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bjnice:
From my experience, I became financially stable when I got married, and my hustle became lighter compared to when I was single

Good for you. Not everyone is as lucky as you. So you weren’t financially stable when you were single?

Adexgentle005:
Lol, this is funny. What’s your being submissive going to do in the marriage? What if your husband starves you death due to lack of money you won’t japa? Dey play!

Read my response again if you missed it. I believe in gender roles and I’m a traditional woman, just like your wife. FYI, I can’t be starved. There are contingency plans, na who depend on man na him lose. My own is, just provide for the welfare of the home and we are good. If you need me as a wife to step in where you might be lagging, I’ll gladly help. But, it’s not my responsibility.

Marriage is good the question is did you really marry a help meet or na pride make u keep woman for house .
Most of us just jump into marriage with the pride of I am a man now ...not considering who you are getting married to.

Bro I'm married , and my life has never been easier because the right woman came into my life .
Some burden are off me shoulders .[quote][/quote]

BusinessPlan22:
Small boy got married.
A kid will always destroy whatever you give him, that's the truth, u may not like what I said, nothing is important to a kid.
And you are one.

It is what it is.

Read what you wrote again and see if it makes sense to you!

ednut1:
Don’t marry broke women.

That’s not the answer. What you should have advised is, don’t marry an unsupportive woman and one who believes in gender roles (different strokes for different folks). I can be earning 500k per month and decide not to spend a dime from my salary in the home front. No be by woman financial capacity. Check her ability to be supportive.

livinghigh1989:
Marriage is good the question is did you really marry a help meet or na pride make u keep woman for house .
Most of us just jump into marriage with the pride of I am a man now ...not considering who you are getting married to.

Bro I'm married , and my life has never been easier because the right woman came into my life .
Some burden are off me shoulders .

You mean your wife is the one paying your kids school fees and every other bills every now then?Because I don’t understand some burden are off my shoulders!

DonroxyII:
Ogbeni Stop Shaming Manliness ....

How you go enter Oceans begin to run Mouth like Ofe Nsala Watered Okpata Mouth .....

Dem force you enter swimming pool wey you dey complain sef water dey touch Ya body ...

Where dey pack dis boys from ??

A Warrior no be person wey get all the big guns but with One Knife ... He still fights n Kills Many ...

Soldier On Man ... Pray to Almighty God and Breakthrough is Coming For Big Finances that would shut Up your Mouth from complaining Over little things ....

Na Ya mate dey sambisa dey bombard Bokoharam while You dey here say One Woman(Softies) dey give you confusion

You ehn. It’s not like I’m complaining. It’s just that marriage is not an achievement as some people makes us to believe it is. If bills no kill you, nothing else go kill you!

Chopcy29:
Wow! Omo the kind of divorce that will be happening in this country two to three years from now will be terrible

The funny part is when I see you guys una go they form wetin I no know like say una be kingkong

So you all have been going through a lot and thinking that you are caged Ehyaa...sorry nuoo

i've seen people's wives join hookup

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

Word.
This word should be put on a billboard, wallpapers , memos and reminders.
No sentiment, it is what it is.

Nobody should even go at the OP he didn’t say don’t get married. love and marriage is a beautiful thing don’t get it twisted !!

kkins25:
But you will still marry because you cannot control your fvcking gbola and you cannot afford side chicks.. ehyaaa......

sex is sweet or don't you like pussy

EriMma1:
LoL.. they are now coming back to my own side of the argument in my post of the other day.

I'm enjoying my single life abeg!

how do you have sex?

Vinnie2000:
I can see You are speaking from ur PERSONAL perspective. 😒

But Generally Speaking, Married Guys/Men without strong Financial (Esp in Nigeria) are NOT happy@All.
All their little earned Income, goes into Family Upkeep/BILLS. :
No Savings/Financial Plans for the Next 5 or 10years!

This is the Point of the OP. 🤨

Very deep, couple with the fact that majority of this ladies are nothing but chronic liabilities, poor and dull.

Very few ladies are apt and worth it but the rest is can you take care of me crew and with this mentality the purpose of marriage is defeated.

