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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by ceaser: 5:10pm On Jan 21, 2023
The fallacy of generalisation, I'd say. Not every Nigerian man disrespect the marriage institution. A lot of Nigerian men are actually faithful to their spouses.

Having said that, African marriage is traditionally polygamous, and it is the white man that came here to demonize something that has worked favourably for both the African man and African woman.

They tell us that our polygamous marriages are evil, but they want to impress it upon us to accept their own serial divorce and LGBTQ lifestyle as an ideal lifestyle.

Mbanu!

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by 9jaRealist: 5:10pm On Jan 21, 2023
Seun:
Written by Shaka Phillip-Jonson

https://twitter.com/beejonson/status/1615880886414614528

Maury Povich must be living in Lagos then…oh wait! SMDH
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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Backpedal: 5:13pm On Jan 21, 2023
Gerrard59:
My issue with married men who cheat is when they label their single male friends as irresponsible.

Cheat oh (na you and your wife get problem), but don't label me as irresponsible.
That's my gripe too
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by spiritedtete: 5:15pm On Jan 21, 2023
It is not about respecting the marriage.. having concubines is a culture for most men in Africa rich or poor. While it is also a culture for the wealthy in the western world.


The word responsible is not synonymous to being loyal to one woman. But ability to have people you provide for financially and security wise. This is what makes you grow...

Sorry to burst your bubbles this one man one wife is very alien to the culture Africans. However it is also a choice not to go polygamy.

For equal right... no African man believes there is equal right In marriage. Our women will always be under our care no matter her level of exposure.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by MoneyMustBMade(m): 5:20pm On Jan 21, 2023
gaby:
Lol

The hypocrisy that we live as a people will make you keep shaking your head in disgust to no end.

Fornicators, liars, cheaters, adulterers/adulteresses, scammers, pedophiles, prostitutes/brostitues. All of the above listed are dignified and qualified as nothing serious for a sin but they'll a request for the head of someone whose own sin is being 'gay', according to them.

The laughable hypocrisy is the reason why I am always speaking up against the evil hate for gays.

I'm not better than them in any way.

We all get our own for body.

Since we can't help it, lets live and let live.

Gay kill you there

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by iamsolasoul(f): 5:23pm On Jan 21, 2023
Our grandfathers still cherished our grandmothers hell I even know some grandmothers that still cooked his meal the way he wanted it.

What they did behind closed doors was never spoken about openly except at night maybe. It starts with the sleeping arrangements and living space does it say togetherness or different lifestyles trying to force love or best love to death.

Your best partner is your best friend anybody short of that is a literal pain in your neck and extremely envious

You’ll be tempted Nigeria has millions of fine men some in hard Labour some just selling goods walking around but choosing to touch is discipline without it love is useless
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by SaLongs1(m): 5:24pm On Jan 21, 2023
Everything in this country has been bastardised and I mean everything.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by djoey89: 5:25pm On Jan 21, 2023
Werey gay, marry then after make we know whats up. Be like my guy wey dey look say weed no good, but the day him taste am, na we dey beg am to slow down.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by BlackMan6969(m): 5:26pm On Jan 21, 2023
Timoleon:
Bro go marry first let’s see how you handle yours. Single man setting standards for married men, no be ment be that?
A cheating husband sited. Hehehe

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by BlackMan6969(m): 5:28pm On Jan 21, 2023
djoey89:
Werey gay, marry then after make we know whats up. Be like my guy wey dey look say weed no good, but the day him taste am, na we dey beg am to slow down.
Another cheating husband sited.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by dalass(f): 5:29pm On Jan 21, 2023
Seun:
Written by Shaka Phillip-Jonson

https://twitter.com/beejonson/status/1615880886414614528

Birds of a feather

Hang out together grin grin
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jan 21, 2023
You are like me before I married. Used to be so annoyed how my married friends were always in competition with me for any available girls. I used to wonder and thinking I could never do that once God granted my prayers to be married. Soon, after marriage I realized how much of a scam the marriage institution itself is Although, I still hold the believe that our parents weren't like this during their time because for instance I've never for once found my dad in the kitchen cooking food for the family or watch him washing plates or do other chores like I now must or else I want to starve or keep buying food from canteen which is something I was not raised with. To top it all, to express your intention to have sex with your wife is now made to look like wanting to commit crime against her. Just everything you expected to enjoy from marriage is a lie once the wedding is over. If you don't want to divorce now your only option is to seek for sexual pleasure outside.
In conclusion, having extramarital affairs is actually an act of safeguarding the institution of marriage rather than endangering it.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by BlackMan6969(m): 5:31pm On Jan 21, 2023
jahsharon:


He has mental problems
Someone with mental problems cannot be this reasonable. Maybe, reverse is the case. Hehehe
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by XAUBulls: 5:32pm On Jan 21, 2023
PlayMaker14:
Not just Lagosians alone, 64.38% of South West men are notorious cheaters...

