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JASONjnr:
Never said god commanded everyone to go and get married...

I said it's God's command for those who wish to get married...

Try deh read more often, your brain is blocked with too much of gambling...

Oga there's no commandment involved simple. Who no dey gamble for this life? Abi the marriage you are talking about no be gambling? Block head.

Kobojunkie:
Let me guess, you embraced hypogamy in marriage, even with the fact that over 83% of Nigerians out there already regret there same decision in marriage, and you are now here to whine to the world about your regrets?

If you don't have kids yet, here is something for you to ponder. Once you born pikin into poverty, chances are over 90% that they will remain shackled to the curse of poverty for life. Don't say you weren't warned.

Marriage is more than just responsibilities for those who make the right choices in marriage for their sake and the sake of their loved ones.

Sometimes I wonder where you get your weird opinions from.

Adexgentle005:
Yes I do. Is marriage all about having kids?

Baba plan and pray for increase. Stop making noise.



Don't you know what marriage is b4 getting into it??

Adexgentle005:
My brother I couldn’t believe I’ve spent 100k in just two months. Money for this, money for that. It’s really crazy out there! Sometimes I think about that too, is it not better to be single and have peace of mind?

just 100k, you did not spend much

SimpleGuy001:
Chief, it’s not easy. But try to improve that your 200k monthly income.

Even me a young guy (soon to be 23) I earn 240k net but expenses dey and the money isn’t enough for me so I have a side hustle.

By end of this year I should be earning 300k net if it goes according to plan from my core job.

So just improvise. If your job requires certification to increase your earning base then do it. If you are not a salary earner then try improve your business and add a side hustle. Cause by the time those children start growing up expenses will increase oooo.

That what I’m saying bro. Imagine getting married with what you are earning presently. You won’t survive the marriage nah. I got other side hustle as well!

achimendy:
Baba plan and pray for increase. Stop making noise.



Don't you know what marriage is b4 getting into it??

I ain’t complaining. I know what I signed up for. I’m just letting people who think marriage is some sort of achievement to know it is.

happney65:
Na wetin go kill am at the end of the day be that..And when he dies, Life goes on.

Men are mostly loved because of their ability to provide, protect and penetrate. Our mothers inclusive o. It has been from time in memorial

That's not love then....that's exploitation....

Wow! Omo the kind of divorce that will be happening in this country two to three years from now will be terrible

The funny part is when I see you guys una go they form wetin I no know like say una be kingkong

So you all have been going through a lot and thinking that you are caged Ehyaa...sorry nuoo

TheMaterialist:
You guys might be complain about marriage,
but if you are very rich, marriage can be heaven
on earth.

Whats the need for marriage when you're rich aside kids?

Even kids can be gotten outside of marriage, but let us respect religion.

Is it food? You could hire a chef.

Is it laundry? Sure hell, there are people who offer these services.
So what else do you need a woman for aside kids? I dunno honestly.

happney65:
Na wetin go kill am at the end of the day be that..And when he dies, Life goes on.

Men are mostly loved because of their ability to provide, protect and penetrate. Our mothers inclusive o. It has been from time in memorial

The annoying about all these is that his wife is lazy and stay at home doing nothing with 6 children and the first born brought in a baby from outside. The woman also brought in a street able lazy man that stay with them while the husband busying slaving away working to feed almost 11 people. Its so annoying and the man is very gentle just enduring everything.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You men complain baselessly. Why not just divorce your wife since you know that there’s nothing special about marriage? All these small boys who weren’t mentally ready for the journey itself but jumped at the idea of it because their mates were doing it.

Why not just proudly carry the burden of performance ‘they’ said you people were created for?
If you are tired, ball out instead of complaining and whining like a cat.

Even with kids?

Starz825:
I be wan nak am insult even beforr the topic reach front page but as I read am again..he be come get meaning to me...


He is trying to say that ...no matter how stressful the work and effort you put in your marriage is ...its a joy to watch your family grow...and thats true....

Marriage is cool , but this country no be am....

I'm not preparing to marry in Nigeria.....

It's not appealing to have children who will be Nigerian citizens by birth like me...I would rather have them be citizens by descent....

At least make dem experience another life and citizenship off the Nigerian life...

Cos I'm totally tired of the country....and the best way to show you are tired is to not give birth here

Wagbayi

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

being Responsible is the special thing about marriage, ask your parents if they are happily married they would know, but if they were not then I am sorry for your upbringing.

owunabastard:
just 100k, you did not spend much

I didn’t say that’s the whole amount I’m spending o. That’s just one of many. How much are you making in a month?

babajero:
being Responsible is the special thing about marriage, ask your parents if they are happily married they would know, but if they were not then I am sorry for your upbringing.

Maybe I should ask your parents instead if they are happily married because I doubt it. You lack manners. Is that how you talk to your parents?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Just 100k and you’re here whining? It’s obvious this one didn’t know what he signed up for before he started. Why did you marry when you knew you weren’t ready for that ‘burden of performance’? Later, they will claim you men carry the burden of performance. Why not just carry it with all your strength and stop whining like a cat?

Many married folks and even single people spend way more and don’t breathe a sweat. Divorce your wife if you are tired.

@the bolded, give us examples of their monikers Victoria.

Stop throwing subtle shots. We want names!

But honestly, saying "just a 100k" is not fair on the Op.

You don't know his level of finance before he made that post.

It might be chicken change for you but just for instance put yourself in the shoes of someone earning like let's say 70k monthly, then you'd understand why the Op is complaining.

Difference level of finances for everybody.

