Your sister should be lazy enough to learn simple tricks from that maid

How to cook and virtually everything she does better


She should buckle up for the marriage, the fuzz of weeding is past now


Men are daft and stupid to follow the lady that gots it right, no matter who


Shikina.

[quote author=Lovilla post=122167023]give your opinion Mr Man

It doesnt matter if its me or my sister.[/quote
]. The problem is no other person but your sister, when u refused to show your husband true love and caring he will opt for the next available lady who is ready to offer all that, married women become monsters to their husbands after marriage,

CAN WE SEE THE PICTURE OF THE HOUSEMAID FESS?

U CAN SEND IT ....

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

Let go with her kneels Fasting and prayers.

She's sad to lose a snake?

If the maid moves in as a new wife, she will always watch her back and keep one eye open during the night. Why? Because she knows how she got the man.

Maid self no go get peace of mind as madam of the house.

Lovilla:
give your opinion Mr Man

It doesnt matter if its me or my sister.

Before it gets out of hand she should quickly rally support of all the figures he respects. She should be discrete and careful in an engagement that must be handled with utmost maturity.

Figures as the man's father, senior friend, boss/ senior colleague, pastor, etc. He would always need or look up to these set of people and I'm sure matured engagement by these set of people would make him see the shame in giving up a family for a maid.

Friends can even use another fling relationship to clear the maid- love in his eyes.

It's obvious the respect for the wife is broken down. Enlist the help of those he respects before the maid gets pregnant.

Very easy. Talk to her mum, dad and brothers... they would help her boot the maid out. Husband present or not. Fact that husband only eats the maids food and does not want the maid to go means she has already taken over the house. She needs to act fast!

How come your maid started cooking in your house in the first place? Is that what she was employed for? If you had been cooking for your husband or family, the maid would have no business cooking. Maid should do cleaning and other things you need to give you the time to attend to your husband and children.
Who employed the maid? send her away and start afresh with another.
Do all your home cooking yourself, simply assign her other things for a start. Be at home when your husband is.

Your comment deserves an award.

advanceDNA:
Learn how to cook better food...mba!!! ..... you say "i am a feminist..my husband-to-be should also go and learn how to cook to satisfy me"....

But u sabi only snake in the eagle and hold burglary style.... the sex seff...u are always tired, asking him "is it food"

Okay naa..food matter don come...now u are crying and hating on another girl that can cook accusing her she wants to crash your home.... nothing should happen to that poor girl ooo...

Lovilla:
all i can say is Men are polygamous in nature, so i dont blame him.

Bcause this maid in question doesnt even come close to my sister in terms of beauty.

Who beauty epp?

Generally men are ashamed of this kind of thing. Bring the matter amongst his work friends, his group members in Church, his university classmates.
I bet u, he will chase her away.

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

Lovilla:
all i can say is Men are polygamous in nature, so i dont blame him.

Bcause this maid in question doesnt even come close to my sister in terms of beauty.

Beauty attracts a man but character keeps him.

Una fit get character issue in your family. For you to think of poisoning the poor girl speak volumes of character. I feel for the man who felt to have married a wife for peace of mind but turn otherwise.

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

Abeg na u ne that for ur profile ni?

Lovilla:
she told me that her husband kicks against all her efforts to throw the girl out

Then, she should think about her own sanity first.

In all honesty, if the marriage is costing her her own happiness,, and she discovers that leaving the marriage would bring back happiness in her life,, then she have to go for happiness..
(The man had already chosen the happiness he sees in the house-maid.. Must she be forced to anger and depression just to remain married? Yet she's not the source of happiness in the so-called marriage)

Lovilla:
i dont see where she is getting it wrong

She has always been submissive to her husband

Here lies her problem..

But let me be very frank with you here...
She's not really being submissive.
She's just being a SLAVE..

She's living the man's life inside the family in the name of marriage.
She just gave up her own life.


Situations like this, no third-party person can help the woman by telling her what to do to make things right because she will never DO whatever you tell her,, and she thinks it is BEING SUBMISSIVE.. Unless the third-party person directly gets into the matter, and even directly confronts the husband on her behalf, nothing will change.

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

The maid must be knacking your husband wella……tell him that you want to watch.

She’s afraid of losing the man?

Lovilla:
all i can say is Men are polygamous in nature, so i dont blame him.

Bcause this maid in question doesnt even come close to my sister in terms of beauty.

I’m sure you’re a man

BluntCrazeMan:
Then, she should think about her own sanity first.

In all honesty, if the marriage is costing her her own happiness,, and she discovers that leaving the marriage would bring back happiness in her life,, then she have to go for happiness..
(The man had already chosen the happiness he sees in the house-maid.. Must she be forced to anger and depression just to remain married? Yet she's not the source of happiness in the so-called marriage)

Help me ask am o!

Lovilla:
give your opinion Mr Man

It doesnt matter if its me or my sister.

It really matter, maybe this is one of the reason your husband have taken another wife. Lack of honesty can brings down any marriage.
Please look inward.
Besides there's two sides to every story, make we hear from your husband first.

To make a happy home, just accept the maid as a second wife since oga is very interested in her. It's just that most Nigerian women are averse to sharing men.

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

keep using your sister as shield, by the time you open ur eyes u are on the street.
Try poisoning her and see if you will not spend the rest of ur already miserable life serving prison officers that kpekus

Share a photo of both your sister and the maid ...you can blur out their faces so we can give you advice

Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

mrblessed:
To make a happy home, just accept the maid as a second wife since oga is very interested in her. It's just that most Nigerian women are averse to sharing men.

She's a second wife, don't mind her. She think say marriage na walk in the garden.

bigtt76:
Share a photo of both your sister and the maid ...you can blur out their faces so we can give you advice

There's no sister anywhere, she is the woman in question.

nkemchineke:
Generally men are ashamed of this kind of thing. Bring the matter amongst his work friends, his group members in Church, his university classmates.
I bet u, he will chase her away.

childish.

Toktee:
There's no sister anywhere, she is the woman in question.

iukpe:
How come your maid started cooking in your house in the first place? Is that what she was employed for? If you had been cooking for your husband or family, the maid would have no business cooking. Maid should do cleaning and other things you need to give you the time to attend to your husband and children.
Who employed the maid? send her away and start afresh with another.
Do all your home cooking yourself, simply assign her other things for a start. Be at home when your husband is.

Check well, she's must be one of these internet girls that always on life in front of TV cutting and laughing without caring about their spouse.

Very lazy breeds.

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

And you will be arrested & sentenced to death by hanging

bukatyne:


Can we infer that if the husband is not providing well or good in bed, the wife can start dating the driver?

Only if she's the one who paid his groom price, feeds him, provide for all his needs, etc.
She has to use her money to marry a man before she can think of that

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

You should have as well helped your sister poison the girl on a low key and not come here seeking advice. What is good for you should be good for your sister since both of you have a common interest of saving her marriage.

Lovilla:
trash..

if i am to be in my sister's shoe, i would ve poisoned that girl on a lowkey.

It is you and not your sister