Mummytoo:


Thank u dear, I did that while testifying today, but I didn't say I told him some of the things he said because if I talk somehow they will remove the mic and correct u, its that bad, I have forgiven him, I pray my husband heals too

Ok... glad to hear you did testify! ... and you're right ... you didn't have to mention everything you told him ..... just the lies he added on. For him to apologize and allow you to testify tell me one thing .... that you give wayyy more tithes than the average person...... yes? .... no?

I wonder how followers hold these conmen in high regard

Kunfu:
One pastor really did that to my Dad back then, after service I went to meet him in his office and warned him seriously. Since then he never use anybody shine again for church

ur papa harsh
😂

paxonel:
maddam, simply leave the church he is not a pastor. But before you go, request that he should return all the tithe and offering you have been paying him since you started coming to the church. If he refuse to give you back your money don't worry, just let it be and go, God will judge.

leaving the church may not be evil in the sight of the Lord as there are much other genuine churches u can fellowship. But asking for tithe back is acute ignorance. Since tithe is paid to God and not man or church, you are directly asking God to give u ur money back. No. Its not an advice

Even confronting a pastor rudely is not wrong.

Mummytoo:


Thank you dear, I have forgiven him in my heart, let God be the judge

Everything has been said about you and your pastor but no one has said anything about the individual that the image tarnishing affected: Your Husband.
Am I surprised, No. It the usual way of our people and their myopic thoughts.
In all these, your husband feelings has been ignored in your actions and you do not yet see that your marriage might be gone with this situation.
For no reason of his, the world now sees him in a bad light for a crime he never committed, and you trivially think your marriage is safe
He might not say anything today but note this post: this might be the crack that ends your marriage in the future.
Can I advise you on what you should do? Not at all as every man has a different way of handling such issues.

But if I were your husband, I would keenly watch you without saying anything and see what you do to resolve this. How you resolve it would determine the future fate of the union.

I am also a minister of the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ, my advice is that you and your husband go to his house or office, I repeat don't go alone, same to your husband he should not go alone.
Meet the pastor, tell him that what he did to you the last time you were not happy and disappointed in his publication of your secrets.
In the main time, still attend the church with your husband after the discussion even if he apologize accept his apology give it like two weeks or a month take a bow and leave the church. There a more coordinated and prayerful churches everywhere God will direct your step.
God bless u, u are lifted.
For more information call me 09067314685, I was ordained as a minister in Dunamis

Mummytoo:
Good morning nlanders

Happy Sunday to u all

I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.

He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.

Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)

Is it wrong to confront him....
Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband

Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this

Serves you right.

What are you doing in the church?

If you stayed in your home,you won't have to deal with criminals parading as Pastors

Go to him & voice your displeasure BUT try to be careful with ur words.
Mind you, after this saga, leave that church & find a church that is not owned by one man...
churches like anglican, baptist etc

Mummytoo:


I discussed with my husband immediately I got home, i pray no serious issue comes again, we learn everyday, God help us
Thank u dear

Discussed with your husband that his secrets are now in the open and that everyone in the church even sees him as a wife-flogger (even when you said he didn't do such)

Changing churches should be the least of your problems.
Your husband might want to be a gentleman and try to forget about it but the devil works in mysterious ways.
He might have a quarrel with someone you never expected and the person will use this to insult him. Then he will remember you are the cause of it and come back to you.

For how long it continues, only God can tell.

Mummytoo:


That is what I know too, that whatever is being counseled or confessed stays within them...so u can imagine the shock, I refused to get up till he pointed me direct

I detest these business men(pastors) we all see as super humans. To be honest with you, 99% of them did not see God's flash how much more missed call to start claiming they were called. It's just a means to an end for them. All na hustle.

I attended one church like that where the pastor(woman) was trying to use me to catch cruise after telling her few of my challenges during the service. All what I told her she was just repeating them verbatim and looking towards my direction. I got so upset, I stood up, picked my Bible and started heading for the exit door. An usher tried to stop me that when preaching is going on no movement is allowed, I nearly use him for WWE Smackdown, I left and never went back to that place.

Mummytoo:

Ur reply sounded funny, I first him down and told him not to be angry that something serious happened he got upset, I did damage control when testifying that my husband is the best man

Just confirmed that you still dont have sense. Good luck with your marriage

Mummytoo:


He got upset, I begged him and did damage control today while testifying I corrected everything

It is well. Next time, be very careful with what you tell your pastor.

Cutehector:
Women wey respect their pastors more than their husbands.

Now you are afraid to confront your pastor.

But if na your husband, you go grind teeth like dog wey wan crucify Jesus Christ..

This is rude and debasing. Very childish and immature.

Mummytoo:

Thank u dear, I did that while testifying today, but I didn't say I told him some of the things he said because if I talk somehow they will remove the mic and correct u, its that bad, I have forgiven him, I pray my husband heals too

Maybe it's time to prayerfully start looking out for another church.

pansophist:
Any authority that can't be confronted is tyranny.

Is this valid for Putin and Xi

Tutu82:

But you already know whose version the church would believe.It’s like a spell should we revisit the Coza scandal of a few years back?.

Kai, you're smart.

Mummytoo:
Good morning nlanders

Happy Sunday to u all

I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.

He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.

Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)

Is it wrong to confront him....
Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband

Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this

Before u confront him what kind of pastor do u have or I say what type of church do u attend?if ur pastor has a superior authority over him go report of what he did cos what might happen after confrontation u might not be able to handle it... then if u don't like how he does things kindly and gently with ur husband move out of there..

