Banilla:
No one asked for my opinion? For your information, this is a forum. If you bring something here, expect a response.

How did a guilt trip him? You just love to play the role of the victim and it's pathetic. Was he insulted? No.

I didn't say he's from a broken home, I tsaid he gives the impression that he is from one.

You learn from your home first. No matter how bad other marriages are, if your parents have a perfect marriage, you would still be hopeful there are others like them. Aren't his parents human? How come their marriage is so great but others are bound to fail? He focused entirely on the negative aspects of marriage, ignoring all the good it did his parents. It's illogical and toxic.

Lol....I am playing victim?? This is not about me...we are talking about the op......so how am i playing victim......please explain...

Oh..so u know this is a public forum...so he has the right to pen down his views...just as u have the right to comment...so why say nobody asked him for his opinion??

Again u are boxing the dude and commiting fallacy.... Learning from home is learning from just two persons out of a large societal sample size...

there are other overwhelming evidences in the society that could make him say marriage is a bunch of nonsense... its his view....

.... u asked how u invalidated his view..mayb u should read ur comment again and perhaps u will see ur own small dose of toxicity..

If this thing near FP, 40% of NL single guys will opt to stay single.

virginprincess:
Trash Trash Trash,You claim your parent are happily married yet you see nothing good in marriage,Mr Linus.

Na wa oo!

How can they be happily married if there is truly nothing good about marriage?

advanceDNA:


Lol....I am playing victim?? This is not about me...we are talking about the op......so how am i playing victim......please explain...

You made it a gender thing by calling women out. If I attack the op then I'm against men. No?

Oh..so u know this is a public forum...so he has the right to pen down his views...just as u have the right to comment...so why say nobody asked him for his opinion??

It's a forum doesn't mean he should post irrelevant things. When he does, he gets called out.

Again u are boxing the dude and commiting fallacy.... Learning from home is learning from just two persons out of a large societal sample size...

There are marriages like his parents'. Does he live with these other couples? How does he know how miserable they are? The couples celebrating decades of being happily together, are they and his parents spirits and not humans? He got his fact from where? Social media? Lol. You only know so much about the people around you. His parents, relatives, friends and so on...they are the people whose marriages he can truly study.

there are other overwhelming evidences in the society that could make him say marriage is a bunch of nonsense... its his view....

one he is entitled to. I don't wanna get married too. But you don't see me broadcasting it unless asked. Again, what evidence? Exaggerated stories on social media? Lol

.... u asked how u invalidated his view..mayb u should read ur comment again and perhaps u will see ur own small dose of toxicity..

I didn't. I asked questions. A topic is meant to be discussed. Why are you allowed to agree and I'm not allowed to disagree?

If the op knows some marriages are successful, he would advise people here to work on theirs.... Not come here condemning the same thing his parents are proud of.

JOACHINpedro:
If this thing near FP, 40% of NL single guys will opt to stay single.

40% of them deserve the lies and deceit fed to them by the likes of Malignantguest, and others like him here on nairaland then.

JOACHINpedro:
If this thing near FP, 40% of NL single guys will opt to stay single.

As they should...

If you take this advise of a man whose parents are happily married, you deserve to live and die single... Let's better men pass their genes. They would be doing the world a favour.

Let's forget most of them can't afford to raise a family, can't even feed themselves. Marriage is the least of their problems.

Banilla:
You made it a gender thing by calling women out. If I attack the op then I'm against men. No?

It's a forum doesn't mean he should post irrelevant things. When he does, he gets called out.

There are marriages like his parents'. Does he live with these other couples? How does he know how miserable they are? The couples celebrating decades of being happily together, are they and his parents spirits and not humans? He got his fact from where? Social media? Lol. You only know so much about the people around you. His parents, relatives, friends and so on...they are the people whose marriages he can truly study.
one he is entitled to. I don't wanna get married too. But you don't see me broadcasting it unless asked. Again, what evidence? Exaggerated stories on social media? Lol
I didn't. I asked questions. A topic is meant to be discussed. Why are you allowed to agree and I'm not allowed to disagree?

If the op knows some marriages are successful, he would advise people here to work on theirs.... Not come here condemning the same thing his parents are proud of.

U are calling his views irrelevant...why?? U sound like u are taking it personal.....
Marriage is a serious matter and a lot of pple enter it conventionaly....so the op's views might help some pple audit their lives and see if marriage is truly what they want or something they are doing because their parents and society expects from.... for someone that doesnt want to get married, its weird that u dont reapect another person's view about marriage, calling it irrelevant.....

If u like keep ur opinion to yourself.....thats ur choice....its is choice to think out loud on nairaland...

Kobojunkie:
Na wa oo!

