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| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by OILOFGLADNESS: 4:09pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
ogugua88: Being good pays off eventually. Some people will steer from doing good because the results or rewards are not met immediately. Politicians, cheats, liars, crooks, etc., all get what they want and claim they are "happy". How long does that happiness last? We should ask Ibori.nna ikwusigo ya! i am always a victim of good doing but at the wrong run God will always prove Himself mighty keep on being the good person you are, surely u will be humiliated, be like fool, rejected,victimized, deprived of things but envetually, you will rejoice,. honestly i kept on asking God why must it delay before you reward your children, cos for one to be good, he/she must be close to God and have good morals. it is well with us . honestly its not easy to be good |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by vivianc(op): 4:16pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@salt1; get behind me satan! Pls get off my thread if u think u can come here and provoke people in oRder for this thread to be derailed. I'm not one of you people that hide under the phrase "born again" to perpetuate evil! By the way who are u to judge? Do u even know what it means to be born again? Cos if u do u won't come online to say trash! The last time I checked winning souls for christ is not done through being insulting........ Or does being born again take away ur ability to comprehend common English? Pls brother born again let ur light shine! and get off my thread! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by vivianc(op): 4:22pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@salt 1; when next you think u wanna advice people to change their evil ways as a "born again", pls pray for the holy spirit who is the executor of God's word not you! Common wisdom ought to have told you that! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by sweeteasy(m): 4:28pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@poster, being good always pays off cos it gives a feeling of fulfillment and self worth. The only downside is you don't always get the chicks ![]() |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 4:31pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@ Vivian Chinaza(OP).... I rather recommend people are fair rather than being good. Being fair means you can be better off playing smart, without exploiting someone else...... In the examples you gave, if you are fair rather than being 'good', you can never be perceived as weak................... If I'm fair first round to you, and you not being fair in return, wisdom demands you cut him/her off. You only get perceived as weak if you keep returning unfair gesture for fair gestures... The rule of life is simple...... Play fair to those who are fair with you, and be unfair to those who are unfair with you. It will ensure you not a victim of callous people. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 4:40pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Of course, it does pay off eventually, but being good sucks big time!!!! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 4:50pm On Aug 30, 2012*. Modified: 5:08pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
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| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 4:50pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
If being good means being friendly, then being good is definately bad. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 4:53pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Really depends on the motives. It's one thing to be good because you expect something in return. It's another to be good because that's just the way you are and you don't care about being upheld nor praised in any way. Also, being good does not mean you've to be passive. You can still stand and speak up for yourself when you need to. Yes, it does. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by vivianc(op): 5:09pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Yield: Really depends on the motives. It's one thing to be good because you expect something in return. It's another to be good because that's just the way you are and you don't care about being upheld nor praised in any way. Also, being good does not mean you've to be passive. You can still stand and speak up for yourself when you need to.Common guys, this thread is not all about being good to people or being born again. Its about doing the right thing always! Its about being upright and incoRruptible, straight forward and honest. Its about whether to upheld or bend the truth a little, its about sowing or not sowing ur soul to the devil in otheR to make it big or not! That's what the "good" in this thread means! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by faceit: 5:16pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
i believe in doing good, do good cos its GOD'S COMMANDMENT not becos u want reward from pple but cos u know dat the almighty will surely reward. GOD said to never envy d evil pple cos the wicked shall never prosper, it may seem dey r prospering in d eyes of pple bt d almighty is against, let he dat do good continue, his reward is with HIM and HE will give wen d time comes bt its nt easy bt its also easy if u r focused and continue to walk in d right part l.e GOD'S part. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by tlops(m): 5:17pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