Mummytoo:


The trust keeps breaking and breaking, the church is supposed to be a place of solace, comfort, counsel, joy, a place of meat, and many more but now, no way they are ready to even expose that u are a beggar.

God will help us

We will continue to experience this because pastors are human being with flesh and not angels,
It's not all pastors that behave that way,
When Jesus was on earth, He had some one like Judas Iscariot out of his 12 disciples despite He is God
We can't say there are fake phones and stop using phone, we will have to look for the original or genuine phones.
The same thing with pastors, let's look for the genuine ones among them.
Anybody can start a church and call himself a pastor, even herbalists are hiding behind the title of pastor nowadays

Drop his number here, make we finish him

Pls fear no man. Correct the pastor politely and let everyone know the truth.

Personally I don't think it is o.

YOUR PASTOR IS A CONFAM ODE AND IMMATURE AND A FAKE PASTOR

IT'S PASTOR'S LIKE HIM THAT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF WOMEN WHO COME TO HIM FOR COUNSELING AND RAPES THEM


IF YOU KNOW WHAT IS GOOD FOR YOU...YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND BETTER LEAVE THAT FAKE USELESS CHURCH

TOMORROW NOW ..HE WILL CUM AND TELL YOU THAT THE HOLY SPIRIT TOLD HIM THAT HE MUST DO DELIVERANCE INSIDE YOUR KUKUNASE

Onyiiobi7735:
Go ahead and confront the pastor.He is a human being, not a deity, and shouldn't be treated like one.Give him a resounding warning over his actions, and then start keeping your distance from him.
Getting unnecessarily close to some of these pastors,cause all this unwanted interference in the lives of the church members.That's why I don't like getting close to any pastor for any reason on a personal level.

Follow this advise at your own peril.

Yes, approach him respectfully and air your grievances without being disrespectful. He will apologize and you will let go.

Now what If he doesn't apologize? still let go. But if you and your husband can't remain there and serve God with all your heart, change church. But in all you do, don't dishonour him even in your heart. And don't discuss him with other church members.

God bless your marriage.

dem gum your mouth when him dey talk am??

Nigerians still falling for all this crap after how many decades?

Mummytoo:
Good morning nlanders

Happy Sunday to u all

I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.

He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.

Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)

Is it wrong to confront him....
Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband

Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this

I didn't want to comment earlier on but you the wife you are the one that has brought disrespect and great dishonour to your family. You should be glad if your husband finds it in his heart to forgive you for having a poor sense of judgement and for been overly naive.

Now that you have testify and corrected that wrong impression of the pastor before that congregation (which is the right thing to do ALTHOUGH it depends on what you said and how you do it because your type might still praise the pastor again in the testimony and downplay that your pastor was wrong to discuss your private matter without consent and for lying also).

I would advise you leave that church ASAP. Don't meet the pastor again either alone or with your husband, disassociate your household from that church. Do not allow the pastor pray for you or anoint your head with any oil (somethings you may not understand and from how I see you that you can't ever understand so i wont bother going deeper) .

Find a bible believing church and join, for where you currently worship is a den of wolves. I won't be surprised if the church is a one man church.

Leave that church and find another (not one man church) that truly preach the word.

A word is enough for the wise.
Mummytoo

Sincerely you too naive for a wife. I pray God give your husband the wisdom to handle his home and you because one needs more wisdom when interacting with you. May God help your husband

Pastors,Alfa's are not councilor most of them don't understand marriage despite the details embedded in the scripture, meet a councilor or someone your spouse listen to whenever you have issues.

LoveJesus87:
leaving the church may not be evil in the sight of the Lord as there are much other genuine churches u can fellowship. But asking for tithe back is acute ignorance. Since tithe is paid to God and not man or church, you are directly asking God to give u ur money back. No. Its not an advice

hmm!

Tithe is paid to God and spent by God?

Confront him, but don't give him anything to use against you.
I refuse to share my relationship with any pastor, most of them will use you as preaching topic.

Na that time, i will correct him sharp.
You cannot use my family and i to shine

candyguyofficia:
I didn't want to comment earlier on but you the wife you are the one that has brought disrespect and great dishonour to your family. You should be glad if your husband finds it in his heart to forgive you for having a poor sense of judgement and for been overly naive.

Now that you have testify and corrected that wrong impression of the pastor before that congregation (which is the right thing to do ALTHOUGH it depends on what you said and how you do it because your type might still praise the pastor again in the testimony and downplay that your pastor was wrong to discuss your private matter without consent and for lying also).

I would advise you leave that church ASAP. Don't meet the pastor again either alone or with your husband, disassociate your household from that church. Do not allow the pastor pray for you or anoint your head with any oil (somethings you may not understand and from how I see you that you can't ever understand so i wont bother going deeper) .

Find a bible believing church and join, for where you currently worship is a den of wolves. I won't be surprised if the church is a one man church.

Leave that church and find another (not one man church) that truly preach the word.

A word is enough for the wise.
Mummytoo

Sincerely you too naive for a wife. I pray God give your husband the wisdom to handle his home and you because one needs more wisdom when interacting with you. May God help your husband

Even my mother was advised by church elders when she was passing through maltreatment from my father, that was cherubim and seraphim, the church was a place to run to for comfort, advice and many more, nobody is a graduate in d institute of marriage, have u been the one managing my marriage, or u didn't read where I wrote I went to pray at the alter before he called me and started counseling me, even old people seek counsel

Cadillac15:


Just confirmed that you still dont have sense. Good luck with your marriage

Y d insult, my marriage is fine