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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by wales4real(m): 7:55am On Jan 15, 2023
Yes, bad leaders make a bad country. But that aside, consider the bigger picture of what this potential trend portends for an already derailing society. A lot are taught by mother and father to innocent minds growing up and that's what Asians capitalize on in creating values and discipline in their society and this translates today to a lot of advancement and sanity in their society. But creating a society of single parents breeds promiscuity, hatred, ill-nurtured children and emotional scars. These don't promote a sane society for other meaningful advancement.
Kobojunkie:
Look, what Nigeria is today is culmination of trends both at the family and societal levels over at least the last 50 or more years. So, don't pretend what is happening today came about overnight. This is the rest of what our parents and grandparents were doing for the last 50 year and clearly the result speaks for itself. undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by knowhowk: 7:55am On Jan 15, 2023
Harddiskng:
A woman that is happily married and wouldn’t want to leave her husband is telling other married women to be comfortable with divorce undecided

I find scenarios like this common among women, I wonder why undecided
No Woman would want to stay in a Marriage that is life threatnening ,Terrible and could lead to Death.

What she said is right .

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 7:58am On Jan 15, 2023
AmuDimpka:
■Luke 16:18
18 “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
■. Malachi 2:16
■ Repent ... Divorce is a big sin
1. Luke 16 which you quoted instead tells you the sin is committed when a divorced person decides to remarry. Divorce it and of itself is not listed as a sin. undecided

2. God hates divorce but the same God did not declare divorce sin either in His Old Law and His New Law, Jesus Christ. undecided

3. Again, stop lying! undecided
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by knowhowk: 7:58am On Jan 15, 2023
Neddstark:
This hypocrite should stop wearing a hijab to deceive people that she is religious. Her views are sick for a muslim woman. Supporting homosexuality, now divorce.
She is not hypocrite ,Staying Alive is better staying in a Marriage that could lead to Death .

Many men and women that were murdered by their Partner could have been alive today if they went their seperate ways ...

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Jammy2012(m): 8:01am On Jan 15, 2023
knowhowk:
No Woman would want to stay in a Marriage that is life threatnening ,Terrible and could lead to Death.

What she said is right .
What she said is right, right? You will see a trend of women soon. They will start leaving marriages due to mood swings now. We Africans do too much. You know the influence these celebrities have on the society right? I don't want my children and grandchildren to go to school with high school shooters anytime soon. Divorce breed a lot of things. If it is life threatening, leave. But we Africans can even surprise the devil with the definition of life threatening marriage grin grin cheesy grin

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:02am On Jan 15, 2023
wales4real:
■ Yes, bad leaders make a bad country. But that aside, consider the bigger picture of what this potential trend portends for an already derailing society.
■ A lot are taught by mother and father to innocent minds growing up and that's what Asians capitalize on in creating values and discipline in their society and this translates today to a lot of advancement and sanity in their society.
■ But creating a society of single parents breeds promiscuity, hatred, ill-nurtured children and emotional scars. These don't promote a sane society for other meaningful advancement.
1. Bad leaders have nothing to do with family and societal trends as far as family is concerned. undecided

2. Stop mentioning Asia societies and focus on the problem that is the African society which is proven by the results all around you today. undecided

3. What you see around you today is the product of African society and family trends of the last 50 years. Complaining about the results amounts to admitting African approach to family and society in general is a problem that needs to be done away with in its entirety.. undecided
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by AmuDimpka: 8:06am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. Luke 16 which you quoted instead tells you the sin is committed when a divorced person decides to remarry. Divorce it and of itself is not listed as a sin. undecided

2. God hates divorce but the same God did not declare divorce sin either in His Old Law and His New Law, Jesus Christ. undecided

3. Again, stop lying! undecided

Divorce is a sin...it is in Malachi vs 2 Abi you no see am


If you are divorced .... You are committing sin

Deal with this and repent
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:09am On Jan 15, 2023
AmuDimpka:
■Divorce is a sin...it is in Malachi vs 2 Abi you no see am
■ If you are divorced .... You are committing sin
■Deal with this and repent
1. Unless God Himself says in His Law that it is sin, no man can declare it so for God. Jesus Christ, the one who you claim to be yorj Saviour, made it clear in His teachings to you that divorce is not sin. Is it that you think He is a liar? undecided

2. Jesus Christ never said that so why do you declare sin that which the one who claim to be your master has not declared sin? Are you greater than Jesus Christ? undecided

3. Stop using the name of God to hide what are lies. undecided
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Beautiful94: 8:14am On Jan 15, 2023
I cannot agree less to what she is saying. Just this morning around four o'clock i heard a woman's voice pleading and begging her abuser whom i guess is her husband, her voice was pleading " have mercy on me". This woman shouted for not less than two minutes. In this case, divorce should be accepted.