in Heaven, Yes. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 5:38pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: Common guys, this thread is not all about being good to people or being born again. Its about doing the right thing always! Its about being upright and incoRruptible, straight forward and honest. Its about whether to upheld or bend the truth a little, its about sowing or not sowing ur soul to the devil in otheR to make it big or not! That's what the "good" in this thread means!So, are you agreeing or disagreeing with my post? We're basically on the same page, but you seemed to disagree or you didn't understand my reply. And who's talking about being born again? We can talk about that, but I don't believe being good is dependant on being born again. Lastly, part of being a good person is being good to people, so it doesn't make sense to take that out of the equation. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by vivianc(op): 5:55pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@yield; ofcourse I agree with u, I just meant a broader perspective! Yes being good to people is part of being good but there is more to being a good person than just being good to people! For instance, someone that does ritual might be good to people but that doesn't make him/heR a good peRson. Hope u get my point now? |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 7:10pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Being good in sich is not a bad thing at all. That is, being good for the sake of being good is perfectly okay. It has nothing to it. However, being good for the sake of rewards will always be disappointing, as we tend to expect too much from the people we extend kindness to. I'd rather extend kindness to others with sense than extend kindness randomly. vivian chinaza: Pls when will it pay off? Is it when I die? I'm not born again, I just believe in the principles of doing good! And somehow its now part of me. I feel very miserable doing otherwise. E.g, when I was working for a construction company I was in a position that i had access to some of the company's materials. I could have stolen and made money just like others were doing. Instead I sat on my desk, worked my butt off and depended on my salary. My friends I did the job with have built houses and bought cars but I'm still struggling! In fact, at the end of the day another manageR (thief) came to head my depaRtment and sacked me cos I'm a "jew" girl! Infact, I could give countless instances.......even in school I watch people that can't even wRite their names make good grade becos they soRt and people that woRk hard either fail or come out with low grades. Even when it comes to my relationship with people I give my best and my all but I don't only get nothing in return but I would be taken advantage of! I have seen good people suffer! Being a good person doesn't guaRantee you will get same fair tReatment from people, but does it mean ur right should be deprived? Can someone pls tell me the difference between being good and being stupid! Cos I really want to learn!Were you sufficiently 'good' at that job? If I were you, I'd write a letter to management detailing how the manager and others have been exploiting the company. I'd be more pushed to write that after losing my job. Those guys cant just eat their cake and have it. Perhaps if you had told on them, you could have had the manager's job eventually. Sometimes, that's the best being good brings you when you are different from others. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by God2man(m): 7:51pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Nobody is really good, except God. God will send down his rain on the wicked man and the good man. Can we do that? Man is wicked, we only do good because we know that there is going to be a pay back day. If we can see that nothing will come out of our kindness, we may not do it. Also, We can pretend to be good by helping people that appreciate the goodness we extend to them. There are some people that are ingrate, they will never appreciate whatever you do to them. If we can tolerate the unloveables, then i will say we are doing good in the real sense of the word, but if we only do good to those people that will repay us back then our kindness is questionable. Generally, whatever we sow, we shall reap. Whatever we do today will go a long way from generation to generation. The bottomline do good and expect no return. If you are expecting reward as a result of the goodness you have done, you will be making a serious mistakes. How God will pay you back, you may never know until one day, you suddenly realize that you have achieved a lot. Then you become a suprise to yourself. God bless you. God2man. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by bola09: 7:56pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
