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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by like1: 9:19pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:


She was partly sponsored there to do a Masters Programme. Few months later she got a job in a financial company and has been doing that for 5 years. Please tell me how I will be doing better than her.
I am here. I have a barbing saloon with 2 barbers, I have my own car that I use for cab hailing. And every month I bring out at least 70k to support my parents from my earnings because of their condition. I still have a wife at home. And I am not complaining. Please the situation you may considering isn't what it is.

See mumu, you have a wife at home but your older sister is not married but u think she is doing better than you. Na your sister fit una.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by VenExchangee: 9:19pm On Mar 31, 2023
SUFFERInSMILIIN:


Cost of living is cheap because of the poverty rate in the country
So why sounding like it's cheap in abroad?
I was just letting you know it's not easy and mind you Canadian dollar and US dollar is not same rate o

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Nnamaka1: 9:19pm On Mar 31, 2023
You dont know what your elder sister is going through abroad. maybe she has put her hands into what she isnt supposed posed to, You dont know.

Abroad life is one kind ooo. Most people go overseas without being very cautious about their life style and ends up getting really screwed. The best you can do is to try and go join her maybe then you can see for yourself what she is battling with

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Brandiebird: 9:20pm On Mar 31, 2023
I reckon that your sister is busy keeping up with the Joneses. If she really cared about her parents and their well-being, she would cut down on her expenditures; maybe live in a smaller property, buy a less fancy car, buy less make up and clothes, and send the money home.

To those thinking abroad is hard, it’s only hard anywhere in the world when you live above your means. She’s a disloyal child and I pray her actions don’t come back to haunt her. Op, do your best and leave the rest to God.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Napata77: 9:20pm On Mar 31, 2023
xavuv:
What makes you think she's doing well for herself, Because she says so? Or you think so? ...She may just be hyping herself unnecessarily. Abroad is not a land flowing with milk and honey.

Don't mind the guy.

Maybe she's even a cleaner or a care assistant there, with her Masters.

There are NIGERIANS with even PhD in America driving taxi or working as security guards.

Quote me anywhere.

And it's not because there's anything wrong with them.

They just couldn't break in.

She's black, from Africa. It's not easy for them to get work that matches their qualifications.

There is racism in those countries.

They think because she's in Canada, she's earning 10 million naira a month.

Maybe she even borrowed that 100k to send to her mum.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:22pm On Mar 31, 2023
As I said abroad nobody is giving Nigerian good job anymore. What do white people are doing is just using the black to pay their debts.

See this Nigerian lady in America complaining bitterly


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uQ9MBxPCHTA
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by HaneefahRN(f): 9:22pm On Mar 31, 2023
You all should leave her be. Not everyone will be useful to family some people can be very stingy.
Even if I want to be stingy se it is to my parents? As long as she has a valid visa in Canada and has a job she can afford to pay 450K for her mum's hospital bills. Someone that has stayed 5 years people wey dey countries with not as much money sef can be more useful if they chose to.
Anyways parents should stop seeing money spent on children as investment for old age sha.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by blackgold2018(m): 9:23pm On Mar 31, 2023
ZIMDRILL:


People always have the wrong idea when one goes abroad

Let me ask you the basic

1 does your sister have papers there?

2 When was the last time she was home
visiting?

3 When she finished her master was she offered job and got the right papers

4 sometimes people lie to
people back home, not knowing that the person is illegal there one is limited to type of jobs and progression in lifeb

Until those questions are answered then we might look into your sister's attitude
she might have not finished her masters sef. Or she never went to the school.

But one thing is sure that op sister might not be doing well the way he thinks

But op small brain can’t think that

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by emmanuelbrown26: 9:23pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Thanks for the messages. I am sharing my story here is to air out a piece of my mind and also I believe many people also do have stories of sibling rivalries.
For those who told me to call and discuss issues with, anytime I do that is a reason for a fight. Infact I have been exhaustive on that. She has left the family whatsapp group and claims we all use it to extort her. 2 of us are doing well for ourselves.



Even if I dey wipe nyansh for Canada, e no go reach situation wey I no fit send at least $150 back home to my parents. This girl sends 40k. $55 a month for your parents that trained you. That is unthinkable.
Never u take advice of a nairaland female, bcs they don't reason or align with technical issue u are battling with

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by bigdammyj: 9:24pm On Mar 31, 2023
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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by donsheddy1(m): 9:24pm On Mar 31, 2023
Make I tell am?

In the African (Nigerian) settings, what she's doing now is a problem and an evil act.

Parents training a child is an obligation. The child did not beg parents to bring him/her to this world.