How can they be happily married if there is truly nothing good about marriage?

That is exactly what i'm asking the so called op,such a liar.

advanceDNA:


U are calling his views irrelevant...why?? U sound like u are taking it personal.....
Marriage is a serious matter and a lot of pple enter it conventionaly....so the op's views might help some pple audit their lives and see if marriage is truly what they want or something they are doing because their parents and society expects from.... for someone that doesnt want to get married, its weird that u dont reapect another person's view about marriage, calling it irrelevant.....

If u like keep ur opinion to yourself.....thats ur choice....its is choice to think out loud on nairaland...

Lmao.

I clearly stated that his NEED TO BROADCAST HIS CHOICE is irrelevant.

Comprehension issues?

If the op is being honest, he would also wrote down the positive side of marriage, then allow people decide. If he needs inspiration, he'll ask parents.

But he didn't. That's mischievous. You don't think so?

Kinda like if I only talk about how men have only sex to offer, forgetting the good they've contributed, that I benefit from (I'm referring to white men btw)...

Banilla:
Lmao.

I clearly stated that his NEED TO BROADCAST HIS CHOICE is irrelevant.

Comprehension issues?

If the op is being honest, he would also wrote down the positive side of marriage, then allow people decide. If he needs inspiration, he'll ask parents.

But he didn't. That's mischievous. You don't think so?

Kinda like if I only talk about how men have only sex to offer, forgetting the good they've contributed, that I benefit from (I'm referring to white men btw)...

I'll try and ignore your insult....and no i dont think his post is mischievous...cos what has being honesty or dishosnest got to with a simple line of thought he chose to write about....... must he write in support and against marriage at the same time??

To the honest...there are more samples of bad marriages these days....that may be the reason for his views from a male perspective......its possible he might speak differently when the topic of advantage of being married comes up....but thats not todays topic... u clearly are biased here and cant seem to dissociate ur personal opinion about marriage from the op's view or motive of writting,


If u like...u can speak about men being horrible...thats fine u are not wrong....still doesnt chnage the fact that men are also great

See Losers, you don't want marriage technically you don't want the female gender in your life.
Most of them (esp. OP) dey cry follow woman offline.
Na only the gullible go for fall for this fake life boys

advanceDNA:


I'll try and ignore your insult....and no i dont think his post is mischievous...cos what has being honesty or dishosnest got to with a simple line of thought he chose to write about....... must he write in support and against marriage at the same time??

To the honest...there are more samples of bad marriages these days....that may be the reason for his views from a male perspective......its possible he might speak differently when the topic of advantage of being married comes up....but thats not todays topic... u clearly are biased here and cant seem to dissociate ur personal opinion about marriage from the op's view or motive of writting,


If u like...u can speak about men being horrible...thats fine u are not wrong....still doesnt chnage the fact that men are also great

You're contradicting yourself.

You said the op is doing the good work of letting people know the reality of marriage, so they can choose if it's what the want or not.

If that was his motive, he would have been completely honest. Talked about the good and bad.

Since he didn't, he's just posting his opinion which is: there's no disadvantage of having a wife (read the title). But his father would disagree, no? And millions of other happily married men. Therefore, his opinion is biased and toxic and illogical. Growing up, did he not see the advantage of his mother in his father's life?

His father is the number one man in his life, what other man has revealed his secrets to the op or confided in him?

I don't want to get married cause it's not my thing. Not because I'm a hypocrite, condemning something others want and happily have. That would make me a lousy person. If the op finds marriage distasteful, he should remain single. There's no need to come here, with facts from social media, to write that marriage has no benefits when many would disagree.

FATHAT:

All these wereys nobody would tell you to have a wife soon irresponsible foolzz

Thanks but I don't get.

Autobot05:
No1 is trash ...

Lmao this is funny tho

What made it a trash, any counter-opinion?

LocalStandard1:
Very true!
I was working the other day and this topic just pop into my mind for hours. I continued to ask and Pierce through the benefit of a woman to a man's life. More and more people are starting to boldly ask why a young physically active male like person is never seen with a girl.

Everything a man will "gain" from marriage a woman benefits double that. Yet there are plenty a woman benefits that a man can not and doesn't gain off of.

Before it used to be worth it cause women where taught how to handle a man and how to be with a man. They're encouraged to stay virgins to further dignify the marriage union. Now all that is thrown out the window. They seek to learn how to suck and ride any male only now.

I pray the extreme sexual energy sorts itself out with time so person go fit do away with these women. Peeping into the future and I get disheartened and disappointed about where society is headed.

I've been privileged to see marriages from a critical point of view. I tell you man, marriage is a set up

MaScot30:
Well, everything have advantages and disadvantages, so also is marriage.