My brief stay in Ogun, Ondo, Oyo and Lagos State made me see how those dudes cheat with pride.

And when you try to advise them, they'll rebuke you and tell you to go and get married.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Hassanmaye(m): 5:40pm On Jan 21, 2023
Klass99:


Excuse you!!!

It is easier to gain sexual access to men, than it is with women. Majority of men have no moral compass or qualms when it comes to casual sex.

Most married men see single women as their private playground and it is shocking the lengths they are willing to go to, just to get laid.

Sex is the mumu button of most men, add great and explosive sex to it and you can pretty much use their destinies for rituals if you are a diabolical person.



Oh.....okay, I thought you posted something then deleted afterwards.
Most married men cheat go to universities and colleges and see. A man can give a side chick 50k without looking back if he's getting sex, but cannot give his wife 10k for breakfast

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by XAUBulls: 5:41pm On Jan 21, 2023
Kajaard:


Seun a better post subject should have been: How the institution of marriage has been desecrated.

This present subject makes it look like it only happens in Lagos which is very false.
Indeed! It's a global phenomenon associated with big cities or cosmopolitan environments where you have different income levels.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Hassanmaye(m): 5:41pm On Jan 21, 2023
Nazgul:

Men don't sleep with themselves...they do it with women.

These Randy men are slaves to sex, while the girls they're after are slaves to money.

The men believe that once you attain certain level of financial stability legally or illegally, you can bed any girl of your choice. The girls believe that once a man attains certain level of financial stability he's man enough to ask them out. The man works hard to make money, the girl works hard to look more beautiful and sexy.

Both parties meet, the girl takes her money while the man gains access to her body...it's just a transaction with both parties benefiting from each other.

If more ladies embrace hard work and good morals, men would learn self control. Cos if there are no cheap ladies to open their legs for a price, Randy men would have no one to offer cash to.
wow
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Timoleon(m): 5:42pm On Jan 21, 2023
Unfortunately I don’t even have the stomach to ‘cheat ‘ whatever that means. However, that you hang out with a person every other night doesn’t mean you know the circumstances of his life and home. As someone has said before, without sidechicks, many homes would be broken, many marriages will be over either by divorce or homicides. Sometimes being at these bars and letting out steam with some of these sides is how some men are able to remain sane when they get to their homes. Na who wear shoe know as e Dey pain am no matter how you tell am say the shoe fine, e fit you wells.
BlackMan6969:
A cheating husband sited. Hehehe

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Hassanmaye(m): 5:42pm On Jan 21, 2023
LeopardX:
Many people just get married in Nigeria today to avoid societal pressures. Shikena 😎

Even me I will marry because of pressure but after that I will Flex

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by olab059(m): 5:42pm On Jan 21, 2023
adeola1097:
I don’t know about other states but for this Lagos, Gbogbo wa kan dora wa ni (All of us just dey f*vck each other) , both married, unmarried and single.

The high level of infidelity going on in this state is alarming that no one cares again. Everyone is just waiting for his/her turn to put a ring on it and cheat freely.

Even Men that get married these days just do so to escape either being called Irresponsible or they just conform to their parent’s wishes.

And I think there’s a notion now that women these days prefer married men to single guys so it’s an open field out there.



You have said it all.
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by olab059(m): 5:44pm On Jan 21, 2023
judedwriter:
A guy rent a single room and occasionally brings girls to sleep with.

I thought this guy was single until I saw him with his wife and son!!

Truly, the institution of marriage has been battered beyond measures....

Worst still, the fear of God is becoming extinct.

You mean the guy has a separate accommodation elsewhere, and just uses that room for sleeping with other women?

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by main24(m): 5:44pm On Jan 21, 2023
Klass99:


You made very valid points, however the text in bold cracked me up big time.

Try being a single and hard working woman with a moral compass in Lasgidi, earning a good living through honest means, then you will quickly learn that it is not necessarily about women embracing hard work and good morals. Rather, it is about the randiness, lack of self control and selfish desires of men.