I hope you get to read this reply since there has been many replies since you initiated this post. I plead guilty to presumption but I guess your age at 20+/- a few years; and I sense a purity of mind and intention that deserve a reply from a person who has more experience. Now, these are my rules it affects “being good”, otherwise rephrase as integrity - 1. Integrity (been a good person as you put) is for your benefit and no one else. It makes you sleep better at night to know that you have done everything humanly possible to treat others exactly the way you will like to be treated. Now, do not expect others to hold the same standard else, you will be disappointed. 2. In doing this, you have to ignore the crowds. Not only in Nigeria, the act of integrity is in short supply all over the world although I will agree that Nigerian seems to wallow in abundance of this menace. 3. Integrity does not equal being stupid, tolerating insult from others, being weak, indecisive or, allowing others to dictate your path. I include this because sometimes people implied “being nice” to saying yes to everyone. You have to know when to say know without the blink of an eye and stand by it. 4. Success equal hard work but it is not a direct relationship. You can work very hard and still fails but in failing, you have learnt something which if well applied in future will make that failure looks like a success in retrospect. 5. Know what you know and, what you do not know. Once you are proved wrong, acknowledge you were wrong and embrace the opportunity presented by what you had just learnt. 6 Learn something new everyday, no matter how small. 7. Relate to all human being as individual, not as a group. Yes, there is group pattern or, tribal pattern as is commonly said in Nigeria, but in general, every person is different. You can never tell where and from whom your success will come. Learn this when you are young and, apply it daily. 8. Even in disagreement, listen to the argument from the other side. You don’t have to agree, but make a genuine effort to listen, you will learn something. 9. Never take any relationship for granted. In the real word, people will never forgive you if you take them for granted. 10. The last one, believe only that which you are able to verify. This does not preclude you from benefiting from things you are not able to verify but it forces you to be cautious in those circumstances. The other way to put, trust but verify (Ronald Reagan, former American President) I hope this help and, feel free to contact me if you need more guidance in this regard. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Ignatio(m): 7:57pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
Emusan: All unrightousness is a sin.Why the triple X? Are you a porn star? |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by NAJALYN: 9:29pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
@poster keep up the good work. Do not despair. If you do good you must reap good, no matter how long it takes,vice versa. The reward for evil may take long to manifest, but when it does, it is always devastating. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by blub: 10:42pm On Aug 30, 2012 |
I agree with Claremont. religion can only guide you. you will have to make the decisions not the book you believe in. also if you want to be good you have to understand evil. otherwise it will use you. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Peacetalk1: 2:02am On Aug 31, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: Why is it that being a good person is being perceived as weak and foolish? most times it seems being good doesn't pay off anymore cos u will be exploited, ridiculed and taken advantage of while the wicked are being celebrated. Must one be ruthless in business in order to make profit? Must a student sort to come out with good grades? Must a lady sleep with a man to get a job or any other favour? Must a politician lie to get elected? Must one glorify himself or "join the trend" to fit in or be appreciated? Must one be manipulative to get what he wants in life? Must we all practice survival by deception? What happens to those who can't? Is there any hope for them? Does evil ever prevail over good? Why do we celebrate evil instead of good? I'm a firm believer of being a good person becos I believe for everything good thing I do someone is a better person because of it. But sometimes it seems it doesn't just pay off!!!!Believe me ma sister being who u re pays(I'm an victim of ur first line) no matter what;even if it seems u re generally perceived as "The boy/girl is gud na mumu" ,deeply u re highly regarded in terms of honest, intergrity, nobility and mostly u'l see u live free, happy n better than the supposed "Charp guys or Smart babes.always know this "What goes around, comes around.*Smile* |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 5:20am On Aug 31, 2012 |
I think its about integrity. It doesnt matter about payoff.Its irrelevant. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 6:43am On Aug 31, 2012 |
some times i wonder! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 9:20am On Aug 31, 2012 |
@ VIVIAN. My dear, being good does not guarantee you anything. Yes it pays off when every1 does good at the same time (which we all know is not posible) or when you're lucky. Fact is, if you want to survive long enough on earth, there are certain situations where you have to be good and certain situations where you have to be bad. Sadly, our pastors sell a 1 size fits all attitude (being good) which doesnt pay off most of the time because we're surounded by wickedness. My 2cents. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 9:41am On Aug 31, 2012 |