No man!
What are the disadvantages of having a fat bank account?
What are the advantages of having a terminal illness?

When the disadvantages of something outweigh the advantages on a triple beam, is it fair to say it is worth trying out? Such is marriage.

virginprincess:
Trash Trash Trash,You claim your parent are happily married yet you see nothing good in marriage,Mr Linus.

Ok

Baronthecelebri:
Post the story

Sure I will, I'm awaiting a reasonable count of engagement on the thread or I might raise another thread but I'll be sure to mention you.

okrikaboi:
No need for this thread allow them to marry. I have never seen a happy marriage. They may exist but are very rare. The ones we think are happy are not, go and live with them for three months and they will stop pretending in front of you!

We are not meant to spend a major of our lives with one human. Loneliness is bad but marriage is not a cure for loneliness.

Dear okrikaboi,
At the begining of the thread, I stated clearly that I do not have the right to choose the path of life for anybody. Everyone is solely responsible for their decision. I did not force anyone into this thread. I am only rebuting what the society has forced on my fellow brothers. Please check the statistics on how many marriages that are crashing monthly, then you'll understand the sense of urgency

advanceDNA:
Women will soon come and wail and insult the op....they will call him broke and immature just because he doesnt want wahala in his life...

Some will even say this thread is about bashing them

Those ones?? There is nothing they can say that'll move me. Aside my family members, any other female is almost non existent to me.

Killbillz:
Make ur submission without bringing God into it because u don't understand anything about that going by ur posts.. and as for marriage. Let who wants it go for it. Life is full of ups and downs, highs and lows, happiness and sadness, positive and negatives. Let everyone find their balance and deal with the consequences. That's how life should be... On ur own terms and nothing else

Why could I not bring God in it? The bible is available to everyone who is interested in studying it. I clearly stated that , those points up there were basically my own opinion. Bring out your point from the same bible where God commanded marriage. At least I gave 2 different bible accounts, in the Old and the New. Don't be full of talks, bring in logical reasonings

okrikaboi:
■No need for this thread allow them to marry. I have never seen a happy marriage. They may exist but are very rare. The ones we think are happy are not, go and live with them for three months and they will stop pretending in front of you!
■We are not meant to spend a major of our lives with one human. Loneliness is bad but marriage is not a cure for loneliness.

Like everything else in life, marriage is garbage-in-garbage-out. When two people go into a marriage, they each make decide what their marriage will turn out to be in the end. Marriage after all is an agreement between a man and a woman — a business contract of sorts. And like businesses, you are bound to find some that last even a lifetime, while others may collapse just as they are starting. There is nothing new or magical about these things.

2. That is not true given that we humans have been shown to do exactly that in some cases. So you cannot make such fallacious generalizations and expect to be taken seriously.

Albertone:
I agree with only a few of your points.
You need not use God to prove your point because you're twisting things and getting them wrong.

My submission:
People in relationships quit easily and anytime they are not feeling themselves anymore.
In marriage, if you want to quit, your religious leaders, in-laws, families, friends, elders etc will all appeal to you. Even the judge might not grant you the divorce.
This will force you to put up with emotional, psychological, mental, verbal, and sometimes physical abuse.

Lack of freedom of choice to quit is a major reason I don't like marriage.
Everyone will want to salvage the marriage you're not interested in any longer.

The bible is not secret or banned book, anyone who is interested may bring it. God didn't come down from heaven to explain the bible to anyone. Everyone interpretes according to their understanding, so nobody, I repeat, nobody has the rights to tell me I need not to bring in God, na only you get the God?

FRANCISTOWN:
Why could I not bring God in it? The bible is available to everyone who is interested in studying it. I clearly stated that , those points up there were basically my own opinion. Bring out your point from the same bible where God commanded marriage. At least I gave 2 different bible accounts, in the Old and the New. Don't be full of talks, bring in logical reasonings

Because you have absolutely no clue as far as God is concerned.

Banilla:
Many women are miserable married. If the op doesn't want to get married, he shouldn't. Who's forcing him to do so? Who asked for his opinion? No one. If a woman created a thread asking the relevance of a man in her life, you wouldn't hesitate to bash her. So let's pretend the men here are the mature ones, despite your prediction, how many women commented?

Francistown:
Saying you don't wanna get married doesn't make you special. This is getting boring, you owe no one an explanation. You haven't made an impact, only achieved a few minutes fame. All over the world, people are getting married less. Birth rate is also declining in the West.