Parents need to work and save for the night time as children were never meant to be retirement plans.

Having said all these, Your parents didn't give birth to only her. If she have 10k, that's what she have so you and your parents should deal with it.

She has been born so she needs to setup her own life just as you too needs to do too.

Share the bills.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by theamazonguru(m): 9:25pm On Mar 31, 2023
deewhydoski:
I don't know how training a child has been an investment that u must get a return. A child that will help you at old age will do so even if u no train ham go school. In a family children can never be the same, you will see one that cares alot and u will see one that care less.

Hmmnnnn

But it's only morally right to reciprocate the good gesture done by these parents.
They could have chosen to not invest in our education. They could have chosen to be spending their money their way,on themselves, frivolities, aso ebi and weekend owambe neglecting child care.
Thankfully they chose to do what they felt was right.

I believe good children should in turn hold the weary hands of their parents at old age , put smiles on their faces, ensure they are at least comfortable to whatever extent we are capable of without being a burden to us though.

I have someone that told me, his parents and siblings shouldn't see him as ATM machine. Lol. This was when I was advising him to be helping his family, because I heard he was looking the other way even though he is really doing well.

What a life.

Anyways, everyone should do as his/her heart pleases. Whatever rocks each one's boat.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by HaneefahRN(f): 9:25pm On Mar 31, 2023
Danlax:
I always pray to God to gimme a son as first fruit 🙏 he would sacrifice anything for those after him.... Brr Imagine yo in Ur sister's shoes rn 💯..,! !

God gonn' always provide for ya so yo can do the needful 🙏

Pray for a good, kind hearted healthy child no matter the gender. There are sons that use their parents for rituals. It is not about gender, it is about the individual

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:26pm On Mar 31, 2023
HaneefahRN:
You all should leave her be. Not everyone will be useful to family some people can be very stingy.
Even if I want to be stingy se it is to my parents? As long as she has a valid visa in Canada and has a job she can afford to pay 450K for her mum's hospital bills. Someone that has stayed 5 years people wey dey countries with not as much money sef can be more useful if they chose to.
Anyways parents should stop seeing money spent on children as investment for old age sha.

Please do not judge somebody by how many years they have stayed in that country watch my YouTube video above this one. Let me explain to you one thing which happens in the developed world all the white people are doing is transferring their debts to the Blacks especially Nigerians. More than 65% of Nigerians in America are in massive debt. Going abroad does not mean you have gotten a golden opportunity I can tell you right now in developed countries 70% of Nigerians and bottom feeders. Specially in the employment ranking ranking.

Do you think 95 immigrant in America in income is a joke. Most Nigerians abroad and like people at home they just pulled themselves and be suffering

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Sirchiboy: 9:27pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.
.
How old are you?

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by UNDFTD: 9:27pm On Mar 31, 2023
Like they say, "All that glitter is NOT gold." Your elder sister may be in Canada but that does NOT necessarily mean she is doing as well as you might think or she might have led you to believe. There are lots of foreigners including Nigerians who are struggling abroad in whatever country they find themselves but are too ashamed to let their families know exactly what they are going through. First of all, you need to find out what's her current immigration status. Is she a permanent resident of Canada, a citizen or is she out of status...illegally staying in the country after her student visa expired? These are the things you need to ascertain before you can start to blame her for doing or NOT doing what was expected of her. Secondly, has she completed her education and is able to work full time assuming her status allows her to do so? Simply because she is a permanent resident or a Canadian citizen does NOT necessarily guarantee that she would get the job that would be paying her so much, after all she is still a foreigner and a black person at that. You have a lot of foreigners with all their degrees who are NOT working in their field of study. As it is now, she might be finding it hard to even pay her own bills--rent, utility, car note, insurance, food, etc. and you do not know that. And still, she is expected to cater for her family back home. She might be engaged in a menial job that pays her just enough to sustain herself and anytime she goes over her budget, she would be in dire straits. So, I said all this to say that you NOT be quick to pass judgment on your sister until you find out her true situation in Canada.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Connected1: 9:30pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:


She was partly sponsored there to do a Masters Programme. Few months later she got a job in a financial company and has been doing that for 5 years. Please tell me how I will be doing better than her.
I am here. I have a barbing saloon with 2 barbers, I have my own car that I use for cab hailing. And every month I bring out at least 70k to support my parents from my earnings because of their condition. I still have a wife at home. And I am not complaining. Please the situation you may considering isn't what it is.
Wow, you have achieved all these and I am sure you sister isn't married yet but you don't think about that.