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:15am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
What you said makes no sense at all. Marriage comes before divorce. In many cases, the reason divorce happens has to do with a one failing to succeed where it concerns working on the marriage. undecided

And no, divorce is not an easy end to marriage as unlike marriage abandonment which was practiced by your ancestors --- an easy unofficial divorce that society seemed more ok with, official divorce forces couples to face each other in deciding how to end the marriage together. undecided

The problem you have is 1. you just like talking 2. You don't understand the female gender...

Let me tell you some realities:

1. 95% of females will leave a marriage if their comfort is affected e.g. the man no longer has money.
2. 95% of females will leave a marriage if they feel they are more spiritually advanced than him e.g. "they have a special relationship with Christ"
3. Females are the ones that leave most marriages- they are self serving....

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by kaymart: 8:15am On Jan 15, 2023
Jammy2012:
USA and UK are suffering from this "norm" that woman is talking about. As black people, we know our own way of taking up trends is so different. We do too much. As if paternity fraud is not enough cancer in our cells, they want to add divorce to it. Our system cannot cater for the resonance effect of divorce and broken homes. Who will wife after one or after two as a bachelor? The effect will resonate on the society for so long in a very bad way. This will be at the detriment of women and children. Which means we are going to use our hands to create new generation of unhappy children and lonely women. If you have that mindset even before marriage, I will advise such a woman to get used to buying dogs, because they might die alone. sad Woke generation nonsense in the part of the World will just further plunge the society into depression and further misery. In this part of the world; no child support system, no split in half after divorce, and no special treatment from the government after divorce. All you will get is to die alone unhappy. I'm not saying people should die in marriage. But marriage is not about your feelings (or mood swings nonsense), it is about being an adult and putting in efforts to fix situations that can be fixed. I foresee community of deadbeat parents and baby mamas.
You got time and I salute your patience.
At this stage of my life, I don't really have that luxury of time to tell someone what they need to do. If I sense that one is intelligent enough, I might give one or two hints and that will be all. It's left to them to take it or not. I really don't have the patience of giving advices randomly anymore....
Big ups to you on this

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:17am On Jan 15, 2023
BigBashiru:

1. 95% of females will leave a marriage if their comfort is affected e.g. the man no longer has money.
2. 95% of females will leave a marriage if they feel they are more spiritually advanced than him e.g. "they have a special relationship with Christ"
3. Females are the ones that leave most marriages- they are self serving....
Let's pretend what you have here even begins to make sense. undecided

1. So? undecided

2. So? undecided

2. So? undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:18am On Jan 15, 2023
Beautiful94:
I cannot agree less to what she is saying. Just this morning around four o'clock i heard a woman's voice pleading and begging her abuser whom i guess is her husband, her voice was pleading " have mercy on me". This woman shouted for not less than two minutes. In this case, divorce should be accepted.

No. Because the females choose guys that beat them up in the first place....
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:19am On Jan 15, 2023
BigBashiru:
No. Because the females choose guys that beat them up in the first place....
So because they do that they shouldn't be allowed to leave when they have have finally had enough of the abuse?, undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:20am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Let's pretend what you have here even begins to make sense. undecided

1. So? undecided

2. So? undecided

2. So? undecided

So? Why should you play patriarchy when a woman can wake up one day and say she is not doing again?? The point is if a woman can easily initiate divorce then men should not play patriarchy so it's not afte the man finish suffering himself next thing the woman will say she is leaving....
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by elonize(m): 8:20am On Jan 15, 2023
Neddstark:
This hypocrite should stop wearing a hijab to deceive people that she is religious. Her views are sick for a muslim woman. Supporting homosexuality, now divorce.
av not seen in d news where she support homo
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Jammy2012(m): 8:21am On Jan 15, 2023
kaymart:

You got time and I salute your patience.
At this stage of my life, I don't really have that luxury of time to tell someone what they need to do. If I sense that one is intelligent enough, I might give one or two hints and that will be all. It's left to them to take it or not. I really don't have the patience of giving advices randomly anymore....
Big ups to you on this
The effect will not be only to them. It might affect a whole lot of people. Some High school shooters in the West are just children forged in broken homes with degenerate psychological upbringing. Other families paid for most. They will end up like cancer in the society, they encroach and contaminate.

