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Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? - Romance (3) - Nairaland

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Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Shirleybliss(f): 7:28pm On Feb 14, 2023
From my own perspective. Valentine's shouldn't be a one sided thing. The two parties are meant to show love to each other. Though most times males tend to show off more than ladies as a responsible lover over her..
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Nobody: 7:38pm On Feb 14, 2023
CaptainStephen:
like I said, you all being broke and young is a summative assessment.

Broke for obvious reasons and young in age, mindset and exposure. I never had to nurge my wife to reciprocate in giving and etc even when we were dating.
This is the most ridiculous comment ever.

If your wife is not reciprocating it means something is wrong.

A woman that says she love you will give you gifts in special occasions or do something fantastic for you.

If you have never experienced that, that means something is wrong
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by RichAbujaGuy: 7:42pm On Feb 14, 2023
It should be correctly re-named St. Simp's Day, that is for single simps. cheesy
respect to the married men with peaceful loving mates!
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by WantsandMore: 7:45pm On Feb 14, 2023
meobizy:
For Africa’s biggest forum, this place lacks creativity. Na Reddit sure pass.
or you're just too dumb to see
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Nobody: 7:49pm On Feb 14, 2023
see this simp
PerfectStranger:
Una don start grin
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by StrongAlphMale: 7:49pm On Feb 14, 2023
Thomasankara:
[/color]who then will you marry[color=#770077]
Haven't you heard I don't date Nigeria girls? Of course you should know I deal strictly with foreign girls. I'm getting married to My Russian Babe straight up.
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by IamtheTruth1(m): 7:50pm On Feb 14, 2023
CaptainStephen:
You are all just broke and young. grin
Your statement is valid. But please why should a broke lady be billing a broke man?
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by IamtheTruth1(m): 7:51pm On Feb 14, 2023
CaptainStephen:
like I said, you all being broke and young is a summative assessment.

Broke for obvious reasons and young in age, mindset and exposure. I never had to nurge my wife to reciprocate in giving and etc even when we were dating.
Because you didn't nurge doesn't mean it was right.
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Mustiboy(m): 7:52pm On Feb 14, 2023
WantsandMore:
or you're just too dumb to see
I swear. He's still dumb to see it.
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by IamtheTruth1(m): 7:52pm On Feb 14, 2023
Clicked:
Because you are surrounded by broke people, the broke men are dating broke women.

In my office today, both men and women got val's day gifts, married and unmarried. My friends too gave gifts to their boyfriends. So change your circle and you'll see that it's not such a one-sided affair like you think.
Deep
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by UcheBrakeShoe1(m): 8:13pm On Feb 14, 2023
For this kind semi anarchy state that Nigeria is in una dey drag shits😓
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by stuffs2002: 8:13pm On Feb 14, 2023
Most Nigerian girls are selfish.

1) Nigerian girls receive gifts during Valentine
2l Nigerian girls receive gifts on their birthdays
3) Nigerian girls receive gifts during Christmas, New year and other festivities.
4) Nigerian girls even expect you to give them gifts during your own birthdays
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Evergreen12345(f): 8:20pm On Feb 14, 2023
CaptainStephen:
You are all just broke and young. grin
I'm 💯 his Richer than you
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by DyshApp: 8:22pm On Feb 14, 2023
chill with some valentine's love stories https://www.nairaland.com/7568980/love-stories-thatll-ensure-never#120905491 ,its not all bad we should stop seeing it as a day to avoid if you love someoneyou won't wait till valentine to get them gifts
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Edusouls(m): 8:34pm On Feb 14, 2023
Clicked:
Because you are surrounded by broke people, the broke men are dating broke women.

In my office today, both men and women got val's day gifts, married and unmarried. My friends too gave gifts to their boyfriends. So change your circle and you'll see that it's not such a one-sided affair like you think.
leave what happened in ur office, in general it’s a complete one sided affair were Nigerian girls are wired to always be expectant of always receiving from men, from relationship to courtship to marriage haba
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by maasoap(m): 8:35pm On Feb 14, 2023
StrongAlphMale:
Only a Fool would waste his time dating a Nigerian girl.

You should bang them, dump them and move on.
Someone who has mother, wife, sister and daughter will find it hard to agree with you.
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Edusouls(m): 8:37pm On Feb 14, 2023
stuffs2002:
Most Nigerian girls are selfish.