Don't compare the financial capacity of a man to that of a woman, she may have hidden struggles, somehow I feel if you weren't too judgemental and started flowing with her well, you may understand her predicament.

It has happened to me, a sister too but she's not in overseas.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by SUFFERInSMILIIN(m): 9:30pm On Mar 31, 2023
VenExchangee:

So why sounding like it's cheap in abroad?
I was just letting you know it's not easy and mind you Canadian dollar and US dollar is not same rate o

I was talking about what of living in Nigeria is because of the high rate of poverty in the nation. I am not talking about abroad
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by like1: 9:31pm On Mar 31, 2023
HaneefahRN:
You all should leave her be. Not everyone will be useful to family some people can be very stingy.
Even if I want to be stingy se it is to my parents? As long as she has a valid visa in Canada and has a job she can afford to pay 450K for her mum's hospital bills. Someone that has stayed 5 years people wey dey countries with not as much money sef can be more useful if they chose to.
Anyways parents should stop seeing money spent on children as investment for old age sha.

The thing is, how sure are you she has a valid visa. How sure are you she has a job? how sure are you she is not still on students visa working 20 hours a week. How sure are you she doesn't have health challenges.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by offongk(m): 9:34pm On Mar 31, 2023
Your sister is financings one man bill that Bleep her well

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by grandstar(m): 9:34pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust

One should never be too quick to judge. I haven't heard her own side of the story

I have this philosophy in life to some extent: Try and measure up to what is expected of you.

I presently cater to relations who I could have shunned. I ensure they have enough to eat despite the fact that presently, things aren't good for me financially. Try and meet up to your requirements. At times, I even borrow.

Since your sister knew what was expected of her, she should have done her best to either meet up to those demands or even try.

I feel she is seriously slacking. By now, she should have brought one of you over or be seriously planning too. The fact she hasn't done so is an indictment on her part.

I have a step cousin in the US who is quite wealthy and notoriously stingy.

When she comes, her brother gives her a jeep and a driver to take her where ever she is going. All those who have driven her have complained she drops nothing for food. She does not even fuel the jeep.

There was a time she came and dropped 6 checks covering 6 months of care for her mother. Each was 4,000 per month

Your sister try self

Funny thing, when my dad was hospitalised she brought some herbal supplements for him, American size big bundles. Many have a fondness for my dad because most lived in our house at one time or the others. I think it was from our house she travelled overseas.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by koolaid87: 9:34pm On Mar 31, 2023
pbethel:
Pls don't give up on your elder sis.
Don't take your anger to another level. Calm down, call her to discuss with her to know what she's going through or know her ideology to life's issues (family responsibilities inclusive).

Make her understand why you all need her and she needs you all as well.

Please encourage your parents, they should not be heartbroken. May a helper arise for you all

Op, your sister can't be reasoned with. Just dey your lane and do all your best for your family. I commend you and your fellow siblings doing more despite having less.

Your Sister unfortunately is a narcissist. Most Women are like that. They just want control and nothing else. They are emotional but still can't be empathetic to one's struggle.

I feel for you cos I have one just like that.

May blessings come your way.

Peace to your parents

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by IamtheTruth1(m): 9:37pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.


Did you ever care to talk to her and actually find out if she is not struggling there?


People should have these mindset that no one owes you anything. Even ur blood brother doesn't owe you anything.

Well if truly your Sis is doing well and she isn't helping then that is not good. Believe me you can spend 10yrs overseas and still struggle. Life is just grace.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by transient123(m): 9:41pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.

It's a pity things have gone this sour.

My sincere advice is, blank her out and carry your responsibilities by taking good care of your parents and younger one.

She could be going through serious challenges which she didn't disclose.


It could be very challenging, trust me, when you rely on God then whatever you can do, God has a way of ensuring what she ought to be giving will come through you to your parents and sibling.

Never rely on humans, it will make you very independent and trusting God always. You will appear in the sight of man big, they will respect you beyond your understanding, it's God's way of doing things . Just ensure your sustenance is clean.

Shikena!

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by sevenseas(m): 9:42pm On Mar 31, 2023
Obviously, u never lived in the west. Parents take care of themselves. The money she gets is just enough for her. Be happy she send 40k. There is little or no avenue to 'chop/fraud/embezzle' money like u have in naija.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by grandstar(m): 9:42pm On Mar 31, 2023
xavuv:
What makes you think she's doing well for herself, Because she says so? Or you think so? ...She may just be hyping herself unnecessarily. Abroad is not a land flowing with milk and honey.

You have a point but the will is the most important thing.

