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Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Oyiboman69: 9:34am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:why can't someone comprehend your gibberish? |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Lessons123: 9:34am On Mar 12, 2023 |
popcykaylah: May God reveal such liabilities to us with this mentality |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Lessons123: 9:35am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Lessons123: We wealthy men detest such liabilities 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Nobody: 9:36am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:the earlier you get used to the reality that a woman who is not a virgin can marry a rich man,or provider,the better.i assure you a better night rest. The brainstorming, resentment, calculation and pondering you go through just because of this "unfair arrangement " will be put to rest. All is fair in love and in war. Learn the game,play your card well and try to get the best whilst offering little instead of becoming "sour grapes"(you should look that up) over what you can't change. Nothing you will do about it...sadly. you deserve a closure on this issue.its been years for Christ sake..lol. I wish pansophist preaches this reality the same way he preaches the reality of women still having to settle for broke men 2 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 9:36am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Oyiboman69:Oh, I am definitely not your problem at all. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by jericco1(m): 9:39am On Mar 12, 2023 |
This is the most absurd thing I have read this year. Well a man should be able to complement a woman when he feels she needs to. Not that you'll recline in a state of dependency, expecting the man to cater for you like you are a toddler. Grow up girl, things are no longer as it used to. You talk about forefathers, do you know how ladies were treated then? The freedom you guys have now is light miles away from what happened then. There's been a shift in things and people society has grown beyond such primitive thinking. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Lessons123: 9:40am On Mar 12, 2023 |
popcykaylah: The poster liability only needs to ask how liabilities to rich men are treated. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by cayrem: 9:43am On Mar 12, 2023 |
A relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme. Do not become a liability to a man under the guise of "I want to be taken care of," or "I want a man who can meet all my needs." If as a woman, you want someone that would meet all your needs, go to your parents. Even your parents will be reluctant to meet any of your needs at a certain point. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Raalsalghul: 9:45am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Bullythebully: Unfortunately this is true and well said: play the game, take plenty and offer little. It's just like women accepting the fact a large number of them will marry broke men despite their standards. Both sides have truths to accept. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by occfx: 9:46am On Mar 12, 2023 |
DaddyFreeze2020: LOL, she has been damaged beyond repair... Sounding toxic and dangerous. If you marry this type your own don be. My question to her would be, what amount of money is enough. If you are a millionaire and marry Aisha Buhari, you can't still be able to maintain her Dubai expenses so must I be president of Nigeria before I will say I have made it? The woman don Colo sha. The real lesson is cut your coat, make sure your expenses is 1/10th of your income including the type of woman you marry. Don't marry a slay queen and expect soft landing. There are many fishes in the ocean, choose your size wisely. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by wildikeman(m): 9:47am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: You are a beggar simple and short...goodluck 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by wildikeman(m): 9:48am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: So you would agree when a man sys shut up and go to the kitchen...and stay there till you are needed...in bedroom 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by popcykaylah(m): 9:50am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Lessons123:Any man wey put this one for house don carry wahala put for house .. cos if you get money when you marry her and you lose your job or your business crashes .. then she go leave you for the next available rich man .. ba be type no dey ask wetin man ahe dey sleep dey do for a living.. as long as the money keeps rolling in no problems 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by occfx: 9:50am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Dohn: Hahaha, imagine having needs you cannot meet on your own and if human beings come out, you come out too. She has been damaged 3 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by davillian(m): 9:53am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:You won't understand I engaged a lady in one of my interview and she said she has already gotten the job but she just had to show her face. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Nobody: 9:54am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Gerrard59: I don't even want to believe that this thread has lingered for up to 16 pages because of a woman choice. This is really unfair. At least we see threads littered by males against non virgins,against single moms,against 30+women . But just one thread of men providing and they are triggered. Why can't they allow women to chase their dream men the way the chase their virgins? All ladies that are viewing this,don't be shamed into believing your wants are "entitlement". Wear your hypergamy with pride. Men vet brutally when looking for who to settle with. You have seen for yourself how they treat and sham single moms,30+ women,divorcees etc. If you sadly fall into any category of the aforementioned then you are in peppersoup in the average Nigerian man eyes. No one will hear your story. The average man is capable of adhering to nuances. Don't let them scare or frighten you into believing all men are average and you can't get a comfortable or rich man. This is to scare you into settling for them. Their fantasies always revolve around something bad happening to you just for your choice(being impregnanted and dumped,ending up with a rich abusing guy,or being used for ritual). And I ask,if struggling or broke guys are virtous,why are nairaland men(who are usually struggling financially) vile? Secure your children future. Don't let your kids suffer ridicule in school because he can't buy that fancy toy their classmates have. Don't even believe in "he has prospects" or "future" stuff. It is as good as a Christian declaring he will go to heaven in the afterlife. Vet men brutally as they vet your last brutally. 7 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by occfx: 9:54am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: Continue waiting for man to cater for your need very soon 7 women will beg the same man just to answer his name, go and read your Bible. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 9:55am On Mar 12, 2023 |
davillian:What did she have to give up in order to get that job? 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by wildikeman(m): 9:56am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Dohn: Since she is using the creation story from the Bible..let her look at the qualities a woman should and must have to having a man and if she can pay a man's dowry. Just cherry picking because she is absolutely lazy 2 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Nobody: 10:00am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:yes. And accepting that non virgins,baby mamas,30+ women whom you have for almost half a decade ran campaign against will get married. Both men and women will settle. Dont treacherously make women choice seem unattainable in order to quench their standards,while making men choice appear very attainable in order to ignite their choice. That is the honesty required of you. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by wildikeman(m): 10:00am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: Hey woman...shut up..you are talking to a potential husband..know your place |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 10:02am On Mar 12, 2023 |
