's your honest opinion?

One of my senior friend met his wife in the 1990s as a typist working in a business centre near a court. He was smitten by her and promised to upgrade her.

He is a lawyer, he married her and trained her in school to become a lawyer too. She was called to bar, he got her a job in the court and she became a Legal Assistant at Judiciary.

His aim was for her to become a judge or magistrate. Presently, she is a Chief Registrar, she would have been among the judges appointed by Governor Wike except that she was originally from Akwa Ibom.

My senior friend have on many occasions travelled to the UK, USA, Germany and Hong-Kong. He never thought of divorcing the wife or abandoning his family. They have 4 children together.

Few years back, he decided for the first time to travel with the wife. The wife's sister has been living in the USA. He trained the wife's sister too, she met her husband who took her to the USA while living in his house in Port Harcourt.

The USA Embassy usually give 2 years Tourist Visa to first timers. So his wife got 2 years. While they were in the USA it was decided that the wife stayed back and give birth to their last child whom she was pregnant with.

My senior friend came back to Nigeria, few months after she gave birth and was expected back. A lawyer from FIDA (Women's Lawyers Association in Nigeria) served my friend a Divorce Petition.

He was heartbroken. He still loved his wife, but she said she wanted to stay back and was no longer interested in the marriage.

At the end of the day my senior friend was able to use her family and some of their mutual friend to talk to her. He promised to have a joint bank account with her and do all other conditions she stated, including another marriage at the registry.

She came back. He stole her passport. He decided within himself never ever to let her travel again. They celebrated their 25th anniversary recently. They were so happy in church, she bought him an expensive wristwatch, while he bought her a car. They have not done the marriage at the registry.

During his birthday last year, she surprised him with a trip to Transcorp Hotel, Abuja. She loves the husband, but if he allowed her to travel to UK or Canada today, she will begin to see a world better than what she has and she will forget her love for him and wish to have something better than him.

My friend has decided that he will make sure she doesn't become a judge. He wants his daughter, who was recently called to the bar to go into the judiciary, and he will pursue for her to become a judge in place of her mother.

He has learned his lesson, but the wife doesn't know this. The wife is not a bad person. She was being a wvmån. It is a biological trait in them.

Don't wait till it happens to you before you learn.

Go to many families in Anambra and Abiriba whose children flooded overseas in the late 1990s to 2000s; I make bold to say that 70% the mothers who went for Omogwu never came back to their husband. They abandoned their younger children, the family, and their husband and stayed back.

If you genuinely love your wvmån, do not upgrade her to a better life that she has never been accustomed to, you will regret it bitterIy. Build your wvmån but keep her below you.

Seun, RoyalRoy