I know a lady who was British by birth but lived in Nigeria until she was in her 20s. Their father had abandoned her and her 4 siblings when they were still young. The youngest was still in the mum's belly.

This lady travelled in her 20s and worked hard to bring all her siblings to join her. Eventually, all were abroad, including their mum.

I have travelled to the UK. I see many Nigerians working as security guards and our women as nurses. Many are also doing white collar jobs.

Her you trying to say after 5 years she won't have known how to thrive in Canada? What skills to learn that will bring in money? My younger brother is a nurse in the US and earns over $100k a year.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by ednut1(m): 9:42pm On Mar 31, 2023
You don’t know if she is in debt abroad, huge mortgage, unemployed or has issues you know nothing about. African parents should plan for their future and stop this entitlement.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Adebaba1(m): 9:43pm On Mar 31, 2023
Boss your sister is selfish or you people have scammed her before. Because I cant imagine how a lady who has spent 5 years in Canada and has canadian masters degree, sends only 40k every month.
The story is not complete
Something is definitely wrong somewhere

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Paramount01(m): 9:44pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Thanks for the messages. I am sharing my story here is to air out a piece of my mind and also I believe many people also do have stories of sibling rivalries.
For those who told me to call and discuss issues with, anytime I do that is a reason for a fight. Infact I have been exhaustive on that. She has left the family whatsapp group and claims we all use it to extort her. 2 of us are doing well for ourselves.



Even if I dey wipe nyansh for Canada, e no go reach situation wey I no fit send at least $150 back home to my parents. This girl sends 40k. $55 a month for your parents that trained you. That is unthinkable.
lolZ you think is that easy?
Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by Nobody: 9:45pm On Mar 31, 2023
CosmicDust:
Here is my story....

I have a 3 siblings and I am at odds with my eldest who is a lady. The way it is, I may never have a conversation with her again.

She was the first person to be invested in by my parents after which I came. Luckily enough, she was able to strike gold in her career and do well for herself. She went abroad for her masters with my parents supporting with half-payment. Unfortunately, whenever it came to family demands and helping the other younger siblings, she has either been negligent or grudgingly does so.

Few years after going abroad, she decided to lockup and sends only 40k home which is supposed to cater for food for a month.
Now parents are retired, the whole family weight falls on my following sibling and I. The youngest one education is on me. Happy she will finish soon. Parents need to be supported in challenging times, one is coping with diabetes and the other is with some challenging issues I can't say here. Their savings are being sapped by their needs to keep living on.

But my so-called elder sister based in Canada despite knowing their condition is silent. She still sends her peanuts, while I and my younger brother who is an upcoming fashion designer do 2X what she does. This aches our parents and sometimes makes our mother cry and our father rant with regret.

A time now came, our mum got admitted in the hospital. Condition was so salient that she had to be hospitalized for weeks. Hospital bill was 450k. The Canada-based first born doing a good job, who was always talking to her, praying with her on phone, etc only sent 100k. We the others did the rest. Glad mum is back at home but her heart is broken and has refused to talk with her. She's been in Canada for 5 years and has refused to even support any of her siblings to come abroad too.

My other siblings say because we all refuse to be dictated to by her is the reason for her behaviour. I don't care. Mine is that if you know that you are going to be useless to a family, let your parents know before hand so the money used in training/feeding you can be used for farming business which will despite bad weather bring returns than on a child who feels is not obligated to support the parents who supported you all through.


Oga, have you asked your sister how life is over there?

Seriously, have you.

I myself have siblings abroad. One of them , e take about ten to twelve years before he was able to be in a position where he could say 'yes I am comfortable and earning enough.' Ten to twelve years of sharing house with others, being underpaid at one job, side hustles, and so forth. Did not get first car till last year (meanwhile me wey dey for Naija dey drive car for ten years self). Masters degree holder self.' The other is just managing.

Just because person live abroad does not mean that they are enjoying. Even the one of my siblings that is comfortable...his power bill in one month is equal to 4 months power bill in Nigeria.

I know things are tough for you , and it is hard, but first better put yourself in your sister's shoes, better ask how she is doing...and listen to her ,man.....and you may understand some things.

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Re: Why I Chose To Distance Myself From A Sibling by ZIMDRILL(m): 9:45pm On Mar 31, 2023
blackgold2018:
she might have not finished her masters sef. Or she never went to the school.

But one thing is sure that op sister might not be doing well the way he thinks

But op small brain can’t think that

might be

remember the guy said she has been there for 5 years roughly meaning if she had the right papers am sure she would have visited in the past 5 years, the fact that she hasnt points are her not having papers and thats explains she might not financialy stable

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