wildikeman: He's not a potential husband. He's my egbon. We be cat and rat for here. Leave us. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Profitsystemx10: 10:03am On Mar 12, 2023 |
When men say “what you bring to the table as a woman”, many of you misunderstand its meaning. We don’t mean food or money. A real man doesn’t need his wife’s money or any other materialistic valuable. We mean “what can you provide that will be a benefit”, other than achieving housewife duties? You as a woman can never give your husband the kind of money he envisions, so, calm down. At the end, you all will be like “after all I have done for you “, because you didn’t give whole heartedly but with expectations. Can you bring the necessary encouragement I need when things are rough or you nag and complain? Can you be as prayerful even when things are going smoothly and we as a couple have all the money we need? Can you offer to help me manage a portion of my business so I don’t spend expense on an extra staff? Can you motivate me when I’ve just had a rough day or had a deal that didn’t go through? Can you teach my kids how to be great men and women when they grow up, even when I’m in the trenches or on a business trip? Can you back me up with the little connections you have so we grow as a family? I can go on and on, but, this is to just let you men and women understand. When asking a woman what she brings to the table, don’t expect her to bring money for you to eat or feed. Additionally, as a woman don’t assume it’s a mans job to only bring to the table whilst you sit and fill up the cushions and beds in the house, eating, getting fat, and buying all the clothes and make ups in the world. Would you be a Queen or a housewife? 1 Like
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Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by marcopollo(m): 10:08am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I don't even understand what you are trying to say. Okay let me put it this way: Don't sound like women are like some pet dogs that are helpless but need to be taken care of as if they can't make their own money to take care of themselves. Why not rather say that men especially should be financially stable to some reasonable extent before thinking of starting a family. 1 Like |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 10:10am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Bullythebully: Gbam! The is the whole truth summed up in one breath, nullifying all the numerous wailings and baseless arguments throughout the pages of this post Case closed. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Backpedal: 10:11am On Mar 12, 2023 |
This is my own contribution to this discussion going on here Note the following: The Nigerian economy is in shambles Meaning that a lot of men are doomed to be economically castrated and disenfranchised no matter how hard they try If everybody in Nigeria like; let them hustle and break back; you can only draw out what is available in the economy; which is very small compared to much more people jostling for it Implications: Only a few percentage of men will be ahead economically in the real sense of it Most will struggle/just floating While the rest are screwed over. Further implications: the vast majority of women want the top tier earners in Nigeria The ratio is skewed against the women; because there aren't enough to go round; hence the competition become fierce. If some standards are not adjusted; we would be headed for a situation where a lot of women who have this high standards remain single or become the side chicas While we have a lot of dissatisfied frustrated men who turn to the "red pill" for succour My conclusion: the society is messed up 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by sharone21(f): 10:12am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Just reading the story of Actor Ogbebor whose wife had to call him out after losing 2/kids they had since he was financially incapable.... The MAIN job of a man is to LOOK FOR MONEY...If he fails in this one main task for his family( doesn't have to be Bill Gates), he isn't ready and not mam enough to make any home. Women are saddled with more tasks and we still have to go out and look for money if not people will say u have no impact on a man...However, no matter how much a man loves u there are certain roles of women that he can NEVER do and if he does it, he pays through his nose. OP is right, though women can support but with or without financial support for a man, the woman is already playing all her roles plus his, and his only role is to get money - abi men are handicaps( lol)? |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by achimendy(m): 10:17am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: I wonder if it's the bible that told you that men should be 100% financially responsible In their marriage, because the bible also refer to women as helpmeet, so if we have a family together and you're not helping him in one or the other then you're not doing your part as his partner. And mind you help can come in different forms, be it financially, emotionally, spiritually etc. It just depend on the one needed at that point in time. There comes a time when a man do have some financial challenges in his life, that's when some few wise women will step-up to support their husband's b4 he can pick up again. But you see most of this girls of nowadays, they don't give a fvk about your challenges, they only want to be eating your money and enjoying your sweat, but the day you breakdown they'll run away, saying there can't cope with his current situation anymore, forgetting he has being taking care of you in the past. This girls have no conscience, always looking for already made men to feast on. That's why they hardly get married, or hardly their marriage last because of their lust for material things. Majority of them you see talking that way only see relationship/marriage as a means of escaping poverty, that's they're always after what you'll give to them. As men we know our responsibility, but if your wife is not supportive, more especially during challenging times hmmm forget that marriage. Both couples have their role to play in the family, but if any of them defaulted they'll definitely be a problem. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by EriMma1: 10:17am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Profitsystemx10: When men talk about "bringing to the table," they are actually talking about shared responsibilities mostly in the area of finance. That's why you hear them calling the woman a leech, liability and all what nots. They don't understand it the way you put it here. I hope they learn. 3 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by effort1: 10:21am On Mar 12, 2023 |
EriMma1: But women want equal right, right? You are just a morally irresponsible person. If you want equal right, you must also be ready for equal responsibility 2 Likes |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Kobojunkie: 10:22am On Mar 12, 2023 |
marcopollo:You just repeated Op's point of view only with a different tone. |
Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by Gerrard59(m): 10:26am On Mar 12, 2023 |
Bullythebully: I do understand your points. I have always acknowledged that women are hypergamous. So, I'm surprised you quoted me. |
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