The article/original post didn't lie about the shenanigans of married men in Naija. All the times I have been pursued by married men in Lasgidi I was minding my business and staying in my lane. They love to claim that single ladies are the ones who chase them (which may be true) but that hasn't been my personal experience.

As previously stated, most see single women as their private playground where anything goes. I once confided in a co-worker about the alarming frequency at which married men chase me and she suggested I pray it must be spiritual, if I am mostly attracting married men.

I told her to hold it there! There is nothing spiritual about this and nothing wrong with me either, there is just an unfortunate rise in the number of married men who have no qualms with side chics and exploring their polygamous nature while trampling all over the institution of marriage...... like the article said.

How many times have men told us on this forum that they are polygamous in nature? And you say it's easier to gain access to our bodies than your gender's? Don't make me laugh Naz.



The Main, happy new year. How's your boy CR7 doing these days? Lionel and his team mates shut down Argentina upon their return home, after the World Cup. It was a pleasure to watch.

Retired lipsrsealed
Congrats to Messi and Argentina.

Wishing you all the best of God this year Klass99.
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by olab059(m): 5:45pm On Jan 21, 2023
CodeTemplar:
he is saving hotel cost same way people buy food stuffs in bulk to save cost. That's how often he cheats.

lol
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by olab059(m): 5:50pm On Jan 21, 2023
Nazgul:

Men don't sleep with themselves...they do it with women.

These Randy men are slaves to sex, while the girls they're after are slaves to money.

The men believe that once you attain certain level of financial stability legally or illegally, you can bed any girl of your choice. The girls believe that once a man attains certain level of financial stability he's man enough to ask them out. The man works hard to make money, the girl works hard to look more beautiful and sexy.

Both parties meet, the girl takes her money while the man gains access to her body...it's just a transaction with both parties benefiting from each other.

If more ladies embrace hard work and good morals, men would learn self control. Cos if there are no cheap ladies to open their legs for a price, Randy men would have no one to offer cash to.

Thank you for the breakdown of the reality on ground. That girl was trying to bash men and leave women out of the equation.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by gaby(m): 5:54pm On Jan 21, 2023
MoneyMustBMade:


Gay kill you there

The exact same way it will kill you and the two idiots who had no business mating to bring you into the world as a curse.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by BlackMan6969(m): 5:55pm On Jan 21, 2023
Timoleon:
Unfortunately I don’t even have the stomach to ‘cheat ‘ whatever that means. However, that you hang out with a person every other night doesn’t mean you know the circumstances of his life and home. As someone has said before, without sidechicks, many homes would be broken, many marriages will be over either by divorce or homicides. Sometimes being at these bars and letting out steam with some of these sides is how some men are able to remain sane when they get to their homes. Na who wear shoe know as e Dey pain am no matter how you tell am say the shoe fine, e fit you wells.
Word!
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by daveP(m): 5:56pm On Jan 21, 2023
Lagos? Near Abuja? 😆😆😆😆

Anyways, all true.

You see getting married as attaining respect and being responsible but do the opposite once in it, when in fact, many were actually responsible when single than when they went down the aisle. Confusion Reigns.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Charx122: 6:00pm On Jan 21, 2023
Seun:
Written by Shaka Phillip-Jonson

https://twitter.com/beejonson/status/1615880886414614528

Well said, Nigerians dont like to hear the truth. Sad but true.
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by sharpwriter(m): 6:01pm On Jan 21, 2023
OdefaGirl:



Na waa ooo
wink 😉
Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by judedwriter(m): 6:03pm On Jan 21, 2023
olab059:


You mean the guy has a separate accommodation elsewhere, and just uses that room for sleeping with other women?

No. Since he stays afar off, he uses this room atimes to stay for weekdays after work.

But occasionally he sleeps with girls in it.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Nobody: 6:04pm On Jan 21, 2023
Marriage in Nigeria is just a Sham the way everything is in Nigeria. Most people get in Nigeria gey married because of societal pressure, show off, ego status etc.

Personally I have always known Nigeria has the Most Useless He-Goats called Men on Planet Earth. Check my threads, I created one 4years ago i think.

It's not a new thing to me. Na the reason why the country be as the way he be.

You will hardly find a Nigerian Man doing well financially wey no dey fornicate. Even some as they poor and wretched reach, them still dey fornicate. Very useless set of things.

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Re: How Lagosians Desecrate The Institution Of Marriage by Klass99(f): 6:21pm On Jan 21, 2023
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