A man will keep working to keep the family and no investment plan for his old age because all money coming in goes solely to the family and when the man gets old the children will be praising their mother for being successful.

Dnt get married when you have not map out your life till old age.

WOMEN HARDLY SUPPORT. ANY MONEY A WOMAN GIVES SHE WILL SURELY GET IT BACK FROM YOU THEY ARE THAT SMART/CUNNY

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

beautiful comment..

JASONjnr:
Marriage is more than responsibilities...


Marriage is far from how you view and understand it.

Responsibilities is just a task. Marriage is a command from God.


I didn't understand marriage untill I planted a tomato at the backyard and I was always going every morning to observe and check for changes an watering it.

My friend thought it was all about watering it. But in real sense, it used to bring joy to me seeing that I was able to grow something and it was wonderful...

Need I say that I was stocking alot of it on the fridge and dashed some out? Later I also included pepper to the family and with eggs at home, I was always sure of a good breakfast....

The beautiful seeds the produced.



Like I said earlier....

Marriage isn't a responsibility.... If you're poor and stingy, you'll always have this mentality.

If you're not, you will enjoy its beauty!

I'm made to tell you, you don't know what you are saying. If you remove responsibility from marriage nothing remains... absolutely nothing!

Raalsalghul:
Even with kids?

Yes! Na that time he go know say khaki no be leather. Marriage brings inter-dependence. Scratch my back and I’ll do yours. Let him go single, the bills will triple.

djon78:
This one spend 100k dey complain

Come meet guys spending close to half a million, some even over a million in some months.

Only school fees for two children in secondary School oo don pass 1 mill self. If you come check the three terms, add 2 wey still dey primary school.

And them never enter university oo

Your only prayer is that you married a sensible woman that appreciates your work and Baba God to always bless one hustle
That we will be able to make much more hustle, take care of our family and still be a blessing to those we are better than

Like me and my elder brother go dey say when we meet up
To be a man is not a days job, e no easy
But we no go run away from our responsibilities Lai Lai
No wonder more men die before there wives

school fees for two children in secondary School pass 1 mill? Cut your coat according to your clothes. There are far cheaper quality school, that will give you value for money than the exorbitant ones.

Raalsalghul:
@the bolded, give us examples of their monikers Victoria.

Stop throwing subtle shots. We want names!

But honestly, saying "just a 100k" is not fair on the Op.

You don't know his level of finance before he made that post.

It might be chicken change for you but just for instance put yourself in the shoes of someone earning like let's say 70k monthly, then you'd understand why the Op is complaining.

Difference level of finances for everybody.

Your pocket change might be someone else's life savings.

The monikers know themselves and they should be able to decode this should they see it.

Fine, we could have different levels of financial capacity as all fingers aren’t equal. But, the question that begs to be answered is, did he not know all these before deciding to delve into marriage? At least, knowing all these and deciding not to get married would have halted him from creating this sob thread and lamenting all over the place.

What he should be concerned about now is creating multiple streams of income and as well, getting his wife to support him if she’s not doing that already. Being a sole provider on a small income can be very hard and impossible to do, so I get it.

I know you are happy with this thread anyway as you have always hated marriage. Please, stay single!

UyaiIncomparabl:
Read my response again if you missed it. I believe in gender roles and I’m a traditional woman, just like your wife. FYI, I can’t be starved. There are contingency plans, na who depend on man na him lose. My own is, just provide for the welfare of the home and we are good. If you need me as a wife to step in where you might be lagging, I’ll gladly help. But, it’s not my responsibility.

Come let me take you out,

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

The Lord is your strength, but it seems like its an experience specially tailored to you as you may have lept into marriage without counting the cost and proper planning

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

Bro everything is on GOD, is not by might there are couples who marry when they have nothing and still they sort bills

UyaiIncomparabl:
My man is a traditional man to the core. He’s a provider man to the last. My job is to revel in his provision and leadership, and we are good. He expects NOTHING from me. Not even a N5 of mine. My job is to be submissive and be an agreeable partner and whatever that follows is inconsequential.

