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Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

That is too bad of her

Just give her time, she will change

You guys married young so She didn't have the time to do 'things'. Now that children bearing is done and dusted She is about to let loose.

Maybe she has started sampling r@mr0ds

Women don't know how to hide feelings especially in "that" aspect

Should we tell him?

It's over for you , she's not love with you anymore

You better divorce and go your way

advanceDNA:
Should we tell him?

Guyyyyy… 😂

Even me wey be woman begin laugh as I read the heading… 🤣😂

After 10 years!!

How?? 😫

Thats why divorce is an option. If you both are tired get a divorce so our data can rest mbok.

Dont get emotionally attached to a woman
Tell her ok

ItisWell22:
Guyyyyy… 😂

Even me wey be woman begin laugh as I read the heading… 🤣😂

After 10 years!!

How?? 😫

Sebi na because u dey reasonable..... wait small...

U will see how ur paddiis will come and blame him

LIES
Una go just dey lie lie anyhow

It's not everything women say to you that you carry to heart. Most times they don't mean it that way.

Try and settle your issues within yourself rather than bring them here. People will only advice you based on how they feel.

Lovilla:
That is too bad of her

Just give her time, she will change

APC change

Instead of you to look for a way to pls her by being romantic you are here complaining to bitter nairaland men that will gladly help you scatter your marriage with their negative comments.

Time to Replace ur wife....


A tenure don finish..

snthesis:
got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

You are in big trouble! Someone has been licking her plate seriously! You have left her unserviced. You have not been licking her plate. And u allow her bank account to run dry! I am very sure, she has ceased to love you! All u need do now, ask her if she still loves you or if she wants the end of the marriage?

Beebah321:
LIES
Una go just dey lie lie anyhow

You i wan ask you beebah321 everything na lie to you?

advanceDNA:
Should we tell him?

tell me what

do women go through mid-life crisis too?, this is very strange to me

Are you romantic though?😂😂😂

snthesis:
got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

snthesis:
got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Oga stop complaining it maybe true, She has been enduring it since because of love and she do not want to kill your ego as a man

virginprincess:
Instead of you to look for a way to pls her by being romantic you are here complaining to bitter nairaland men that will gladly help you scatter your marriage with their negative comments.

You can only please a woman that wants to be pleased.

If a man earning 200k a month is giving his wife 100k out of it, she can still cheat on him with a man earning 1m monthly and giving her 300k out of it.

Maybe you are actually not romantic but you can change that if you want.

Just a simple
Question, if I was to ask you what your wife love language was do you know it?


Now for your wife, wanting to get a tattoo etc just have a talk with her if that is something you are against.

Also ask her what she means by you not being romantic. Ask her what are things she considered romantic and start implementing those in your relationship. People make relationship harder than it is really.

There was no need to even come online with this, you could have simply have a conversation with her and fix things but your male ego got hurt because she called you unromantic so now you came online and highlight some bad things she’s considering doing just so we can now bad mouth her for those and deflect the attention from on you thereby stroking your own ego.


That is not how marriage work my gee you have to put your ego aside if you want to make it work.


Many people married young when they have no clue even what marriage is all about and what they even really want and then enter their 30s and start questioning all their decisions.


Because the 30s
Is when you truly know who you are and what you really want.

snthesis:
got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Babe wan begin explore...she feel say she don't miss our youthful whoring...she wan use her last card...no gree oo

snthesis:
got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

snthesis:
do women go through mid-life crises too?, this is very strange to me

Yes they do .
It manifests in different ways

Samantha124:
Are you romantic though?😂😂😂

if i wasnt then how did i get to woo her, get her consent for marriage and stay married till now

Rokiat:
Maybe you are actually not romantic but you can change that if you want.

Just a simple
Question, if I was to ask you what your wife love language was do you know it?


Now for your wife, wanting to get a tattoo etc just have a talk with her if that is something you are against.

Also ask her what she means by you not being romantic. Ask her what are things she considered romantic and start implementing those in your relationship. People make relationship harder than it is really.

There was no need to even come online with this, you could have simply have a conversation with her and fix things but your male ego got hurt because she called you unromantic so now you came online and highlight some bad things she’s considering doing just so we can now bad mouth her for those and deflect the attention from on you thereby stroking your own ego.


That is not how marriage work my gee you have to put your ego aside if you want to make it work.


Many people married young when they have no clue even what marriage is all about and what they even really want and then enter their 30s and start questioning all their decisions.


Because the 30s
Is when you truly know who you are and what you really want.

well noted, my point is how can she suddenly just say this and every other thing she's planning to do...

Blupen969:
You i wan ask you beebah321 everything na lie to you?

NO
Una too dey believe everything way una see for here na.

Failure2019:
It's over for you , she's not love with you anymore

You better divorce and go your way

hmmm, i'm thinking of going through her phone, something is not right

Beebah321:
NO
Una too dey believe everything way una see for here na.

No make me vex report you ooh, no deh waste your emojis i no deh see am with this phone

rickleye:
Haha, it’s called midlife crisis.

Just tell her she is right and start the dating process again.
Many of us think our wives are like our mothers . Marry and keep for home. The game is changing bro. I am sure she has a friend on WhatsApp with whom she has discussed this with already.

1. Plan a date nite every week . Go catch a flick and have someone watch the kids.
2. Do something together with the family once a month. Go to Olumo Rock and Beach . A family outing .
3. Don’t forget her birthday make it exciting ( get her flowers or money - depending on her love language)
4. Make an effort to show PDA infront of the kids. Steal a kiss 💋, slap her buttocks , call her sexy mamacita or siren.
5. Make sex impromptu. After coitus , ask would like a glass of water or wine to relax ( she will laugh and say , thank you yes or no )
6. If you are just Spooning dude , change into missionary or doggy . ( now sex and love are not the same) . Massage and ask her where she may want to be touched to excite her …

Make the effort !!! You might not be comfortable doing any of the above but as you mentioned it appears she never “ lived “ done anything she wanted to do . Her first born is 10.
And it’s been mummy this , mummy that !

I would give her the leg chain *

Don’t ignore her warnings or else someone else will fill the void.

her message and yours feels like a threat to me, i dont do threats