1) Nigerian girls receive gifts during Valentine
2l Nigerian girls receive gifts on their birthdays
3) Nigerian girls receive gifts during Christmas, New year and other festivities.
4) Nigerian girls even expect you to give them gifts during your own birthdays
chai bro chill u just finish Nigerian girls completely, I no even hear them again In this forum , they don silence, I feel una pain , poverty and their natural make up plus societal upbringing made them to be so unloving, selfish and very greedy, making them very difficult to love
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Edusouls(m): 8:42pm On Feb 14, 2023
meobizy:
For Africa’s biggest forum, this place lacks creativity. Na Reddit sure pass.
for were see Smart Cover up, the topic hits the point, I don’t know why u Nigerian girls are far more different from una counterparts elsewhere?the thing is disturbing to men, one reason overseas who even approaches Nigerian girls for relationships? It’s seen as almost a taboo, u folks are so unloving and unappealing
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Style00798: 8:46pm On Feb 14, 2023
OBidients really mean business ooo
backbencher64: As e dey sweet us, e dey pain them.....as e dey pain them...e dey sweet us

Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Edusouls(m): 8:47pm On Feb 14, 2023
Ara21:
Nairaland men will not kill somebody, have you seen a lady force any of these men to give them gift huh You people should change topic for today.
see typical Nigerian girl talking, once they talk I know them, so if u people reciprocate the same kindness from Nigerian guys heaven would fall down, why una heart Dey so stiff like this ?
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Breadnote: 8:50pm On Feb 14, 2023
ya,I just fel its an African tin,DAT the lady,shud be at d recievin end,while d man is soul provider.which is rung it shud be a 2way tin
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Caramia2020(m): 8:51pm On Feb 14, 2023
Entitlement mentality
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by reddingtonblack:
CaptainStephen:
like I said, you all being broke and young is a summative assessment.

Broke for obvious reasons and young in age, mindset and exposure. I never had to nurge my wife to reciprocate in giving and etc even when we were dating.
As much as i share same thot with you doesnt make it right, thinking about it now i don't think i owe any babe or Ex even 1k ...
buh that doesnt justify relationship should be one-sided, becos love is sharing.

so don't bring Big man into this, i think sharing & reciprocating is what authenticate LOVE lipsrsealed
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Iamzik: 8:58pm On Feb 14, 2023
Offpoint1:
Lol, seems you're just waking up to the realization women weren't genetically designed to be givers.

The western society some how found a way to altered and reprogrammed their women from their natural genetic traits/psyche, while our black women are still exhibiting their natural traits.

A woman will always be an EXPECTANT, they lack the natural ability to give... those who tried to give do so solemnly with an higher expectations in returns... More like an investment scheme.

I wouldn't want to talk about "LOVE" because that word itself is an ILLUSION.
This is no correct though. We have peddled this idea for too long and this is causing problems in many homes. A woman should express love through giving just as much as a man
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Enemyofpeace: 8:59pm On Feb 14, 2023
Op it all depends on who you dey roll with o, so stop generalizing




..Everywhere don silent,
una don dey knack
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Iamzik: 9:02pm On Feb 14, 2023
CodeTemplar:
That isn't the issue here. Even if we are all just broke and young as your said, why should two people who truly love themselves leave the responsibility of showing love to one party always.

The idea of a man being a provider was inspired by the Holy bible and was for his household or immediate family.
The love of money and social pattern of ladies being approached has slowly allowed greed to creep into romantic relationships.
The Bible is very balanced. Have you read Proverbs 31 before? Read from verse 10 to 31. Giving and providing is not the exclusive responsibility of a man in marriage but Africans with their half baked religious doctrines have placed too much burden on men
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by TheGift: 9:06pm On Feb 14, 2023
CaptainStephen:
You are all just broke and young. grin
This does not answer the question. Even for the not broke and not young; I went to a major gift store to shop today. 9 out of 10 people getting valentine gifts were Men.

I think it says something about Nigerian Women & Men and their orientation towards valentine and giving gifts.

I find many Women and girls are immature lovers when it comes to giving monetarily and or materially . It's not about whether they have money or not; it's a general orientation that needs to be looked into by individual Women and Men .
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by shimolv: 9:20pm On Feb 14, 2023
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by CodeTemplar(op): 9:29pm On Feb 14, 2023
Iamzik:
The Bible is very balanced. Have you read Proverbs 31 before? Read from verse 10 to 31. Giving and providing is not the exclusive responsibility of a man in marriage but Africans with their half baked religious doctrines have placed too much burden on men
I understand what you are saying but that Proverbs 31 is hard to explain to any lady who doesn't want to be hardworking and contribute.
Even the part about a man providing for his household isn't literal but figurative.
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Nobody: 9:44pm On Feb 14, 2023
Jones4190:
Everywhere don silent, una don dey knack
grin grin

Them dey talk better thing for here, na people knacking dey bother you. People wey normal for nairaland no reach 9...and you no follow for the list kawai!
Re: Why Is Valentine Day A One Sided Affair In Nigeria? by Skelel4: 9:48pm On Feb 14, 2023
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