Kobojunkie:
1. Leave God and His mention out of the mess that is your existence abeg!

You folks only mention His name when it suits , particularly to cover up one of your many ridiculous lies. And nothing you even do is of Him.

2. Where does this mandate you continue to claim come from? Your arse or where?

EriMma1:


Is that what the post says?

Was Regina Daniels in poverty? Why did she dump her fellow actor and go for Ned. Be wise.

Thomasankara:
[/color]no single thing in the Bible they follow,in short any spiritual guy is a major turn off for most ladies of this generation.[color=#770077]

EriMma1:


Stop sounding emotional. No be fight. It is what it is. whichever ways you choose to look at it. Fact remains that a man who can not take care of his household is worse than an infidel.

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

shantti:
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U r d emotional ones. Men are currently going for women who are contributing to the society. A leech is only used for sex and not marriage. Ask urself why u aren't married yet when girls younger than u are getting married.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

shantti:


Socrates
At least Regina Daniel was earning a lot as a spinster before her mum pushed her to marry ned.

Now, what r u earning as a spinster? U couldn't afford to take urself to the clinic. Remember

Back to Regina. Do u think ned really loves and values her, it's all Abt sex dear. She had to endure being a third wife. Ned can bring in a side chick or prostitute into his house and smash, and nothing will happen. When he is tired of regina, he will marry a fourth wife and she dares not question him cos she is just one of his properties. Is that what u really want. U can't eat ur cake and have it.

sigiyaya:
I hardly comment on Nairaland but this ur trend got me nne. I just want to tell you that I seriously pity any man that comes around you. You sound empty and frustrated plus u are rude and a complete burden with ur mindset.

EriMma1:



That's her choice and she's enjoying every bit of it. Jo regrets so far. It doesn't matter what Ned does afterwards as long as her needs are being met, she got nothing to worry about.

She's better than many who end up with men like you, enduring the hardship and still get cheated on with dirty prostitutes outside. At least Ned has class and goes for the clean ones, wife's them and brings them home.

EriMma1:


Mr man, stop sounding pained and taking this thing personal. It's very simple. Learn to cater for your woman otherwise she'll cheat on you under your nose with a more financially capable man. That's what you men don't know.

Autobot05:
Another potential evening newspaper

Are you an orphan or you simply don't understand that adulthood is simply about looking out for yourself

When he meets your needs what do you bring to the table ?

EriMma1:


Stop sounding emotional. No be fight. It is what it is. whichever ways you choose to look at it. Fact remains that a man who can not take care of his household is worse than an infidel.

shantti:


Men like me are thousands of miles better than women like you. Women like u end up in Shiloh yr after yr while till they reach menopause. I can cater for my medical bills, can u?

abbey621:


What are you talking about? Even in the old days na rich man dey marry plenty wives, poor man wey try am no dey last. Majority of the rich folks wey you know today, the Otedolas, the Adenugas, Dangote, all came from polygamous backgrounds. Abeg shift, stop using junk analysis to spew falsehoods. Poverty na poverty, person wey e no go better for, e no go better for; this is true whether he marries multiple women or not. Look at the trends, nowadays less people are polygamous but we have more divorce, more poverty, more unsatisfied men resulting to rape, incest ect. You mentioned generational poverty, so can you explain why Nigerians got poorer over the past 20 years even tho less people are practicing polygamy? Explain that!

Kobojunkie:
Your pastors and mogs simply regurgitate what is accepted norm as far as culture in much of Nigeria.

noonejustme:


Guys, from an Evolutionary and scientific standpoint, this lady is right.

But EriMma, these men responding to you are simply justifying feminism.

Now this... You sound like someone who upholds the traditional ways... Who wants a traditional man.
A traditional man is someone who will provide for you most ( if not all) of your needs, protect you from the elements and danger, while in return you give him your youth, femininity, fertility, respect, and most important of all, LOYALTY.

Another thing you need to give is your virginity to him( kind of goes together with Loyalty). Where that is not possible, AT least come into the union with a body count of not more than 3.

The thing is... Do you qualify as a traditional woman ?


This is why I always say that the bible ehn, na over complete dey worry am. The same bible that talk about a man being an infidel who cannot provide for his family is the one who said that a woman who is not married as a virgin( and the husband gets to find out and reports this) should be stoned to death

EriMma1:


Oya sorry, no cry. Today na Sunday abeg. I don't want anyone to shed a tear because of my harmless post.

It's only an advice especially for the women folk. Take it or leave it. E never reach crying matter. O?

Bye.

EriMma1:


Oya sorry, no cry. Today na Sunday abeg. I don't want anyone to shed a tear because of my harmless post.

It's only an advice especially for the women folk. Take it or leave it. E never reach crying matter. O?

Bye.

MrBroke:
Nothing on earth or in heaven will make me marry a broke, no talent, no career woman. A broke lady deserves a broke guy, a rich working hard lady deserves a guy with the same qualities. I'm working hard for myself and my family not a bitch

Kujo:
■ Op, What if you get a man that can take care of your needs and later something goes south and he can't provide anymore... are you then going to abandon him and look for the next available man that can carter for your insatiable needs?
■ If you answer this question correctly then I'll accept your theory...

Iamzik:


Your polygamous grandfather did not have to buy iPhone for all his wives, education was free, no need to pay rent in the village or maintain several cars, the wives were totally submissive etc so of course divorce was rare.
Polygamy favoured the man...more children to work on the farm or handle his business.

That has changed unles you want to decieve yourself