I also find it surprising you mentioned your parents are happily married. You outlined only the negative aspects of marriage despite being raise by a couple who you claim truly love themselves. One would think you were raised in a broken home. Did your parents not inspire you? Did you not learn a thing for them? Isn't your mother a paragon of virtue, so much so that you pray for a woman like her... Are you sure you're not echoing the thoughts of your father? If you don't want to get married because it's not your thing, that's fine. But you're being awfully toxic.

Whatever bro.

FRANCISTOWN:
The bible is not secret or banned book, anyone who is interested may bring it. God didn't come down from heaven to explain the bible to anyone. Everyone interpretes according to their understanding, so nobody, I repeat, nobody has the rights to tell me I need not to bring in God, na only you get the God?

God doesn't need to do any such since the book is written in human language and meant to be comprehended in much the same way you would any texts written in the same human language. However, what remains clear is your lot, including those of you who claim to be more aware, turn your brains off when it comes to the processing of the writings in scripture.

That you have yet to realize even at this point in your journey that an interpretation amounts to a lie, means you should probably stick to that which you are in fact able to comprehend without needing to inject delusions that you call interpretations.

oolaamiidee:
Bruh, I have just exercised self-control. If I didn't, we could be exchanging words rn. You need to know what God's will is and what actual Christianity is before you say some things that will set people on the wrong path. Truly you're not an authority on the matter, it's more reason I wouldn't advise anyone to pay this article any mind.

Did God come down from heaven to explain what Christianity is to you?
Porn videos are available almost everywhere on the internet but you do not watch them because you do not want them.
See this thread as something that you do not want as well, at least it's not by force to be in here.
Now that you've won, take the trophy and go in peace . Adíos.

Banilla:
You're contradicting yourself.

You said the op is doing the good work of letting people know the reality of marriage, so they can choose if it's what the want or not.

If that was his motive, he would have been completely honest. Talked about the good and bad.

Since he didn't, he's just posting his opinion which is: there's no disadvantage of having a wife (read the title). But his father would disagree, no? And millions of other happily married men. Therefore, his opinion is biased and toxic and illogical. Growing up, did he not see the advantage of his mother in his father's life?

His father is the number one man in his life, what other man has revealed his secrets to the op or confided in him?

I don't want to get married cause it's not my thing. Not because I'm a hypocrite, condemning something others want and happily have. That would make me a lousy person. If the op finds marriage distasteful, he should remain single. There's no need to come here, with facts from social media, to write that marriage has no benefits when many would disagree.

U clearly have a challenge seeing things from.people's perpective ....he doesnt have to share both sides of marriage....pple do it all the time on nairaland....another moniker opens a new thread to counter arguments ..no big deal...he doesnt have to do it ur way

Gadafii:
Marriage has outlived it’s importance since these girls decided they would hawk the Pusey to the highest bidder, imagine ending up with such liability as a wife, and the society still expects you to kneel and ask for her hands in marriage or propose to her with your own money, for a damaged goods

If you think marriage is cool, please go ahead and get married, but to a virgin please, god girl go still pay last last, good boy no Dey pay, dem go use and dump you like piece of ass wipe 😂😂😂

I so much love your opening statement. Marriage has outlived it's importance. I'll keep coming up with reasons guys should not marry. Guys have been underestimated, our pride has been trampled on. It's a man's world but the women are rulling now, we need to get it right again.

advanceDNA:


All this epistle because u dont agree with the guy and want to guilt trip/ invalidate/flaw his opinion ... u even said no one asked him but here u are giving ur own lenghty views that no one asked for..

saying one would think he's from a broken home because he's against marriage is sterotyping.........his views can be formed from societal happenings...

No cap. Man! You are wise.

FRANCISTOWN:
Please anyone who has bad things to say about marrying as a guy should kindly drop their opinion, you may be saving someone from a lifetime of misery, so let's keep religion biasness aside and help a brother out there.

Below are just my opinions and may be subjected to error.(I'm not speaking as an auhority)
1. Marriage isn't God's institution. Let's use the story in Genesis. Adam was the one who saw Eve and took her as his wife. No 1 point ( God didn't join Adam and Eve together) Adam was the one who chose Eve , Eve didn't choose Adam because she felt the same way, but because she was naive(someone who was just formed) and had no other choice. At least we never saw Eve say anything (She could have been like, Adam boo boo, so cute, I want to spend forever with you as well) Mama was quiet and completely naive of the whole situation. It may be safe to say Eve was married out of her will. Also the story of the woman with 7 husbands(Matt 22:23-34)..... Jesus clearly said in heaven there is no husband or wife( which means God's intention was never husband and wife in the first place). If not that they ate the fruit, multiplication could be thru other process aside sex which might not be God's initial plan.

God created Eve for Adam. So, what would u say abt?

Abeg women too dey marry “wife” ni abi am I missing something?