To answer your question, I am an ORIAKU and my man likes it that way. Nothing concern me with splitting bills. Sorry, but I believe in gender roles.

you believe in gender roles but you don't want to share in responsibilities. Jesus!

Adexgentle005:
You ehn. It’s not like I’m complaining. It’s just that marriage is not an achievement as some people makes us to believe it is. If bills no kill you, nothing else go kill you!

Marriage is an Achievements for a Man ... That Your Seed can Fertilise a Womb and Cause another Life to Evolve is an Achievements....

That You Can Manage a Full grown Human Beings under Ya roof and Labouring to providing for them is an Achievements....

That You have a Household and a Family of your own is an Achievements....

That You have Contributed your quotas to your society and Global Human Population by taking someone off the street is an Achievements

That you are now more responsible for the well-being of others is an Achievements!

kkins25:
Its you who's tuned into social media 247 and have been trapped in some pseudo-reality. 500k per month? Do you know how much the president's salary is? Do you need me to tap you to wake you up?

Lol. You must think everyone lives in a lala land. Well, I don’t know about you sha. But, as for me, 500k per month is very feasible and what I have seen and doing. Even more. Selah.

Vinnie2000:
I can see You are speaking from ur PERSONAL perspective. 😒

But Generally Speaking, Married Guys/Men without strong Financial (Esp in Nigeria) are NOT happy@All.
All their little earned Income, goes into Family Upkeep/BILLS. :
No Savings/Financial Plans for the Next 5 or 10years!

This is the Point of the OP. 🤨

Absolutely... very good point... Everything goes into family upkeep and bills. How do you want to save to acquire your long term and short term family goals. It's that crazy mehn.. Get rich or be in a good state of income flow before marriage. Nothing should encourage you otherwise oo... stand well well before you marry ooooo

kkins25:
It oga kobo shouting hypo hypo up and down...no be me... He doesn't know you women prefer the sit-at-home treatment with occasional surprise gifts even if it entails oga spending the night in someone else's bed.

Na you sabi!

stevups:
I'm made to tell you, you don't know what you are saying. If you remove responsibility from marriage nothing remains... absolutely nothing!

You are right. Nothing remains. That marriage is dead. Imagine a man running away from his responsibilities.

DonroxyII:
Marriage is an Achievements for a Man ... That Your Seed can Fertilise a Womb and Cause another Life to Evolve is an Achievements....

That You Can Manage a Full grown Human Beings under Ya roof and Labouring to providing for them is an Achievements....

That You have a Household and a Family of your own is an Achievements....

That You have Contributed your quotas to your society and Global Human Population by taking someone off the street is an Achievements

That you are now more responsible for the well-being of others is an Achievements!

Lol, is this what you call an achievements in marriage? You are on a long thing.

Katcall:
you believe in gender roles but you don't want to share in responsibilities. Jesus!

I believe in gender roles means what to you? It means that I believe in the principle of marriage that says a man must be the sole financial provider and the woman the carer and should tend to the home front/kids. Any other thing apart from this, I’m out. Every man/woman to his sole responsibility. No be fight.

Adexgentle005:
My brother I couldn’t believe I’ve spent 100k in just two months. Money for this, money for that. It’s really crazy out there! Sometimes I think about that too, is it not better to be single and have peace of mind?

Lol 100k ?
I spend 270k monthly on petrol and energy, marriage no be for everyone

DonroxyII:
Marriage is an Achievements for a Man ... That Your Seed can Fertilise a Womb and Cause another Life to Evolve is an Achievements....

That You Can Manage a Full grown Human Beings under Ya roof and Labouring to providing for them is an Achievements....

That You have a Household and a Family of your own is an Achievements....

That You have Contributed your quotas to your society and Global Human Population by taking someone off the street is an Achievements

That you are now more responsible for the well-being of others is an Achievements!

nothing like achievements in all those things you highlights, all what you wrote still scream responsibility, and mind you a single guy can still achieve all of this, including the peace of mind that follows.

When we are single, no money but now that we are married and have money to take care of d responsibilities. We don't need to complain, we should only pray to yeshua to continue blessing us to take good care of our home.