Michky: @ VIVIAN. My dear, being good does not guarantee you anything. Yes it pays off when every1 does good at the same time (which we all know is not posible) or when you're lucky. Fact is, if you want to survive long enough on earth, there are certain situations where you have to be good and certain situations where you have to be bad. Sadly, our pastors sell a 1 size fits all attitude (being good) which doesnt pay off most of the time because we're surounded by wickedness. My 2cents.I'l use examination to drive home my point. You see, life is like a regular examination. Am sure you will agree wit me that what matters is PASSING the exam. If you like sort or carry micro chips, or if you like study. What matters is the end result. Although it pays of to study hard, it also pays off to use the necessary means required at any point in time. Abeg am tired of typing joor, do whatever you like (assuming you've learnt your lessons). Its painful that i av so much to say tho. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 9:41am On Aug 31, 2012*. Modified: 10:11am On Aug 31, 2012 |
Michky: @ VIVIAN. My dear, being good does not guarantee you anything. Yes it pays off when every1 does good at the same time (which we all know is not posible) or when you're lucky. Fact is, if you want to survive long enough on earth, there are certain situations where you have to be good and certain situations where you have to be bad. Sadly, our pastors sell a 1 size fits all attitude (being good) which doesnt pay off most of the time because we're surounded by wickedness. My 2cents. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Michky: 10:06am On Aug 31, 2012*. Modified: 10:23am On Aug 31, 2012 |
Michky: I'l use examination to drive home my point. You see, life is like a regular examination. Am sure you will agree wit me that what matters is PASSING the exam. If you like sort or carry micro chips, or if you like study. What matters is the end result. Although it pays of to study hard, it also pays off to use the necessary means required at any point in time. Abeg am tired of typing joor, do whatever you like (assuming you've learnt your lessons). Its painful that i av so much to say tho.Finaly, look closely at the life of a lion. Its mostimes good to its fellow lions but bad to the gazette (because the lion has to feed!) or bad to its fellow male counterparts whenever territorial claim becomes its priority. Am i making sense? Life is neither particular about being good nor being bad. Its about survival. You can do good to survive like pope, or do bad to survive like thieves and profesional politicians. Point is: JUST SURVIVE!! N.B. Let it be known in all the continents of the world that am a strong advocate against those who hamper the lives or existence of other humans in their quest for survival (either through stealing public funds or through robbery) They should all spend their lives behind bars. And in the absense of enthusiasm to type further, I hereby rest my case. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by thorpido(m): 10:36am On Aug 31, 2012 |
vivian chinaza: Common guys, this thread is not all about being good to people or being born again. Its about doing the right thing always! Its about being upright and incoRruptible, straight forward and honest. Its about whether to upheld or bend the truth a little, its about sowing or not sowing ur soul to the devil in otheR to make it big or not! That's what the "good" in this thread means!What problem do u have with being born again.Perhaps u av a wrong conception of what it means.Jesus said dat which is born of d flesh is flesh and dat which is born of d Spirit is spirit.(John 3).To be born again is 2 accept d eternal life(Zoe)Jesus brought from God.Have u got a problem with that? |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by thorpido(m): 10:41am On Aug 31, 2012 |
I know being good pays off eventually though it can be frustrating.My biggest challenge has been to collect back my money from people I lend when they are in need.I just feel like saying no when people want to borrow from me now even if they really have a need. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 3:22pm On Aug 31, 2012 |
Well, it becomes frustrating or stressful when you expect something in return. |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 3:23pm On Aug 31, 2012 |
ogugua88: Being good pays off eventually. Some people will steer from doing good because the results or rewards are not met immediately. Politicians, cheats, liars, crooks, etc., all get what they want and claim they are "happy". How long does that happiness last? We should ask Ibori.Agreed! Patience & perseverance is indeed the key! |
| Re: Does Being A Good Person Really Pay Off? by Nobody: 2:48pm On Sep 01, 2012*. Modified: 7:08pm On Sep 01, 2012 |
Idk..i think being disrespected over and over while trying to maintain composure is the issue.... There is only but so much a person can take. This is why Dalai Lama is someone I will forever admire. I wish I had suh tolerance and humbleness. Its so hard to obtain when al you get is slapped around FOR being nice. Yes, I will cut up but I am a good person. Idk, Im just fed up. |
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