Your pocket change might be someone else's life savings.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You people don’t just like truths. 100k and you are complaining. Wake me up when you start spending over 500K every month on just family expenses. If your skin no full, no put body, abeg. Marriage no be for boys.

Its you who's tuned into social media 247 and have been trapped in some pseudo-reality. 500k per month? Do you know how much the president's salary is? Do you need me to tap you to wake you up?

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.




I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

It derails me when I see people who don’t accept reality. Marriage is 99% responsibilty, don’t include God in judging your IQ. Talk reality in real time when needed, stop using God’s name to fool people in every opportunity you have.

As a married and responsible man, you pay bills your entire life till death. Fact! And you if disagree with this fact, then I already know your type of person.

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

What in the world is wrong with people of the 21 century? You look at your loved ones and call them "responsibilities" in order words, from what you say here liabilities? No be you carry your hand go marry? No be you carry prick chuke inside toto? Your papa!!

alamoht:
It derails me when I see people who don’t accept reality. Marriage is 99% responsibilty, don’t include God in judging your IQ. Talk reality in real time when needed, stop using God’s name to fool people in every opportunity you have.

As a married and responsible man, you pay bills your entire life till death. Fact! And you if disagree with this fact, then I already know your type of person.

But you will still marry because you cannot control your fvcking gbola and you cannot afford side chicks.. ehyaaa......

LoL.. they are now coming back to my own side of the argument in my post of the other day.

I'm enjoying my single life abeg!

UyaiIncomparabl:
You people don’t just like truths. 100k and you are complaining. Wake me up when you start spending over 500K every month on just family expenses. If your skin no full, no put body, abeg. Marriage no be for boys.

It oga kobo shouting hypo hypo up and down...no be me... He doesn't know you women prefer the sit-at-home treatment with occasional surprise gifts even if it entails oga spending the night in someone else's bed.

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

That you grow something and that thing becomes wonderful and inturn makes you feel great means that, that thing give you the opportunity to appreciate your hard work.
You go home after an hectic day at work, what you see is a beautiful woman with your kids flocking around you every now and then with true joy and happiness. Bro! You will forever be grateful to God.
The marriage discussed above are scares and pretenders have taken over.

myami:
at least you are enjoying free sex

Which of the free sex?

Adexgentle005:
My brother I couldn’t believe I’ve spent 100k in just two months. Money for this, money for that. It’s really crazy out there! Sometimes I think about that too, is it not better to be single and have peace of mind?

100k? Bro, even when I was in Nigeria sometimes I spent 500k per month on parents and siblings and I wasn't married. I had some side business aside the roughly 360k per month I was earning then.

There is responsibility everywhere. In African coming from a large family can be demanding.

Microwhy:
That you grow something and that thing becomes wonderful and inturn makes you feel great means that, that thing give you the opportunity to appreciate your hard work.
You go home after an hectic day at work, what you see is a beautiful woman with your kids flocking around you every now and then with true joy and happiness. Bro! You will forever be grateful to God.
The marriage discussed above are scares and pretenders have taken over.

This is because the stories heard are always from the evil marriages.... Such that, even wonderful homes find it very difficult to express or tell people about how happy their home is to avoid envy and saboteurs from damaging their happy homes.

BigYash:
This one dey use tomatoes and pepper compare marriage I won't say you're a clown,but just try no get money first,then marry You go old pass your age in two months..

No be small thing oo i know how much i have spent on getting an apartment furnished it for my family now

Adexgentle005:
And who told you it’s not normal to have kids without getting married? This is just societal values and it doesn’t carry any weight. They don’t know what you are passing through in your marriage and they care less. See, it is just what it is! Without financial stability in marriage you are doomed!

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My chairman, i sense from what you saying. The marriage is not the problem but perhaps the lack of suuport, morally, financial and trust from your other half. Two hands is better than one..
Our spouse/other half also need to support and assist one another and not leave all responsibilities to the men. This whole religious doctrine about gender role is not applicable to modern challenges. Jesus, virgin mary and mohammed never had a formal education..
Training and providing education for children and living in a comfortable house costs a lot of financial burden..
The challenges are modern and it requires joint working or else marriage becomes a burden.. Men need support. My bro, keep doing your best and ensure you protect your mental strength.
It is well.. We grow together when we all support each other husband, wife, sidechicks and side cock.

alamoht:
It derails me when I see people who don’t accept reality. Marriage is 99% responsibilty, don’t include God in judging your IQ. Talk reality in real time when needed, stop using God’s name to fool people in every opportunity you have.

As a married and responsible man, you pay bills your entire life till death. Fact! And you if disagree with this fact, then I already know your type of person.

You're really missing my point and you should look deep into who you are before you pass judgement to others.....

I never said that you don't foot responsibilities as a married man.... I said it's not just responsibilities that make up the marriage we have ... There are beautiful aspect of marriage that you should admire...

Paying bills is one part of it.... But what about the other side of marriages?

Have you ever been single before as an adult?

I have, and I will tell you for free that it's very annoying.

I could cook and I won't even be able to finish to food. Eating alone is not what I love doing.

You should marry a woman that puts her mind in her home and not to establish her siblings and parents or a liability as a wife ...

The truth about marriage is that it requires lot of money to maintain like an old BMW

Becos say person born and marry no mean say make we no acknowledge the fact that to be a man no easy ,to be a responsible man you go pay bill tire just pray for influx of money make you no know as e dey come or else you fit use frustration wound person pikin .Marriage na good and sweet institutions if both partners involved knows there goal .

Adexgentle005:
I ain’t complaining. I know what I signed up for. I’m just letting people who think marriage is some sort of achievement to know it is.

Of course marriage is an achievement, when you prepare and plan you'll have the desired result. Although is not easy.