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:21am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
So because they do that they shouldn't be allowed to leave when they have have finally had enough of the abuse?, undecided

Anyway it's men I blame. They are not using their head....
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:22am On Jan 15, 2023
BigBashiru:
So? Why should you play patriarchy when a woman can wake up one day and say she is not doing again?? The point is if a woman can easily initiate divorce then men should not play patriarchy so it's not afte the man finish suffering himself next thing the woman will say she is leaving....
No one forces anyone to do any of these things. So? undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by babyfaceafrica: 8:22am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Divorce is not as simple as marriage abandonment which our ancestors preferred instead. undecided

So you prefer divorce?
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:24am On Jan 15, 2023
babyfaceafrica:
So you prefer divorce?
I prefer sanity to the insanity that is the "suffering and smiling" Nigerian mentality. undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Beautiful94: 8:25am On Jan 15, 2023
BigBashiru:


No. Because the females choose guys that beat them up in the first place....
What did i say that you are not agreeing to my love?
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by wales4real(m): 8:25am On Jan 15, 2023
Why was she begging for forgiveness? Do you know what she's done and is seeking for atonement and not divorce instead?
Beautiful94:
I cannot agree less to what she is saying. Just this morning around four o'clock i heard a woman's voice pleading and begging her abuser whom i guess is her husband, her voice was pleading " have mercy on me". This woman shouted for not less than two minutes. In this case, divorce should be accepted.
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by elonize(m): 8:26am On Jan 15, 2023
1 tin DAT is still keeping Asia, Russia n sm part of Africa is dat dey still hold on to sm norms,values they have left..
We can't see queers ,stealing, prostitution,divorce,disrespect for elders ,indecent dressing ,indecent hair cuts as d way of life..
Or d society crumbles..
Look at d west who claims their brains functions more.their society is finished

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:28am On Jan 15, 2023
elonize:
1 tin DAT is still keeping Asia, Russia n sm part of Africa is dat dey still hold on to sm norms,values they have left..
We can't see queers ,stealing, prostitution,divorce,disrespect for elders ,indecent dressing ,indecent hair cuts as d way of life..
Or d society crumbles..
Look at d west who claims their brains functions more.their society is finished

Well said!

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Starzo: 8:30am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
And that is why women like Osinachi are happy today that death did do her part. undecided
Any topic about failed marriage, divorce,single parenthood, you go jump come out of your hole begin shout YES! YES! YES!

Na those kind news of failed marriages and relationships dey give you happiness for life

You're a very sad, pathetic and destructive abandoned lonely being

I just pity any young girl wey go follow you, na depression go kill una las las

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:32am On Jan 15, 2023
Starzo:
■Any topic about failed marriage, divorce,single parenthood, you go jump come out of your hole begin shout YES! YES! YES!
■Na those kind news of failed marriages and relationships dey give you happiness for life
■You're a very sad, pathetic and destructive abandoned lonely being I just pity any young girl wey go follow you, na depression go kill una las las
1. So? undecided
2. OK? undecided
3. OK? undecided

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by BigBashiru: 8:33am On Jan 15, 2023
Beautiful94:

What did i say that you are not agreeing to my love?

the woman saying "have mercy on me"....its the women themselves that choose those types of men that beat them up often because they are attracted to them....
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by GlobTrotter: 8:35am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Longevity indeed means absolutely nothing if happiness is missing from the lives of the individuals in the marriage. undecided
that is selfishness
My personal happiness...

There is absolutely no marriage without challenges. Sometimes it's very beautiful, and sometimes it's very sad. So do we jump out anytime it feels sad??

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Beautiful94: 8:36am On Jan 15, 2023
wales4real:
Why was she begging for forgiveness? Do you know what she's done and is seeking for atonement and not divorce instead?
Whatever she did might be trivial. An abusive partner abuses for no just cause and even if she did something? is killing her the best thing to do? What if she were your daughter would you not prefer that the man brings her home alive rather than kill her?
Some men are just plain wicked.

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Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Starzo: 8:37am On Jan 15, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. So? undecided
2. OK? undecided
3. OK? undecided
You are finished!

I just hope you don't succeed in dragging other down this sorrowful and deadly slope with you
Re: Aisha Yesufu: We Should Learn To Be Comfortable With Divorce by Kobojunkie: 8:39am On Jan 15, 2023
Starzo:
You are finished!

I just hope you don't succeed in dragging other down this sorrowful and deadly slope with you
undecided

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